Tools to Get Out of Control

Tools to Get Out of Control

Tools to Get Out of Control

Be uncontrollable!

Imagine a life where nothing and no one can control you, not even you… how magical would that be?! Listen in to this episode as we talk all about CONTROL: what is it, how to get out of it, and some tools from Access Consciousness that you can use on the daily to change everything control-related!

 

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[00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. 

 

[00:12] This week is all about Tools to Get Out of Control. I know for some of you, you might have stopped listening already. You might have said, “No, I need to be in control, Glenyce! You don’t understand! Stop talking!” I get it—I totally get it, my sweet friends. 

 

[00:37] Control has been controlling me since before I can remember. This is kind of the first piece with control: Whatever, whoever we’re trying to control has control over us. Shall I repeat that? Whoever or whatever we’re trying to control has control over us. I know. 

 

This is such a mindfuck of what we’ve actually been taught—at least, what I was taught. Somewhere along the way, somehow I was taught that the more control I had, the more in control I was, the better my life would be, the better everything around me would be, the happier everyone around me would be, the happier I would be. I’m here to tell you—although I probably don’t have to—it’s the exact opposite. The more out of control I allow myself to be, the more ease, the more magic, the more space, the more of everything that I’m asking for.  

 

[01:50] So, [an] interesting story. If you watch my weekly videos, you might remember fairly recently [that] I actually talked about feeling like a success, and setting myself up in different choices I was making so that I felt like I was a success. 

 

[02:09] For example, choosing to watch the scale. Let’s say from a place of being a success, [it] isn’t probably the best choice because I can’t control the scale. However, I can control—let’s say the marker instead is how many times I go for a walk or how many times I do my workout videos or something like that, because that I do have control over. The scale, I have no control over her. 

 

So, I talked to and share the video about that, and about really setting yourself up for success if that’s something you require. I’ve come to realize, in the past few years, how much that actually contributes to my life. If I feel like I’m successful with something, I’m going to continue to choose it. It’s going to be light, yummy, and expansive in terms of choosing it. 

 

[03:06] However, what I recognized yesterday—Hubby and I are doing a class in stained glass. If you’ve never done this, I recommend it. I actually am enjoying it NOW. I’m enjoying the class NOW. Why now? Because I feel successful. Yesterday was our second class. [In] the first class, the first hour was basically [about] how to do the things [and] some practice. The second hour was getting started on the project that we had chosen. 

 

[03:41] In that second hour, I wasn’t getting very far. Things weren’t fitting together. The project that I chose was maybe a little bit more difficult than what I could have chosen. Anyway, it wasn’t fitting, and I left there frustrated. In fact, I even had the thought [that] maybe when I arrived for the second class, I’m actually going to change my piece because I’m not feeling successful. 

 

[04:09] Yesterday, we go in and I was ready to try it anyway [to] see how I went, and it was working. It started to work really, really well. I was like, “Oh my gosh, I’m feeling successful! This is so good! Okay!” As soon as I have that success, there’s that lightness. I want to do more of it and I want to continue choosing it. 

 

[04:30] I had a lot of space in those hours. I went in early so I had extra time. I had a lot of space in there just to be present with what I was working on, but also things going on in my world. I started really looking at that need to feel successful. Guess what? It’s control! D*mn it, it’s control. Even when I think I’m not doing control, sometimes I’m doing control. It was just this “oh my god energy” of like, “Wow…wow.” 

 

[05:07] I didn’t even realize that that’s what I was doing. [It’s] because when the pieces, you know, the stained glass pieces are fitting together, I’m in control. It’s working [and] I’m moving forward. If they’re not fitting together, I don’t have any control. I can ask for help, I can change my pattern, I can do all sorts of things—but I’m not ultimately in that control energy that I didn’t even recognize it was. So then, I was like, “What if, though, that success—that, basically, is just a need for control? What if that isn’t actually creating the future I desire?” 

 

[05:49] Now, I don’t mean that I should set myself up for not succeeding. It was just this huge awareness of how much I’m still controlling, and that I had really—basically, right down to the bare bones—judged if something was going my way, that was right. If it wasn’t? Yeah, you guessed: it was wrong. [It’s] such a different way of really being present with it and really going, “Wow, what if the pieces not fitting together actually gives me more awareness of how to use the tools?” 

 

[06:28] That’s ultimately—I mean, when it wasn’t working the first week, and then yesterday, what was so interesting was it was working much better but still, there were some conks. 

There was a lady that went up to the—so, we grind the pieces, you cut them, and then you grind them to really fit. I kept using the same grinder, possibly another control, another thing of that energy. And then, a lady went and used it. As I turned to go, she was at it. I was a little bit annoyed because it’s two steps from where I’m working. The other one that I went to—because all the other ones over there were busy—was 20 steps the other way. *Oh my gosh, how did I manage?* 

 

[07:18] Anyway, [I] went to the other one. Well, that machine—that grinder, whatever it is, I’m not even sure how the grinders work—is way better. It grinds it so much better, so much quicker. I was like, “Oh my goodness!” 

 

In my conclusion of “this isn’t working,” “I picked too hard of a pattern,” there was no question. There was not even a question of which grinder to use. It was like, “Well, this one’s two steps.” I mean, it wasn’t even that thought—it was just right there. That’s the one I’ll use until she used it, and then I went and use the other one. It’s like, “Oh my gosh, I’m gonna be using this one forever!” Not a question, my friends. 

 

[08:00] It’s just this huge awareness of all the places and spaces of control and of course, I’m not doing just in stained glass. I’d love to tell you that was it but I promise you, I’m doing it in that class [and] I’m doing it in lots of different areas of my life. In those few hours yesterday, I was really looking at “Where am I decided that I need that success? What if I didn’t? What is the not success actually gifting me?” 

 

There is an energy for you, my sweet friends. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[08:40] So, that’s the Access Consciousness Clearing Statement. If you’re not familiar, you can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works. Basically, all of that energy that comes up when I talk about something like this, when I run it, it clears it. [It] starts to dissipate it so that we have more space and we have more awareness, and that’s ultimately what we’re always looking for – [it] is more space and more awareness. 

 

[09:02] Looking at that with every area of my life, it was really magical. What is it gifting me? What is it not working? In Access, we ask the question “What’s right about this I’m not getting?” 

 

In that case, if I would have maybe done that in the first class, maybe I would have found that other grinder sooner or change something else or whatever. Again, it’s still not wrong, the way I did it. it gave me this beautiful awareness of all the control I’m still doing. I mean truly, what a gift that is. 

 

[09:36] So, [here’s] the clearing that I want to run a few times. It is so magical—it is so changing everything control-related. 

 

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can us and our bodies be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities, and other concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[10:15] Now, that clearing truly has changed so much for me. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that I actually started using it, like truly started using it. Actually, [I] did a call on it. We’ll put a link because, of course, you can purchase the recordings. 

 

But it wasn’t until then that I actually finally memorized all those words. I didn’t have them all memorized, even though I’d probably repeated that clearing thousands of times over my years as a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness. I finally chose, like, really chose, to change the control stuff, which I did—which I totally did. 

 

[10:56] Obviously, there’s still some more—which, again, I’m so grateful for—that we can really not go to the judgment. Not “Oh my gosh, I thought I changed that. What’s wrong with me?” It’s not that at all, guys. We just go, “Wow, okay, cool.” There’s still some more. 

 

Chances are this control thing—at least for me, I don’t want to speak for you. But at least for me, it’s gonna be a long, long time, my sweet friends. And that’s okay. It’s not right. It’s not wrong. 

 

[11:21] The other thing that I want to say about control is for you to really recognize that control is not wrong, okay? Control is actually a capacity. It’s just that we’re often using it AGAINST us and not FOR us. We want to start choosing control when it’ll create greater, not when it will create less, which is really with that whole success piece that I was looking at. 

 

[11:48] [This is] when it creates less—when I go, “Okay, well, I’m not succeeding. I need to succeed in order to continue,” that’s a huge limitation. I mean, how many possibilities, how many experiences have I not chosen, not stepped into because I wasn’t feeling like a success? How many times have I stopped because I wasn’t feeling like a success? Then all of my decisions, judgments, conclusions, computations, projections, rejections, expectations, separations, [and] refined judgments that I have about all of that, ignite and then, I stop. Oh, I feel exhausted just talking about that. 

 

Everything that is, will you destroy and create it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[12:38] Now, I would love to invite you: we are doing a book club on the Projection Expectation Separation Rejections and Judgments book by Gary Douglas from Access Consciousness. We start, I believe, it’s March 8 or something like that. You’ll find the link below or above. If you can’t find it, reach out [and] we’ll get it to you. 

 

It’s going to be amazing, my sweet friends. That book and all of those that I call the DJCCPSERRJs, all of those are what really limit us and really stop what’s possible. The more that you’re willing to let this go, which will also assist you in letting go of control, that’s where the magic is. So, check that out for more information. Depending, of course, when you’re watching this, it’s always available for purchase after, also. 

 

[13:27] The other thing that I would love to invite you to is the Hideously Successful Clearing. We are going to be running it starting March 2, 30 times a day for 30 days. 

 

Yeah, it’s time to change that crazy. It’s time to be willing to be hideously successful, which of course, also out of control. Yes, not hideously successful while controlling everything. Let’s change it all, my sweet friends, let’s change it all. You’ll find the links above or below, wherever. 

 

[13:58] One more thing, I also have available for you—a gift for you is the Magical Money Tricks. I’ve got a video of 10 of them, I’ve got a PDF of five questions, [and] I also have wallpaper for your phone [with] the #1 question that I think everybody should be asking all day long about money. If you would like that, you’ll find the link above or below, you can go grab it. [It’s] my gift to you, my sweet friends. 

 

[14:26] Back to control. What I want to talk about with that is what is out of control? It is having no point of view about anything. There’s not much there, really. That’s not going to take any work at all. Not work, just choice. 

 

[14:45] Really, if you look at that—having no point of view—go back to my example of the stained glass and the glass pieces not fitting together in my first week at all. Like, at all. If I didn’t have a point of view, how much more space is there with that? How much more ease is there with that? How many more questions could I ask either of the instructors or of the machines, or of myself, or of the project? A lot. Yeah, totally. 

 

I’ve got all this space now to have no point—I’ve got all this space. I have no point of view, which means I have total space, which means I have total awareness, which means everything is possible. 

 

[15:30] But when I’m looking through the lens of “this isn’t working, it should be working”—basically, when we think “this isn’t working,” the other energy is “it should be working.” And now, the energy is contracted. Now, there’s no space. There’s no other possibilities. There’s just my choice for frustration, and all the other ideas of “maybe I’ll change my pattern,” “I’ll do something else,” “I’m not feeling successful.” Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 

 

Everything that brings up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a gazillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[16:10] The other thing when you are out of control, no one and nothing can control you, not even you. If you have no point of view about anything, nobody can control you. 

 

[16:26] Right now here in Canada… now, depends on when you’re listening to this because I’m recording a little bit earlier. I’ve got a Certified Facilitator training coming up in the next few days, so I’m about a week and a half earlier than I normally record. But right now here in Canada, there’s truckers all over, especially in Ottawa, Ontario, and also in Alberta, and who knows where else. [They’re] really, really, really getting stronger and stronger in their demand to stop the mandates. 

 

[17:00] Now, for me, I know the greatest gift I can be is to have no point of view. This is not necessarily the most easy to choose when there’s so much right and there’s so much wrong. There’s so much proof of what’s right, and there’s so much proof of what’s wrong. There’s so many, you know, media outlets saying, “Here’s what’s going on…,” and then there’s so many other media outlets going “Here’s what’s going on…” There’s so much of that—there’s so many ways to be invited into right and wrong and good and bad. 

 

[17:36] I know the greatest gift I can be is to have no point of view. I have a preference, I have an awareness. But when I join that it’s right or I join that it’s wrong, that’s where I stop being magical, and that really is the space of being out of control. If you’re out of control, you can be that space, you can be that magic. You’re still going to be aware—you’re not shutting your awareness off, you’re just not controlled anymore. 

 

18:08 This is the funny thing: When you are controlled—when you do have a point of view, you don’t have the access to the awareness that’s actually there. That, actually, is what limits you rather than the opposite of what we think it is. Oh my goodness. 

 

Everything all of that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[18:33] If you are looking to get out of control, [here’s a] couple things: 

 

Maybe you’re like me and you weren’t even aware you were doing it. You could start asking—and this is my new ask: Universe, show me where I am doing control so that I can get reminded all day long, and then I have a choice. 

 

Once I’m aware I’m choosing it, then I can check in: “Hey, does this create the future I desire or decay the future I desire?” If it’s creating it, I can continue. If it’s not, I can let it go. That is, I would say, step number one if we’re going to do them in steps to run that clearing all the time. 

 

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can be and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of forum, structure, significance, out of linearities, out of concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that, I destroy and uncreate it all. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.

 

[19:34] Another question that I have been using and will continue to use: If I was willing to be out of control here, what magic could I create? You can look at your money situation, you can look at your body situation, you can look at the stained glass project and ask that. You can look at anything and ask that question. 

 

[19:59] You’re not looking for an answer—in case you’re not familiar, we’re not asking that so we can figure it out. We’re asking that so we are allowing the awareness, the possibilities, the magic, the universe, all of it to show up to contribute to us being the magic that we truly be. 

 

[It’s] because, guys, I promise you, the more out of control that you’re willing to be, the more magic you will be. The more magic you’ll create, the more ease your life will be, the more magical your life will be. Anything that doesn’t allow that, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.

 

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It’s basically a transcript [of] almost everything, not the uhms and the ahhs. But everything else, hopefully, is in that, and I mean hopefully, my uhms and ahhs are taken out. Everything else is in there: the clearings that I run, the information that I give. I know a lot of people prefer to read rather than listen or watch. Whatever your preference, baby, we got you covered. 

 

[21:48] So, one more time for fun: 

 

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can be and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of forum, structure, significance, out of linearities, out of concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, we destroy and uncreate it all. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds. 

 

[22:15] So, [that’s] some tools to play with to really get out of control, my sweet friends. I wonder what magic would be possible if we were willing to be out of control… I wonder what magic we could create on the planet… I truly wonder, my sweet friends. 

 

Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you, And I look forward to chatting again next week.

 

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How to Control the Uncontrollable

How to Control the Uncontrollable

How to Control the Uncontrollable

Are you willing?

We all cope differently when we find ourselves in situations beyond our control. Some will swim with the tide, others might go against it. But what if there’s a way to “control the uncontrollable”? Join me in another magical episode as I share all about how to be okay when things get out of control and more, because who knows? This might actually bring about the change you’ve been dreaming of!

 

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[00:00:00] Is there a way to control the uncontrollable? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so incredibly grateful that you are here. 

 

So ,is there? Is there a way to control the uncontrollable? Now, I know that ultimately we’re looking to get out of control. I know that. I know it’s something I’ve been choosing towards in maybe bits and pieces over many, many years, and I’m way better at being out of control than ever before.

 

[00:00:36] What does out of control mean? It means allowing it to be what it is. Allowing the situation, the event, the relationship, whatever it is, to be what it is rather than deciding what it has to be and pushing and forcing, and making it be something that I’ve decided. So, I’m way better [with it now.] 

 

[00:00:58] What came up for me the other day, many of you know we’re in the process of getting our house packed up. We’re gonna move everything that we own that we would like to keep into storage, and then we’re hitting the road. We’re gonna sell this beautiful acreage. If anybody’s looking for an acreage near Sherwood Park, Alberta and loves the swimming pool, keep our place in mind. 

 

[00:01:25] What we’re doing is we’re going to go around the world house and kitty sitting – animal sitting. We’ll probably do some dogs in that, but of course, our preference is kitties. 

 

[00:01:38] The other day, there was so much magic that occurred. I had talked to a good friend of mine who’s a realtor. You guys have heard me talk about him before – Chris Hassall. If you ever have realtor needs in Lloydminster, Alberta/Saskatchewan, please reach out to him. He’s amazing.

 

[00:01:57] We were just chatting about things and he was just giving me some tips and suggestions and such. And then, the next morning I woke up to a random Facebook message from a local realtor who had seen a post that I’d put in one of the local groups two months ago. He was just following up with what I’d post like, what? It was so cool. I spoke with him and all of a sudden it was like, “Oh wow. Shit’s getting real.” Shit’s getting real! What?! 

 

[00:02:31] What was occurring is this feeling of — you guessed it — out of control. What I know about myself with that energy is that often, I can stop it. I can find a way. If I don’t acknowledge what it is, I’ll energetically stop it, which is usually not what I’m asking for. In fact, it’s usually the exact opposite of what I’m asking for. 

 

[00:02:55] As I became aware of that energy, I became aware that I could stop it. I started looking at, okay, yes, stopping it is one. What else though? What else could I actually choose with it? Huh? Okay, what would I require to have ease with it? 

 

[00:03:15] Now, I’m super excited about this possibility. I’m not sitting back going, “Oh, I wish we weren’t doing this.” I’m not. Also, there’s still aspects of it that are totally out of control like what if I pack something away that I require when we’re, say, in Australia? Oh no! Okay, go buy it! Hello?! 

 

[00:03:39] I mean, there’s these energies, right? That come up when there’s things that we can’t control — at least for me, there’s all sorts of insanity that comes with it and this idea that I should control it, that it’s right to control it when that’s the exact opposite of what I’m asking for. 

[00:03:56] However, I also have to honor me. I have to trust me. I can’t just go, “Oh, you know what? I need to be out of control, so forget it.” I’m just out of control and go on. No, I have to acknowledge that I like control so much that I may try to stop this magic because of my love for control, the lies I bought into that somehow control is better than out of control, that somehow control is right and out of control is wrong.

 

[00:04:27] In recognizing that, it was like, “Okay, so what do I actually require to put in place to have that sense of ease with the out of control?” We could call it “controlling the uncontrollable,” which is kind of the title that I used but really, to me, it’s an honoring of me in this process. It’s an honoring of me and Hubby because of course, Hubby’s coming with me so also, what does he require? 

 

[00:05:01] One of the things that he said right from the beginning is he needs to know that if we don’t enjoy it, we could come back and most of our stuff would still be available. I had this idea that we would go and just sell everything and he’s like, “No, I need to know that if we don’t enjoy it, we come back and we don’t have to start from scratch.” Okay, we’ll rent a storage and put the stuff in that we love. We’ll put it into storage. That’s what he needs and there will be more things. But that’s one thing that I was aware of that he needs. 

 

[00:05:35] As I really felt that uncontrollable and attempt to maybe control it, the other day after I talked to the realtor, it was like, “What do I require?” And so what I started doing was going through my stuff almost from a different energy of, “Okay, I would love to have this, but I don’t necessarily need it. Okay. But if I would love to have it, I’m actually gonna keep it for now.” 

 

[00:06:06] This is a few months before we list. We’ll probably list in May when the pool is nice and open and swimmable. Who knows? Maybe that will change. By then, maybe this will change. But for right now, in order to honor me and to honor this process and for me not to stop it, I have to know that I can feel okay through the process. Hopefully, that makes sense, guys. It sure makes sense in my head, but as I’m saying it, I’m starting to question it. So, yeah. 

 

[00:06:41] What do you require to be okay in those situations of uncontrollable? Maybe there’s been situations you haven’t allowed to get there because you haven’t looked at that. What if that’s possibly the missing piece? 

 

[00:06:57] Maybe you wanted to change a job. Maybe you don’t love where you work and you’d like to change that. A lot of times people go, “Oh, well. I just couldn’t go through all of that.” But you don’t have to do it. What if you started looking at what you might require to be okay with that? 

 

[00:07:17] Maybe you start looking at what’s available without telling yourself you can’t. You just start looking at what jobs could you apply for. Maybe there’s one that feels really great to apply for. Maybe you apply for it, but you tell yourself you don’t actually have to take it. Even if you get it, you don’t have to take it. Like, allowing yourself. 

 

[00:07:39] To me, it’s like a baby step. We can be so kind and caring to ourselves through these times of change that maybe it’s the change we’re asking for. It’s a change we’ve been dreaming of, such in my case, but also, be honorable. Be honoring of you to recognize when you might need a little bit of space or a little bit of assistance or the baby steps or whatever it is so that you can maybe feel a little bit in control through the uncontrollable. 

[00:08:18] We don’t wanna control it, but we also really need to honor where we’re at. At least I do, or I’m gonna kill it. These are things I know about myself and that comes to being so honest with ourselves. The willingness to be so honest with ourselves about what is, what we require, what we might choose, and really honor that. 

 

[00:08:45] A couple of things I would love to invite you to is the Bars. We’ve got one coming up in May. I’m gonna co-facilitate with Kim in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia. Yes, we’re going on the road! I’m so excited. I believe, if I have the dates correct, that’s May 25 for Bars and then I’m following up with me facilitating Foundation there. Come and play. I would love to hug you in person. 

 

[00:09:13] Even though we’re listing, I still set a Pool Party Bars and Foundation. I was like, “You know what? I can always move it.” If we have to move it somewhere, we’ll move it. We’ll move it. Hopefully, I could find an Airbnb with a pool or something. Otherwise, the name will just be funny. 

 

[00:09:28] But Pool Party Bars and Foundation, I did move it into June though for this year. If you can get here guys, I would love to have you come and play, and I truly wonder what else is possible and where else we will have these magical classes as we start going around the world? So excited. 

[00:09:47] Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

 

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There’s so much more possibilities beyond!

For the past 20 years, I’ve rarely had more than one person playing in the business with me. Well, it’s just what I can control. Until recently, I finally hired nine (9) more magical people to join me in the team! HDIGABTT?! How did I do this, you ask? Tune in to this episode because I will be sharing how it all unfolded, as well as the phenomenal tools from Access Consciousness® that came in handy. You will be amazed how much more magic lies beyond what you can control, sweet friend.

 

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. 

 

Tools to Go Beyond What You Can Control in Business. Yes. I know. 

 

[00:00:23] If you’ve been around here for a while, you know that control is something I talk about a lot and it’s something that I’ve been letting go of, a lot of, and still can do way, way more. 

 

So, how did I do this? Well, how am I doing this is actually the better question ’cause that’s more accurate. How am I doing this? It’s an every-ten-second choice. 

 

How this really started for me? Again, I’ve been choosing this and running clearings and making choices and all sorts of things.

 

[00:00:55] A few months ago, I attended the Joy of Business Certified Facilitator Training. It’s an Access Consciousness® class. It has its own set of work and classes and such which, of course, I am now a Business Done Different Facilitator! I have a class coming up in August, actually the end of July. July 30th, 31st, and August 1st.

 

If you can get here in person, pack your swimsuit. Come and play. If you are only able to join us online, that’s fine, too. We’ve got both options. We’d love to have you. 

[00:01:31] I also have other classes on the book, so you’ll find a link or above or below or somewhere. If you can’t find it, reach out and I will get it to you.

 

[00:01:39] When I took that class, hiring had been on my mind for probably years. Honestly, for the past 20 years—I will be celebrating my business anniversary in September. For the past 20 years, I’ve rarely at one time had more than one person playing in business with me. I know that’s crazy, right? 

 

It’s what I could control. If I’m just gonna be straight up honest here, it’s what I could control. If we’re gonna break it all down, that’s what was going on. I was able to control that. 

 

[00:02:16] In the Joy of Business class that I attended in April, we talked about hiring. They ran some clearings from Access Consciousness and changed a lot.

 

And then, I read this section in the manual that basically said: Are you avoiding hiring to avoid all of those other people’s energies? 

 

It was like, yeah. That was a huge “yes” in my world. It was, again, that control piece of if I only have one person, then I’m only managing, you know, their energies in my world as though it was something (1) that I had to manage or (2) that I couldn’t receive from. There’s so much crazy attached. But anyway, reading that sentence which is like, “That’s it.” 

 

[00:02:59] What I looked at was, “Okay. Business, what would you like?Business, what would you like? This is like tool number one: start communing with your business. 

 

[00:03:12] I have so many programs and radio shows on this, guys, on how to commune with your business. You can check them out. We’ll have a link above or below somewhere so you can check them out. 

 

[00:03:23] But really, it’s about including your business in your business. It’s about asking your business: Hey business, where would you like to have that class? Hey business, when would you like to put that class on? Like, including your business.

 

[00:03:37] And so, that’s what I was doing. I’ve been doing that for years, but I really intensified it. I really allowed it to facilitate me. 

 

This is the thing that I would say is one of the billions of gifts that having a business does for us is if we let it, it can facilitate us into greater constantly. It can constantly facilitate us into greater if we’re willing. Yeah. 

 

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds

 

[00:04:16] That is the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. You can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works, but basically, it is like a magic wand that you’re waving and all of the stuff around, whatever it was about, starts to melt and go away.

 

So, tool number one: definitely communing with your business. Include your business in your business. 

[00:04:39] Tool number two, which is very similar and different, is to receive from the business. Be the gifting to the business and also receive from it. 

 

So many people do business as a separation. It’s like, I’m going to work from whatever, 9:00 AM until 5:00 PM. When I’m at work or doing my business things, then I will be doing those business things. When I’m done, I’m energetically gonna pull my energy out of my business and go do the other things.

 

[00:05:15] Guys, we’re infinite beings, which means we’re infinite energy, which means we can be present in our business, present with our family, present floating in the swimming pool outside. We can be all the things. 

 

If we don’t separate, if we don’t pull our energy out of places and things and classes and radio shows and all the things, then you get to be all of it. 

 

[00:05:41] In my case, if I was floating in my swimming pool and I was being all the energies and I was being present with all the energies, I would be aware the moment my little kitty Totty might need me. I would be aware when the business needed to make a phone call. I mean, there’s all sorts of things. If we don’t separate, that’s where the magic is. 

 

[00:06:06] It’s very much like communing, and it’s different because you’re gonna be the gifting and the receiving. Now, with gifting and receiving, what a lot of people don’t recognize is it’s constant. 

 

It’s not like I will gift now, and now, it is my turn to receive. That’s what we call the “give and take universe.’ That’s where most people operate in this reality. I will give you this, and then I will take this. 

 

Gifting and receiving is when we don’t know who the gifter is, and we don’t know who the receiver is. It’s a totally different energy. 

 

[00:06:38] For myself, as I was allowing the business to facilitate me and allowing to, you know, reminding myself to ask more questions and following the energy, I now not just have one person playing with me in the business. I have nine more. I actually have 10, I just realized that.

 

But yeah, I actually hired 10 people recently to do all sorts of different things. There’s so many things going on in my business. It’s so amazing. I’m so grateful. 

 

[00:07:12] A lot of them weren’t getting done because there was just me and Ericka, my magician, I call her ’cause she does everything else. But just the two of us, there is just not enough time. 

 

Now, with nine more doing all the thing, that’s joy. That’s joy right there, my sweet friends. I could not have got there until I was willing to let go of more control and allow the business to facilitate me.

 

[00:07:45] Business, show me. This would be another, probably tool number three we could say is Business, show me. Business, show me. Business, show me. 

 

I also use it with everything. Body, show me. Universe, show me. Depending on what’s going on and I’m asking about, but that’s the energy. It’s like, show me, business. You would like to be even way more in the world? Show me, show me. 

 

And then, it’s my job to pay attention and to follow the awareness. Follow the energy. That’s magic, my sweet friends. That is so much magic, and beyond what you can control. 

 

[00:08:26] We really wanna look at that energy of what we often talk about in Access is “out of control”. If you’ve never done the How to Become Money Workbook, I highly recommend you checking it out. I will be doing another run through probably in September. I usually do it once or twice a year. 

 

[00:08:43] There’s a whole section on being… in the book it’s called “being control”. But basically, what it is is being out of control. All that means is that nobody and nothing could ever control you, which means you have to have no points of views ’cause if you have a point of view that it should be sunny outside and it’s not sunny outside, you’re controllable. You’re pissy, you’re upset, you’re cranky, you’re whatever. It’s all the crazy, right? 

 

If you’re willing to be out of control, then you’re going to be out of control and not controlled by anything, which means you get to be total magic. 

 

[00:09:26] So, a clearing that you can use and I talk about this one all the time:

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, possibilities, potencies, and power can me and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities, and out of concentricities with total ease for all eternity? 

 

Anything that doesn’t allow that… right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds. 

[00:09:51] Run that, run that, run that. Write it down. Go to the show notes. There’s show notes. It’s all written down for you already. Write it down. Put it on a sticky note. Put it on your Reminder app, pop up once an hour or something like that. Maybe even just once a day, if you wanna start small.

 

But run that clearing, guys. You will be amazed at actually how much more ease and joy and glory your life and living is when you are willing to be out of control. That’s where the magic is — beyond what you can control. Yeah, awesome. 

[00:10:27] Okay. So, come and join me at Business Done Different or any of the other bazillion classes I have coming up, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

 

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Are you letting people’s judgment control you?

When people judge you, they’re attempting to control you. Will you let these judgments dictate your actions, or do you want to be the one truly creating the life and living you desire? Tune in to this episode to know more about breaking free from control with the help of these magical tools from Access Consciousness.®

 

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so grateful that you are here. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This week, we’re talking about Tools to Stop Being Controlled. Yes. 

 

[00:00:17] Now, one of the biggest ways that people attempt to control us, or we attempt to control other people, is through judgment.

 

If you, maybe as a child, were misbehaving at a family, friend’s house and your mum looked at you and just gave you “the look,” you know, the look, that’s a way to control you. She didn’t even need to use words. Now, maybe that didn’t happen in your house, but that’s what I’m talking about. It’s where people will use judgment to control us so that we stop doing what we’re doing. 

 

[00:00:58] The first tool with regards to stop being controlled is to have no point of view about being judged. I know that this is a big one for people. I know because it’s been a big one for me. It’s way better — I’m willing to receive way more judgment than ever before and still, there’s times. 

 

[00:01:22] What you want to look at is one, what is the judgment? What is it that when you either go into judgment of the person because of what they’re judging you for, or like… what exactly is it? 

 

Is it something they’re saying to you? Is it something that they’re doing? Is it the look? What exactly is it? And then whatever that is for you, you want to use this most magical tool from Access Consciousness® which is interesting point of view, I have that point of view. 

You don’t even have to say it out loud. In fact, a lot of times it’s better if you don’t, if you just say it within your own head to yourself about whatever it is.

 

[00:02:04] Let’s use an example. Let’s say that you are… let’s say you put a TikTok on—you put a video on TikTok. You get a comment that you don’t look good. Yes, this happened recently. I don’t mean “look” good into like, in terms of unhealthy. The person didn’t like my makeup look. 

 

I could be controlled by that and go, “Okay, well, then I need to wear less. I need to stop being too much with it.” I could do that and believe me, I have done that before way too many times to count, but that’s one choice. I mean, we’ve got billions of choices and that’s one choice. 

 

[00:02:51] Now, we’re going to use this tool and exactly what I did when I read it, because there was a bit of a *ugh* in there, but that *ugh* is reminding me I have a choice. I can allow myself to be controlled in that moment or I can use the tool. 

 

So, reading that comment: interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view.

 

[00:03:21] Now, you can change it up. I could also say interesting point of view, they have that point of view. The thing with that, though, is that because it gave me that *ugh,* there’s something there that is for me, too. I just use it really simply: interesting when you, I have that point of view, and I repeat it until there’s no more energy on it. That might take five minutes. That might take five days. That might take three months. 

 

I don’t mean I’m saying it constantly on the thing for all that time. It’s just you want to recognize sometimes, it’ll change it in that moment and there might be other aspects down the road where you want to run it again. Maybe some other part of it has come up or something like that.

 

[00:04:05] Interesting point of view, I have that point of view is number one tool in changing judgment of any kind and really to recognize that. That’s all that’s going on. When people are judging you, they’re attempting to control you. In this case, “don’t wear too much makeup” or don’t wear more makeup than they would. That’s usually what’s going on, or don’t wear the vibrant colors that they would. 

 

[00:04:29] It was year—well, I don’t even remember when it was. A few years ago, I believe. I had a woman just private message me and talk about the vibrancy of the clothes and the makeup that I wear. 

 

What she said is something like, I don’t remember the exact words, but something like, “You’re not being you with all of that.” there’s a lot of things that she said and when I first read it, it was just like, “Wow… This is so not okay.” I don’t mean the judgment to me, but it was so much body shaming. 

 

Same as this other gal’s comment on TikTok is, “You’re wrong in how you look.” It’s never okay to comment on somebody’s body. Just a little FYI guys. Never okay. Ever. I probably shouldn’t have to say that, but anyway, there we go. 

 

That’s tool number one: interesting point of view. I have that point of view. 

 

[00:05:28] The other thing you really want to be aware of, and this would be tool number two although they’re never in any sort of order, we are only victims if we allow ourselves to be. If somebody is attempting to control you, you have a choice not to be controlled. 

[00:05:47] I say that really, really vaguely. I realized that there are some people in some situations that require extra assistance or require intervention or police or all those things. I’m not stupid. I am aware of this and you want to recognize, even if you’re in those situations, what else is possible? What action can you take? Who can you talk to? Where can you go? What can you do? Like, really, really looking at that. That’s to that really extreme stuff.

 

For the rest of us that go into, “Oh, well, you know, this is happening” and “That darn government! It’s all their fault!” and “I can’t do this because that darn government” and etc. Really look at that. 

 

[00:06:36] Again, this was such a big thing for me and I still catch myself in it at times. It’s that energy of victim. It’s that energy of no choice. “Well, this is just the way it is. Poor, poor pitiful me. It’s just the way it is.” it’s not, guys. It’s not. 

 

[00:06:53] If you’re looking at, “Okay, how can I get this person to stop controlling me?” Look at what’s the value of allowing them to control you. You’re giving it up. You’re handling your power over. There’s something else going on. It could be that that’s what you were taught to do. It could be that that’s what your family did. I mean, there’s billions of things. It doesn’t matter what it is, but you do want to ask yourself what the value is so that you can then change it. 

 

[00:07:21] I invite you to join me. We talk about control in the Foundation. We also talk about control in Business Done Different. I happened to have both of those classes coming up and a few of each. So, lots of dates and times and possibilities coming up. You can check the link above or below. 

 

[00:07:38] Of course, the Pool Party Bars & Foundation in early July 2022. [We] usually have them every July so if you can get here in person, pack your swimsuits. Come and play, otherwise you can join us online. Yes! Online. 

 

[00:07:53] Also, Business Done Different — beginning of August. Well, actually, end of July. July 30th, 31st ,and August 1st. Bring your swimsuit, guys. We’re going to do it both, same thing, in-person and online. If you can get here, come and play. We’ll swim and after class. If you’re able to join us online, that’s awesome, too. 

 

Again, you’ll find the links above or below. If you’ve got any questions about those, just let me know. 

 

[00:08:22] Tool number three is a little bit of a different tool. It sounds funny to most. It’s a magical tool that you can use on anything.

 

What you want to do is you want to bring up the energy of being controlled. Whether it’s a person, a big energy like a government or something like that, doesn’t matter. Just bring up the energy of that. Let’s do it together right now. Just bring up that energy. And now, we’re going to do the crazy phrase from Access Consciousness® which is: 

 

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be. Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, and nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be. Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, and nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be. 

 

Over and over and over until that energy changes. That will allow you to get out of the solidity and the concreteness and the conclusions and the decisions and all of the insanity so that you actually have another choice. You’ll actually become more aware of what you could actually be choosing, how you could actually change it. 

 

[00:09:31] Tool number four — and this one is one that most people won’t use. It’s an Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. It’s a bit longer, but guys, just try it. Run it 30 times a day for 30 days. 

 

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, possibilities, power, and potency can you and your body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities and other concentricities with total ease for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs and beyonds. 

 

That’s the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement at the end. [Go to] www.theclearingstatement.com for more information. It’s like magic, guys. The more that you run that, the more out of control you will be, which means nobody and nothing can control you. 

 

[00:10:25] Thank you so much for joining me today. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. I wonder what magic is possible now that has never been possible before? I look forward to chatting again next week.

 

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How many jails are you using to create the domination of E = mc2 with regards to control are you choosing? Everything that is, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all 9, POD, POC, shorts, boys and beyonds®

 

Tips with Time stamps –

11:00 – #1 Acknowledge when you are controlling and run the crazy phrase.
12:30 – #2 Acknowledge what they are choosing and get clear on what works for you.
38:00 – #3 Interesting point of view tool
47:00 – #4 If I didn’t have to control this, what magic could I be?
54:00 – #5 What can I add to my life today to change this right away?
56:00 – #6 “Universe, show me where I’m controlling, show me where I’m controlling that if I stopped would create more in the planet.”

 

Radio Shows mentioned –
Are You Willing to Be Out of Control
What is Contribution?
I am Sorry I was a Cunt

 



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Get more information on Access Consciousness® here.

For more on The Clearing Statement® here.