Tools to Get Out of Control
Imagine a life where nothing and no one can control you, not even you… how magical would that be?! Listen in to this episode as we talk all about CONTROL: what is it, how to get out of it, and some tools from Access Consciousness that you can use on the daily to change everything control-related!
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[00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.
[00:12] This week is all about Tools to Get Out of Control. I know for some of you, you might have stopped listening already. You might have said, “No, I need to be in control, Glenyce! You don’t understand! Stop talking!” I get it—I totally get it, my sweet friends.
[00:37] Control has been controlling me since before I can remember. This is kind of the first piece with control: Whatever, whoever we’re trying to control has control over us. Shall I repeat that? Whoever or whatever we’re trying to control has control over us. I know.
This is such a mindfuck of what we’ve actually been taught—at least, what I was taught. Somewhere along the way, somehow I was taught that the more control I had, the more in control I was, the better my life would be, the better everything around me would be, the happier everyone around me would be, the happier I would be. I’m here to tell you—although I probably don’t have to—it’s the exact opposite. The more out of control I allow myself to be, the more ease, the more magic, the more space, the more of everything that I’m asking for.
[01:50] So, [an] interesting story. If you watch my weekly videos, you might remember fairly recently [that] I actually talked about feeling like a success, and setting myself up in different choices I was making so that I felt like I was a success.
[02:09] For example, choosing to watch the scale. Let’s say from a place of being a success, [it] isn’t probably the best choice because I can’t control the scale. However, I can control—let’s say the marker instead is how many times I go for a walk or how many times I do my workout videos or something like that, because that I do have control over. The scale, I have no control over her.
So, I talked to and share the video about that, and about really setting yourself up for success if that’s something you require. I’ve come to realize, in the past few years, how much that actually contributes to my life. If I feel like I’m successful with something, I’m going to continue to choose it. It’s going to be light, yummy, and expansive in terms of choosing it.
[03:06] However, what I recognized yesterday—Hubby and I are doing a class in stained glass. If you’ve never done this, I recommend it. I actually am enjoying it NOW. I’m enjoying the class NOW. Why now? Because I feel successful. Yesterday was our second class. [In] the first class, the first hour was basically [about] how to do the things [and] some practice. The second hour was getting started on the project that we had chosen.
[03:41] In that second hour, I wasn’t getting very far. Things weren’t fitting together. The project that I chose was maybe a little bit more difficult than what I could have chosen. Anyway, it wasn’t fitting, and I left there frustrated. In fact, I even had the thought [that] maybe when I arrived for the second class, I’m actually going to change my piece because I’m not feeling successful.
[04:09] Yesterday, we go in and I was ready to try it anyway [to] see how I went, and it was working. It started to work really, really well. I was like, “Oh my gosh, I’m feeling successful! This is so good! Okay!” As soon as I have that success, there’s that lightness. I want to do more of it and I want to continue choosing it.
[04:30] I had a lot of space in those hours. I went in early so I had extra time. I had a lot of space in there just to be present with what I was working on, but also things going on in my world. I started really looking at that need to feel successful. Guess what? It’s control! D*mn it, it’s control. Even when I think I’m not doing control, sometimes I’m doing control. It was just this “oh my god energy” of like, “Wow…wow.”
[05:07] I didn’t even realize that that’s what I was doing. [It’s] because when the pieces, you know, the stained glass pieces are fitting together, I’m in control. It’s working [and] I’m moving forward. If they’re not fitting together, I don’t have any control. I can ask for help, I can change my pattern, I can do all sorts of things—but I’m not ultimately in that control energy that I didn’t even recognize it was. So then, I was like, “What if, though, that success—that, basically, is just a need for control? What if that isn’t actually creating the future I desire?”
[05:49] Now, I don’t mean that I should set myself up for not succeeding. It was just this huge awareness of how much I’m still controlling, and that I had really—basically, right down to the bare bones—judged if something was going my way, that was right. If it wasn’t? Yeah, you guessed: it was wrong. [It’s] such a different way of really being present with it and really going, “Wow, what if the pieces not fitting together actually gives me more awareness of how to use the tools?”
[06:28] That’s ultimately—I mean, when it wasn’t working the first week, and then yesterday, what was so interesting was it was working much better but still, there were some conks.
There was a lady that went up to the—so, we grind the pieces, you cut them, and then you grind them to really fit. I kept using the same grinder, possibly another control, another thing of that energy. And then, a lady went and used it. As I turned to go, she was at it. I was a little bit annoyed because it’s two steps from where I’m working. The other one that I went to—because all the other ones over there were busy—was 20 steps the other way. *Oh my gosh, how did I manage?*
[07:18] Anyway, [I] went to the other one. Well, that machine—that grinder, whatever it is, I’m not even sure how the grinders work—is way better. It grinds it so much better, so much quicker. I was like, “Oh my goodness!”
In my conclusion of “this isn’t working,” “I picked too hard of a pattern,” there was no question. There was not even a question of which grinder to use. It was like, “Well, this one’s two steps.” I mean, it wasn’t even that thought—it was just right there. That’s the one I’ll use until she used it, and then I went and use the other one. It’s like, “Oh my gosh, I’m gonna be using this one forever!” Not a question, my friends.
[08:00] It’s just this huge awareness of all the places and spaces of control and of course, I’m not doing just in stained glass. I’d love to tell you that was it but I promise you, I’m doing it in that class [and] I’m doing it in lots of different areas of my life. In those few hours yesterday, I was really looking at “Where am I decided that I need that success? What if I didn’t? What is the not success actually gifting me?”
There is an energy for you, my sweet friends. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[08:40] So, that’s the Access Consciousness Clearing Statement. If you’re not familiar, you can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works. Basically, all of that energy that comes up when I talk about something like this, when I run it, it clears it. [It] starts to dissipate it so that we have more space and we have more awareness, and that’s ultimately what we’re always looking for – [it] is more space and more awareness.
[09:02] Looking at that with every area of my life, it was really magical. What is it gifting me? What is it not working? In Access, we ask the question “What’s right about this I’m not getting?”
In that case, if I would have maybe done that in the first class, maybe I would have found that other grinder sooner or change something else or whatever. Again, it’s still not wrong, the way I did it. it gave me this beautiful awareness of all the control I’m still doing. I mean truly, what a gift that is.
[09:36] So, [here’s] the clearing that I want to run a few times. It is so magical—it is so changing everything control-related.
What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can us and our bodies be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities, and other concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[10:15] Now, that clearing truly has changed so much for me. It wasn’t until a couple years ago that I actually started using it, like truly started using it. Actually, [I] did a call on it. We’ll put a link because, of course, you can purchase the recordings.
But it wasn’t until then that I actually finally memorized all those words. I didn’t have them all memorized, even though I’d probably repeated that clearing thousands of times over my years as a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness. I finally chose, like, really chose, to change the control stuff, which I did—which I totally did.
[10:56] Obviously, there’s still some more—which, again, I’m so grateful for—that we can really not go to the judgment. Not “Oh my gosh, I thought I changed that. What’s wrong with me?” It’s not that at all, guys. We just go, “Wow, okay, cool.” There’s still some more.
Chances are this control thing—at least for me, I don’t want to speak for you. But at least for me, it’s gonna be a long, long time, my sweet friends. And that’s okay. It’s not right. It’s not wrong.
[11:21] The other thing that I want to say about control is for you to really recognize that control is not wrong, okay? Control is actually a capacity. It’s just that we’re often using it AGAINST us and not FOR us. We want to start choosing control when it’ll create greater, not when it will create less, which is really with that whole success piece that I was looking at.
[11:48] [This is] when it creates less—when I go, “Okay, well, I’m not succeeding. I need to succeed in order to continue,” that’s a huge limitation. I mean, how many possibilities, how many experiences have I not chosen, not stepped into because I wasn’t feeling like a success? How many times have I stopped because I wasn’t feeling like a success? Then all of my decisions, judgments, conclusions, computations, projections, rejections, expectations, separations, [and] refined judgments that I have about all of that, ignite and then, I stop. Oh, I feel exhausted just talking about that.
Everything that is, will you destroy and create it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[12:38] Now, I would love to invite you: we are doing a book club on the Projection Expectation Separation Rejections and Judgments book by Gary Douglas from Access Consciousness. We start, I believe, it’s March 8 or something like that. You’ll find the link below or above. If you can’t find it, reach out [and] we’ll get it to you.
It’s going to be amazing, my sweet friends. That book and all of those that I call the DJCCPSERRJs, all of those are what really limit us and really stop what’s possible. The more that you’re willing to let this go, which will also assist you in letting go of control, that’s where the magic is. So, check that out for more information. Depending, of course, when you’re watching this, it’s always available for purchase after, also.
[13:27] The other thing that I would love to invite you to is the Hideously Successful Clearing. We are going to be running it starting March 2, 30 times a day for 30 days.
Yeah, it’s time to change that crazy. It’s time to be willing to be hideously successful, which of course, also out of control. Yes, not hideously successful while controlling everything. Let’s change it all, my sweet friends, let’s change it all. You’ll find the links above or below, wherever.
[13:58] One more thing, I also have available for you—a gift for you is the Magical Money Tricks. I’ve got a video of 10 of them, I’ve got a PDF of five questions, [and] I also have wallpaper for your phone [with] the #1 question that I think everybody should be asking all day long about money. If you would like that, you’ll find the link above or below, you can go grab it. [It’s] my gift to you, my sweet friends.
[14:26] Back to control. What I want to talk about with that is what is out of control? It is having no point of view about anything. There’s not much there, really. That’s not going to take any work at all. Not work, just choice.
[14:45] Really, if you look at that—having no point of view—go back to my example of the stained glass and the glass pieces not fitting together in my first week at all. Like, at all. If I didn’t have a point of view, how much more space is there with that? How much more ease is there with that? How many more questions could I ask either of the instructors or of the machines, or of myself, or of the project? A lot. Yeah, totally.
I’ve got all this space now to have no point—I’ve got all this space. I have no point of view, which means I have total space, which means I have total awareness, which means everything is possible.
[15:30] But when I’m looking through the lens of “this isn’t working, it should be working”—basically, when we think “this isn’t working,” the other energy is “it should be working.” And now, the energy is contracted. Now, there’s no space. There’s no other possibilities. There’s just my choice for frustration, and all the other ideas of “maybe I’ll change my pattern,” “I’ll do something else,” “I’m not feeling successful.” Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
Everything that brings up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a gazillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[16:10] The other thing when you are out of control, no one and nothing can control you, not even you. If you have no point of view about anything, nobody can control you.
[16:26] Right now here in Canada… now, depends on when you’re listening to this because I’m recording a little bit earlier. I’ve got a Certified Facilitator training coming up in the next few days, so I’m about a week and a half earlier than I normally record. But right now here in Canada, there’s truckers all over, especially in Ottawa, Ontario, and also in Alberta, and who knows where else. [They’re] really, really, really getting stronger and stronger in their demand to stop the mandates.
[17:00] Now, for me, I know the greatest gift I can be is to have no point of view. This is not necessarily the most easy to choose when there’s so much right and there’s so much wrong. There’s so much proof of what’s right, and there’s so much proof of what’s wrong. There’s so many, you know, media outlets saying, “Here’s what’s going on…,” and then there’s so many other media outlets going “Here’s what’s going on…” There’s so much of that—there’s so many ways to be invited into right and wrong and good and bad.
[17:36] I know the greatest gift I can be is to have no point of view. I have a preference, I have an awareness. But when I join that it’s right or I join that it’s wrong, that’s where I stop being magical, and that really is the space of being out of control. If you’re out of control, you can be that space, you can be that magic. You’re still going to be aware—you’re not shutting your awareness off, you’re just not controlled anymore.
18:08 This is the funny thing: When you are controlled—when you do have a point of view, you don’t have the access to the awareness that’s actually there. That, actually, is what limits you rather than the opposite of what we think it is. Oh my goodness.
Everything all of that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[18:33] If you are looking to get out of control, [here’s a] couple things:
Maybe you’re like me and you weren’t even aware you were doing it. You could start asking—and this is my new ask: Universe, show me where I am doing control so that I can get reminded all day long, and then I have a choice.
Once I’m aware I’m choosing it, then I can check in: “Hey, does this create the future I desire or decay the future I desire?” If it’s creating it, I can continue. If it’s not, I can let it go. That is, I would say, step number one if we’re going to do them in steps to run that clearing all the time.
What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can be and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of forum, structure, significance, out of linearities, out of concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that, I destroy and uncreate it all. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[19:34] Another question that I have been using and will continue to use: If I was willing to be out of control here, what magic could I create? You can look at your money situation, you can look at your body situation, you can look at the stained glass project and ask that. You can look at anything and ask that question.
[19:59] You’re not looking for an answer—in case you’re not familiar, we’re not asking that so we can figure it out. We’re asking that so we are allowing the awareness, the possibilities, the magic, the universe, all of it to show up to contribute to us being the magic that we truly be.
[It’s] because, guys, I promise you, the more out of control that you’re willing to be, the more magic you will be. The more magic you’ll create, the more ease your life will be, the more magical your life will be. Anything that doesn’t allow that, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
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[21:48] So, one more time for fun:
What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can be and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of forum, structure, significance, out of linearities, out of concentricities for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, we destroy and uncreate it all. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, and beyonds.
[22:15] So, [that’s] some tools to play with to really get out of control, my sweet friends. I wonder what magic would be possible if we were willing to be out of control… I wonder what magic we could create on the planet… I truly wonder, my sweet friends.
Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you, And I look forward to chatting again next week.
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