Tools to Stop Judging You

Tools to Stop Judging You

Tools to Stop Judging You

What if we could receive from it all?

Imagine the possibilities once you stop judging your choices and start seeing the value in everything you did… how AWEsome is that?! Join me for another episode, sweet friends, as I share more tools from Access Consciousness® to get you out of the wrongness of you so you can receive more and more and MORE!!!


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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. 


[00:00:13] Tools to Stop Judging You. I could have called this show many, many things, and that was the one that really felt the funnest because of how often do we judge ourselves? We judge situations. We judge other people. We judge, judge, judge, and it always turns back into us judging us. 


[00:00:37] How this show was inspired was I made a post the other day on Facebook about receiving from all of the courses and classes and different things that maybe you’ve purchased in business sense. It doesn’t mean you have to. This doesn’t have to be just business related. It could be with anything. There was a lot of people that either posted on it or private messaged me and they were just so grateful because they hadn’t really considered what they were doing with all of that judgment. 


[00:01:09] The way that I started out is I’ve been doing these Beyond What You Desire Coaching, and I’ve called it a Beta Coaching. I’ve got, I think, 28 people so far. By the time this goes out, it might be full. I’m maxing it at 30. If you go to the page and there’s no way to pay me, it just means we’ve maxed out at 30. I will relaunch it when it’s ready to go in the New Year. There might still be those two spots, so go and check it out if it’s something you’re interested in.


[00:01:41] With those 28 people, most of them are choosing to work on their business. What I’ve heard from so many of them is what I often hear from people in business. I took that class, I took those classes, I read that book, I did this training, I bought these audios, and I shouldn’t have, and I’m wrong, and I’m bad. What I always suggest to people is that possibly, if you are willing to receive from it all, all of those things could contribute. 


[00:02:18] The example that I used was in my own life was how back in college, actually – back in 1992, I believe it was. I was in college, my background’s psychiatric nursing. I was going through a really tough breakup, so I went and got some counseling. They offered counseling at the school. The woman did something called “guided imagery therapy” and I loved it. I loved it. I loved it. 


[00:02:43] Then, fast forward in 2002, I was starting my business. I was gonna do reiki, which of course I did, and then I knew I wanted to add something else but I didn’t know what. I started thinking about what I could add. What I remembered was this experience with this therapist. 


[00:03:02] I googled guided imagery therapy and what came up was hypnotherapy. I added hypnotherapy. When I started my business in 2002, those were the two things that I offered. And then, I started doing different things like meditation and other energy courses and all the things. Those all contributed.


[00:03:24] And then I started studying Access Consciousness®. Before that, I started studying theta healing. In there, the theta wave is a brainwave. I started adding these binaural beats… I’m not saying that correctly, to meditations and to guided imagery and all of that, the hypnotherapy, then Access Consciousness® where we do energy pulls. Mixing all of that together, I offer energetic exercises. 

[00:03:56] If I thought to myself that I sure was wrong to have taken that hypnotherapy class back in 2002, I sure was wrong to do all those guided meditations, I sure was wrong to do theta healing, I wouldn’t have the capacities to be the energetic exercises that I be with my clients.


[00:04:20] What we wanna look at is whatever we’re judging or whoever we’re judging is to ensure we don’t receive. When we judge the past trainings we’ve taken, we’re ensuring we don’t receive from them, which means then we can’t actually utilize them to create greater. Yeah. Do you get the energy of that? Do you get the separation you create? 


[00:04:49] The other thing, of course, if you’re judging—say, I would judge that I had taken theta healing, and I actually did a lot of theta healing and I taught theta healing. That’s how much I loved it, and I still see the value in it. 


[00:05:02] I still see the value, actually, in everything I did. I have no judgment of choices that I’ve made in business like that. I’ve probably got lots of judgment about other things, but in business, when I look back at all the things, even psychiatric nursing back in 1993 when I graduated. For many years, when I started my own business, I had a lot of judgment because I wasn’t willing to receive. I wasn’t willing to bring the psychiatric nursing capacities, let’s say, into my current life until I was. 


[00:05:38] This is what you wanna look at. What are you judging so that you don’t receive from it? What if you could stop the judgment so you could receive? 


[00:05:48] Tool number one to stop the judging of you is to recognize when you’re doing it, and look at that. “How could I utilize this to create greater?” Just ask that question or maybe even turn it a little bit. Sometimes the how question can be a little bit sticky. “What would it take to receive from this so I can utilize greater with it?” or something like that. 


[00:06:14] You just wanna recognize you’re judging. That’s probably the best tool. Recognize you’re doing it. That is tool number one. Recognize you’re judging and then, all right. You could even ask, “What else is possible here?” or “If I didn’t judge this, how much more could I receive?” There, that’s a simple one. It’s so that you could start receiving from it, getting out of the judgment of you and recognizing. 


[00:06:38] The energetic exercises is just a really easy example for people to see the steps or the pieces of it. Not steps, but the pieces of it. That really is the way for all of us in our entire life. 


[00:06:51] Even if you wanna look at people that you’ve dated in the past and then go to the judgment of that, guess what? You’re not receiving. What if you’re like, “Wow, okay, cool! I chose that. I chose that person.” 


[00:07:03] You know I’ve been with Hubby for almost 30 years, so it’s been a long time, but I do have some of those people in my past where it’s like, “Oh my gosh.” If we’re willing to receive from that, then if you are still dating and you’re still looking for somebody, you probably won’t choose people like that. Right? Once we choose something and we get the awareness, often we don’t choose it again. 


[00:07:30] You might say, “But Glenyce, I have a theme of always dating these people.” Then get curious with that. Don’t go to the judgment of you with what’s wrong with you about it. Look at it. Okay, what is that? Of course, my favorite question: 


[00:07:44]What’s the value of dating somebody like that?

[00:07:46] What’s the value of always choosing people like that?” 


[00:07:49] Whatever “like that” means to you. Get curious. If you’re willing to be honest with you, you can change anything. It’s about adding the awareness, which is whatever that is. “Oh my gosh, that type of person is just like my dad or just like my mom,” or whatever awareness. Those are really just examples. It could be a bazillion things. But once you acknowledge it, what else could you choose? What else could you choose? 


[00:08:20] For those of you who are in business and would like to be offering 1-1 coaching programs, have I got a deal for you! Depending on when you watch this, we are having a sale on it because it actually won’t occur until January of 2023. We’ve got reduced pricing right now if you wanna get in. Pricing and bonuses change the closer that we get to the actual class so do check that out. The link is above or below. If you don’t see a link, let me know and I will get it for you. 


[00:08:53] If you do what I call “themes,” okay, cool. What else could you choose? 


[00:08:59] I’ve often talked about one of my themes growing up, and as an adult even, like many years, was this theme of jealousy. I grew up – I had two older sisters. For many years, I was the baby so lots of jealousy there about what they could do and I couldn’t. And then suddenly, two more came along when I was nine and then lots of jealousy because they got the attention. There was so much and then I carried that on. 


[00:09:21] I’ve often referred to that as a theme in my life, and I’m so grateful because I don’t have that energy come up anymore. That’s taken some tenacity around looking at and being present with those energies. When that jealousy would come up, when I was willing to change it, I trained myself to ask different questions to get more present.


[00:09:44] There was a quote from a woman, I bet this was probably 10 years ago now. I know her first name is Daniel. I just cannot ever remember her last name. She’s a published author and such, and it was a quote from her that really got me looking at it differently. Her quote was, “Jealousy is a call to action.


[00:10:10] For me, that theme wasn’t so much that it was something I had to choose. It was that I wasn’t actually looking at it for what it was. I was calling it jealousy. I was distracting myself with it rather than looking at when that energy came up for me, what would I like to choose that’s like that or even greater, which is a great question if that’s an energy for you.


[00:10:34] Again, it goes back to what we’ve been talking about. Get curious with what is this? What is this that’s going on? What is this energy? Would I like to continue to choose this? 


[00:10:48] The other thing that we don’t often recognize with judgment is we actually are choosing it. I know it often doesn’t feel like we are. It often feels like we don’t have any choice whatsoever, it’s happening to us. But I promise you, there’s choice. We’re choosing it. If you don’t like choosing it, guess what? You can choose again and again, and again, and again. Yeah.


[00:11:13] So, a few different tools to get you out of the wrongness of you, my sweet friends. I wonder what magic might be possible now that has never been possible before. Thank you so much for being here, and I look forward to chatting again next week.


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Choice and Choosing

Choice and Choosing

Choice and Choosing

What will YOU choose?

We have always been taught to be careful when making decisions, because it can either make us or break us. What if instead of “deciding” things, we can start “choosing” to better find what works for us? Choose, receive the awareness, and choose again. Imagine the possibilities that opens up… how AWEsome is that?!


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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. This week, we’re gonna talk about choosing. Choosing and choice, and choosing. 


[00:00:20] Yes, this is a Grinch tuque because I love it. If you can see in the background, there is Hubby and our sweet friend, Lexi. We have been playing with choice and choosing more than ever before, and one of the things that we’ve been choosing is something called “Trusted House Sitters,” which is basically a site where you can go and you can apply to do house and animal sitting around the world. 


[00:00:52] We’d talked about it for years prior to Totty, our sweet kitty, passing away in September of 2022 as something we would do when she was no longer with us. We never guessed she would be gone so quickly. We actually started in England. We did one house sit – we had a dog and a cat, and chickens and ducks. 


[00:01:19] This is our second one. We’re here in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada and having so much fun with sweet Lexi. She is such a beautiful dog and so playful. Thankfully, the weather has been quite mild here so we’ve been able to enjoy her outside. Even though it might look like Hubby is being mean to her, she loves getting snow kicked out to her and catching it in her mouth. So, there you go. 


[00:01:43] We are talking all about choice and choosing. It’s one of the things that I actually talk about a lot because choosing and choice is such a big part of us creating our dreams come true.  

[00:01:58] When we first had the chance to look at this as a reality, as a possibility like traveling the world, just trying out different houses in different places with sweet animals to love, it was just from that energy of “I wonder what that would be like…,” not “This is the way it has to be,” “This is what we have to choose,” but like, “I wonder… I wonder if we would like it.” We talked about actually selling our beautiful home and doing it full time. 


[00:02:32] In this 10 seconds, that’s what we’re continuously choosing towards with the awareness that choice is good for 10 seconds.


[00:02:43] We’re down here in Lethbridge. It’s about a five-hour drive from our house. Of course, we did one in England which is impossible to drive to, you know, being a flight away. We’ve got another one set up in Calgary in December and Edmonton near the end of November. We’re trying it out. It’s like when you choose, you can try your choice out. This is what it’s like. We get to try it out and so far, we are loving it. 


[00:03:10] We’re also receiving so much awareness by choosing it. We know that although we love dogs and we love playing with dogs, we know we don’t want a lot of time with dogs. If you’ve never had the difference between a dog and a cat, our experience is dogs require a lot more like walks outside and all the things.


[00:03:35] Some people might disagree. Of course, if they’re dog people and they don’t like cats, that’s different, of course. But for us, we love all animals and our awareness is dogs are a lot more work. We will certainly say yes to dog sits when it feels yummy to do so, and probably for the longer ones, say months or two months or maybe even three months, probably not going to be for dogs. Who knows? Whatever. But again, it’s this choice. We get to choose, and we get to choose, and we get to choose again. 

[00:04:06] This truly is something that you wanna look at in your life because often what we’re taught is that… no, we’re actually usually not even taught about choice. What we’re taught about is decisions. We make a decision. We say, “In the spring, we’re gonna sell our house and travel the world, doing house and pet sitting full-time along with me, of course, continuing with my business full-time, and that’s the way it is.” That’s a decision, and you don’t receive much in that decision. In fact, you don’t really receive anything. But if you’re choosing it and then you’re receiving the awareness, then you get to choose again. 


[00:04:43] This isn’t about anything to do with what we’ve been doing so far. We don’t need to have any other choices to know. We would actually prefer to do this in the tropic somewhere, in the Canadian winter. We’re here right now so of course, we’re choosing it locally. We are enjoying winter, which is why I bought a fun little tuque. 


[00:05:01] However, what we’re looking for for January, February, March is actually Arizona, Florida, Tennessee, California, those places so that we can enjoy the weather, too. Of course, if you know me at all, you know I’m also looking at places that have pools. 


[00:05:19] This is just a really fun way to talk about choice, to really get you to recognize that you get to choose and you get to choose again, and you get to receive the awareness and then you get to choose again, and you get to choose again and you get to choose again, and awareness and choose and awareness. 


[00:05:34] Maybe by spring, we’ll be like, “No, we’re not interested. We wanna be at home and get some more cats of our own.” Who knows? Anything is truly possible and the first step is making a choice. 

[00:05:47] Now, some choices you can do like we are and get little baby pieces of it, so to speak. We get to try it out, see if it works. Some choices aren’t like that. Some choices, maybe you just energetically choose. 


[00:06:00] This is what I’ve been telling some clients this week. Hey, for tomorrow, just live the day as if you chose A and then the next day, live as though you chose B. When we spend a few hours as though we’ve chose something, we’ll also start to get a sense of if it is actually for us or not. It’s just a different way of being on the planet, a different way of trying on choices like you would try on clothes just to give yourself a sense. 


[00:06:30] The other thing that I think is so important for every one of us to know and to remember is it never shows up the way you think it will. It never shows up the way you think it will.


[00:06:40] If you hold on really tight to “I’m doing this and this is the way it’s going to be, and this is how it’s gonna turn out and this is what it’s gonna look like,” it’s not gonna be very fun for you. But if it’s like, “This feels fun. This feels cool. I’m gonna choose towards that,” then what else could you receive? What other way could it turn out? How could it turn out better than what you could expect? 


00:07:04] I’ve got some coaching going on right now. I’ve called the program Beyond What You Desire Coaching. We all have an idea of what we would like. I shouldn’t say that – that’s not true. Sometimes, we have an idea of what we would like or we have some idea of energies of what we would like.


[00:07:21] However… there’s some dogs barking. I must check. It’s all good. Hubby’s got it. 


[00:07:27] When we have that, we go into that space of what we would like. And then if we do it from the energy of what else is possible, guess what? Everything beyond what we desire gets to show up. What if we lived our lives beyond what we desire?


[00:07:51] I had maxed out at 24 at the Beyond What You Desire Coaching. I was doing a beta program. I’m actually expanding that. There’s a link above or below if you would like more information, or maybe you looked at it before and you’re kicking yourself that you didn’t get in. There’s more details about it now, guys, so go and check it out. I would love to have you come play. 


[00:08:11] I wonder if you were willing to choose and choose and choose, and be maybe even judged as flighty or somebody who just is always changing their mind or whatever it is that you’ve used to stop you before, what could you create if you are willing just to choose and mess it up and receive awareness, and choose and choose and choose and choose again… I wonder how much magic you could create in your life, in your living, my sweet friend. 

[00:08:41] Have a wonderful week and I look forward to chatting again next week.


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