What If You Stopped Waiting to Create?
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Why Can’t You Be Magical for You Too?
Why Can’t You Be Magical for You Too?
You absolutely can!
A question I’ve often heard from my clients is “How come I can be magical for other people, but I can’t be magical for myself?” What if that isn’t actually the case? What if you can be magical for you too, but you have these notions that might be limiting what’s actually possible for you? Tune in to this episode because now is the time we all start being the magic not only for other people but for ourselves, too!
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[00:00:00] Have you ever wondered why you can’t be magical for you, too? Hello! Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.
[00:00:15] Yeah. It is something that I have probably heard more than anything else from my clients. “How come I can be magical for other people, but I can’t be magical for myself? What is that?” Yeah. What is that? What if you could be magical for you, too?
[00:00:34] Now, this podcast is an invite to an upcoming series that I have called “Magical as Fuck“, a 4-part, oh my gosh, actualization series, receiving series, magical capacity series. I mean, it’s all the things.
[00:00:54] There’s gonna be four calls altogether. One of them is going to be all about being magical for you too, because what if it isn’t what you think? What if it isn’t that you can’t be magical for you? What if you have some sort of bizarre point of view about it? What if you have a belief that’s limiting what’s actually possible for you?
[00:01:17] I know for myself, years ago when I started looking at this for me because I could be very magical for other people, I could create all sorts of magic in their life, in their business, in their money flows, all the things. But when it came to being it for me, not so much. What I recognized was that it kind of stemmed from this idea that I know most of us have heard at one point or another. “It is better to give than to receive.” Yeah, I know, right? Crazy!
[00:01:52] Here’s the thing: you can’t actually just give. Well, I shouldn’t say that. You can. You can do it that way, but then energetically it’s just going out one way, so guess what happens to you? You become depleted. You’re just flowing it one way. But gifting and receiving is an energy not even really like a cycle because it’s not. It seems like there’s gifting and receiving and receiving and gifting and, but it’s one energy and it’s a continuous flow of energy.
[00:02:26] And so when we’ve got any beliefs that it’s better to give than to receive or it has to just flow one way, then chances are we’re using that, in a sense, against us. We’re using that as a way to really limit what’s possible for us.
[00:02:43] Because magical capacities aren’t just for other people. Your magical capacities aren’t just for other people. We want to include them, and you wanna include you also. This is the thing where this flow of you being magical. Not you being magical for them, not you being magical for you even. You being magical.
[00:03:13] Now, what does “magic” really mean? Magic, to me, is the willingness to be or do whatever it takes to create what you desire. Maybe even change the end to create what would create greater. Because sometimes when we have this idea of create what we desire, we have a lot of conclusions around that. We have a lot of ways we think that should look, or the ways that that has to look. What if there’s so many ways? What if there’s so many ways?
[00:03:45] It’s the willingness to be or do whatever it takes to create greater. There we go. I like that. That energy, being that in the world without any barriers up to it, without any exclusions, without any insanity, points of views, limiting beliefs, all of that, then you get to be it, including you. You get to receive from it, also. You get to be it, you get to gift it, you get to receive it, and that’s all the same energy. There’s no separation in there and there’s no barriers as long as we don’t put them there.
[00:04:22] There’s different ways and things to look at. I mean depending on what you believe to be true, sometimes we have other lifetimes where we did things that we maybe took an oath or a vow to never be magical for us again or things like that. Sometimes there’s that sort of stuff, and we’ll talk about that more on the call and really go into changing that.
[00:04:45] But ultimately, if you look at that for yourself, if this is something that you’ve wondered about – why can you be so magical for other people? Why does it work out for them when you contribute, but not when you contribute to you? All those sorts of things, and those are great questions to look at for you. It’s like, so what is that? What is that for you? If you did, then what?
[00:05:06] Sometimes that can bring up that really limiting point of view of if I did, if I was magical for me, then people would hate me, it’d be wrong. I mean, there’s all sorts of things that can come up. You don’t need to dissect those things. You just need to be aware of them. What I find is once we’re aware of them, that’s when we’ll change them. Often it’s just the awareness of it. Like, oh!
[00:05:28] I know for myself again, years ago when I was really looking at this, I was like, you know what? When I let go of that idea that it’s better to give than to receive… In fact, when I was willing to just see the insanity of that message, it was like, wow, there’s so many areas of my life that this could ripple out into, because then it really comes to us being all of us.
[00:05:55] Not going, “Well, I better not receive anything here. I better just be the giver,” and then we get depleted because there’s no energy coming back. We’re not receiving anything from it. Usually, that turns into resentment and then there’s all sorts of insanity with that.
[00:06:12] Once I started to piece it apart for myself, it was, I’m gonna say fairly ease for me to really start going, “What if I was magical for me here too?” again, we’re not doing it so that we exclude it from others now. We’re just including us. We’re just including us so that we can receive it, too. Yeah. Yeah.
[00:06:36] Because really, imagine a world with everybody on it being magical, excluding themselves. Okay, that’s a bizarre energy. Now, imagine a world where everybody’s being magical, including themselves. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh, guys. Let’s choose that. Okay, let’s choose that.
[00:06:57] Again, I invite you to the upcoming Magical as Fuck – 4-Part Series to really exponentialize your capacities with magic in ways you never even imagine possible. If you would like more information, you can find the link above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you.
[00:07:17] I wonder… I wonder what magic would be possible if we were willing to include ourselves in the magic that we be. Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.
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What Is the Point?
What if there isn’t?
How to Control the Uncontrollable
How to Control the Uncontrollable
Are you willing?
We all cope differently when we find ourselves in situations beyond our control. Some will swim with the tide, others might go against it. But what if there’s a way to “control the uncontrollable”? Join me in another magical episode as I share all about how to be okay when things get out of control and more, because who knows? This might actually bring about the change you’ve been dreaming of!
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[00:00:00] Is there a way to control the uncontrollable? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so incredibly grateful that you are here.
So ,is there? Is there a way to control the uncontrollable? Now, I know that ultimately we’re looking to get out of control. I know that. I know it’s something I’ve been choosing towards in maybe bits and pieces over many, many years, and I’m way better at being out of control than ever before.
[00:00:36] What does out of control mean? It means allowing it to be what it is. Allowing the situation, the event, the relationship, whatever it is, to be what it is rather than deciding what it has to be and pushing and forcing, and making it be something that I’ve decided. So, I’m way better [with it now.]
[00:00:58] What came up for me the other day, many of you know we’re in the process of getting our house packed up. We’re gonna move everything that we own that we would like to keep into storage, and then we’re hitting the road. We’re gonna sell this beautiful acreage. If anybody’s looking for an acreage near Sherwood Park, Alberta and loves the swimming pool, keep our place in mind.
[00:01:25] What we’re doing is we’re going to go around the world house and kitty sitting – animal sitting. We’ll probably do some dogs in that, but of course, our preference is kitties.
[00:01:38] The other day, there was so much magic that occurred. I had talked to a good friend of mine who’s a realtor. You guys have heard me talk about him before – Chris Hassall. If you ever have realtor needs in Lloydminster, Alberta/Saskatchewan, please reach out to him. He’s amazing.
[00:01:57] We were just chatting about things and he was just giving me some tips and suggestions and such. And then, the next morning I woke up to a random Facebook message from a local realtor who had seen a post that I’d put in one of the local groups two months ago. He was just following up with what I’d post like, what? It was so cool. I spoke with him and all of a sudden it was like, “Oh wow. Shit’s getting real.” Shit’s getting real! What?!
[00:02:31] What was occurring is this feeling of — you guessed it — out of control. What I know about myself with that energy is that often, I can stop it. I can find a way. If I don’t acknowledge what it is, I’ll energetically stop it, which is usually not what I’m asking for. In fact, it’s usually the exact opposite of what I’m asking for.
[00:02:55] As I became aware of that energy, I became aware that I could stop it. I started looking at, okay, yes, stopping it is one. What else though? What else could I actually choose with it? Huh? Okay, what would I require to have ease with it?
[00:03:15] Now, I’m super excited about this possibility. I’m not sitting back going, “Oh, I wish we weren’t doing this.” I’m not. Also, there’s still aspects of it that are totally out of control like what if I pack something away that I require when we’re, say, in Australia? Oh no! Okay, go buy it! Hello?!
[00:03:39] I mean, there’s these energies, right? That come up when there’s things that we can’t control — at least for me, there’s all sorts of insanity that comes with it and this idea that I should control it, that it’s right to control it when that’s the exact opposite of what I’m asking for.
[00:03:56] However, I also have to honor me. I have to trust me. I can’t just go, “Oh, you know what? I need to be out of control, so forget it.” I’m just out of control and go on. No, I have to acknowledge that I like control so much that I may try to stop this magic because of my love for control, the lies I bought into that somehow control is better than out of control, that somehow control is right and out of control is wrong.
[00:04:27] In recognizing that, it was like, “Okay, so what do I actually require to put in place to have that sense of ease with the out of control?” We could call it “controlling the uncontrollable,” which is kind of the title that I used but really, to me, it’s an honoring of me in this process. It’s an honoring of me and Hubby because of course, Hubby’s coming with me so also, what does he require?
[00:05:01] One of the things that he said right from the beginning is he needs to know that if we don’t enjoy it, we could come back and most of our stuff would still be available. I had this idea that we would go and just sell everything and he’s like, “No, I need to know that if we don’t enjoy it, we come back and we don’t have to start from scratch.” Okay, we’ll rent a storage and put the stuff in that we love. We’ll put it into storage. That’s what he needs and there will be more things. But that’s one thing that I was aware of that he needs.
[00:05:35] As I really felt that uncontrollable and attempt to maybe control it, the other day after I talked to the realtor, it was like, “What do I require?” And so what I started doing was going through my stuff almost from a different energy of, “Okay, I would love to have this, but I don’t necessarily need it. Okay. But if I would love to have it, I’m actually gonna keep it for now.”
[00:06:06] This is a few months before we list. We’ll probably list in May when the pool is nice and open and swimmable. Who knows? Maybe that will change. By then, maybe this will change. But for right now, in order to honor me and to honor this process and for me not to stop it, I have to know that I can feel okay through the process. Hopefully, that makes sense, guys. It sure makes sense in my head, but as I’m saying it, I’m starting to question it. So, yeah.
[00:06:41] What do you require to be okay in those situations of uncontrollable? Maybe there’s been situations you haven’t allowed to get there because you haven’t looked at that. What if that’s possibly the missing piece?
[00:06:57] Maybe you wanted to change a job. Maybe you don’t love where you work and you’d like to change that. A lot of times people go, “Oh, well. I just couldn’t go through all of that.” But you don’t have to do it. What if you started looking at what you might require to be okay with that?
[00:07:17] Maybe you start looking at what’s available without telling yourself you can’t. You just start looking at what jobs could you apply for. Maybe there’s one that feels really great to apply for. Maybe you apply for it, but you tell yourself you don’t actually have to take it. Even if you get it, you don’t have to take it. Like, allowing yourself.
[00:07:39] To me, it’s like a baby step. We can be so kind and caring to ourselves through these times of change that maybe it’s the change we’re asking for. It’s a change we’ve been dreaming of, such in my case, but also, be honorable. Be honoring of you to recognize when you might need a little bit of space or a little bit of assistance or the baby steps or whatever it is so that you can maybe feel a little bit in control through the uncontrollable.
[00:08:18] We don’t wanna control it, but we also really need to honor where we’re at. At least I do, or I’m gonna kill it. These are things I know about myself and that comes to being so honest with ourselves. The willingness to be so honest with ourselves about what is, what we require, what we might choose, and really honor that.
[00:08:45] A couple of things I would love to invite you to is the Bars. We’ve got one coming up in May. I’m gonna co-facilitate with Kim in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia. Yes, we’re going on the road! I’m so excited. I believe, if I have the dates correct, that’s May 25 for Bars and then I’m following up with me facilitating Foundation there. Come and play. I would love to hug you in person.
[00:09:13] Even though we’re listing, I still set a Pool Party Bars and Foundation. I was like, “You know what? I can always move it.” If we have to move it somewhere, we’ll move it. We’ll move it. Hopefully, I could find an Airbnb with a pool or something. Otherwise, the name will just be funny.
[00:09:28] But Pool Party Bars and Foundation, I did move it into June though for this year. If you can get here guys, I would love to have you come and play, and I truly wonder what else is possible and where else we will have these magical classes as we start going around the world? So excited.
[00:09:47] Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful, and I look forward to chatting again next week.
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