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Tools to Change Anything
Tools to Change Anything
Change anything #asifbymagic
If you’ve been wanting to change something in your life, this episode is for you. Listen in as I share some amazing and easy-to-use tools from Access Consciousness that you can utilize to get you out of the problem and into the space and lightness to change anything as if by magic.
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[00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so incredibly grateful that you are here, whether you’re watching this as a video or listening to it as an audio.
This has been almost two years that we’ve been doing this and yet, every once in a while, I still want people to know that there’s lots of ways to consume this weekly show, podcast, or radio show—whatever you might want to call it. We’ve got YouTube, Facebook and Instagram, and—oh my gosh—all the things and then, of course, all of the podcast apps like Spotify, Apple, and all the other ones that I don’t know.
You can access this anywhere—you can search “Tools to Create a Better Life.” You could probably even search my name, if you can figure out how to spell it and find it that way.
[00:50] What are we going to talk about this week? Well, I am in the midst of facilitating yet another phenomenal Foundation class, which is one of the classes from Access Consciousness. If you’re not familiar, you can go to www.accessconsciousness.com for more information about all the amazing classes. It’s really where all of the tools that I share on this radio show are from—they are life changing and amazing.
[01:14] So, Tools to Change Anything. Yep—anything, because that’s what these tools do. You can actually utilize these tools to change anything.
[01:28] You hear me share them in all sorts of ways—maybe you’ve been following me a bit on Instagram and my reels or on TikTok lately where I’ve been sharing magical money tricks which you can use on anything. One, you can go opt in and get the FREE downloads: I did a video, there’s a PDF with five questions, and there’s phone wallpaper with my #1 question for more money. You can go grab that—that’s a gift for you. Basically, these tools can be used on anything.
[01:56] First tool! Now, I wouldn’t say there’s any such thing as the number one tool of all tools. If I was gonna say that, it’s this one: interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view.
How do you use this? Before I go into this, even if you’ve been here for a while, even if you’ve used this tool a million times, take a moment and listen. I know what you’re like because I’m like that, too. [You’re] like, “I know how to use that!” and then, you stop paying attention. But let’s all just be present for a moment… okay, there we go.
[02:42] What you’re looking at with interesting point of view [and] using this tool is any time that you have an interesting point of view—anytime you’re judging, you’re comparing, you’re projecting, you’re expecting, you’re insane, or whatever it is, whenever you’re not being the allowance that you actually be—you want to use this tool. It’s so simple, just [say it] in your head: Interesting point of view, I have that point of view… Interesting point of view, I have that point of view… Interesting point of view, I have that point of view.
That’s what I do: I give myself some space between saying it to give space to the energy, to start dissipating it. You could do it really quickly—*faster pace* Interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view—it just might not create what you’re looking for. It may [but] you just want to check in. That’s always the thing—you always just want to check in with yourself. If it’s changing it, do it however it works. For me, I know that that space in between gifts it that.
[03:53] Let’s say you’re driving to work, and you’re annoyed because there’s heavy traffic. You’re annoyed because it’s snowing, you’re annoyed because you left your partner in a tiff or something—whatever it is, [it] doesn’t matter. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view… Interesting point of view, I have this point of view…
[04:15] Bring that up, think about it and repeat that over and over and over, and allow yourself the space to change it. All you’re doing is identifying it’s just a point of view, which means it’s not real, it’s not significant, it’s not black and white. It’s just an interesting point of view. You do that enough times [and] it no longer has a hold over you. Now, you have more space to make a different choice.
Whatever the problem is, whatever the thing is that isn’t working, whatever it is that you would like to change, add interesting point of view to it.
[04:54] Let’s say it’s something that occurred last week. You’re not in that moment, you’re remembering it. You’re reliving it, possibly. Maybe you’re having—maybe this is just me, pretty sure it’s not, though—of like where you’re replaying it in your head. “I should have said this, I shouldn’t have said that”—like that insanity.
All you have to do is just think of that thing, that situation, that person, that whatever. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view… Interesting point of view, I have this point of view… over and over until it just changes it. It doesn’t matter if it’s past [or] you’re worried about something coming up in the future. Same thing—think about it, repeat that over and over.
[05:38] I said this already [and] I’m going to repeat it again, though. You do not have to say this out loud. In fact, if you’re saying it to somebody, you’re probably being a superior bitch and stop it. Stop it. A lot of times, people find these tools and they start using them. But then, they start basically killing everyone around them with them. That’s not what these tools are for. Just for you, just for fun, never tell anyone.
If you’re aware that the person talking to you is having an interesting point of view, don’t tell them they’re having an interesting point of view. That’s not kind. [Instead], you, in your head, can say interesting point of view, they have that point of view so you can have more space with it.
[06:21] That is one tool, and you hear me talk about it all the time if you’ve been around a while. If you’re new here, hi! [It’s] nice to meet you. Otherwise, it’s just one of those that can change anything so quickly in my experience.
06:36 The other way that I’ve used it is for body stuff. Let’s say I wasn’t feeling well. I would actually just focus on where I’m not feeling well. Let’s say I was feeling congested—like a cold-like thing—I would focus on that. Focus isn’t the right word—I would be PRESENT with it. That’s what I’m looking for—I’d be present with that energy, the congestion, and interesting point of view, I have this point of view… Interesting point of view, I have this point of view… Interesting point of view, I have this point of view…
So simple, my sweet friends, so simple. For me, it changes it very, very quickly. So, that’s one tool to change anything.
[07:16] Another tool, and I haven’t probably shared this all that much. It’s not one that I’ve really used a whole lot. But I was talking about it in the Foundation class this morning which is just popping into my mind now.
[07:27] Let’s say you’re in a situation that you would like to be different—you’re frustrated with it, you’re upset with it, it’s not what you’d like it to be. A question you can ask: What is funny about this that I’m not getting?
Yeah, right? It just changes it. [It’s] because there’s always something funny about it. If you’re stuck in the drama-trauma of the thing, then you’re in a very solid, heavy, icky energy. But by asking What’s funny about this that I’m not getting?, there’s that lightness.
[08:02] Ultimately, guys, that’s what we’re always looking for—more lightness. When we’re in the problem, when you’re in the drama-trauma, when we’re in the crazy, that’s the contractive and that’s the heavy. What about the lightness? What about the lightness, my sweet friends? What’s funny about this I’m not getting is such a quick way to change it.
[08:23] The other way—different sort of a question, but very same idea. What’s right about this I’m not getting? Same idea, just a different energy to it.
[08:34] I know a lot of people when they hear that, they [would go], “No! If we’re choosing consciousness, we don’t do right and wrong so I can’t ask that question.” You can, but you just want to recognize we’re not asking from the place of what’s right about this so we can figure out what’s right—not from that.
Usually, what we’re doing before we become aware to ask that question is we’re in the wrongness. “What’s wrong with me? What’s wrong with this situation? What’s wrong with this person?” When we change it to “What’s right about this?”, we change the energy of the situation.
[09:06] It just depends. What’s funny about this (I really like that one) and what’s right about this, either one of those will change any situation because again, when there’s contraction, once we change it to lightness, that’s where the awarenesses, that’s where the possibilities is, and that is where the magic is.
[09:26] Another tool is to recognize that your point of view is what’s creating your reality. It’s your point of view. You don’t have to figure out what your point of view is and change that. You could, that’s one way, but a really quick kind of way around that is when you recognize you’re in something—there’s something going on—you don’t like, you know you’re choosing it, you know you’re creating it. You could ask: If I didn’t have a point of view here, what magic could I create? What magic could I be here?
[10:01] It changes it because we’re not taking our time to figure out all the interesting points of views we’re playing with. We’re just saying, “Hey, if I didn’t hold on to any of this, what magic could I be? What magic could I create?” which then, guess what? We go from the heavy contraction to the lightness which is what we’re looking for. The stuff that’s going to change it for us is getting into that lightness, and whatever it takes to get there.
[10:28] This is just one really quick way around it, really quick acknowledgement that we are the creators of our life. A lot of times when we’re in that icky-ness, when we’re in the problem, drama, etc, we’re playing a victim. We’re going, “Well, I will change this, but that person won’t let me” or “This wouldn’t be happening if they didn’t do this” or “If the government wasn’t that…”
If I didn’t have a point of view here, what magic could I be?
[10:56] It changes everything. With questions, we’re not looking for answers. When I asked that, I’m not going, “Okay, so what magic could I be? Let me figure out the magic I could be.” It’s not gonna work like that. It’s just asking that question, we’re gonna go to the lightness, and then the universe is going to deliver the magic. Okay? Our job is just to ask the question, be the question, be the lightness, change anything that isn’t light into lightness, and the universe will do the rest.
[11:27] Another tool to change anything is to always be in the question of yourself of what would I like to create here?
There’s so much value in the problem—we put so much energy into the problem. I need to think about the problem, I need to figure out the problem, I need to spin on the problem, I need to talk about the problem with the 10 people around me, and then I’ll fix the problem. And then, I won’t have the problem. And then, I’ll choose something different.
Sorry, [it] doesn’t work that way. The only time you’ll choose something different is when you choose something different. The value that we’ve put into the problem is what we need to stop. We need to ask ourselves, “Hey, what would I like to create here?”
[12:13] Again, let’s go to the example of you’re driving to work and you’re upset about the traffic. It’s really heavy traffic and you’re late already. You’re in that place of “this is so stupid and I shouldn’t have to deal with his traffic” and “I hate traffic and I left early so I didn’t have to” and all that stuff. That energy is not going to change anything.
However, [try] asking what would I like to create here? It’s often the exact opposite of what you’re creating. It’s often like, “I’d like to have ease with the traffic. I’d like to get to my appointment on time” and that’s all you need to do—turn it into what you’d like to create and then ask for that. The way that I asked sounds a little bit different than an ask, but it’s still an ask.
I wonder what it would be like to get to the appointment on time…. I wonder what it would be like to have ease with driving right now….
[13:08] I wonder about it, which is similar to a question. You could [also] ask What would it take? What would it take to have ease with this right now? What would it take to get to my appointment on time? What magic could I be to get there on time? You’re turning it into your ask of what you would like, which is getting you out of the solidity of the problem and into the lightness once again. That’s what we’re looking for.
[Those are] some really simple, easy-to-use tools, my sweet friends, to get you out of the problem and into the space [and] the lightness to change it as if by magic.
[13:45] Depending on when you’re watching this, sweet friends, I would love to invite you to the Projections, Expectations, Separations, Judgments, Rejections Book Club that I have starting on March 8, 2022.
Of course, if you’re listening later, you can always access the recordings and stuff—[the] link will be the same. You’ll find that link somewhere [and] if you can’t find it, let me know.
[14:06] Pool Party Bars and Foundation [is] in July of 2022—come and play! Bring your swimsuit and just so you know, the class is not in the pool. I’m sorry for those of you who would like that, but it is not. The class is in the class space and then before class, at lunch break, and after class, the pool is open for your use. Just for anybody who thinks that we’re having class in the pool, we are not. How does it get any better?
[14:35] [I’d] also love to invite you to come and chat with me. You guys hear all sorts of stories about me. You probably know me quite well based on what I share in all my content and my classes and everything. And [so], I’ve opened up a weekly Zoom where I chat with you. Anybody who would like to, you’ll find the link. You can opt in and you’ll get the email.
We just hop on Zoom for five to seven minutes and you just tell me about you. I’ve got some really fun questions to ask you just so that I can start to get to know who you are because I missed that. I really, really missed that.
Anyway, have a fabulous week sweet friends and I look forward to chatting again next week
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Let’s change this!
Still spinning in that fear, crazy, scared-as-f*ck energy? Tune in to this episode ‘cause we’re listing down more magical tools from Access Consciousness® to assist us so we could start changing all that energy for ourselves. How does it get any better than that?! ✨
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[00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.
[00:11] Tools When You Are Scared As Fuck. Something that you want to recognize with that scared energy or that fearful energy is you have a couple of questions you can ask yourself. First question: Truth, is this fear or is this excitement? Now, let me explain. I know that sounds weird. However, a lot of times what we’re calling fear is actually our body super excited about something.
[00:43] Let me give you an example: Years and years ago, I wanted to be a public speaker. I wanted to stand on stage and share inspiration with people. And then, I got my first invite—I was invited to speak on stage. “Oh, no, I can’t have that! I’m scared, I can’t do it! I have to say no!” – I had all of this insanity going on.
[01:08] Now, I didn’t have this tool back then. Luckily, I didn’t let it stop me. However, the question I could have asked myself back then is like, Truth, am I fearful, am I scared, or am I excited? Because in that situation, it was actually what was true. I was so excited—my body was so excited—but we’re so used to identifying that energy as fear that we don’t stop and ask a question.
[01:34] Please, my sweet friends, start asking Is this fear or is this excitement? If you get that it’s fear, don’t worry, I have another tool for you. When it reads as fear—it’s not excitement, it’s actually fear. What we’re doing is we’re distracting ourselves.
[01:52] To give you a silly example: if you’re walking in a city downtown late at night, and you’re walking around and you’re feeling icky that you just go, “Oh no, I’m just distracting myself. I shall continue to do whatever I would like!” No.
You actually want to look at [if] there is something else to choose. It could be that you’re distracting yourself and you could make a different choice. Maybe you get a taxi in that situation or something different. So, it’s not that we go, “Oh well, it’s no big deal.” We still pay attention to it, but we don’t distract ourselves with it.
[02:25] A lot of the stuff going on in the world right now that we might be choosing fear around are probably distractions. [It’s] because there’s nothing in that moment that we can—no, I shouldn’t say there’s nothing. There may be SOMETHING in that moment to do different.
[02:45] Let’s say you’re—what is that term now? Doomscrolling, I think? They call it [that] when you’re on social media or something, looking at all the, you know, “This is the worst thing ever and we’re all gonna die!” and all of that. Maybe the choice in that moment would be to stop doing that. That could be that, but you can check in [if there is] an action to take.
Maybe you are aware of something and there’s something to actually do. But it’s not ever about sitting in your house by yourself feeling scared as fuck. That’s never going to create greater — that’s only going to create more distraction and more of that icky energy.
[03:24] We really have to look at this, guys, because it’s something that we’ve probably found a way to just deal with. It’s like, “Oh well, that’s just what happens. I watch the news, and then I can’t fall asleep at night. And then, I wake up in the middle of the night and I worry some more” – we’ve got to stop that one. It adds the same energy—gives us more of THAT energy, of that doom-y, gloomy, icky energy.
[03:48] It’s not about putting on rose-colored glasses, either. We’re not going, “Oh, no. Everything in the world is perfect. Everybody’s happy and loves each other!” Please don’t do that. It’s about being aware. When we’re distracting ourselves, we’re not aware because we’re doing what I call “putting blinders on.”
[04:08] Let’s say you go on social media for a little bit. You see some stories and it’s like, “Oh my gosh! Okay, well, this is gonna happen and this is gonna happen, and then we’re all gonna die! This is gonna happen when we’re dead!” and you know, all that. We’re putting all these blinders on rather than going, “Okay, yeah. I’m willing to be aware of what’s going on without adding a story to it, so that we can actually start to be way more aware of what’s required to change it. What can we be and do different to change it? Such a powerful question, my sweet friends. Such a powerful question.
[04:43] I also have another radio show from years and years ago all about fear. We’ll link to that in the radio show notes.
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[05:09] The other thing I would like to invite you to is—I’m laughing because of the title—I’ve got some Clarity Nights, I mean Afternoons coming up. In Access Consciousness®, we have this possibility of doing what’s called Clarity Nights. We would maybe get together in the evening, and we would talk about a topic and do a bunch of clearings and just get clarity around it. However, I’m going to have them in the afternoon. It’s just a fun play on it.
There’s 5 (five) for sure coming up. I may continue them after this, but we’ve got things like being The Most Valuable Product in your life, Choosing #asifbymagic, and a bunch more that I don’t recall right now. We’re just going to talk about them.
If you are in the area, if you are my neighbor, please come and play in person with me, my sweet friends. We’ll have them both online and in person at the same time. If you’re here, you can come play. If you’re not, you can join us online. You’ll find the link somewhere [and] if you can’t see it, reach out and I’ll get it to you.
[06:10] Back to the show! Okay, those are the two questions: One, is this fear or is this excitement? Now, that’s gonna read for some things, and for some other things: Am I distracting myself with this? If you get a yes, What other choice do I have?
Again, it might be to take some action. You might be recognizing that what you’re choosing in that moment isn’t creating greater and there’s a different action to take—cool. And then, it can be what can I be and do different to change this?
[06:39] The other thing with this: we want to recognize, again, especially because of everything going on in the planet, one of the other tools that we use all the time—I was gonna say a lot, but that’s not true; all the time—in Access Consciousness is Who does this belong to?
[06:54] Again, think of everybody on the planet who is scared as fuck right now. Yeah, that’s a lot of people. It’s a lot of people with that energy of scared as fuck. We are infinitely aware. We can pick up on that and then play with it as though it’s ours. Please, let’s stop that.
[07:13] What we want to do, again: Is this fear or excitement? If you get its fear, then What am I distracting myself from? and also Who does this belong to? It’s going to lighten up… Return to Sender with consciousness attached – that’s the tool.
[07:27] It’s such an easy tool – Return to Sender with consciousness attached, which means you’re returning it to whoever was the very first person to play with the energy, the distraction of scared as fuck. Cool! “With consciousness” means it’s being delivered back in a way that they could change it if they wish. Now, that part is not up to us. Our job – return to sender with consciousness attached. Let them choose whatever they’re going to choose and us to carry on.
[07:57] But really, [it’s] to start recognizing we have another choice. We have another choice. We can continue to play with scared as fuck and contract our life so small, or we can use some of these tools and make different choices and look at, “Okay, what is going to create the most here? What is going to create the most here? What can I be and do different to change this?
[08:20] The more that I change that energy that shows up in my life—that scared as fuck, the more that I’m willing to use these tools, it energetically ripples out and invites people around me and for miles and miles and forever and ever and ever to change it for themselves. So, what sort of contribution could we be if all of you listening start using these tools rather than playing with scared as fuck as though it’s real?
[08:48] We’re infinite beings. Scared isn’t a reality for us. We are infinite beings with infinite awareness, so we would make a different choice. We would just know—”Oh, there’s that energy. Okay, what can I be and do different to change this?”
But when we’re pretending we’re finite beings, that’s when it becomes a bit of a problem. That’s when we stick ourselves because we go into this energy of like, “Oh, I’m scared because of this and it’s because of this, and this is going to happen and this is going to happen” and then, it’s that spiral. It was called like that, you know, hamster on a hamster wheel, like you’re just going, going, going, and crazy, crazy, crazy. Honestly, it’s up to us to stop it.
[09:25] You’ve got some tools now, guys. Please if you’ve got any questions, let me know. You can post them below depending if you’re watching this video somewhere. If you’re listening on the podcast, then you can email them in info@glenycehughes.net, or just go to my webpage www.glenycehughes.com and you’ll see the Contact page. Send them in [and] I’m happy to do a follow-up show with any of these, guys, because this—let’s change this, my sweet friends. Let’s change this.
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Do it for you.
When we operate from being the “chosen one,” we seek other people’s approval in every thing we do. We start doing it more for them rather than for ourselves. It’s a very limiting way to live, my sweet friends. What we should strive to be is being the “choosing one.” That is why for this episode, we will talk about Choosing vs. the Chosen Ones, and of course, some tools from Access Consciousness® to guide you along the way. Now is the time to choose for you!
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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful to you. I just am blown away with how many messages I receive every day about the gratitude for this radio show.
For all of you longtime listeners, yes, I have had a radio show since 2013. If you’re on a podcast app, you can search “The Glenyce Show” and that will get you the shows from 2013 to, I think, 2018? And then from then forward, it has been Tools to Create a Better Life. Two different podcasts, but both have been this show. How’s it get any better than that?
[00:00:44] All right, what are we talking about this week? Well, Tools to Be the Choosing One. Yes, the choosing one.
This is a very small segment in the Business Done Different, the Joy of Business Manual that Simone Milasas has created for the Business Done Different classes that I, of course, have one coming up. Even when you listen to this later, I will have one coming up.
If you’re listening currently, then I have one coming up in June of 2022. It’s going to be three hours a day, five days in a row, and you can check the link above, below to find out what the dates are and more information. If you can’t find it, please reach out and I will get you the link.
[00:01:34] In the manual, I mean, it’s worth its weight in gold. It’s so amazing. This one section popped out this morning as I was looking through, and it is called, “Choosing vs. the Chosen Ones.“
[00:01:47] I have the manual on my computer, which is why I’m looking over there now and again just to get the actual wording of it correctly because it’s an energy. It’s an energy that some of us—not all of us, but me definitely—had spent many, many years trying to be the chosen one, which isn’t your most empowered space to be.
Being the choosing one is where you actually want to be. That’s where you would have obviously choice. You would be empowered. You would actually be the choosing one in your life and your living. You’re not looking for validation from other people. And so when we’re looking to be the chosen one, that’s what we’re doing: we’re looking for validation.
Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®
[00:02:46] If you’re not familiar with that statement I just said, that is the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. You can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works.
But it’s basically—all the energy that comes up when we talk about stuff, even the stuff we don’t have words for, even if you’re like, “Glenyce, I don’t even know what you’re talking about. Choosing, chosen one… what?” There’s a lot of energy that’s coming up.
And so, we just wave this magic wand—we run the Clearing Statement, and it clears it. It’s fricking magical. I love, love, love it. I talk about it all the time, but do check out that webpage if you’re not familiar with it.
[00:03:22] Now, I want to run a couple of the clearings from the manual:
Everywhere you’re doing something because you were chosen rather than allowing yourself to perceive, know, be, and receive if you would like to choose it, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®
[00:03:46] One of the tools that you can start to use to stop waiting to be the chosen one is to start asking yourself when you’re making a choice: “If I was choosing for me here, what would I choose?”
That will start to give you the idea, the energy of if it’s actually something you would like to choose or something that you feel like you should choose or that other people would like you to choose.
[00:04:13] Now, it doesn’t mean just because you ask that and you get that you wouldn’t choose that thing, it doesn’t mean that you can’t choose that thing. What you want to do is just start giving yourself the awareness, the information about if you’re choosing it for you, or you’re choosing it for other people. That will just start to unravel that, and that’ll give you awareness of more choice.
[00:04:37] I want to say that again because it’s really important. When you ask “If I was choosing for me here, what would I choose?” and you get you wouldn’t choose that thing, it doesn’t mean you don’t choose it. It just means you start to let yourself know, and maybe you still do. Maybe it’s from a greater, like, if you look from a bigger picture, maybe it’s going to create greater to actually choose it. But if you were actually just choosing for you, if there was no one else on the planet, you wouldn’t and it’ll create greater to choose it.
It’s a bit of a trick question in the sense that you’re not always going to follow it. You’re going to look from the bigger perspective and you’re going to give yourself that information. You’re going to let yourself know, and that will start to unravel this, so to speak.
[00:05:21] One of the things that I used to do years ago, some of you might not be aware, is that I was a professional medium, which meant I talked to dead people for other people for 10+ years, and I was very good at it. I had a very amazing business with it… and I didn’t love it. Sometimes, I loved it. Most times, I didn’t.
It is one of these energies for me—it was really where I was the chosen one. I could do it, I was good at it, and people wanted me to do it so I kept doing it until I didn’t. It was truly from that energy of being the chosen one.
[00:06:04] It was interesting because earlier this week, I had somebody reach out who I had done a mediumship reading for her when her husband had died. She reached out to see if I could do one for her friend. It had been many, many years since she’d been in touch with me, not realizing I haven’t done it since probably 2014. It’s just not something I choose anymore.
[00:06:22] As I was looking at that, it’s like—and her response back was how good I was and how good I was at it and all the things, and that’s great. Now, I’m so clear in what actually works for me in most areas. I’m not saying I’m perfect at it in all areas, but I’m so much more willing to be aware that yes, I—you know what? Anything I do, probably like you, anything I do, I’m fucking phenomenal at. I could choose a billion things and what actually lights me up, what works for me.
[00:06:56] So, that was just one area. I was like, yeah, I was really operating from the chosen one. I continuously got validated when people loved the mediumship readings that I did for them, and it just doesn’t like me up like facilitating, like empowering people to know that they know.
Now, I’m able to choose that without the crazy “Well, I should. I’m supposed to. It’s the right thing. They would like me to.” They would like me, you know, they would like me if I did that – that sort of bizarre energy. All right.
Everywhere that you are looking for validation from other people through being the chosen one, will you just destroy and uncreate all that? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®
[00:07:41] If you’re on social media, if you’re active on social media – and I don’t mean just an observer. But if you are a poster, if you create TikToks, if you put posts on social media of any kind, you want to be super aware of being the chosen one. Because that’s, to me, where a lot of the energies are with this crazy.
When we post something, there’s a lot of the, “How many people liked it? How many people commented? Did so-and-so see it? Did they like it if they saw it? What do they think? What does that person…?” Maybe somebody says a rude comment underneath and now… oh my gosh. There’s just so much insanity where you really want to be present with that.
[00:08:23] If you’re a poster on social media and you’re recognizing this energy of being the chosen one, it’s like, when you post, do it for you. Do it so that if nobody else read it or saw it or engaged with it, you would still love it so much. You would still be so grateful that it’s out in the world because otherwise, you’re giving your power away. You’re going, “Oh, they didn’t like it.” I heard people that put a video on TikTok and in 24 hours, they only had two people view it so then they take it down. So then, you put it up for other people.
[00:09:02] I know it’s a really bizarre concept, but this is another tool that has helped me so much in everything, business and everything. It’s the willingness, the willingness, to do everything I do, even this radio show that I’m doing right now and all the hundreds before, for me.
I don’t do them for other people. I don’t do them so people listen. I don’t do them so I have so many downloads or listeners or whatever, all those things that this reality makes so significant. I do them for me. I do them so I receive more awareness.
Now, it happens that many of you also receive awareness with some of the shows, maybe all of this shows, maybe only one of the shows and so it is a win-win. However, if I do it for you, then I have to be in constant judgment of me, of whether you liked it, whether you receive from it, what I thought you should receive from it and all of that insanity.
[00:10:02] So, that’s another tool – to really start recognizing that if you’re not doing it just for you, then don’t do it or you’re giving your power away. You’re waiting to be the chosen one.
Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®
[00:10:23] Again, guys, I know that’s a really weird, ass-backwards way to do things, but let me tell you, it has created so much freedom in my life, in my living, in the business, because I get to do what lights me up. I get to do what’s fun for me. If other people love it, awesome. If they don’t, awesome! Right?
[00:10:45] The thing is once we are willing to be the choosing one, we choose what works for us. We choose what lights us up. We’re the choosing one. What we become is needless. We do not need other people to validate us. We do not need other people to like us. We do not need anything. We’re needless, and needless is this energy that is so attractive to us.
[00:11:09] When you meet somebody who is needless, you are very drawn to them because there’s nowhere in their world that they’re saying, “Hey, come here! Come here! I need you to tell me I’m good. I need you to validate me. I need you to be my friend.” There’s none of the need that is very repellent to us. They’re totally needless so they get to be present, they get to be the choosing one. It’s a totally different space and ultimately, that’s what I’m choosing towards – is being needless.
[00:11:42] Being needless doesn’t mean you don’t have choice. In fact, being needless means you have infinite choice. It means you’re not choosing based on needing something. You’re choosing because it’s fun for you or it’s light for you, or it’s going to create greater, all of those energies. That’s a totally different space.
Everywhere you haven’t been willing to be needless, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®
[00:12:13] With that, the tool that you can use is to start recognizing when you’re needing. When you need to check how many people liked your post, or you need to have somebody understand you, or you need to have somebody tell you that you’re great before you acknowledge it, whatever it might be. Start really paying attention to you with that.
Even using the word “need,” pay attention to that because that is where you’ll probably find yourself. Being able to catch yourself when you’re needing, when you’re using, like, “I need to make this post” or “I need to go to this class” or “I need to go and see this person” or all of that, pay attention to the word.
[00:12:59] It doesn’t mean you always use the word. Sometimes, it’s just going to be an energy. The other way you could do it is “Truth, am I needy here? Am I being needy here?”
If you have a situation in your life and you’re kind of going back and forth, and you’re just not sure why it’s not flowing, or whatever:
Truth, am I being needy here? Do I need someone? Do I need this? Do I need whatever?
[00:13:22] If you get [a] yes, if it’s true for you, if that’s where you’re operating from, then you can stop. Just take a moment, stop, and then be like, “What would it actually take to change this? How needless could I be here?” Is that need even yours? No. You’re aware of it as with all the crazy on the planet. You’re aware of it, but it’s not yours.
All right, guys. Have a fabulous week and I look forward to chatting again next week.
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