Tools to Go Beyond What You Can Control in Business

Jun 26, 2022 | Radio Show

Tools to Go Beyond What You Can Control in Business

There’s so much more possibilities beyond!

For the past 20 years, I’ve rarely had more than one person playing in the business with me. Well, it’s just what I can control. Until recently, I finally hired nine (9) more magical people to join me in the team! HDIGABTT?! How did I do this, you ask? Tune in to this episode because I will be sharing how it all unfolded, as well as the phenomenal tools from Access Consciousness® that came in handy. You will be amazed how much more magic lies beyond what you can control, sweet friend.

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

Tools to Go Beyond What You Can Control in Business. Yes. I know.

[00:00:23] If you’ve been around here for a while, you know that control is something I talk about a lot and it’s something that I’ve been letting go of, a lot of, and still can do way, way more.

So, how did I do this? Well, how am I doing this is actually the better question ’cause that’s more accurate. How am I doing this? It’s an every-ten-second choice.

How this really started for me? Again, I’ve been choosing this and running clearings and making choices and all sorts of things.

[00:00:55] A few months ago, I attended the Joy of Business Certified Facilitator Training. It’s an Access Consciousness® class. It has its own set of work and classes and such which, of course, I am now a Business Done Different Facilitator! I have a class coming up in August, actually the end of July. July 30th, 31st, and August 1st.

If you can get here in person, pack your swimsuit. Come and play. If you are only able to join us online, that’s fine, too. We’ve got both options. We’d love to have you.

[00:01:31] I also have other classes on the book, so you’ll find a link or above or below or somewhere. If you can’t find it, reach out and I will get it to you.

[00:01:39] When I took that class, hiring had been on my mind for probably years. Honestly, for the past 20 years—I will be celebrating my business anniversary in September. For the past 20 years, I’ve rarely at one time had more than one person playing in business with me. I know that’s crazy, right?

It’s what I could control. If I’m just gonna be straight up honest here, it’s what I could control. If we’re gonna break it all down, that’s what was going on. I was able to control that.

[00:02:16] In the Joy of Business class that I attended in April, we talked about hiring. They ran some clearings from Access Consciousness and changed a lot.

And then, I read this section in the manual that basically said: Are you avoiding hiring to avoid all of those other people’s energies?

It was like, yeah. That was a huge “yes” in my world. It was, again, that control piece of if I only have one person, then I’m only managing, you know, their energies in my world as though it was something (1) that I had to manage or (2) that I couldn’t receive from. There’s so much crazy attached. But anyway, reading that sentence which is like, “That’s it.”

[00:02:59] What I looked at was, “Okay. Business, what would you like?” Business, what would you like? This is like tool number one: start communing with your business.

[00:03:12] I have so many programs and radio shows on this, guys, on how to commune with your business. You can check them out. We’ll have a link above or below somewhere so you can check them out.

[00:03:23] But really, it’s about including your business in your business. It’s about asking your business: Hey business, where would you like to have that class? Hey business, when would you like to put that class on? Like, including your business.

[00:03:37] And so, that’s what I was doing. I’ve been doing that for years, but I really intensified it. I really allowed it to facilitate me.

This is the thing that I would say is one of the billions of gifts that having a business does for us is if we let it, it can facilitate us into greater constantly. It can constantly facilitate us into greater if we’re willing. Yeah.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:04:16] That is the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. You can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works, but basically, it is like a magic wand that you’re waving and all of the stuff around, whatever it was about, starts to melt and go away.

So, tool number one: definitely communing with your business. Include your business in your business.

[00:04:39] Tool number two, which is very similar and different, is to receive from the business. Be the gifting to the business and also receive from it.

So many people do business as a separation. It’s like, I’m going to work from whatever, 9:00 AM until 5:00 PM. When I’m at work or doing my business things, then I will be doing those business things. When I’m done, I’m energetically gonna pull my energy out of my business and go do the other things.

[00:05:15] Guys, we’re infinite beings, which means we’re infinite energy, which means we can be present in our business, present with our family, present floating in the swimming pool outside. We can be all the things.

If we don’t separate, if we don’t pull our energy out of places and things and classes and radio shows and all the things, then you get to be all of it.

[00:05:41] In my case, if I was floating in my swimming pool and I was being all the energies and I was being present with all the energies, I would be aware the moment my little kitty Totty might need me. I would be aware when the business needed to make a phone call. I mean, there’s all sorts of things. If we don’t separate, that’s where the magic is.

[00:06:06] It’s very much like communing, and it’s different because you’re gonna be the gifting and the receiving. Now, with gifting and receiving, what a lot of people don’t recognize is it’s constant.

It’s not like I will gift now, and now, it is my turn to receive. That’s what we call the “give and take universe.’ That’s where most people operate in this reality. I will give you this, and then I will take this.

Gifting and receiving is when we don’t know who the gifter is, and we don’t know who the receiver is. It’s a totally different energy.

[00:06:38] For myself, as I was allowing the business to facilitate me and allowing to, you know, reminding myself to ask more questions and following the energy, I now not just have one person playing with me in the business. I have nine more. I actually have 10, I just realized that.

But yeah, I actually hired 10 people recently to do all sorts of different things. There’s so many things going on in my business. It’s so amazing. I’m so grateful.

[00:07:12] A lot of them weren’t getting done because there was just me and Ericka, my magician, I call her ’cause she does everything else. But just the two of us, there is just not enough time.

Now, with nine more doing all the thing, that’s joy. That’s joy right there, my sweet friends. I could not have got there until I was willing to let go of more control and allow the business to facilitate me.

[00:07:45] Business, show me. This would be another, probably tool number three we could say is Business, show me. Business, show me. Business, show me.

I also use it with everything. Body, show me. Universe, show me. Depending on what’s going on and I’m asking about, but that’s the energy. It’s like, show me, business. You would like to be even way more in the world? Show me, show me.

And then, it’s my job to pay attention and to follow the awareness. Follow the energy. That’s magic, my sweet friends. That is so much magic, and beyond what you can control.

[00:08:26] We really wanna look at that energy of what we often talk about in Access is “out of control”. If you’ve never done the How to Become Money Workbook, I highly recommend you checking it out. I will be doing another run through probably in September. I usually do it once or twice a year.

[00:08:43] There’s a whole section on being… in the book it’s called “being control”. But basically, what it is is being out of control. All that means is that nobody and nothing could ever control you, which means you have to have no points of views ’cause if you have a point of view that it should be sunny outside and it’s not sunny outside, you’re controllable. You’re pissy, you’re upset, you’re cranky, you’re whatever. It’s all the crazy, right?

If you’re willing to be out of control, then you’re going to be out of control and not controlled by anything, which means you get to be total magic.

[00:09:26] So, a clearing that you can use and I talk about this one all the time:

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, possibilities, potencies, and power can me and my body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities, and out of concentricities with total ease for all eternity?

Anything that doesn’t allow that… right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:09:51] Run that, run that, run that. Write it down. Go to the show notes. There’s show notes. It’s all written down for you already. Write it down. Put it on a sticky note. Put it on your Reminder app, pop up once an hour or something like that. Maybe even just once a day, if you wanna start small.

But run that clearing, guys. You will be amazed at actually how much more ease and joy and glory your life and living is when you are willing to be out of control. That’s where the magic is — beyond what you can control. Yeah, awesome.

[00:10:27] Okay. So, come and join me at Business Done Different or any of the other bazillion classes I have coming up, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Tools to Stop Being Controlled

Jun 19, 2022 | Radio Show

Tools to Stop Being Controlled

Are you letting people’s judgment control you?

When people judge you, they’re attempting to control you. Will you let these judgments dictate your actions, or do you want to be the one truly creating the life and living you desire? Tune in to this episode to know more about breaking free from control with the help of these magical tools from Access Consciousness.®

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so grateful that you are here. Thank you, thank you, thank you. This week, we’re talking about Tools to Stop Being Controlled. Yes.

[00:00:17] Now, one of the biggest ways that people attempt to control us, or we attempt to control other people, is through judgment.

If you, maybe as a child, were misbehaving at a family, friend’s house and your mum looked at you and just gave you “the look,” you know, the look, that’s a way to control you. She didn’t even need to use words. Now, maybe that didn’t happen in your house, but that’s what I’m talking about. It’s where people will use judgment to control us so that we stop doing what we’re doing.

[00:00:58] The first tool with regards to stop being controlled is to have no point of view about being judged. I know that this is a big one for people. I know because it’s been a big one for me. It’s way better — I’m willing to receive way more judgment than ever before and still, there’s times.

[00:01:22] What you want to look at is one, what is the judgment? What is it that when you either go into judgment of the person because of what they’re judging you for, or like… what exactly is it?

Is it something they’re saying to you? Is it something that they’re doing? Is it the look? What exactly is it? And then whatever that is for you, you want to use this most magical tool from Access Consciousness® which is interesting point of view, I have that point of view.

You don’t even have to say it out loud. In fact, a lot of times it’s better if you don’t, if you just say it within your own head to yourself about whatever it is.

[00:02:04] Let’s use an example. Let’s say that you are… let’s say you put a TikTok on—you put a video on TikTok. You get a comment that you don’t look good. Yes, this happened recently. I don’t mean “look” good into like, in terms of unhealthy. The person didn’t like my makeup look.

I could be controlled by that and go, “Okay, well, then I need to wear less. I need to stop being too much with it.” I could do that and believe me, I have done that before way too many times to count, but that’s one choice. I mean, we’ve got billions of choices and that’s one choice.

[00:02:51] Now, we’re going to use this tool and exactly what I did when I read it, because there was a bit of a *ugh* in there, but that *ugh* is reminding me I have a choice. I can allow myself to be controlled in that moment or I can use the tool.

So, reading that comment: interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view. Interesting point of view, I have that point of view.

[00:03:21] Now, you can change it up. I could also say interesting point of view, they have that point of view. The thing with that, though, is that because it gave me that *ugh,* there’s something there that is for me, too. I just use it really simply: interesting when you, I have that point of view, and I repeat it until there’s no more energy on it. That might take five minutes. That might take five days. That might take three months.

I don’t mean I’m saying it constantly on the thing for all that time. It’s just you want to recognize sometimes, it’ll change it in that moment and there might be other aspects down the road where you want to run it again. Maybe some other part of it has come up or something like that.

[00:04:05] Interesting point of view, I have that point of view is number one tool in changing judgment of any kind and really to recognize that. That’s all that’s going on. When people are judging you, they’re attempting to control you. In this case, “don’t wear too much makeup” or don’t wear more makeup than they would. That’s usually what’s going on, or don’t wear the vibrant colors that they would.

[00:04:29] It was year—well, I don’t even remember when it was. A few years ago, I believe. I had a woman just private message me and talk about the vibrancy of the clothes and the makeup that I wear.

What she said is something like, I don’t remember the exact words, but something like, “You’re not being you with all of that.” there’s a lot of things that she said and when I first read it, it was just like, “Wow… This is so not okay.” I don’t mean the judgment to me, but it was so much body shaming.

Same as this other gal’s comment on TikTok is, “You’re wrong in how you look.” It’s never okay to comment on somebody’s body. Just a little FYI guys. Never okay. Ever. I probably shouldn’t have to say that, but anyway, there we go.

That’s tool number one: interesting point of view. I have that point of view.

[00:05:28] The other thing you really want to be aware of, and this would be tool number two although they’re never in any sort of order, we are only victims if we allow ourselves to be. If somebody is attempting to control you, you have a choice not to be controlled.

[00:05:47] I say that really, really vaguely. I realized that there are some people in some situations that require extra assistance or require intervention or police or all those things. I’m not stupid. I am aware of this and you want to recognize, even if you’re in those situations, what else is possible? What action can you take? Who can you talk to? Where can you go? What can you do? Like, really, really looking at that. That’s to that really extreme stuff.

For the rest of us that go into, “Oh, well, you know, this is happening” and “That darn government! It’s all their fault!” and “I can’t do this because that darn government” and etc. Really look at that.

[00:06:36] Again, this was such a big thing for me and I still catch myself in it at times. It’s that energy of victim. It’s that energy of no choice. “Well, this is just the way it is. Poor, poor pitiful me. It’s just the way it is.” it’s not, guys. It’s not.

[00:06:53] If you’re looking at, “Okay, how can I get this person to stop controlling me?” Look at what’s the value of allowing them to control you. You’re giving it up. You’re handling your power over. There’s something else going on. It could be that that’s what you were taught to do. It could be that that’s what your family did. I mean, there’s billions of things. It doesn’t matter what it is, but you do want to ask yourself what the value is so that you can then change it.

[00:07:21] I invite you to join me. We talk about control in the Foundation. We also talk about control in Business Done Different. I happened to have both of those classes coming up and a few of each. So, lots of dates and times and possibilities coming up. You can check the link above or below.

[00:07:38] Of course, the Pool Party Bars & Foundation in early July 2022. [We] usually have them every July so if you can get here in person, pack your swimsuits. Come and play, otherwise you can join us online. Yes! Online.

[00:07:53] Also, Business Done Different — beginning of August. Well, actually, end of July. July 30th, 31st ,and August 1st. Bring your swimsuit, guys. We’re going to do it both, same thing, in-person and online. If you can get here, come and play. We’ll swim and after class. If you’re able to join us online, that’s awesome, too.

Again, you’ll find the links above or below. If you’ve got any questions about those, just let me know.

[00:08:22] Tool number three is a little bit of a different tool. It sounds funny to most. It’s a magical tool that you can use on anything.

What you want to do is you want to bring up the energy of being controlled. Whether it’s a person, a big energy like a government or something like that, doesn’t matter. Just bring up the energy of that. Let’s do it together right now. Just bring up that energy. And now, we’re going to do the crazy phrase from Access Consciousness® which is:

Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be. Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, and nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be. Everything is the opposite of what it appears to be, and nothing is the opposite of what it appears to be.

Over and over and over until that energy changes. That will allow you to get out of the solidity and the concreteness and the conclusions and the decisions and all of the insanity so that you actually have another choice. You’ll actually become more aware of what you could actually be choosing, how you could actually change it.

[00:09:31] Tool number four — and this one is one that most people won’t use. It’s an Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. It’s a bit longer, but guys, just try it. Run it 30 times a day for 30 days.

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, possibilities, power, and potency can you and your body be to be out of control, out of definition, out of limitation, out of form, structure, significance, out of linearities and other concentricities with total ease for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs and beyonds.

That’s the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement at the end. [Go to] www.theclearingstatement.com for more information. It’s like magic, guys. The more that you run that, the more out of control you will be, which means nobody and nothing can control you.

[00:10:25] Thank you so much for joining me today. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. I wonder what magic is possible now that has never been possible before? I look forward to chatting again next week.

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The Tool that Saved Our Marriage

Jun 12, 2022 | Radio Show

The Tool that Saved Our Marriage

If you’re getting stressed, annoyed, or worried about something, here’s a tool for you!

Hubby and I had one of our date nights and, as I sometimes do, I got annoyed with him. I would’ve killed (not really 😂) Hubby that night if it weren’t for this tool… 😂 That might sound a little extreme, but it’s true. This tool from Access Consciousness® is soooo freaking magical that I just had to share it with you. Sit back and listen to this episode to learn more!

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:10] The tool that saved our marriage… that might be a bit extreme. However, it certainly contributed to me not killing Hubby the other night.

We went on a date night; we went to a glass studio to try out creating glass beads, and blowing glass was really interesting. I’ll never need to do it again. It’s a very… you would just need a lot of practice to become good at it, but it was cool to do it.

At one point, I got really annoyed with Hubby, as I sometimes do. Normally, that sort of annoyance — in the past, what I’ve chosen is separation and withdrawing of my energy and just a lot of unkindness.

[00:01:02] I happen to be running a Book Club right now on the 10 Keys to Total Freedom. It’s a 10-month book club. You can still join us. We’re on Key #1. It’s amazing, let me tell you.

[00:01:14] I’ve really been tenacious this week about actually using the key that I’m talking about in the book club, which is “Would an infinite being truly choose this?” meaning you just start to ask yourself that.

[00:01:26] If you’re stressing about something or worrying about something or annoyed with somebody, ask: Would an infinite being truly choose this?

If you get no, which you probably will, then you can ask, “Then, why the hell am I? What’s the purpose of this? Is it going to do what I would like it to do?”

[00:01:51] As I’m annoyed, as I’m ready to separate and to withdraw and do all the fancy tricks that I often do in those sorts of situations, I asked, “Would an infinite being truly choose this?”

Of course, I got a no! Then, why the hell am I?

[00:02:11] It was like this unraveling of what I’d seen other people do, what I’d even seen on TV shows. There’s all sorts of really interesting places where this is what you do. Whether it’s as a woman or as a wife or as a husband, [it] doesn’t matter. Often, that’s what we do. We separate and we withdraw our energy.

It’s like a… at least the way that I can describe it for myself, I’ve had it done to me and of course, I’m a master at it. It’s this energy of control. “I’m going to do this so you’re going to stop that.” There’s not a fight, so to speak, and energetically, there’s a fight.

[00:03:02] It was so interesting by (1) recognizing what I was doing. That’s huge. I always say that to people. Yes, I have been playing with these tools for 11 years and still, there’s places where I go into autopilot. I choose what I’ve chosen before, whatever, it doesn’t matter. It’s not right, it’s not wrong. It’s just starting to recognize [it].

[00:03:22] That moment of going, “Wow, I’m choosing to be annoyed here” and then looking at, “Okay, I’m going to use this tool,” and I’ve been using it on so many things. It’s been so freaking magical.

[00:03:36] Would an infinite being truly choose this? No.

[00:03:39] It also doesn’t mean an infinite being would put up with shit. Okay? That’s the other part. I would say that that’s probably where I’ve spent majority of my life. It’s that energy of like, “Oh, well, I can’t say anything if I upset him or her” or whatever situation I’m in. It’s not that.

It’s just the first question: Would an infinite being truly choose this?

No? Okay, so what the hell am I doing?

Oh, okay. I’m looking to separate, I’m looking to withdraw, I’m looking to control him. That’s *bang* what I was doing on Friday night, which was so interesting, and [it’s] so interesting to be in the moment of it and be able to call it, like, see what I’m doing and then make another choice.

So, what’s the purpose? If I control him, then he won’t act like that or he will appreciate the date night or whatever all I had attached to that.

Is this achieving that? No! My God. This could go on for some time. This could go on for days.

[00:04:51] Now, I’ll be honest. In the last, probably 7, 8, 9 years, that doesn’t go on anymore. [It] used to – I used to be really good at the silent treatment. It could go on for days. He’s a stubborn as I am. So, [it’s] crazy when I think back then. We don’t really do that anymore.

There’s still these energetic dances and I could have held onto it. I could have been pissy and annoyed for the rest of the night.

[00:05:15] Anyway, as I was like, “Okay, would an infinite being choose this? No? Okay. So, cool. What the hell am I doing? Okay, cool. I get it. I’m separated. I’m attempting to control. Is it achieving it? No. Okay.

What would I like to create here?

Oh. Well, I would like to enjoy the evening. I’d like to not separate from him. I’d like to not control him.

Okay, cool. I can choose those things. All right. Got that. Yep.

[00:05:45] Well, let me tell you ,my sweet friends, what occurred after that and how freaking magical it was. As I stopped doing the controlling and the separating and got out of the rightness and all the points of view, just all of it, I just stopped it all. Suddenly, everything I had just asked for was actualized.

Suddenly, we were having fun. Suddenly, it was ease. Suddenly, it was magical. It was so cool. It was just so cool because I’m not sure that I’ve ever seen something like that.

[00:06:28] In that situation, [it] changed so quickly. It can change quickly for me, but the situation around could still go on. I’ve seen that, you know, where I change what I’m choosing about it and it changes for me, and the situation continues.

However, in this case, it didn’t continue. It was so incredibly magical that I had to do the show about it so that you guys, if you’re willing, and honestly, it takes a tenacity that I know most people aren’t willing to be, and that’s okay. That’s totally okay.

[00:07:02] I have a Reminder app on my phone. It comes with the iPhone. It’s just the basic Reminder app. I have it set up to come up every 30 minutes and say, “Would an infinite being truly choose this?” for this week. Well, actually, for this month, for the whole chapter, just to really be tenacious with it.

[00:07:20] Sometimes, it’s fricking annoying to see that reminder because there’s actually way more of my life that I’m spending where an infinite being wouldn’t actually choose it. It’s interesting, kind of the poke in the eye when you recognize it. And then, you get to change it. That is so magical to me. That’s exactly what I’m asking for is really living these 10 keys to total freedom.

[00:07:44] It’s also something that we talk about in the Foundation manual. It’s been in the Foundation manual.

This is actually funny. It’s been in the Foundation manual, these 10 keys, since I started taking Foundations back in 2011. I have facilitated probably close to a hundred Foundations. I have talked about this tool a million times. I’ve never been willing to use it as tenaciously as I have been. It is changing everything.

And this is what we could call a “basic tool” from Access Consciousness.® There’s nothing basic about it, guys. If you’re really willing to change what is going on in your life and your living, in every area, start asking that: Would an infinite being truly choose this?

[00:08:27] And of course, I’ve got Foundation classes coming up. Depending on when you’re watching this, we’ve got Bars & Foundation Pool Party which would probably be online. Also, we’re just waiting for final word from Gary if that’s been extended. But definitely if you can get here, get to my pool, come and play. We’d love to have you.

And then, we will have future ones, too. Again, just kind of waiting for Gary to extend the online option. We’d love to have you come play.

[00:08:52] And so many other options: Business Done Different classes.

[00:08:56] And of course, my usual. Few times a month, I’ll do a one-off call here or there. You can find the link above or below for all of the upcoming classes. I would love to have you come play.

[00:09:06] And I would love to hear from you, guys! Are you using this tool? And if you are, how is it working for you? Tell me about it. Post below or above, wherever you’re watching this.

And then, if you’re not using it and you start using it, let me know about that, too, because truly, what is possible if we were all willing to be the infinite beings that we truly be?

Thank you so much for being here. Again, I’m so grateful for you and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Tools to Be the Choosing One

Jun 5, 2022 | Radio Show

Tools to Be the Choosing One

Do it for you.

When we operate from being the “chosen one,” we seek other people’s approval in every thing we do. We start doing it more for them rather than for ourselves. It’s a very limiting way to live, my sweet friends. What we should strive to be is being the “choosing one.” That is why for this episode, we will talk about Choosing vs. the Chosen Ones, and of course, some tools from Access Consciousness® to guide you along the way. Now is the time to choose for you!

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful to you. I just am blown away with how many messages I receive every day about the gratitude for this radio show.

For all of you longtime listeners, yes, I have had a radio show since 2013. If you’re on a podcast app, you can search “The Glenyce Show” and that will get you the shows from 2013 to, I think, 2018? And then from then forward, it has been Tools to Create a Better Life. Two different podcasts, but both have been this show. How’s it get any better than that?

[00:00:44] All right, what are we talking about this week? Well, Tools to Be the Choosing One. Yes, the choosing one.

This is a very small segment in the Business Done Different, the Joy of Business Manual that Simone Milasas has created for the Business Done Different classes that I, of course, have one coming up. Even when you listen to this later, I will have one coming up.

If you’re listening currently, then I have one coming up in June of 2022. It’s going to be three hours a day, five days in a row, and you can check the link above, below to find out what the dates are and more information. If you can’t find it, please reach out and I will get you the link.

[00:01:34] In the manual, I mean, it’s worth its weight in gold. It’s so amazing. This one section popped out this morning as I was looking through, and it is called, “Choosing vs. the Chosen Ones.“

[00:01:47] I have the manual on my computer, which is why I’m looking over there now and again just to get the actual wording of it correctly because it’s an energy. It’s an energy that some of us—not all of us, but me definitely—had spent many, many years trying to be the chosen one, which isn’t your most empowered space to be.

Being the choosing one is where you actually want to be. That’s where you would have obviously choice. You would be empowered. You would actually be the choosing one in your life and your living. You’re not looking for validation from other people. And so when we’re looking to be the chosen one, that’s what we’re doing: we’re looking for validation.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:02:46] If you’re not familiar with that statement I just said, that is the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. You can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works.

But it’s basically—all the energy that comes up when we talk about stuff, even the stuff we don’t have words for, even if you’re like, “Glenyce, I don’t even know what you’re talking about. Choosing, chosen one… what?” There’s a lot of energy that’s coming up.

And so, we just wave this magic wand—we run the Clearing Statement, and it clears it. It’s fricking magical. I love, love, love it. I talk about it all the time, but do check out that webpage if you’re not familiar with it.

[00:03:22] Now, I want to run a couple of the clearings from the manual:

Everywhere you’re doing something because you were chosen rather than allowing yourself to perceive, know, be, and receive if you would like to choose it, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:03:46] One of the tools that you can start to use to stop waiting to be the chosen one is to start asking yourself when you’re making a choice: “If I was choosing for me here, what would I choose?”

That will start to give you the idea, the energy of if it’s actually something you would like to choose or something that you feel like you should choose or that other people would like you to choose.

[00:04:13] Now, it doesn’t mean just because you ask that and you get that you wouldn’t choose that thing, it doesn’t mean that you can’t choose that thing. What you want to do is just start giving yourself the awareness, the information about if you’re choosing it for you, or you’re choosing it for other people. That will just start to unravel that, and that’ll give you awareness of more choice.

[00:04:37] I want to say that again because it’s really important. When you ask “If I was choosing for me here, what would I choose?” and you get you wouldn’t choose that thing, it doesn’t mean you don’t choose it. It just means you start to let yourself know, and maybe you still do. Maybe it’s from a greater, like, if you look from a bigger picture, maybe it’s going to create greater to actually choose it. But if you were actually just choosing for you, if there was no one else on the planet, you wouldn’t and it’ll create greater to choose it.

It’s a bit of a trick question in the sense that you’re not always going to follow it. You’re going to look from the bigger perspective and you’re going to give yourself that information. You’re going to let yourself know, and that will start to unravel this, so to speak.

[00:05:21] One of the things that I used to do years ago, some of you might not be aware, is that I was a professional medium, which meant I talked to dead people for other people for 10+ years, and I was very good at it. I had a very amazing business with it… and I didn’t love it. Sometimes, I loved it. Most times, I didn’t.

It is one of these energies for me—it was really where I was the chosen one. I could do it, I was good at it, and people wanted me to do it so I kept doing it until I didn’t. It was truly from that energy of being the chosen one.

[00:06:04] It was interesting because earlier this week, I had somebody reach out who I had done a mediumship reading for her when her husband had died. She reached out to see if I could do one for her friend. It had been many, many years since she’d been in touch with me, not realizing I haven’t done it since probably 2014. It’s just not something I choose anymore.

[00:06:22] As I was looking at that, it’s like—and her response back was how good I was and how good I was at it and all the things, and that’s great. Now, I’m so clear in what actually works for me in most areas. I’m not saying I’m perfect at it in all areas, but I’m so much more willing to be aware that yes, I—you know what? Anything I do, probably like you, anything I do, I’m fucking phenomenal at. I could choose a billion things and what actually lights me up, what works for me.

[00:06:56] So, that was just one area. I was like, yeah, I was really operating from the chosen one. I continuously got validated when people loved the mediumship readings that I did for them, and it just doesn’t like me up like facilitating, like empowering people to know that they know.

Now, I’m able to choose that without the crazy “Well, I should. I’m supposed to. It’s the right thing. They would like me to.” They would like me, you know, they would like me if I did that – that sort of bizarre energy. All right.

Everywhere that you are looking for validation from other people through being the chosen one, will you just destroy and uncreate all that? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:07:41] If you’re on social media, if you’re active on social media – and I don’t mean just an observer. But if you are a poster, if you create TikToks, if you put posts on social media of any kind, you want to be super aware of being the chosen one. Because that’s, to me, where a lot of the energies are with this crazy.

When we post something, there’s a lot of the, “How many people liked it? How many people commented? Did so-and-so see it? Did they like it if they saw it? What do they think? What does that person…?” Maybe somebody says a rude comment underneath and now… oh my gosh. There’s just so much insanity where you really want to be present with that.

[00:08:23] If you’re a poster on social media and you’re recognizing this energy of being the chosen one, it’s like, when you post, do it for you. Do it so that if nobody else read it or saw it or engaged with it, you would still love it so much. You would still be so grateful that it’s out in the world because otherwise, you’re giving your power away. You’re going, “Oh, they didn’t like it.” I heard people that put a video on TikTok and in 24 hours, they only had two people view it so then they take it down. So then, you put it up for other people.

[00:09:02] I know it’s a really bizarre concept, but this is another tool that has helped me so much in everything, business and everything. It’s the willingness, the willingness, to do everything I do, even this radio show that I’m doing right now and all the hundreds before, for me.

I don’t do them for other people. I don’t do them so people listen. I don’t do them so I have so many downloads or listeners or whatever, all those things that this reality makes so significant. I do them for me. I do them so I receive more awareness.

Now, it happens that many of you also receive awareness with some of the shows, maybe all of this shows, maybe only one of the shows and so it is a win-win. However, if I do it for you, then I have to be in constant judgment of me, of whether you liked it, whether you receive from it, what I thought you should receive from it and all of that insanity.

[00:10:02] So, that’s another tool – to really start recognizing that if you’re not doing it just for you, then don’t do it or you’re giving your power away. You’re waiting to be the chosen one.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:10:23] Again, guys, I know that’s a really weird, ass-backwards way to do things, but let me tell you, it has created so much freedom in my life, in my living, in the business, because I get to do what lights me up. I get to do what’s fun for me. If other people love it, awesome. If they don’t, awesome! Right?

[00:10:45] The thing is once we are willing to be the choosing one, we choose what works for us. We choose what lights us up. We’re the choosing one. What we become is needless. We do not need other people to validate us. We do not need other people to like us. We do not need anything. We’re needless, and needless is this energy that is so attractive to us.

[00:11:09] When you meet somebody who is needless, you are very drawn to them because there’s nowhere in their world that they’re saying, “Hey, come here! Come here! I need you to tell me I’m good. I need you to validate me. I need you to be my friend.” There’s none of the need that is very repellent to us. They’re totally needless so they get to be present, they get to be the choosing one. It’s a totally different space and ultimately, that’s what I’m choosing towards – is being needless.

[00:11:42] Being needless doesn’t mean you don’t have choice. In fact, being needless means you have infinite choice. It means you’re not choosing based on needing something. You’re choosing because it’s fun for you or it’s light for you, or it’s going to create greater, all of those energies. That’s a totally different space.

Everywhere you haven’t been willing to be needless, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:12:13] With that, the tool that you can use is to start recognizing when you’re needing. When you need to check how many people liked your post, or you need to have somebody understand you, or you need to have somebody tell you that you’re great before you acknowledge it, whatever it might be. Start really paying attention to you with that.

Even using the word “need,” pay attention to that because that is where you’ll probably find yourself. Being able to catch yourself when you’re needing, when you’re using, like, “I need to make this post” or “I need to go to this class” or “I need to go and see this person” or all of that, pay attention to the word.

[00:12:59] It doesn’t mean you always use the word. Sometimes, it’s just going to be an energy. The other way you could do it is “Truth, am I needy here? Am I being needy here?”

If you have a situation in your life and you’re kind of going back and forth, and you’re just not sure why it’s not flowing, or whatever:

Truth, am I being needy here? Do I need someone? Do I need this? Do I need whatever?

[00:13:22] If you get [a] yes, if it’s true for you, if that’s where you’re operating from, then you can stop. Just take a moment, stop, and then be like, “What would it actually take to change this? How needless could I be here?” Is that need even yours? No. You’re aware of it as with all the crazy on the planet. You’re aware of it, but it’s not yours.

All right, guys. Have a fabulous week and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Tools for Clarity with What to Ask For

May 29, 2022 | Radio Show

Tools for Clarity with What to Ask For

Truly, what are you asking for?

Struggling with your “asks” not showing up? Is it taking waaaay too long to actualize? You might want to start checking on that – it might actually be a “conclusion” instead of an “ask.” If you want to know more, tune in to this episode because I will be sharing another set of phenomenal tools from Access Consciousness® to help you get clear with what you’re asking for, and start allowing the magic to show up!

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. I am so incredibly grateful that you are here however you’re watching this. It’s on YouTube, it’s on Facebook, it’s on TikTok, it’s on Instagram. It’s everywhere it can be, so welcome. Oh, and it’s even a podcast! That’s how it initially started, and then here we are. So, how does it get any better than that?

[00:00:27] What are we talking about this week? Well, Tools for Clarity of What to Ask For.

This was inspired by something that I became aware of when I was on a free Zoom with Kalpana. She is coming to Calgary, Alberta, Canada, to do a 3-day body process class. I’m so excited! I’m on our hosting team. Come and play with us, guys. I’ll have the link above or below somewhere. We’d love to have you.

[00:01:01] I was discussing with her on this call about the weight for myself and how I had this target of weighing less than 200 pounds by the time I was 50. I turned 50 on August 23, 2022. In these years that I’ve changed my body so much and weight loss and all of that, it’s just been so magical and that’s been a target.

[00:01:31] However, it was so interesting when I chatted with her about it because I was using the word “target”, but it wasn’t actually that energy. It was really about basically judging myself and pushing and forcing, and there was no kindness in it whatsoever. There was no space in it. It was really, really ick, and I didn’t recognize that until I was discussing it with her on the call.

[00:02:00] And then, she said something so… oh my God. Something I’ve said to other people, so like it’s so “Of course!” Anyway, what she said is, “What if you’re—” and she didn’t use the word “target”, but “What if you actually just chose to be so ridiculously and outrageously happy?”

What? What!? And so, what I recognized I’d been doing is that I was asking for the conclusion.

[00:02:37] Now, you guys, I have talked about this in so many of the classes that I facilitate. I have done other radio shows on it, all the things. But it took me having that conversation with Kalpana to really recognize that I actually was doing that. I was asking for the conclusion.

My conclusion was if I weighed less than 200 pounds by the time I turned 50, I would be outrageously happy. I mean, those wouldn’t be my exact words, but that was the energy of it. But what was I asking for? The conclusion, the “because,” so to speak.

[00:03:15] So, tools for clarity of what to ask for is to look at what you’re asking for. Whether you call them “targets” or “asks” or “goals” or whatever it is, look at them and ask yourself and be super honest:

“If I have this…” if I create this, if I actualize it, whatever the proper word would be, “…what would I have? What would I be?” ‘Cause you want to take it a step further.

[00:03:43] Now, some of those things, there will be nothing else, and that’s actually the ask. However, if I would have asked myself if I weighed less than 200 pounds by the time I turned 50, then what? I’d be so happy. I’d be so proud. I would be just over the moon, thrilled with the choices that I’d made. That’s the ask. That’s the ask. It has nothing to do with the number on the scale.

Oh God. I’m so grateful for that conversation because then, I started looking at all the other areas of my life where I’ve been asking for the conclusion.

[00:04:23] And that’s another tool that you can use guys — is when you look at your ask, your target, whatever, is: “Truth, is this a conclusion?” if it’s a conclusion, then again—if you get a yes to that, then again, “Okay, so if I have this, then what?”

If I have this, then what? I would be happy. I would be peaceful. I would be over the moon, joyful, whatever it is, then that’s what you’re asking for.

[00:04:50] What happens is the universe cannot contribute to us when we’re asking for a conclusion. I mean, it doesn’t like it doesn’t cut off all contribution. I don’t mean that. It’s just there’s not a lot of space in that.

But if we’re asking for what we truly desire—if I really looked at that and, like I said, so, outrageously happy, like, let’s just go with that because that has such a magical energy on it for me. So, okay, asking for outrageously happy.

[00:05:20] So, outrageously happy – the universe can contribute to. But when I’ve decided the way to be it is a certain number on the scale, that’s not true. That is not true. That’s never true. The universe can’t contribute to that because it’s, like, in a sense, I cut it off at the knees. There’s no space for that. So, outrageously happy – yes.

Now, that could show up as being 300 pounds on my 50th birthday. That could show up as being 110 pounds on my 50th birthday. I mean, I’m being silly, but you get the idea. It has nothing to do with the weight .

[00:05:55] Weight is a good example. However, what about money? The money you’re asking for… then what? Then what?

[00:06:05] Let’s say you’ve been asking for $5,000 a month. Okay, cool. Then what? If you were actualizing $5,000 a month, then what? Well, most people are like, “Then I can pay my mortgage with these” and “I don’t have to stress about money.”

“I could get a new car.”

“I could go on a vacation.”

Like, whatever it is, then you want to be asking for those things, my sweet friends. Please ask for those things. Ask for paying your mortgage with ease, ask for the new car, ask for the whatever else I said, I don’t remember. Ask for those things because the universe can contribute to those.

[00:06:42] Asking for the conclusion really just cuts the universe off at the knees. It really limits what’s actually possible.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

That’s the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. If you’re not familiar, you can go to www.accessconsciousness.com. Actually, you can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works.

[00:07:08] When we look at that, then, okay—so, those are the two tools. One, just look at, “Okay, then what?” and also asking, “Truth, is this a conclusion?”

With some asks or targets or things where we’re maybe, I don’t know, struggling with or frustrated with that aren’t happening, those might be really great places to ask those questions or really get present with.

[00:07:34] One thing I know about myself, and you’re probably very similar, is that what we really desire, we actualize. We really do it, like, if you’re still asking for something a year later and it hasn’t shown up, it’s possible—probably very likely—it’s a conclusion.

The other thing it can be, of course, is it’s maybe not your ask or maybe it was your ask and it’s changed, but you haven’t acknowledged that. You really want to recognize that, too.

[00:08:01] Using these tools will really start to allow you to get super clear in what you’re asking for, and then the universe can contribute. Of course, you are a part of the universe. I don’t mean it’s this big energy outside of you. That’s when the magic can show up.

[00:08:19] Outrageously happy – that has already changed so many things in my life and my living. It was, I don’t know, maybe a week ago if even that, since I had that conversation with Kalpana. How does it get any more magical than that, my sweet friends? Truly, what are you asking for?

[00:08:39] One of the clearings I love to ask or run, however you want to say it, is:

What am I refusing to ask for that if I would ask for it, would show up as if by magic? Everything that doesn’t allow that, will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-9, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.®

[00:09:01] A couple of things that I would love to invite you to, my sweet friends, is the Business Done Different class I’m offering in June. Oh my gosh! [It’s] my first one, so excited. The manual itself is worth the price of the class, let me just say that.

[00:09:14] I also have a new class, a new 3-part class coming up. I don’t have the official title yet. I’m just in the process with getting it approved by Access, but it’s all about need and tug in business. Yes. Yes.

The link will be above or below. Again, if you don’t see it, reach out. I would love to have you come and play, guys. I’m so, so, so grateful for what we can actualize on this planet. Truly, what else is possible that we’ve never even considered?

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Tools to Use Competition to Your Advantage

May 22, 2022 | Radio Show

Tools to Use Competition to Your Advantage

Yes — you totally can!

Do you always turn everything into competition? If so, it might just be the thing stopping you from creating the life and living you truly desire. In this episode, we will talk about competition, as well as some of the phenomenal tools from Access Consciousness that you can utilize to start using it to your advantage. Competition isn’t always bad, my sweet friend. With the right tools, it can open you up to lots and lots of possibilities!

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[00:00:00] Hello and welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.This week, we are talking about Tools to Use Competition to Your Advantage. Yes.

[00:00:19] This is an invitation to a 10-month Book Club that I have starting June 1, 2022. It is called “Living the 10 Keys to [Total] Freedom.” The 10 Keys to Freedom — actually the “10 Keys to Total Freedom“— is a book by Gary Douglas and Dain Heer from Access Consciousness.® and it is literally 10 keys to total freedom. The title does not lie. It is so magical, and “no competition” is one of those keys. I wanted to just explore it in this radio show, give you maybe a taste of what the 10-month book club will be like.

[00:01:04] Basically, what we do is we go through each chapter in the book club, and this is the first time I’m doing it this way. I’ve been doing book clubs for a couple of years now. They’re amazing!

This time, I am taking a chapter a month. Usually, I do a chapter in a week. This book is like no other book, my sweet friends. This book is… wowza. I know, for me anyway, I will require way more time with each chapter and really, truly to live that key. And then of course, as the months go on, the keyS.

[00:01:43] Now, I have been sharing the 10 keys to total freedom for 10 years because it’s actually in the Foundation Manual. I’ve been talking about it and certainly using the tools to a certain degree, and I’m ready to go way, way, way, deeper. Way, way, way deeper.

In fact, I just finished up attending a 10-month book club on the 10 Keys to Freedom. I’m not ready to be done yet, which is how this was all inspired. It’s like, “Let’s go further!”

That invitation, you’ll see a link above or below. If you don’t see one, reach out to me. I will get you that link so you can look at it.

[00:02:24] Now, the reason that I’m actually doing this radio show in my office is ’cause I’ve wrote some things down from the chapter of No Competition. With this book and with many of the books in Access Consciousness®, it’s actually based off of a teleseries. In 2012 — yes, 10 years ago — Gary and Dain had a teleseries called the “10 Keys to Total Freedom,” and then they made it into a book.

[00:02:53] And so, what I do when I do a book club is I go through the teleseries, and then I go through the chapter, and then we get together and I just share bits and pieces and then whatever questions that you might have or insights, awarenesses, whatever it is

Basically, what I’ve done is I wrote down some things in the No Competition chapter. Now, I’m just giving you a little, tiny synopsis. There’s going to be so much, my sweet friends. Honestly, a call a week for a month. Some months are four calls, some months are five calls, depending on that month, because that really is how much is required. Probably, we could do a year a chapter. That just probably wouldn’t be as fun.

[00:03:38] Anyway, what I want to talk about is some tidbits of competition and what competition is from the book and the teleseries. So, competition. This is a shocking one. Anytime you need to be right or you’re trying to be right, you’re competing. When you’re trying to win and not lose, you’re competing. When you’re getting upset and making the other person wrong, which every time we get upset, that’s what we’re doing – we’re doing competition. Here is a mind blowing one: When we’re doing conclusion, we’re competing. Whoo.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:04:34] Now, if you’re not familiar – www.accessconsciousness.com. Go check out all of the pieces. There’s so much information. The thing I just said – right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds – that is the Access Consciousness® Clearing Statement. You can go to www.theclearingstatement.com for more information about how it works.

But basically, it’s like waving a magic wand and all of the energies, all of the stuff that was coming up as I was reading through what competition is or when we’re doing competition, all of that starts getting cleared, like waving a magic wand and it works beautifully.

[00:05:11] We’ve recently added the word POVADs, and that is an acronym for POints of View that you’re Avoiding and Defending, which is a whole other topic. I did a radio show a couple of weeks. We’ll link to it somewhere so you can check it out if you would like more information about avoiding and defending.

In my 11 years playing with these amazing tools of Access Consciousness®, the Clearing Statement has never been changed. In fact, it’s been 14 years since it was changed. This is such a magical topic and worth going to listen to that radio show. All right.

[00:05:47] So now, you’ve got an idea of when you’re competing. I know for me, the biggest one as I was reviewing this chapter really was when I needed to be right. Although it’s something that I am a million times better at, it’s still something that I choose way too much.

The acknowledgement when I’m aware that I’m choosing it, that I’m actually competing, has allowed me to stop it in the moment that I acknowledged that. So for me, this is huge having that extra tool – just to acknowledge.

[00:06:31] Usually I’ll be honest—usually, it’s with regards to Hubby. There’s something I need to be right about and as soon as I recognize that energy — I’m very familiar with the energy now. Now, when I can go, “Oh, there’s that energy! Would I like to compete with Hubby?” No. So then, I can drop it easily.

That was one of the biggest for me, personally, is really looking at that and going, “You know what? If I need to be right, I’m competing.” Crazy!

[00:07:03] Now, also from the chapter, Gary and Dain talk about what competition does. When we’re competing, (1) we’re killing our creative capacities, (2) you’re killing what you could receive in the world, (3) we’re creating a lot of crap, (4) we’re killing our business; and (5) we’re killing our future.

This was the big one for me: you can’t be the contribution you be. Yeah. Again, let’s go back to needing to be right with Hubby. I can’t be a contribution when I need to be right because I’m competing.

Everything that is, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:08:00] Now, one of the things that they talk about in the chapters [is] that to be the antidote to competition is to actually ask a question. Shocking! I know, right? It’s what we talk about all the time in Access. It really is just being present with the energy. Whether you’re the one who’s doing competition or you’re aware of competition, question is the thing that will change it.

[00:08:26] Let’s say you’re aware of competition. You could actually ask, “What’s going on here? How can I change this? How can I handle this?”

If it’s you that’s doing the competition, then again, the tool of just recognizing that I’m killing being a contribution, I’m killing my business, I’m killing my life, I’m killing my creative capacities, that’s a pretty big enough gift to be able to change it. If it isn’t, there’s so many other tools that you can use. You can just really look at, “What’s actually going on here?”

[00:09:05] Because when we compete, when we’re doing competition, it’s from the energy of being less than. We don’t ever compete with people that we feel in a sense, like, the same as, or on the same level as where we feel like we’re as. We don’t compete in those situations. It’s when we’re feeling less than. When we feel like that person is greater than us or better than us, that’s when we compete.

Everything that just brought up, will you destroy and uncreate it all times a godzillion? Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:09:51] So, that’s also something to look at. For me personally, I had this—I often refer to it as a “theme.” It was a choice. I chose to feel left out a lot growing up, and then into my teens and certainly into my adult years, I continue to choose that. I refer to it as a theme because it was a similar energy that I chose over and over and over.

That energy – me choosing left out – often match the energy of less than, which then it was constant competition. However, I wasn’t doing competition in the way that most people would think. Competition – often we think of that, it’s like fighting and forcing, and “I’m going to show that I am good enough!” and “I am going to show that I am a contribution” or that sort of stuff.

[00:10:40] That’s not how I did it. I went, “Oh, poor me! “Sucks to be me.” “They’re better than me and I’m nothing.” Now, okay. Maybe it wasn’t as blatant as that, and that was very close. Energetically, it was.

I did that and people would often say, “Well, that’s not competition.” It actually is. It’s the same energy. It’s just that it’s not the fighting. It’s not what we often identify as competition as.

[00:11:11] In my family, I can remember growing up and I have two older sisters. When I was 9, my parents had another baby, and then another one right after that. And so, two older and two younger.

I can remember sitting at the dinner table and my one sister had all these amazing stories about her day and what had went on and who did what. Everybody around the table was very involved in her stories.

For a while, I would attempt to match that. I would attempt to come home with the stories to be as interesting, to not feel left out, all that stuff. And then, I can actually remember stopping and actually starting to withdraw.

[00:11:57] Both of those are competition. I was competing when I was like, “Okay, what story can I tell? How can I get people to like me as much as her?” I mean, it was insane, and whatever. And then, also going, “All right, you know what? They want to listen to her? Fine. I’ll just withdraw.”

Same energy, and we don’t often acknowledge it to be. If you would have asked me back then, I would have told you I was not competing. I was superior. I was not even going to play that game. And I totally was!

[00:12:29] You might even want to start acknowledging when you’re competing. You could even ask: Universe, show me where I’m competing. Just show me. Not so that you can make yourself wrong. So that you can start being aware that you have another choice. You don’t have to compete. You can, there’s nothing wrong with it. We’re going to talk shortly about the tools to use competition to your advantage, but it’s not about making you wrong ever.

[00:13:03] The other thing that I have come up in a lot of my classes and such is where people will ask about competition, like, people competing with them.

They’ll say so-and-so is competing with me in my business and trying to take my clients or stuff like that. It’s very interesting what Gary and Dain talk about in the book with regards to this and let me read it to you.

Gary says, “Saying this person is competing with me is not an awareness. It’s a judgment. You can ask-” Remember, the antidote is question “-ask: What am I doing or being to create this? What am I aware of that I’m not willing to have total awareness of? What am I creating or generating that’s contributing to their feeling this way?“

Yeah. You can totally use competition to your advantage, in this case, with those questions. And then, you could look at what’s required.

[00:14:11] I remember years ago, I was traveling to another country to do some classes. I had hosts at that location. We were having our weekly check-in meeting, and they were telling me about a fellow Certified Facilitator who lived in that area that was doing some interesting things around the classes that we were going to have in that area.

At first they said, “What should we do? How can we stop this?” We’re matching that energy. I was like, “Well, if we don’t play with it, that’s going to create greater. So, let’s acknowledge what’s going on, but we don’t need to play with it. We don’t need to make that person wrong. We don’t need to be right. Let’s just let it be.”

[00:15:00] And then afterwards, on my own, I didn’t use these specific questions, but I started looking at, “What is actually going on?” Like, if somebody’s choosing that. In this case, I knew this fellow CF and it was an unusual choice from what I had experienced with her. So, I just got curious, like, what’s going on that somebody would choose this?

I recognized quite quickly that that person had really built up that area of where she lived with interest in Access Consciousness® with the classes. There was a lot of people who’d been to classes that knew about it because of what she had chosen for months and years. I was like, “Wow!” Wow, that is phenomenal.

[00:16:00] I reached out to her and I just said, “I need to thank you so much for what you’ve done in that area to really allow the interest to be there. You’ve done all the hard work and now, I’m just so grateful.”

And it was true. I wasn’t making it up. It wasn’t like, “Oh, well, how can I get her?” It wasn’t. It was truly, like, once I acknowledged it, I was like, “Wow, I never looked at it like that before.” I just shared that with her and it changed everything.

[00:16:30] That’s basically what the questions that Gary’s suggesting. That’s basically what it is, like, what was I doing that was creating that? Well, I wasn’t acknowledging what she had done in that area to really exponentializes the information about Access. I didn’t have to go in and start educating people about Access Consciousness®. She’d done that.

It was such a huge space and such a huge awareness for me, also, that I continued to do that. When I would get invited to areas where there was somebody who had done that in that area, I would reach out to them and I would just say, “Thank you so much for what you’ve done here because it is huge for somebody to do that. I’m so grateful.”

[00:17:21] Really looking at that, if you are a person who is saying, “Oh, this person’s competing with me,” take a moment. What’s actually going on?

[00:17:28] Now, we’re not saying at all that you’re wrong or that you shouldn’t be doing what you’re doing. I wasn’t wrong to say yes to the invitation to go facilitate classes there. That whole situation gave me so much awareness. So if you looked at, let’s say, it’s one person that’s competing, and you got really spacious and present with that, what could you actually create?

[00:17:57] You might never contact that person. In my situation, it was super light to do so. It made a lot of sense to do so. In your situation, it might not and it might give you more information. It might give you way more information to really get a sense of that.

I’ve heard of other people, too, that had a similar where they’re really aware of somebody competing. They just follow the energy and they invite that person to co-facilitate with them. Yeah.

[00:18:26] Again, you’ve got to follow what you know. You’ve got to ask questions. It might never make sense for you, but just to start being aware of it. Because what could we create if we drop those barriers?

[00:18:39] To me, that’s what I do when I’m competing is I put up the barriers. Again, for me, a lot of it’s like, “Well, I’m less than and I’m nothing” and all the stories that I used to tell myself. I’m so grateful that I would say 95% of the time, that’s not in my world anymore. I can certainly be aware of it, but to play with it as though it’s mine like I used to? It’s very, very different. How does it get any more magical than that? Yes.

[00:19:09] Really with that, if you’re feeling it from someone else, then use those questions. Really check in. What else is going on and what can you be and do different to change it?

[00:19:20] Now, the “generative competition,” you might’ve heard us talk about before, is actually where we start out-creating. It’s such a simple question. I’ve got on my Reminder app. It reminds me every morning at 6:00 AM to ask:

What energy, space, consciousness, choice, magic, miracles, mysteries, and possibilities can me and my body be to out-create myself for all eternity? Anything that doesn’t allow that to show up as if by magic, I destroy and uncreate it all. Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

Ask everyday to out-create you.

[00:20:02] Now, the other thing that I ask is I ask my business to out-create itself, and then you can also ask to out-create other people. That’s not competition. That’s what we call “leapfrogging.”

[00:20:19] Let’s say somebody sees a class that I’m offering. Let’s say it’s a 1-day class on changing your point of views about money. Somebody sees that and they go, “Whoa, that’s really cool! What if I offered it as a 3-day class and I added in stuff about business and magic,” let’s say?

Now, some people could call that competition and it could be. The person could be doing it from, “Oh, I need to be better than her!” It could be, but if you’re truly doing it from the spaciousness of you, from the leapfrogging, it’s just looking at something going, “Wow! Here’s how I could change that. Here’s how I could do that different.” That feels super fun, and then actually just taking action and doing it.

[00:21:12] It’s something that’s been talked about with the Certified Facilitators and Access Consciousness® that I just love is leapfrogging.

If I see somebody doing something similar to me, I don’t get offended. I actually celebrate because they’ve taken a little bits of pieces of the energy of the creation and then went, whoosh, and leapfrogged over me. That is so magical, and I have done it! I don’t mean just other people.

[00:21:41] Honestly, it’s the way. If we break it all the way down, we do that with the tools of Access Consciousness®. Every video that I’ve ever done, every class that I’ve ever done using the tools, everything that I’ve ever done where I shared the tools, I was out-creating something. We could go all the way back to Gary Douglas, who was the founder. What if it’s not wrong? What if it’s not bad?

Right, wrong, good, bad, all-nine, POD, POC, shorts, boys, POVADs, and beyonds.

[00:22:22] Another thing that I hear a lot is they go, “Oh no, you know that so-and-so is offering a Bars class so I can’t.”

What?! If we only had one Bars Facilitator in the world, that would be ridiculous. If we only had one Bars Facilitator in the city or town that you lived in, that would be ridiculous.

[00:22:43] I used to live in a town called Vermilion, Alberta. Population [is] about 5,000, and I think that includes the surrounding area. It’s a fairly small town. We must’ve had 50 hairdressers and about 50 liquor stores.

‘Okay, that might be a bit of a stretch with the liquor stores, but there was a lot and all of them were busy – hairdressers and liquor stores – because every one of us is looking for a certain energy. Whether we know that or not, it doesn’t matter. We’re, we’re looking for an energy.

[00:23:21] If you’re willing to recognize that you being you is going to be different than the Bars Facilitator down the road, or the Certified Facilitator, or the car sales person, or the Amazon seller, whatever it is that you do, then you can actually, again, going back to all this information, you can be the contribution that you truly be because you’re not playing less than.

You’re not going, “Oh well, they know more than me” or “They sell more than me” or “They have more followers than me.” All of that is ridiculous competition. Making you less than, making sure that you’re going to do competition where you could just look at, “Okay, what would be fun for me? What would I like to do? What would create greater here?” You go back into question and have so much more of you in whatever it is that you’re offering.

[00:24:17] Now, I’m talking about it, kind of from competition from a business space. But as I talked about with my family, I competed with my siblings, I’ve competed with my parents, I compete with Rodney, which is Hubby.

Not a lot of people know that his real name is Rodney. I’ve started calling him Hubby which seems like forever ago. And so often, I’ll get the question of, “Is that his real name?” It’s not. It’s Rodney, but I still refer to him as Hubby ’cause that’s fun for me.

[00:24:44] Anyway, we compete in all sorts of areas in all sorts of ways. That’s why even asking, “Universe, show me where I’m competing” because sometimes it might be just about turning it. It might be just turning it from competing to generative competition, which again, is that out-creating.

[00:25:06] Let’s say you’re a Bars Facilitator, and you are seeing on social media somebody who had 50 people in their class. You get really excited by that. You could ask: What would it take to out-create that class?

What you’re asking is what would it take for me to choose to be more of me than that person was willing to be of them when they created that class? That’s what outcreation is. You’re asking to be more of you.

[00:25:39] I will often do that. When I see something that just lights me up, that somebody else has chose: What would it take to out-create that? It’s not about what would it take to be better than them, what would it take to be more successful than them. That’s all competition and not going to feel yummy.

What would it take to out-create them? What would it take to be more of me than they were willing to be of them in that moment? That’s where the magic is, my sweet friends.

[00:26:07] As I mentioned, this is an invitation to the book club, 10 months deep dive, Living the 10 Keys to Total Freedom. You will get weekly calls with me where you can ask questions. We’ll go through the book. I’ll share bits and pieces from the teleseries that maybe wasn’t included in the book.

There will also be a Personal Clearing Loop from me each month based on that month of whatever the key is that month. That will be there.

You will also get a PDF about living the tools from that chapter. It’ll be basically just suggestions on how to use the tools that they talk about in the book, different ideas and ways that you can actually live them in your life and your living. If that sounds fun, find the link. If you don’t see it, let me know and I will get it for you.

[00:26:57] Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you. I wonder what our lives and our living would be like if we were willing to use competition to our advantage as if by magic?