Have You Lost Your Magic?

Sep 10, 2023 | Radio Show

Have You Lost Your Magic?

Are you losing your magic, or is it something else?

Have you felt like you’ve lost your magic? This is a question I have been getting a lot from my clients recently. Is this true for you, too? If so, tune in on this week’s episode as we address what might be actually going on when you feel like you’re losing your spark, and of course, a sprinkle of these *magical* tools I’ll be sharing might just do the trick!

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[00:00:00] Do you feel like you’ve lost your magic? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:12] Do you know I’ve had a radio show for 10 years and one month? I forgot to celebrate on my 10th year anniversary which was in July of 2023. So, how cool is that? You can actually access every one of them on my webpage. If you just go to www.glenycehughes.com and then, I think it says “Radio Show” or “Podcast” on the top, you can access every show. Oh my goodness.

[00:00:41] Anyway, have you felt like you’ve lost your magic? I’ve heard this from so many clients recently and really wanted to talk about what that actually might be.

[00:00:51] First, what you wanna do is acknowledge that you can’t lose something that you are or something that you be, and you BE magic. You are magic, so you can’t lose it. First off, know that.

[00:01:04] The other thing, if you can hear it in the background, is there’s some sweet puppies walking around. You might hear them and they might get up and get excited and you might really hear them. We will see.

[00:01:15] Anyway, first off, you cannot lose your magic. It’s impossible. What can be occurring, and I would say in probably 90% of the cases with the clients who came in as that’s something to shift, is that they actually had expectations of what things should look like and because they didn’t turn out the way they expected them to, they felt like they lost their magic.

[00:01:45] One thing I know for sure — and this is something you gotta check with you if you know it for sure or not, or if it’s even true for you ’cause it may not be. But one thing that I know for sure for me is the universe always has my back. I know there’s a million times — probably a billion times — that I would’ve fought that statement, and I do really truly know that to be true. The universe always has my back.

[00:02:11] When things aren’t turning out the way that I would like them to, it’s not that I’ve lost my magic. It’s that I’ve decided, I’ve judged, I’ve concluded that one way is the only way. The universe is going, “Hmm, well… let me show you another way, my friend.” I’m not sure that the universe talks like that, but I like to think it does.

[00:02:39] If you look at that, if you look at the areas or area — whatever you’ve got. If you’re watching this on video, I keep shifting because the chairs here are really high. If you’re a short girl, you’re gonna know what I’m talking about when I say I’ve actually got a stool to put my feet on because otherwise my feet just hang. It’s annoying. Anyway, I keep shifting to get them better suited on the stool.

[00:03:06] Anyway, what you wanna look at with that is… is there possibly another way in terms of what you’ve decided? Let’s say your money isn’t going the way you would like it to. Is it possible that you’ve decided it should be a certain way when really, it’s something different?

[00:03:32] A lot of times people will say [they] lose a job, and they decide they’re not magical because they lost that job. And yet… what if the universe totally has their back and is inviting them to something greater?

[00:03:48] This is something I’ve been saying now for months and months, probably actually since the beginning of this year, when I had a friend going through something which felt like the end of the world to her. I just kept saying, “Yes, totally feel it now and let’s talk about it in six months.”

[00:04:06] I don’t mean I wasn’t willing to talk with her about it in the meantime, but let’s not judge it as the worst thing on the planet yet. Let’s give it some time. And, yeah… the universe totally had her back. Let me tell you, [it’s] just amazing [in] amazing ways.

[00:04:23] I don’t mean every time, and I don’t mean if you’re going through shit, you should… what’s it called? Bypass it, I think they call it that when you go, “Oh no, it’ll be better. It’ll be fine.” That’s not what I’m talking about at all.

[00:04:35] But also, if you’re in that judgment of “I’m not magical, I’ve lost my magic” or maybe you’re in the extreme of “I’ve never been magical,” it is possible that you’re looking through the lens of “This is the only way, this is the one way, this is it.” The universe is over here going, “But, uhm… let me show ‘ya. Let me show you some magic.”

[00:05:00] What I suggest that you look at is those areas or areas I said earlier where you’re not feeling magical or like you’ve lost your magic. What is actually going on?

[00:05:14] Let’s say you’ve lost your job. That’s what’s going on. Be with that. Have all the things, have the emotions, the upset, the anger, the whatever it might be. Maybe it’s a bazillion different things. Have that, be that. Allow that. Please allow that. And then, “All right… universe, show me. Universe, show me.” Yeah. And then start looking at what action is required?

[00:05:43] Let’s say you would like a job similar to what you had. Of course, you go looking at those places where they would have those, along with “Universe, show me. Universe, show me,” ’cause it might come from a different direction. It might come from a different place than you never imagine.

[00:05:58] You might get the idea to go for coffee at an unusual coffee shop for you. Maybe you usually do Starbucks, and, I don’t know, you go to Tim Horton’s or something if you’re in Canada. Although I think I saw one in Ireland, too. I do think that they’re in different places.

[00:06:11] Anyway, what you wanna look at with that is following the energy ALSO while taking the what I’m gonna call the “logical action” – the things you know to do.

[00:06:23] Step one, feel the feelings. Be present with what is. Of course, don’t bypass. Don’t pretend. Don’t go into what we might call the “positive thinking,” like, “This is for the best,” ’cause that’s not kind to you. Be with what is.

[00:06:39] And then next, what action is required? Start looking at the logical action all the while [going], “Universe, show me. Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with the magic showing up today?” Allow yourself to receive from the universe. Include the universe.

[00:07:00] If you’re not new here, you’ve heard me say this a million times. If you’re new here, I just wanna explain how I see the universe.

[00:07:09] The universe is definitely this beautiful home, nature, all the people on the planet including me, all the people NOT on the planet, all the energies, all the angels, all of the energies beyond the planet. It’s everything. The universe is everything. And so when we’re inviting the universe and receiving from it, it’s including us and everything.

[00:07:38] Imagine having that as your resource. Ooh, I like it. Yes. The universe as your resource. I have a program – we’ll put a link to it. It’s called “Allowing the Universe to Be Your Sugar Daddy.” It’s from a few years ago. It was such a fun program to put together. We’ll put a link above or below if you wanna go grab that.

[00:08:02] It’s so fun. It’s just one of those things that I just love because that’s what it can be, but not from the place of, “I’m just gonna sit back and wait for the universe to be my sugar daddy.” It includes you. It includes you.

[00:08:18] First, feel it, be it, receive it, whatever feels like you’re not being magical. It’s okay to be there. It’s okay to be in that. It’s okay to have all the feelings and all the whatever might be with that. Just be there. Then, logical action. What’s required? If we’re talking about losing a job, where can you start applying now?

[00:08:42] The other thing, too, is it might be — let’s say you lost your job and it’s between putting food on the table or not. Maybe you don’t just apply for the jobs that sound really fun to you. Maybe you apply for anything to get that done.

[00:08:57] This is a totally different energy that you wanna be aware of because we wanna make sure that like the universe, we have our own back. We don’t say, “That job… that’s below me. I’m not doing that,” if you can’t eat next week, if you can’t pay your rent next week.

[00:09:14] There’s times that you might have to do like, I don’t know, not be a little bitch. You actually go, “No matter what, I am making sure that there’s food on our table next week so I’m gonna go apply for that job that I know I would get,” all the while applying for the other ones you’d really love also.

[00:09:33] It’s also not about being in the fantasy of, “I’m just gonna ask for it and it’s gonna show up.” No. If you won’t have money to eat next week, then you go do whatever the heck it takes to get that done while taking other action – applying for the fun jobs. Maybe the jobs that you’re not even totally qualified for, apply for them too. If they light you up. If it feels yummy, apply for them.

[00:09:58] And then number three, all the while including the universe, asking, “Hey universe, how many ways could you surprise and delight me?” I know I’ve covered these again, but I’m covering them again so that you can start getting that whole idea that “you’re not magical” is really a lie.

[00:10:18] Sorry, [I’m] just saying it like it is, my sweet friends. I’m just saying it like it is. It is a lie. It’s just what have you defined as magical in that situation, and is it time to really change that? Is it time to maybe get more present with what is?

[00:10:34] You’ve probably got so many examples – I know I do of my own life where it’s like, “It has to be this way.” I remember a time really wanting this job. It was actually gonna be in Saskatoon. It was on a psych ward in a prison. My background is psychiatric nursing. I really, really wanted the job and I didn’t get it.

[00:10:57] Now… we could say I wasn’t magical except when I didn’t get it, what it did was inspired me.

[00:11:05] I’d already started this business – this is back in 2002. Actually, I think I started my business 2002. This was probably 2003 because I’d been running my business for about six or seven months and it just wasn’t going the way that I would’ve loved it to go. I’d had a small business loan, and I was coming to the end of that money. I was like, “Oh my gosh,” and so applied for this job and I didn’t get it.

[00:11:31] I would’ve told you I wasn’t magical. Really, what it was was that not getting it inspired me to actually get my butt going in the business and really make the business the success that it is. Had I got that job, I would’ve never done that.

[00:11:49] We all have stories like that. If we stop judging it as not magical, then what is it actually? What could we actually acknowledge at those times?

[00:12:02] And then, start taking those steps ’cause I don’t mean you just sit back and wait. Believe me, I am not saying that. But you do wanna recognize that it’s not that you’re not magical. If you are like me, you know the universe has your back – universe includes you, so there’s something else. Start taking the action. Start taking the logical action, and start including everything to contribute to you acknowledging, receiving being the magic that you truly BE.

[00:12:32] Have a great week, sweet friends, Sessions are still on sale. Link is above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you.

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What Being Honest with You Actually Gifts You

Sep 3, 2023 | Radio Show

What Being Honest with You Actually Gifts You

What would it be like if you’re more honest with you?

To celebrate my birthday, I did the craziest things with my craziest friends… and it was the FUNNEST birthday I’ve ever had so far! It was all possible because I was willing to be honest with myself about what I truly desire for my birthday. Imagine what more we could actualize if we start getting honest in every area of our lives!!!

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[00:00:00] What can honesty with you gift you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:13] We are at a sit in Sylvan Lake, Alberta, so still not very far. Next week we’ll be heading to the US, but right now we’re still fairly local. There are two big, beautiful full-size poodles that we are here with. You may see them – one is laying behind me right now, one is outside. Hopefully, they will show their beautiful selves to you guys if you’re watching the video. If you’re listening to the audio, you’ll probably hear their footsteps.

[00:00:42] Alright, so what can being honest with you gift you?

My experience? Everything. Like, everything.

[00:00:54] Last week was my birthday — yes. I celebrated in a way that I’m not sure I’ve ever celebrated before. A week or two beforehand, I looked at what did I really want to — what was the energies that I really wanted to experience on my birthday?

Laughter and fun were — those were the energies. Those were the two of the energies that I just really wanted to experience. And so what I looked at is what would that take?

[00:01:25] Oh, you might see Sage in the background there. He just went and laid down.

[00:01:31] What does that look like? I looked at what would be fun, and I actually searched. There’s a local Facebook group in Edmonton that I searched. There’s, I don’t know, 20,000 people in there and there are just random questions. I just searched “birthday” just to see ’cause I know I had seen other people ask over the years what were suggestions for birthdays.

[00:01:53] So I searched it, and there were lots of the things that I’d already thought of that weren’t just quite it. And then, the one that I’d never even heard of, it was — I don’t remember the exact thing, but they called it something like “Goodwill shopping.” I thought, “What the heck is Goodwill shopping for your birthday?”

[00:02:11] I Googled it, and the way that this article — I only read one article about it. The way they described it was you were going to go to dinner — maybe [with] three couple friends, let’s say — and you and your partner would go to Goodwill and dress each other. And then, all three couples would show up having their partner dress them from Goodwill. Of course, they’re just really funny outfits.

[00:02:35] I thought that’s super fun, but I changed it up. What I did was I looked at getting five friends so there’d be six of us in total. What we did was — I didn’t tell them this. Honestly, I would say the funnest part for me was not telling them what we were doing.

[00:02:53] Part one of the birthday was us all meeting at Value Village in Edmonton, which nobody knew until an hour before. We all met there. I partnered everybody up and then we dressed each other.

[00:03:08] It was so fun! They don’t have a change room so we actually had to hold blankets in the corner. It was so much fun. Plus, the things that the other person got the person to wear was, I mean, I will never forget this birthday for as long as I lived because it was so funny. It was so good. So, that was part one.

[00:03:31] Part two is we went somewhere called “Sid’s Selfie World,” which is a really cool business on Whyte Avenue in Edmonton. They basically set it up so that you have different places to take photos like selfies, obviously.

[00:03:46] In our bizarre outfits, we went and took all these photos which was so fun. One of them was so cool because of the way the bed was angled. When you look at the picture, it looks like I was actually energetically pushing my friend O’tion away and it’s just so cool.

[00:04:05] From there we went to a restaurant called “BrewandBloom.” I had actually been there before and they did know we were going there. Everybody did know we were going there.

[00:04:17] What I told them at this location was they couldn’t actually tell anybody why we were dressed the way we were. We had to act as though this is just what we would wear on a random Wednesday.

[00:04:29] It was so funny to watch other people because even when we walked in, the person that was going to seat us was like, “Oh,” and you could see she wanted to join in like it was funny because of how we were dressed but because we weren’t laughing, she had to try to backtrack. Oh, it was so good. It was so good on so many levels.

[00:04:51] Why am I sharing that story with you in regards to this topic? Because what I had to look at was so many things.

What were the energies that I desired?

And then, what was going to actualize those energies?

What were the possibilities? That’s how I came up with the three stages to my birthday.

Then, I actually had to look at and be honest with me about who would actually show up, who would actually partake, who would actually have the silly, fun with me that I was looking for.

[00:05:24] I don’t say that as though it’s a judgment. If you’re a good friend of mine and you didn’t get invited, that’s not it at all. It was just looking at the energy like, who would match that energy?

[00:05:36] Honestly, that’s a really big thing for a lot of people. So many pieces would be so traumatizing for some people, right? I don’t know, maybe undressing in the back of a Value Village with a sheet held up? That could be one. Wearing the most bizarre outfits? I knew that I had to ask people who were willing to go there.

[00:06:03] I did, and they showed up. Even though I know now that some of them maybe had a struggle or two throughout it, they never let on and they just allowed the silliness, allowed the play, had the fun, and it was such a magical day.

[00:06:21] There would’ve been a time not that long ago that I wouldn’t have looked at any of those factors. I wouldn’t have looked at what energies I desired. I wouldn’t have looked at what would it take to create it and who would actually contribute to that.

[00:06:35] I would’ve looked at probably more so what would everyone else like to do and who should I invite. Who’s right to invite as though there’s some sort of right or wrong in terms of who you invite to your birthday. Yeah, I know. You get the idea, right? It’s such a different way.

[00:07:00] This is such a, I’m gonna say, silly example but it’s not because for me, my birthday is a big event. I love celebrating my birthday. I love celebrating. I love laughing, I love having fun, all of those things. But I’ve never — even for my 50th which was last year, although I had a good birthday, it was fun — I didn’t look at all the pieces.

[00:07:22] I just looked at probably the other pieces. What would everybody else like to do? I had a pool party when I had the pool. It was good, but it wasn’t THIS. When I looked at it, truly, what did I desire? How did I want to spend the day? What was it gonna take to actualize that? What did I need to put in place?

[00:07:44] Even for myself, even on my best, happiest, most joyful day, if I was just going to sit in a pool — not just sit in a pool, you guys know I love pools — but it’s not that fun laughter, unless maybe I had a comedian come something like that. There’s a time and a place, really. There’s a time and a place.

[00:08:04] For me, this birthday was about the laughter and the joy and looking at all of those pieces and being honest with me about that. It’s huge ’cause if I’m willing to be honest with me about that sort of stuff — honestly, I’m willing to be honest with me about so many things. I would love to say everything, and I’m probably not there yet even though this has been years and years of this, of really getting honest with me.

[00:08:32] I would say I just did such a good job of not being honest with me. There was always this energy of what do they need? What do they want? What would make them happy? I can pick that easier than I can with what I desire. It’s getting better., [I’m] just not there yet. Not there a hundred percent.

[00:08:51] It’s not wrong to be aware of other people and what they would like. It’s just as I say, invite yourself to the party. Make sure you’re part of that. Are you looking at it?

[00:09:02] If Hubby and I are going out to dinner, then I’m not gonna just pick where I wanna go if it’s some place he hates, but at least I invite myself to the party. Where would I like to go and where would he like to go? Out of the places, is there one that both of us would like to go?

[00:09:19] Again, kind of a basic example, but you can start applying this in every area of your life. Really start looking at what are the energies, no matter what. Is it work? Is it career? Is it, business? Is it money? Is it body? Is it relationships? What are the energies you would like, and what is it actually going to take?

[00:09:42] That takes some logic. My logic was, “I’m gonna search this Facebook group to figure out what are all my possibilities.” It doesn’t mean that I went on there with the logic of, “Okay, what are most people doing?” No, the logic was, “I would like some ideas ’cause I thought of lots, but none of them were a ‘yes’ so, okay, cool. I’d like some ideas.” Logic was, “Where could I find those?”

[00:10:09] This Facebook group was one place and it gifted them to me. And then I got to really look at, “Of these, what’s going to really contribute?” I just knew as soon as I read that Goodwill one, it was just like, I could just imagine the crazy outfits people would come up with.

[00:10:26] Honestly, my friends — shoutout to Maureen, Brenda, O’tion, V, and Lisa — who really, truly showed up and found those outfits. The most obscure, the most bizarre. It’s so awesome. We’ll actually put some video or pictures or something in this video so you guys can see some of these. It’s beyond words.

[00:10:52] Really, [it’s] so ease to look at and apply to every area of your life. What’s the energies? What’s it gonna take? And then, what’s gonna contribute? In my case — birthday party — who’s gonna contribute?

[00:11:06] Even reaching out to Sid’s Selfie World ’cause they’re normally not open on a Wednesday. I just reached out and I said, “Hey, could I rent it for an hour?” [I’m] kind of thinking it’s gonna be a premium price because they’re not open on Wednesday so they’ve gotta come in or hire a staff specifically for one hour.

[00:11:24] But I was willing to ask, and they were so kind. They just said, “Since it’s your birthday, we’re gonna give it to you at regular rate.” What?! Truly, how does it get any better than that?

[00:11:36] Anyway, I just wanted to share what being honest with you could really look like and how it can assist you in actualizing everything you desire. Like, everything.

[00:11:49] Sessions are still at a reduced rate depending on when you’re watching this, so [I’ll] make sure link is above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I’ll get it for you.

[00:11:58] Have a fabulous week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Do You Actually Have a Receiving Problem?

Aug 27, 2023 | Radio Show

Do You Actually Have a Receiving Problem?

There’s maybe more to it, sweet friend.

“Follow these easy steps and get amazing results!” What a concept, right? Unfortunately, it isn’t always so simple.If you think you’ve done everything without seeing any progress or success, listen in as we discuss all about that in this week’s episode. Keep this in mind, sweet friends: there is no single way to create magic!

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[00:00:00] What if you aren’t the problem in not receiving what you ask for? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] And yes, there’s a little puppy here. I’m actually not pet sitting. I’m at my sister’s house and yeah, this is Floyd and he wanted to be part of the video, if you’re watching on video. If you’re not, then he’s just a sweet little puppy. He’s just so cute.

[00:00:30] All right. I have been listening to a podcast called “Love and Light Confessionals.” I highly recommend it for everyone, actually. I just highly recommend it. It really opens your eyes to some of the stuff that’s going on in what we might call the “coaching industry,” the “woo industry,” whatever you want to call it, and has been going on for a long time, of course.

[00:00:58] She actually used a term that I’d never heard before in this context, and it got me really looking at all the spaces and places where what I’ve shared has done that, or it’s just everywhere. It’s about “simplification.” Actually, “oversimplification.”

[00:01:24] When I talk about — maybe this is the reason you’re not getting what you ask for is looking at it from the place of… you’ve probably heard or seen or watch videos or whatever when they say, “Just ask these four questions and everything you want will show up in your life.” That’s pretty general, but you get the idea right?

[00:01:45] I know I’ve said it myself. I totally have, and it’s said everywhere in all the places. What if it’s not, like, what if that is so oversimplified that it’s actually the problem? The oversimplification is the problem.

[00:02:03] One of the things that I’ve actually been talking to and really incorporating in the videos and classes and everything is yes, ask for what you would like, absolutely, and then there is action.

[00:02:17] The oversimplification is when we say, “Just do these four things,” “Ask these four questions and it’ll show up as if by magic.” No. That is oversimplification, [whereas when] we say, “Ask these questions” or “Ask the questions that light you up,” and then also “What action is required?.”

[00:02:38] I would say, and I’ll use myself as an example, that’s probably where I, especially years ago — and I know I’ve talked about this somewhat recently — I really didn’t want to have to take any action. I really just wanted it to be where I sit on the chair and ask the four questions, and things are delivered like Amazon. It just doesn’t work that way.

[00:03:04] That oversimplification, what people do is they hear the “ask the four questions and it’ll show up,” and [when] it doesn’t happen, that person goes into so much wrongness of themselves. “What am I doing wrong that I’m not getting what I ask for? I asked those four questions! That person asked those four questions, they got everything they asked for!”

[00:03:28] The other thing that we wanna recognize is that if that’s what they said, “I asked four questions and things were delivered like Amazon,” there’s probably some information missing in there. It’s also could be just a blatant lie.

[00:03:45] It’s really recognizing what is actually, again, true for you. I believe it was even last week or the week before that I talked about this ’cause it’s all been unraveling in my world in terms of all of the stuff that we’re consuming – all the content, all the information we’re consuming, and now I have a word for it – “oversimplification.”

[00:04:10] We go to that class, we buy that product, we take that course, we do that thing, and it’s not all the pieces. Sometimes, it is. Absolutely.

[00:04:20] One of the things that I would say I pride myself in with all of the stuff that I’ve created over the years, for the most part, I do what I can to make it simple. I make it into steps. I have handouts and PDFs and workbooks and guides and all sorts of things to really assist. I don’t say that to be like, “I haven’t done this.” I totally know that I have.

[00:04:42] [It’s] really recognizing that there might be more. You might wanna take that program, but with what I call “your eyes wide open.” If that person’s saying, “You only need to do this. This is all I did, and Amazon delivered it,” cool. Maybe you need to add some things, or maybe there’s some more questions for the person. Maybe if you go in with your eyes wide open, you’d start to recognize that “I could ask them if I have problems with this, how do they deal with that?” or “What does this look like?”

[00:05:15] Recognize that each one of us is so different, and our gifts and capacities and all of that is different. For some people, maybe they did have that – they asked the four questions and it was delivered like Amazon. Cool. Maybe for us, there’s something different.

[00:05:35] One of the things that the gal and I — I do not remember her name, I just know the podcast. Again, Love and Light Confessionals – highly recommend it.

[00:05:43] One of the things she talks about that I’ve actually never really considered is how a lot of the people, say, in the coaching industry, in the woo industry, that are the bigger names, a lot of them got in super early. A lot of people have tried to emulate what they did to create what they’ve created, and it’s possible that a lot of it was actually timing.

[00:06:11] It’s something to think about, something to be present with and aware with, especially if you’re one of those people who haven’t recognized. I mean, for myself, I recognized it a few years ago, but I didn’t have a word for it. But as you’re listening, if you go, “Wow, that makes so much sense,” look at where else maybe things have been oversimplified.

[00:06:34] I don’t mean people are doing it on purpose. I don’t mean people are trying to scam you. Of course there’s that, too. Yes, absolutely. There are people that do things on purpose and there are people that try to scam you, of course. But I’m not saying that’s always what’s going on. We just wanna recognize for ourselves, “Is this oversimplified? Are there other things?”

[00:06:52] People will say, “Take my class on how to create reels and your business will triple.” Well, really, if you actually look at that, there’s a lot of people that have tons of followers with, say, on reels with Instagram or Facebook or wherever, but there isn’t money made in those. The biggest money made on those sorts of things, of course, is partnerships where you’re talking about… maybe Nike gives you a partnership and they pay you to create a reel. Those sorts of things.

[00:07:23] Now, I’m not saying that people don’t have coaching businesses as a success because of what they do on reels or it’s an invite, but it’s not it. And yet, the oversimplification IS. “This person has viral reels every second day and their business is in the millions, so the answer is reels.” No.

[00:07:48] I hated hearing it, but I’m gonna say it. There is no one answer. There is no one answer. There is no one question. There is no one anything. There’s no guarantee in anything we do. It’s no different than if you go to school to become, I don’t know, an accountant. You’re not guaranteed that you will have a steady job and have steady income for until you retire.

[00:08:17] Same with our businesses. There is no one thing you can do to guarantee you will have what you would like. There’s action — again, I’m gonna use that word. There’s action, there’s asking, there’s steps to take, there’s things to choose. There’s also the willingness to be honest with yourself.

[00:08:41] I’ve talked about this a lot over, I would say, probably the past six months to a year ’cause business has changed. The way that business is has changed. There’ll be a lot of people that tell you it hasn’t, and maybe there is [that] hasn’t — I will not speak for them — and it has.

[00:08:59] People are buying differently now compared to a year ago, a couple years ago, more years ago where for a lot of time that was like self-empowerment and healing and all of that coaching, all of that was very sought after. It’s different now. I don’t mean it’s not sought after, it’s just different now.

[00:09:20] If you aren’t willing to be honest with yourself with that, then you’re not making the changes probably in the business that are required. That’s where we can really get into problems because we ignore it.

[00:09:35] We probably oversimplify in that, too, as I’m talking about this. Oversimplify -“Oh, it was just a slow month.” “Oh, it was just that, it was just this.” Actually, be honest with you. Look at the numbers each month. If you’re in business, look at your numbers each month, and are they going the direction you would like them? If not, there might be some questions to ask and action to take. There might be some things to choose different.

[00:10:02] I know for myself, for a little while, I was really in the, “But this always works! I’ll just do this! This always works! This always works!,” until I was like, “Okay, you know what? This isn’t the same.” Not good or bad, or right or wrong. It’s just different.

[00:10:17] What’s so cool is that once I was willing to be honest with myself about that, and then also be honest with myself about what I really enjoyed, I could look at things really differently.

[00:10:32] As many of you know, I started a Shopify shop in January of 2023. It’s just freaking amazing. And then, looking at adding some new things this fall.

[00:10:44] Part of that is my own interest in terms of what would I like to be spending my time playing with. I know I require a lot of creativity. I love that. I love one-to-one sessions. I’m looking at what else as we travel around.

[00:11:01] We’re gonna be in Oxford, Massachusetts in late September. That’s the first place we know for sure. Then we’ll be in Chicago. I’m taking part in a Mastermind there, and I’ll probably put something on. I know some of you have reached out – thank you. I will let you know as soon as I have details. From there, we plan to go to Nashville, and then Atlanta, and then be in Florida for November and most of December.

[00:11:25] That’s a lot of travel. There’s a lot of, you know, on the road sort of stuff. How can what I love to do fit with that? I can put classes on, and who knows? Maybe I will in every one of those areas. Who knows? But I’m also looking at what else?

[00:11:39] I really wanted to invite you to one of two things:

[00:11:43] One, listen to the Love and Light Confessionals if you’re a podcast user. I just [love] Love and Light Confessionals. Great, great podcast. All of them that I’ve listened to so far.

[00:11:55] But also, really look at where you might be oversimplifying what’s actually required, or where it’s maybe been oversimplified and you’ve took it as, “I must just be wrong ’cause it doesn’t work for me. So, I must just be wrong.”

[00:12:08] You’re not wrong, okay? There just might be some misinformation. There might be some missing information. There might be just something else and it might just not be your way.

[00:12:19] That’s the other thing that we can get so caught up in. Again, using reels as an example, this person has success with reels and so I have to do that. But if you hate video, [it’s] not gonna work so well, my sweet friends.

[00:12:31] There’s my thoughts for the week. Have a great week, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Do You Actually Know?

Aug 20, 2023 | Radio Show

Do You Actually Know?

What’s actually true for you?

With the amount of information we consume everyday and how heavily it influences our life and living, stop for a moment and think – how much of it is still true for you? Or… are you just believing things to be true because everybody else does? Answer these questions with me as I share more magical tips and tricks in this week’s episode.

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[00:00:00] Do you actually know what is true for you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] We are not pet sitting right now. No. I am at my friend Maurine’s, and yes, that sign behind me if you’re watching this on video does say, “Go out and fuck shit up.” I might’ve gifted that to her. I love it so much. Hubby is volunteering at the Edmonton Folk Festival on Main Stage as he has for decades. So, a little bit different this week.

[00:00:40] Do you actually know what is true for you?

[00:00:44] I received an email some time — maybe a month, maybe six weeks ago — that really got me looking at something. The email was from somebody on my email list.

[00:00:55] She was so kind just to send an email saying, “Hey, I’m actually gonna unsubscribe, nothing personal. But I have consumed so much content over the years that I actually don’t even know what is mine anymore. I don’t know what my voice is. I don’t know what is true for me.”

[00:01:12] It really got me looking at that for myself like, do I know? Somebody could say something and I would have almost an automatic response to what they say based on all of the information that I’ve consumed over the years. Is it actually true for me? If I didn’t have that other information that I had consumed, what would my response be?

[00:01:42] Yeah, right? I mean, it’s such a different energy. It’s such a different idea of really getting present.

[00:01:52] One of my hot topics that I talk about a lot [is] really being aware of you, of us, of ourselves, especially now. I’m gonna say “especially now” because I’m in that age group that, you know, I remember a time where we didn’t have constant information, like, before social media. Thankfully honestly, for me growing up, there wasn’t social media. I still got information, of course, and all of that, but it’s different. Now, there’s so much. There’s so much information.

[00:02:28] I don’t know about you. I can’t speak for you. I’ll just speak for myself. A lot of times if I see something — for example, on TikTok. There’s a lot of videos that come up in my feed about castor oil. I went and bought castor oil because all those videos had really great things to say about castor oil.

[00:02:48] Now, it actually does seem to work. My body does seem to enjoy it. It does seem to be doing what all the things are being said it would do. And… what makes me think that they know? There’s just this idea that if somebody is talking about it, then it’s actually true and it’s true for them. Is it true for you?

[00:03:12] And then those of us who are, say, in the self-empowerment field that do other studies such as, of course, Access Consciousness® or Human Design, Theta Healing, Reiki. I mean, there’s so many. I could just list them on and on and on. We’ve got the information from those. Is it actually true for us?

Are you willing to be honest with you when it isn’t? Right? It’s a different idea.

[00:03:44] When this gal wrote that, I was just like, wow. Wow. How cool. If you’re listening, you’ll know who you are. Thank you again for your email to really inspire me to look at that for myself and to not just automatically go into, “This is true and this is what I believe” or if whoever says it and I’m following them, if they say it, then it has to be true. What if it isn’t?

I know that logically we could say, “Oh, no. We filter it through our awareness or we check in” or all of those things. I wonder… do you? Do you, really?

[00:04:25] I know for myself, I’ve really started paying attention to what I do, how I do respond to clients in classes and sessions, friends, and interactions — however it is — to start really getting a sense of what is actually true for me. What if it doesn’t have to be an “always and forever” or a hundred percent?

[00:04:50] If you are following, gosh, I can’t remember her name, but there’s a lady on TikTok that there’s a lot of videos. People have just kind of taken from her classes and stuff about different healing things, specifically castor oil, the ones that I’ve watched. I believe her first name is Barbara.

[00:05:06] You could actually watch those and have some of them be true for you and some of them not. Right? You don’t have to take it as all or nothing, or “this is just the way it is,” or they said it so it must be true, or they said it so it’s what’s true for me.

[00:05:28] Now, how would you know what is true for you?

For me, and this is what I teach to a lot of people, is just to start recognizing how does it feel in your body. Our body is this big sensory organ that will let us know.

[00:05:43] If something’s true for us, often there is an expansiveness to it, a lightness to it. It depends on what your strength is and awareness. If you perceive energy, it’s going to be more of feeling a lightness. If you know energy, if you’re a “know-it-all” as we would say, then it’s going to be more of a knowing.

[00:06:11] If it isn’t true for you, there’s a heaviness or a denseness. You would just, again, perceiving it would be a dense or heavy. And if you’re a knower, you would just know.

[00:06:23] For me, a lot of times, it’s when I’m either thinking about it or talking about it that I can really get a sense of it. It might be that you need to start kind of paying attention when you’re talking or even just thinking about something. Where is your energy with that?

[00:06:42] It might even sound like a lot of work, but it actually isn’t because you’re saying or thinking those things anyway. It’s more just about starting to pay attention to what is going on with your body as you’re doing that.

[00:06:56] Sometimes, our body can really gift us. I’ve had times where I start talking and then I forget what I’m saying. Sometimes, that’s just part of life. Sometimes, it is a way of my body saying, “No. Stop. This isn’t contributing.” Sometimes, I could have a coughing fit — stuff like that where you could start and just go, “Oh, wow, okay. What is this? What’s going on?”

[00:07:23] Check in with your body so that you can really start getting a sense of what is actually true for you. What if it’s okay if it’s totally different from all the people you follow, or all the modalities you’ve studied, or all the different things, the education you’ve received. What if it’s okay if it is different?

[00:07:46] Probably gonna be the biggest part for all of us is to be okay if it’s different than what the people around you have said. Isn’t that where our gifts are? Right? Because we don’t want to all have the same information about something and all believe it to be true, and that’s just the way it is. You know?

[00:08:11] How many years ago was it [when] the earth was flat? Really, nothing new would ever be found, nothing new would ever be created if we all just went, “Oh, okay. Yes. The earth is flat and that’s just the way it is.” La di da. Right? It takes us being courageous and knowing what’s true for us and voicing that, even if it’s just to us.

[00:08:34] I don’t mean you’ve gotta go out into the world and start putting on social media things, different awarenesses you have, or different information. You can if you would like, of course, but it’s not about that.

[00:08:44] It’s actually about it for you so that when you are in situations where you have something said to you or information given to you, however it is, and it isn’t true for you, you actually know and trust that it isn’t true for you.

[00:09:05] If you haven’t watched “The Vow” on, I believe it’s on Prime, that is an eye-opener of a show. I would say it’s easy to watch that and say, “Oh, those people, they are just gullible.” They’re this, they’re that. I would suggest watching it through different filters rather than that. Really look at how easily we will allow people to give us information and we take it as true and real, and we make it true and real and we really solidify it.

[00:09:46] “The Vow” is one, and then also the podcast “A Little Bit Culty.” I just love that title. Two of the people that run that podcast are actually, they star — not star, that’s not the correct term. “The Vow” is based on the cult that they were a part of. On “A Little Bit Culty,” they do talk different shows about “The Vow” itself, but also they interview other people, too.

[00:10:15] The one I just listened to, which was so good, it was a very recent one — it would’ve been end of July or August of 2023 — around human trafficking. It was really eye-opening to me personally because it’s not an information that I have much about – I’m grateful for [it] and all about educating myself. This woman was human trafficked and how easy it was for the guys to do that to her. I’ll let you listen to the show to get it.

[00:10:45] But it kind of goes back to that idea that we just go, “Oh, no. Logically, we would never do that and we’d never let that happen.” But this really is about educating ourselves and trusting ourselves— at least it has been for me — to really start paying attention to what is actually true for me. Even if I never, ever talk about it publicly, it’s okay just for me to know it’s not true or it is true, or whatever that is.

[00:11:13] I invite you to start looking at that for yourself in terms of what is actually true for you and how is your body when you talk about things or think about things or hear things.

[00:11:25] It doesn’t even have to be just about you being the one delivering it. It could be that you’re watching the reel or you’re watching a class or something, you know? Start paying attention to where is your body with that and what is that for you.

[00:11:39] Have a great week, sweet friends. I’ve still got sessions on deep, deep discounts. I would love to play with you. You can check out the link above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Are You Giving YOU Up for Them?

Aug 13, 2023 | Radio Show

Are You Giving YOU Up for Them?

Are you giving up parts of yourself for others?

Do you mold your personality depending on the people you’re with? You might be giving YOU up, sweet friend. If this “toxic trait” resonates with you, tune in to this episode as we discuss what really goes on when you give you or parts of you up in relationships, and some magical tools to assist you in finally choosing what truly works for you.

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[00:00:00] Have you ever given up you or parts of you to be in a relationship? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:16] We are at a new sit. Still in Calgary, Alberta, but a new sit. We’ve got two brand new kitties. Oh my gosh, they are so sweet. You will probably not see them on video. They’re not those sorts of kitties. They like to relax a lot. Yeah. Unlike the other ones where we were just at. I think they both made it in the video at certain times.

[00:00:38] All right, let’s talk about giving up you in relationship. Now, I have done this so much. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. With Hubby and even before Hubby. Hubby and I have been together 30 years, so I don’t have a lot of romantic relationships really to speak of or even that I remember much of.

But in any relationship we can be giving ourselves up. [It] could be a friendship. It could be a work relationship. It could be boss-employer. There’s all sorts of ways that we give ourselves up.

[00:01:10] This was actually inspired by a question that my friend Juliet, a famous author in New Zealand, had asked on one of my radio shows. She just said [about] being concerned about giving her creativeness up to be in a relationship.

[00:01:27] What we wanna look at with that is that the fact that you’re watching this or listening to this. If you’re listening via podcast and you’re considering this, you’re wondering about this, you’re in the question of this, to me, you’re already [a] million miles ahead of probably where you’ve been in the past.

[00:01:48] Again, if I look at my own life, if I look at people that I dated prior to Hubby, and there were a couple, I did. I gave myself up entirely. Now, even if I go beyond that and I go to friendship, I did that. I did that all the time.

[00:02:05] There was always this energy of, “I’ll be whatever they need me to be so they like me,” which sounds really pathetic but that’s really where I operated from for a lot of time and I’m grateful that I’ve changed that in a lot of ways. Is it perfect now? No. Are there still times that I’m aware of doing it? Yes.

[00:02:24] The cool thing with awareness is once I have the awareness, I can actually change it. But thinking back to all those years ago, I couldn’t change it because I didn’t even know what I was doing. I just thought that it was the right thing to do. I thought that’s how you were a friend. You just gave up all of you for whatever they needed. Some people like those sorts of friends, but most of us – not so fun to be around.

[00:02:51] The first thing with that is you wanna look at that for yourself. Do you have a habit of doing it? One of my sisters uses the phrase “toxic traits.” Is it one of your toxic traits? If it is, just acknowledge it. Be like, “You know what? I do that.”

Or maybe it’s just in certain situations. Maybe it’s just certain people. Maybe it’s not everybody. Maybe it’s just, you know, if it’s a male person — a male person, hmm? — a male that you wanna be in relationship with or a female that you wanna be in relationship with or a type of personality or something. You just wanna start being aware of it because, again, once you’re aware of it, you can start to change it and you can get curious about that.

[00:03:35] If it’s always in, let’s say, romantic relationships for you — let’s say you don’t do it in friendships, it’s just romantic relationships, then okay, great. Start paying attention to that. Start paying attention.

If you’re dating, maybe you’re doing the — trying to think of a Tinder, I was gonna say Twitter — Tinder or something like that, then start being really aggressively present when you’re on those apps, you’re out on a date, or you’re talking with somebody.

[00:04:00] Be so aggressively present that you recognize when you’re starting to go into that place of giving you up. It’s not about going to the opposite side of, “No, it’s gotta be my way. They don’t value me if it’s not my way.” It’s not that either.

[00:04:16] This is one thing I’ve seen with myself over the years. Once I started to become aware that that’s what I did and it wasn’t actually kind to me or even the other person is then it was like the other way. It was like, “I don’t wanna be their friend because we had to go to the movie they liked and it’s all about them.” No. What if you just include you?

[00:04:39] Let’s say you’re going on a date with somebody and they’re saying, “I’d really like to try this new restaurant that’s out. Would you like to go there?” Maybe it’s not your preference of food. You could look at that and say, “Hey, you know what? I don’t actually prefer that food. Could we go here, or is there somewhere else that we both would enjoy?” Rather than be like, “No, I don’t like that place and I’m not going there.”

It’s just a different way of being a person with somebody. How about that? [It’s] so that you can really start to voice what actually works for you, what actually you would like, and allow that to be part of the conversation.

[00:05:20] Again, like I said, there’s gonna be some people who really appreciate and really wanna be your friend when you give you up for them. Yeah. That may start weeding some relationships out.

I don’t mean we’re gonna do exclusion and say, “I never wanna be with them or anything,” but you might start, in a sense, losing friends or not having as many connections from certain people. What if you see that more as like an invitation or a celebration? If they just want you to be what they need you to be, do you really wanna be there?

[00:06:01] I’m thinking specifically about one gal. We were in psychiatric nursing together in, I believe it was Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. We were doing a little stint there in our training. She had a young son — that sounds so funny now. But I would often babysit so she could go out all night and party.

I would babysit for her, you know? I just think of that now and it’s like, “Really? What?” I mean, I do enjoy kids, but probably when I was — I would’ve been 18, 19 at the time. Hmm. Interesting.

[00:06:39] I think of that and it actually was okay when that friendship ended because it wasn’t actually a friendship. Now, you couldn’t have convinced me that of the time. At the time, “She was a very good friend,” I would’ve said, but not the type of friend. When I get clear on what I would like, who I would like in my life, and the energies I would like in my life in living, I probably don’t wanna hang out with her a lot.

We haven’t talked. I don’t actually even remember her first name. It’s been so long. So, that.

[00:07:12] We wanna recognize that by being us, by choosing and voicing what works for us and being willing to bring us to the table in certain conversations and situations, then there’s going to be people who aren’t interested and that’s okay.

[00:07:29] There’s lots of quotes out there about being, you know, having quality over quantity in every sense of the way. What if that includes friends? What if that includes relationships? And then really look at it.

[00:07:43] Again, if this is one of your toxic traits — it’s such a funny, funny phrase. If this is something you choose, then you might wanna look at what is that’s going on that you would give up you for somebody else?

What was going on in my world that I would spend all night with a child instead of going and partying with friends? Yeah. It was really this desperation for her to like me.

[00:08:08] The thing that I do remember in that relationship was that I really had her on a pedestal. She was older than me probably by 5 or 10 years. I don’t remember exactly. She just had a lot of her, from my judgment, a lot of her shit together, a lot of her life figured out, very confident – a lot of things that at that age, for me, I didn’t feel and I didn’t have. And so I really looked up to her and had her on that pedestal.

[00:08:44] When I look back across my life, that’s been one of the biggest things. The moment I put somebody on a pedestal, that’s when I will often give me up, which I would say is probably quite common for most people. If that happens to be something for you, it’s something for us to look at when we do that. When we put somebody on a pedestal, what are we actually doing?

[00:09:08] The other thing with that that you want to be aware of, and I only became aware of this probably in the past five or six years, is that anytime we put somebody on a pedestal, in order to empower ourselves, we have to knock them off.

Right? I know. We then have to find a way to make them wrong. We then have to find a way to fight with them maybe, to walk away in a huff, or there’s gotta be some sort of drama-trauma where we kick them off.

[00:09:43] And so, really pay attention when you put people on pedestals if that’s a thing for you, because you’re gonna create way more drama-trauma in your life than you actually require.

[00:09:56] Let’s go back to that situation for me. If I didn’t put her on a pedestal, I could still be inspired by her. That’s a different energy. But putting on her pedestal made her greater than me, bigger than me, everything more than me, which meant I gave myself up for her, to be like her, to hang out with her, for her to like me ’cause of all the stuff I’d attached to that rather than looking at her as the inspiration [and] going, “Wow, I’d love to be that confident. Wow, I’d love to have that part of my life figured out” or whatever it was and utilize that as an inspiration because then I could still be me, right?

[00:10:32] She’s still on the same level with me. I could still be me to be with her. I could still be me to be inspired by her. Even if she didn’t like me, I could still be inspired by her. But when I put her on a pedestal, all of that went away, except that she was everything and I was nothing.

[00:10:48] This was me doing that, okay? I’m not saying she walked around saying, “You should put me on a pedestal.” It was nothing like that. She certainly loved that I did. It certainly worked in her favor that I did that. So, recognizing that we don’t put people on pedestals.

[00:11:06] There was a quote I heard probably, I don’t know, 20 years ago, and it’s just always stuck with me in terms of how we compare our insides with somebody else’s outsides.

I could look at her life as an outsider and say, “Oh, she’s got it figured out. She’s so confident, she’s so this, she’s so that.” But inside, there was a probably hugely different story going on inside. She probably didn’t ever feel confident. She probably felt like her life was a mess. She probably, you know, all those things. But I’m looking from only one angle.

[00:11:41] If you are giving yourself up, there’s chances are you’ve put them on a pedestal and you wanna look at that. Maybe that’s a thing you do, and that’s something you want to, again, become so aggressively present.

[00:11:52] If you meet a new friend, if you start dating, where are you putting them? Are you making them everyone at the table? Or do you have a seat at the table? In what way does that [or] which of those works actually for you? A couple, you know, just some ideas with that.

[00:12:15] Also, recognize that there’s this whole idea of creationship, meaning can you and that other person, doesn’t matter what sort of a relationship it is, can you and them create more together or apart?

This is an ongoing question. This isn’t something that you decide on day one and it’s always and forever like that. It’s just something to be aware of. It doesn’t mean if you recognize one day that you create more apart than you do together that you need to leave them or end the relationship.

[00:12:52] It’s just something to be aware of because there’s such a place of possibility with that so that you can recognize that it’s not about pedestals. It’s not about everybody having a 50/50 part at the table. It’s really about how much more can you create if you’re together or if you’re not together.

Neither of those are right or wrong. This is, I would say, where a lot of people run into problems is because they’ve decided one is better. Creating more together is better than creating more apart. Is it? No, it’s just two different ways. It’s just a different way of looking at relationship.

[00:13:41] In this reality, a lot of times relationship is about how many years you’re together, and that the longer you’re together, the better. We celebrate how many years people are together, but you don’t often hear about a celebration of a divorce. Why the heck not? Why shouldn’t we have parties to celebrate when people choose that they’re better apart than they are together? It’s just a different way of being with it.

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What if You Effing Can?

Aug 6, 2023 | Radio Show

What if You Effing Can?

If you can dream it, you can do it.

“I can’t.” “It’s not possible.” “It won’t happen.” These words might have held you back from choosing or creating things you love at some point. Join me in this week’s episode as I share more magical tips and tricks to get out of that mindset of “I can’t” and into more possibilities!

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[00:00:00] What if you fucking can? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:12] We are still in Calgary. We’re at our sit that actually ends tomorrow. We have two sweet kitties here, and we go tomorrow to a new place with two more sweet kitties.

I guess she wanted to show you how sweet she is. She loves to climb [on] furniture and me and anything. She’s 8, but you’d think she was 2. If you’re watching this by video, you obviously can see this. But if you’re listening, the kitty just climbed up the chair.

[00:00:39] So, what if you fucking can?

This is something that I will often say to myself when I’m in that space of, “I can’t. It won’t happen. It’s too hard. I don’t know how,” all of that icky self-talk that doesn’t actually create anything — when I remember. It may not be right away, but I will eventually get to that point that I go, “What if I fucking can?” It changes the energy.

[00:01:10] It doesn’t mean, like, let’s say you wanted to run a marathon, and you’ve never even ran a kilometer or a mile. You maybe don’t do it in the next moment, but it opens up that door. It opens it up to the possibilities when you get out of the “I can’t” or “It won’t happen” or “It’s too hard” or all of that stuff [and] into “What if I fucking can?”

Maybe you don’t swear like I do so “What if I can?” You could use that instead. It just opens it up. And suddenly, what will start to occur is you’ll start to become aware of the things that will contribute to you creating or actualizing whatever it is.

[00:01:51] If it’s the marathon, maybe you come across a running group in your area or a trainer that does one-to-one training for marathons or stuff like that. It’ll just start to occur because you are energetically going in that direction.

[00:02:06] Think about that for a moment because what I want you to realize is when you’re going in the other direction of “I can’t,” “It’ll never happen,” “I could never run a marathon,” “I have too much extra weight,” [and] all this stuff, guess what you’ll become more aware of? All the reasons you can’t, all the ways it won’t happen, all the stories of people who tried and died… I mean, that might be a bit dramatic, but you know what I mean? So be really aware of that.

[00:02:35] Wherever your energy is, you’re gonna create more of that, meaning if you’re in the “I can’t,” you’re gonna create more of the proof that you can’t. If you’re in the “What if I fucking can?”, you are gonna create way more of that energy and then also, the ways to get you there.

[00:02:54] I would say for myself, in all the years that I’ve been playing with all the tools — right from, I would say, when I took my very first Reiki class in March of 2002. Oh my gosh, 21 years ago. I started reading all sorts of books about energy and creation and manifestation and actualization – all of that.

[00:03:13] When I read them, I would’ve told you what they were saying to me is sit on the couch, think all the good thoughts, and everything will show up at your door. Okay. I’m, again, being dramatic, but you get that idea. I really didn’t know about the actual piece of action or, probably better, I didn’t wanna know.

[00:03:35] So then I would do all the, I’m gonna call them the “easy things” to create or actualize what I desired, but they wouldn’t show up. And then I would go into the wrongness of me and “I must be doing something wrong” and just all the insanity of it, rather than just going, alright, “What if I fucking can?”

[00:03:55] The next question can be “What action’s required here?”

Sometimes the action required is a nap, is going out with friends… it isn’t necessarily the logical action. In terms of, say, the marathon, it isn’t necessarily the action of going out and training right away every day, all day. There could be multiple. Well, there will be multiple things, of course. We’re recognizing that we always can and that there’s going to be action involved with that.

[00:04:34] Here’s the piece that I think is really important for you to be aware of, and I look at this in myself. It’s “If I’m not willing to take the action, what is that?” It’s not about judging yourself about that. It’s about getting curious, like truly, what is that if you’re not willing to take the action?

[00:04:54] Again, let’s use the marathon as an example. Just so you know, I’m not interested in running a marathon. It’s an easy example to use here. If we use that example, you wanna run a marathon but you’re not training, you’re not talking to trainers or educating yourself about how you would train or any of that stuff, then what is that?

[00:05:22] Just to get curious, not about judging you, but curious because is there actually something,? Is it a belief that you need to change? Is it a limiting point of view? Is it that you don’t really wanna run the marathon?

Is it that you’ve got this, I often use the word “fantasy” where we’ve got this fantasy of this thing? I often talk about it in terms of, like for myself with coffee shops. I’ll go past a coffee shop and I’m like it’d be so cool to work there. I’d love to spend hours working in a fun, cute, little coffee shop. But then I go to do that and the noise bothers me, and I don’t like wearing headphones.

[00:06:03] So, it’s a fantasy! It’s whatever I’ve built it up in my head about doing this, you know, working in a coffee shop that isn’t actually true for me. Would I like to just sit and people watch? Absolutely. I’m happy to do that there. But to go work there? No. Do client sessions there? How do you do that?!

[00:06:20] Anyway, you wanna look at that. The thing you’re asking for, is that a fantasy? Is that something that you’ve decided would mean something about you? You’d be so good, you’d be so great, you’d be amazing, you’d be the one, whatever it is… yeah. Stop it if that isn’t.

I don’t mean if you’re not taking action, you need to throw out those asks. But you do wanna get curious because if it is just a fantasy and you’ve added a bunch of story, throw it out. Of course.

[00:06:50] Now, if it is just some limiting beliefs or some points of views or whatever that are holding you back, cool. That gives you a lot of space to play.

[00:06:59] One of my favorite tools, and I have shared this for years and years with that, right at the top of a piece of paper — now, I’m a pen and paper gal. Although in the last couple years, I’ve got more into, I can’t remember the name of them, but you can like erase off of the page. It’s like a pen and paper, but it’s not paper. You’re not throwing it out. You’re just erasing it at the end. It’s great. It’s like a notebook.

[00:07:22] Anyway, you’d write at the top:

“I can’t run a marathon because…”

Then you wanna write at least 10 becauses, probably more. Write down all the becauses.

I can’t because I have too much extra weight.

I can’t because I’m too old.

I can’t because I hate running. ‘

I can’t because… whatever it might be. All those things.

And then once you’ve got them, you wanna go through and clear those points of view. For some people, they like to take a list like that and rip it up as a kind of a symbol to acknowledge they’ve let go of them.

If you use tools from Access Consciousness®, the Interesting Point of View tool where you would read it:

“I can’t run a marathon because I’m too old. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view…” over and over until there’s no more point of view. Whatever way you like to get rid of those things, use that on all of those.

And then, put that list aside for a couple days. Then go back. Any of them that you don’t laugh at, you want to clear again. The ones that you do laugh at, you can scratch off. Maybe you’ve come up with some new ones and add those, of course, and then just keep doing that until there’s none left on there.

[00:08:36] And then, this is kind of an additional step that has really helped my clients over the years, [in] a new piece of paper:

“I can run a marathon because… “and then write down whatever comes up.

[00:08:52] You gotta get there. At least in my experience – I guess if you wanna try it, see if you can get there first. That’s great. But if you can’t, do the “I can’ts “first, clear those and then get into the “I cans”. We’re not clearing those. We’re just gonna start acknowledging, “Hey, I can because I do love to run, because, I do know how to train, because…” whatever it is. I mean, whatever yours might be, start getting excited with that.

[00:09:14] Again, going back to what action’s required. What action is required?

Probably not a lot of you are looking to run a marathon, so let’s use this in something that probably a lot of people are dealing with right now. You’d like more money, so let’s use you’d like an additional $5,000 a month. Let’s just use that. You can change that number [with] whatever you’d like.

[00:09:38] Same idea: ” I can’t create or actualize-” whatever the wording you prefer “-an additional $5,000 a month because it’s too hard, nobody’s spending money, nobody wants what I’ve got.” I mean, all the things. Whatever comes up, at least 10 of them. Go through and clear them whatever way you like to clear them.

[00:09:58] “I can create an additional $5,000 a month because I’m brilliant, because I always have my own back, because…” whatever it is, and get into that energy.

Okay… yes the fuck I can create an additional $5,000 a month. Yes, I can! Now, be open to the possibilities starting showing up. Be open to the ideas, the invites, all of that.

[00:10:29] I wanna say with that, it doesn’t mean… let’s say you go through that. After this, you go through and you do that whole exercise. You do it every couple days, and let’s say a week.

In a week, you are writing out your “I can” list, okay? And then, you get a phone call and somebody saying, “Hey, do you wanna come be on this marketing team for this blah, blah, blah?”

[00:10:50] Don’t assume. Don’t do the A + B = C. “I just cleared all my ‘I can’ts’ and now I’ve got ‘I cans’ and somebody invited me. This must be the answer.” Do not do that. Please do not do that because that’s not a question, that’s still the conclusion of, “Here’s the answer.”

[00:11:07] There is no answer. There’s possibilities, there’s choices, there’s action. So, question it. Be in question like, “Hey, what would it be like if I said yes to this? What would my life be like in 10 years, 20 years, 50 years if I said yes to this?” Start training yourself to become aware of, I kind of call them like the “pulls from the universe.” The universe will be pulling you in the way you’re asking to be pulled.

[00:11:36] Let’s go back to the first part of my conversation here, right? If you’re in the “I can’t and it won’t happen and I can’t” and all that, the universe will pull you that way, okay? The universe has no judgment. It’s not judging what you’re choosing, it’s just going along with you. If you’re in the “I cans,” the universe will pull you that way. So start paying attention to those pulls and being in question about it and following it.

[00:11:59] But even if you — let’s say somebody does invite you and it does feel like, “Yes, absolutely,” and then you start taking a few actions and it doesn’t feel so fun anymore, follow that. When we talk about following the energy, it’s never about following it with the first energy that showed up. It’s about continuously following the energy as if by magic.

[00:12:21] I would love to invite you guys to come and play. My Private Sessions are still on sale depending on when you’re watching this, so the link will be above or below. I would love to be working one-on-one with you, my sweet friends.

[00:12:33] Have a fabulous rest of your week and I look forward to chatting again next week.