A Tool When You Are Judgy McJudgerson

Jul 30, 2023 | Radio Show

A Tool When You Are Judgy McJudgerson

What can you do when you’re being a Judgy McJudgerson?

It can be difficult not to make judgments when faced with certain experiences or things we wouldn’t typically consider “normal” for us. But in turn, it can make us judge ourselves harder when we fall into the same situations or choose the same things we’ve previously judged. How do we change that? Tune in to this episode as I share the tool to assist you when you’re being a Judgy McJudgerson.

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[00:00:00] When you are being Judgy McJudgerson, what the heck do you do? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] Yeah. What do you do when you are Judgy McJudgerson?

For probably most of us — probably all of us here, that is the worst thing. What often occurs is we might judge someone else. We might judge an experience, a situation, whatever it is, and then we are way harder on ourselves because of the judgment we just did. What we wanna look at is how can we change that. How can we change the judgment in the first place?

[00:00:45] The first thing you wanna recognize is that… that’s going to occur. That judgment is going to show up. Now, will there be a day that you don’t judge? I mean, I wonder. Wouldn’t that be cool?

But also, it isn’t really about never judging again. I know a lot of times when I’m doing classes and sessions, I’ll say to people, “If you could get anything out of this, what would it be?”

A lot of people will say, “I never wanna judge again.”

And I say, “Let’s change that.” Let’s change that to more of an ask around really being aware when you’re doing it and changing it the moment you become aware of it. Yeah.

[00:01:27] If you’re watching this on video, my camera might start to shake a little bit. We’ve got a little kitty here. Yes, we are house sitting in Calgary still, and she just seems to like, as many cats seem to like, rubbing up against the tripod.

[00:01:41] But anyway, back to what we were talking about. We wanna look more at the ask to be way more aware when we are judging and whether it’s ourselves, someone else, something else, it doesn’t matter. And then in that moment that we become aware of it, let’s change it.

[00:01:59] Yes, this is what they do and yes, it’s okay.

[00:02:04] With that, we’re getting out of this, I’m almost gonna say, fantasy that we never judge again. Because a lot of times — I mean there’s so, so much to it.

[00:02:18] First off, I’m gonna say for probably most of us, it’s what we were taught. It was how we were taught to distinguish right and wrong. Now, I don’t mean that we were taught correctly. I don’t mean that that’s the way it should be. It’s just that’s pretty much what we were done.

This is how you do it: you judge to distinguish what is right and wrong for you based on what you’ve been told and all the pieces. So, that judgment is quite quick to come up.

[00:02:49] It’s not wrong, but we wanna recognize we have other ways that we can actually be. We could recognize that something that somebody is choosing doesn’t have to be wrong for them. Right?

That’s often where judgment comes in: we look at it [and think] we would never do it, we would never choose it. So then, it’s the judgment that they shouldn’t or they’re wrong, rather than recognizing — and this is the tool that I wanna share — [that] if you are in that space, just acknowledge for you.

[00:03:22] You don’t have to say it out loud as, “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.” Not from sarcasm, not from judgment, not from anything except just acknowledgement to you. “Wow… I wouldn’t choose that.”

[00:03:36] You know, now that we’re living in the city, it’s a lot louder in my world. For the most part, when we lived at our house with the big pool and all of that, I didn’t actually leave a lot. I really stayed at home most of the time. I had everything I needed there.

Here, we’re pretty much going out every day, and that’s something we’ve chose to do. Something we’ve really looked at how we would like to be living. One of those ways is to have a different experience. Try the things that maybe we would’ve tried.

[00:04:15] One of the things I would tell myself before when we lived on the acreage was I’d see maybe a farmer’s market. I’d see on Facebook [that] somebody had a farmer’s market locally, and I’d be like, “Oh man, if I live closer to town, I’d go,” which was actually just a really big lie because I wouldn’t. I had a little routine, and until we changed everything, I didn’t actually recognize how much of a routine I had, like, woah. How much of a routine I had!

Now, I’ve really chose to not have a routine. I’ve really chose to change things up. One of those changes is to go out every day. Do something different every day. It’s been different things, like the Calgary Stampede.

[00:05:01] If you know Hubby or I at all, that’s not where you’d find us, except that’s what we chose. I actually was surprised he joined me. I actually thought I would go alone or check in with some friends that live locally. Although, a lot of Calgarians don’t go to the Calgary Stampede, which is funny. But of course, it’s not for everybody.

I’m grateful that we went. I had fun. I went and watched… there was Powwow Championships, different types of dances, and it was amazing. And then there was a dog show – oh my gosh, that was so cool.

We, of course, had to try some fair food or Stampede food. I bought a corn dog – it was called a Big Pickle Corn Dog or something. Anyway, it went to the garbage. I had two bites and it was like, “This is gross.” But anyway, there were lots of different things.

[00:05:54] So, we were out every day trying something new. I’m with people every day and there is a lot of judgment out there. There is a lot of judgment of choices that people would be choosing that I just wouldn’t choose. What can assist me in that moment is that if I can just acknowledge what is – “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.”

[00:06:18] Some of the things that I saw going on at the Stampede – “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.” It doesn’t make me right in not choosing it. It doesn’t make me wrong and it doesn’t make them wrong or right either. It’s just an acknowledgement of what is. When we can acknowledge what is, that changes everything because acknowledging what is, there’s such a relief to it.

[00:06:43] A few weeks ago, I talked about how I had a lot of weird energy around leaving the acreage that we just sold. Some of it, of course, was all the things. But some of it was so weird and until I was able to acknowledge what it was, I didn’t have that relief. As soon as I acknowledged, it was like, oh my gosh… there’s the space.

[00:07:07] That’s what I’m looking for, especially when I’m out, say, at Calgary Stampede with thousands of people. I’m looking for that space. I’m interested in that space. I’d like to be that space and contribute to more of that space, but I can’t if I’m caught in the, “They shouldn’t do that. They’re wrong ’cause they’re doing that,” whatever it might be.

[00:07:25] I can’t even actually think of an example now. At the Stampede, I’m sure there were many of them. But there was just this space of recognizing that we don’t have to be the Judgy Judgerson that we’re so used to.

[00:07:40] I mean, go on any social media for a few minutes and recognize or start to look at the judgment from people, whether it’s in their posts and they’re saying how something is wrong or something is right, and then the people who are defending against or for it and all of that insanity rather than just like, “Wow… That’s not for me” or “I wouldn’t choose that,” however you wanna. Just acknowledge what is true. That will change everything for you.

[00:08:10] I feel like I’ve been saying that a lot over these past few weeks in sessions and videos and such because until you really get the power of that, it can seem like it’s just words. It’s just a weird way to deal with things.

[00:08:29] Even if you have somebody in your life that’s just driving you nuts right now, if you were to get really present with that and acknowledge what is – acknowledge that they’re driving you nuts – and I would even bring it down into what’s exactly going on. You know? ’cause that’s a pretty general statement. “They are driving me nuts.” What is really going on?

“Well, when they don’t text back, that drives me nuts or something.” You wanna get right down to the nitty gritty of it and acknowledge what is, and that can give you more information.

[00:09:01] That can give you more information in terms of like, let’s say it’s a client that you’re working with. They don’t get back to you when they need to. They don’t get you the information that you need to do your job, those sorts of things.

You can get clear like, “Wow… That’s really what’s bothering me. When they don’t get me the information I need Monday morning, then I can’t do my job until Tuesday morning when they get it to me. Okay, so what do I need to do here? Wow… I need to be clearer with them that…” whatever it is. Maybe that you get it Monday morning, or if there’s an additional charge every day that it’s late or something like that. It just gives you so much more information.

[00:09:40] But what happens is we get caught up in that Judgy Judgerson. We get caught up in how wrong they are and how bad they are, and then usually we tell all the people around us that will listen, which is only creating more of that drama-trauma, and then we’ve lumped it all together.

We’ve made it all one big story rather than, “Wow… it just really bothers me when I don’t get the stuff on Monday morning, that I’ve slotted their time on Mondays – that’s what works for me in my schedule.” Now, we’ve got clarity. Now, you can actually take some steps to change it.

[00:10:12] Maybe they will say to you, “Mondays don’t work for me.”

“Okay, cool. Then when would, and can you work it out?” If [they] can’t, that’s great information too. Be like, “Okay, cool. Thank you so much. We’ll let your contract go and you can go to somebody else.”

[00:10:30] I say all of this, guys, and it’s kind of funny as I’m saying this because Ericka, who does all of the work with all of the videos after I record them, I really do know that getting these recorded earlier in the week probably, she’s never said anything, but [it] probably makes her life easier and doesn’t leave her to the last minute to getting them done by the time she’s done work on Friday. It is in my world, certainly, to get them done sooner rather than later.

[00:10:59] Sometimes, they actually don’t get done until Wednesday or Thursday. I would say never Friday, but there could have been times. But I know there’s a lot of work that goes into these videos once they’re recorded.

[00:11:13] I’m talking about this, but also kind of laughing at myself going, man… I don’t have them to her Monday morning. I will say that. Maybe sometimes, maybe more so if I do a batch of recordings at once, but I tend to do them each week. I just find the energy in my world, the stuff that’s going on in my world is a little bit more ease to talk about. Anyway, I went off a little bit.

[00:11:38] So, recognize with that — when you are becoming Judgy Judgerson — that one, that’s okay. Don’t judge you for becoming Judgy Judgerson because now you’re just gonna dig a bigger hole.

You do wanna look at, “Okay, how can I change this?” and the tool that I have just found to be the quickest, the easiest in that moment is I just wouldn’t choose that. “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that,” and then carry on. I don’t mean [to] piece it apart, like, “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that because of this or this…” No. Just acknowledge what is and then carry on with your life.

[00:12:12] And recognize that we all have this infinite creative energy. Infinite creative energy. We can be putting that creative energy into judge, judgment, Judgy Judgerson, or into creating what we would like.

[00:12:30] Another way that you could shift it is looking at, “Okay, wow… I wouldn’t choose that.” If you find you still are going down the rabbit hole, what you could then look at is, “Okay, what would I like to create right now? What would I like to create?”

[00:12:48] [It] changes everything because chances are you wouldn’t like to create more judgment. You wouldn’t like to create more of that harsh energy, that unkindness, all of that. You’d probably like to create more space, more ease, more joy, more money, more magic, all the things, right? Once you recognize that you have a choice in that creation, then what’s actually possible?

[00:13:12] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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When the Price Increases

Jul 23, 2023 | Radio Show

When the Price Increases

Inflation driving you crazy? There are tools for that!

How do you deal with the rising prices of goods and services? It’s a question a lot of us are probably asking right now. Tune in to this episode as we talk about what you can do when everything is going up money-wise, as well as some magical tools to help you out.

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[00:00:00] What to do when the price increases? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you. Yeah.

[00:00:14] So, everything is increasing in price. Well, maybe not everything, but most things. Most of our day-to-day living expenses have increased in price. What the heck can we do?

[00:00:27] One thing you wanna really look at is where you’re judging that. We wanna be aware of it, yes. But the judgment of it is what’s going to kill your creative abilities, your creative capacities, to out-create the price increase.

[00:00:46] I don’t mean that you have to keep buying what you’re buying if it doesn’t work for you anymore. This is not what I’m saying. I’m not saying you have to keep buying everything. Maybe there’s some things that you don’t need to buy anymore.

Maybe there’s some things that… maybe you’ve always bought Heinz Ketchup, and maybe there’s a no name brand that you would like as much and the price is different. I use Heinz Ketchup. I don’t actually know. I use it as an example. I don’t actually know if there’s been a price increase, but I’m pretty sure because it seems like everything, there’s a price increase.

[00:01:19] And yes, we have cats here, so you might be hearing some. She would like outside, but I need to go with her. She will be patient, I’m sure, as cats are.

[00:01:32] Anyway, when we look at that, we look at it from when there are things that you would like to purchase that the price has increased, stop the judgment. Just acknowledge what is. We don’t wanna pretend. “Oh no, that it hasn’t went up at all. No, it’s the same!” No. It’s went up.

Is it still gonna contribute to you purchasing it? If so, okay. Now what? What’s required? What is actually required to have the money to purchase the thing or things or whatever it might be?

[00:02:05] For a lot of people, I know right now, it’s truly just groceries. That’s the only thing that they’re really putting their money into because everything else – housing and utilities and all of that – has went up so much. They don’t have a lot of extra, and that’s fine too, because probably groceries are the most important thing aside from those other things.

It’s looking at that and not from the place of you’re wrong or bad because you don’t have the money for the other things you used to purchase or maybe not the necessities. Again, it’s acknowledging what is but never seeing yourself as a victim to it.

[00:02:43] It’s really recognizing that you are the source of everything in your life and your living. That’s the way I see it. You don’t have to see it that way, but I see it as I am the source of my life and my living and I don’t shut off my awareness to this reality. I don’t pretend [that] I’m the source so I’m going to fly a private jet anywhere I want in the world, anytime I want, and I’ll just put it on a credit card – no. That’s not part of being the creator of your life and your living. It’s acknowledging what is.

[00:03:14] Let’s say you bring in $1000 a month and your expenses have went up. Maybe now it’s costing you $1,500 to live a month. Okay. Then actually, what’s required? An additional $500. What’s it gonna take to actualize that? Can you get a part-time job? Can you get a side hustle? What is actually required?

[00:03:38] What happens is that so many people have that occur and then they go into how wrong they are or bad they are, or how wrong it is or bad it is – the whole situation. All of that judgment just kills all of the possibilities. It really is about looking at it all as what would you like to create, what would you like it to be like, and what is required to actualize that.

[00:04:07] Now, not from fantasy. We could all say, “What would you like it to be like?” “Well, I’d like it to be like I have a million dollars deposited in my bank account every day for the rest of my life. That’s what I’d like it to be like,” but we don’t. We don’t live in that. We ask for that – absolutely. We get the energy of that. We utilize that to create and co-create with us – absolutely.

[00:04:30] But we don’t live from the fantasy of that’s what we would like and that’s what we’re asking for, so that’s what’s gonna show up, so I’m gonna keep overspending on my credit card. No, we look at what is actually gonna create what we’re asking for. If that means that some of the things that we used to buy, we don’t buy for a while, cool.

[00:04:52] Right now, I’ve never been so grateful to have chose what we’re choosing because our expenses are, you can imagine, probably a quarter, actually, I think a third or a quarter of what they used to be when we had a house and we had all the other things. There’s a drastic difference for us with that.

I didn’t choose it for that. I’m so fricking grateful for that space right now to be able to look at, okay, so what then? So what then? What would I like to create? What is fun for me?

[00:05:26] My Shopify store has been so much fun for me. You’ll notice that most of my stuff I’ve actually decreased the price of. My one-to-one sessions, previous programs, all of that, because I recognize that a lot of people are not able to pay what they could before.

[00:05:48] My target really is to have people be able to change their lives with what I’m offering: with the sessions, with products, with programs, whatever it is. That’s my target. I look at that. I look at what’s going on in the world and I don’t pretend, and I don’t live in fantasy, although probably at times, I do. But I really look at that and I go, “You know what? This is what actually works right now.”

Will it change? Probably! Who knows and what direction? I know for sure change is always the thing. Change is always the thing. We always are changing no matter what.

[00:06:29] When prices change, basically you’ve got a couple, well, you’ve got a bazillion choices. But you can go into the judgment of it, you can go into the wrongness of it, or you can be honest with what is. What is for you, where you’re at, what’s required, and what do you love? What is lighting you up in ways that are contributing?

[00:06:53] If you’re having to use a credit card or lines of credit or something like that To purchase those things… believe me, I have lived there. I have done that a lot in my lifetime where I use the credit cards and then regretted it after. So, really look at those things. If you are requiring to use a credit card to pay for those things that are nurturing and light you up, is there another way?

[00:07:23] I would say there is always another way. There’s always another way. I don’t mean that you say, “I would like to buy this new car, and Glenyce says there’s always another way so I’m gonna go steal it.” That’s not what I’m talking about. It’s just being creative and being open to it and being willing to receive from everything for the ways that it could show up. For the ways that it could show up, how many ways.

[00:07:52] This is a question I love to ask every day depending – the end of the question is always different, but you know? “Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with ______ showing up today…,” of course my favorite, “as if by magic?”

[00:08:07] I ask the universe and I see the universe as me, as the earth, as all the beings on it and in it and around it, and all of the things and everything. The universe, to me, is everything including me. I’m not talking to a big energy outside of me that’s greater than me. I’m including me.

[00:08:29] So universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with this car showing up as if by magic? That might be a car loan. That might be, somebody giving you a car that’s maybe not the car you would like, but it’s a car. There’s so many different ways if we can get out of the, “I don’t have the money, but I need to have this thing so I have to use my card or whatever.”

[00:08:56] Now, if you don’t mind using your credit card, if that works for you, please don’t think that I’m telling you [that] you shouldn’t. I just know from my own experience. The years that I dug myself into credit card debt and all of the past expenditures and all of that before changing it back in May of 2014, I know the hell that was. And I know the magic it is when I’m not doing that.

[00:09:24] For me, it just really works for me not to have the extra stress because that’s how I carry it. It’s [the] stress of credit card debt, line of credits, past expenditures, all of those things. That is a huge stressor for me. If that isn’t for you, that’s totally fine, but I am speaking to the people that it is for so that you can really look at how many other ways.

[00:09:48] As the prices of things go up, how many other ways can you receive what you would like? How many other ways can you acknowledge what is, so there’s a level of honesty with yourself of what you actually require?

[00:10:05] Can you get out of that… it’s like that fear of missing out, you know? I used to really operate from that probably at times. Still do. If I don’t go to that class, if I don’t do that thing, if I don’t buy that stuff, then again, I’m too different from other people.

[00:10:24] That fear of missing out is such an abuse to ourselves because there’s no awareness in that. If we’re purchasing something, we’re joining something, or we’re doing something based on not feeling left out or not being afraid that we’ll miss something, that’s not an honoring of us.

[00:10:46] And then usually what happens is once we do the thing, buy the thing, have the thing, then we’re really disappointed because it didn’t give us what we thought it was going to, what we told ourself it was going to, which is such a huge gift in the sense of we can then start to acknowledge like, “Wow, okay. When I did that thing, afterwards I felt icky. Damn, I knew. I knew I was doing it to fit in.” The next time that energy comes up to choose something to fit in, you’ll be so much more aware of it. It’ll give you so much more information.

[00:11:19] It’s also not about judging you when you have that space of, “Oh my gosh, I bought the thing to fit in and now…” no. It’s like, “Okay, cool. You know what? I got more awareness. I have more awareness now.” that’s really what it’s all for. It’s never that what you choose is right or wrong.

[00:11:36] If you have credit card debt or past expenditures or line of credits or any of that, those are not wrong. If you’re like me and that’s a huge stressor for you, then what’s required to actually eliminate those? There’s so many ways and things in that. But again, ask, “Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with me paying this off as if by magic” or whatever the wording might be for what you’re asking.

[00:12:05] Recognize that sometimes it’s not what you think. Sometimes it’s not where you wake up in the morning and all this money’s in your bank account. Hmm… what would it take? I mean, let’s be willing to receive that. But a lot of times it is, maybe, in the form of a debt… is it consolidation? I think when you put all your debt together and then you have one payment and you pay it off. Maybe it’s that, maybe it’s something else. Who knows?

[00:12:29] But we recognize that what is right now is that the prices of things are going up. We could say, “That’s an interesting point of view,” except it’s also what is. We know this. I was gonna say maybe it’s just North America, but no. It’s around the world.

[00:12:47] Everything is going up money-wise, and the prices are going up. How can you be with that? How can you receive from that? How can you actually really get present with what is and then utilize it to your advantage? How do you do that? I wonder. Just ask. How can I utilize all of these price increases to my advantage?

[00:13:16] The universe will show you. The universe responds to every question you ask, my sweet friends. Every question you ask. It’s just that usually the questions we’re asking are not. questions that we would like to be answered like, why is everything so expensive? Why can’t I pay my bills? Why is money so hard? Those are not questions you want the universe answering, my sweet friends. Start asking questions you would like the universe answering for you.

[00:13:42] Again, my sessions have decreased in price. If you would like to check them out, you’ll find the link above or below. Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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2 Most Asked Questions

Jul 16, 2023 | Radio Show

2 Most Asked Questions

Let’s answer the two most asked questions since Hubby and I made our big change.

Hubby and I have been making BIG changes in our lives lately which got a lot of people wondering how things have been for us so far. Join me in this episode as I answer the top 2 questions we’ve been receiving a lot since we decided to take the leap. Got a question yourself? Just reach out and we’ll get to it!

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[00:00:00] The two most asked questions since Hubby and I made our big change. Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful.

[00:00:14] I am in Calgary, Alberta. We’re house sitting for two sweet little kitties. I’m sitting on the front porch doing this video. [It’s] just the best lighting right now so you might hear some road noise and such.

[00:00:28] However, the two most asked questions. I actually did a Facebook post about this not that long ago, the number one question being, “Are you retiring, Glenyce?”

No. No, I am not. This is a funny thing for me because I honestly can’t even imagine retiring. I can’t imagine not doing what I love to do. It’s not something I have ever really planned on. It’s not something I’ve ever really — I know a lot of people dream of it, that one day.

[00:01:04] And, “Are things different in the business?”

Absolutely. Things are really different in the business, and things have been really changing in the business for at least the past year. Thankfully, I have been willing to be aware of that and have made some changes in the business so that I’m not relying on classes, especially in-person classes as I used to.

[00:01:29] I will certainly still be doing online stuff. I will certainly still be doing in-person classes in probably more places than before because we are gonna be in more places than we have been in the past, at least the past few years.

[00:01:43] Now, if you’ve been around since before COVID, then you would know I used to travel. We used to travel all the time, all around the world doing classes. And then of course, for a few years we didn’t. Now, I will put them on as I feel drawn, depending on where we’re at. I’m not sure about Calgary. We’re here for about a month, so probably something. Who knows?

[00:02:08] I did get to go to an event last night though. My sweet friend Julie has these most magical events. Usually, I’m a 3-hour drive away. Of course now, I was a 30-minute drive away, so we went.

[00:02:20] It was Access Bars Swap with horses. Oh my gosh, it was amazing. I might even have some video to put in here to show you guys. I left my camera in the car when Hubby dropped me off, so if I can borrow a video from somebody, I’ll put it in because it was so incredible, so magical.

And then, I will also be, for sure, in Chicago in October. I will be putting something on there, too.

[00:02:48] Anyway, I am not retiring. That is that. And, are things different? Absolutely. Is how I work in my business different? Absolutely, and I’m actually loving it.

[00:03:00] What I mean by that is that, I would say I had a routine. Now, I didn’t plan to have a routine. I just had a routine when we were living before at our beautiful acreage, and now I don’t have a routine and I’m not interested in creating one.

[00:03:19] One of the things that Hubby and I are choosing every day while we’re here is to go do something. Go do something. It doesn’t have to be something that costs money, but just to go do something just to really challenge ourselves to, one, not create a routine of our day, of what happens throughout the day.

[00:03:36] And also, we’re somewhere… who knows? We may never come to another sit in Calgary again. I tell you, there’s a lot here. There’s a lot. We are actually going to, I cannot believe it myself, but we’re gonna go to the Stampede. I know. I know. I’m shocked, too. Maybe we will last 10 minutes. Who knows? But we’re gonna give it a shot.

[00:04:00] [It’s] just something different every day. Yesterday, the Bar Swap with horses was our something different. Today we’re off to walk around an area in Calgary.

[00:04:09] I used to live here, actually, back in 1993. My goodness. I was in my final year of psychiatric nursing. I did a practicum at the prison in Calgary. The area that I loved, which I think most people who’ve been to Calgary love, is called Kensington. That’s where we’re gonna hang out today.

[00:04:31] Anyway, I got a little bit off track. So, not retiring. [I’m] going to continue to follow the energy with the business and do the things and all of that.

[00:04:41] Of course, if you’re not on my email list, you might wanna get on there. I do have a weekly sale in my shop, which has just been magical. And then also, of course, a weekly newsletter. You’ll see a link above or below to join the email list.

[00:04:58] Now, the second most asked question—and this one is kind of funny to me, but not really. I can see where people would be wondering. “How do you manage without your closet?”

[00:05:14] Luckily in May, about a month before we moved or we left our beautiful acreage, we went to Nova Scotia. I facilitated Bars and Foundation in Nova Scotia, and so we packed for a week. When we came home from that, I said, “Huh, I’m actually just gonna pack for a week.” Right now, that’s ease because we are in temperatures that will stay the same.

[00:05:41] When we head to the US in September—we’ll be in the US September, October, November, and part of December—we will have a few different temperatures that we will need to be planning for. There will of course be fall and then there will also be winter, and then we’re in Texas for six weeks so that’ll be a little bit different. I will not be able to just pack for a week, but also it’s not that difficult with layers and stuff.

[00:06:10] I would say I don’t really notice if I don’t have all my clothes available, even here now. We’ve been here five or six days so far. It’s been a couple weeks since we have handed over the keys to our, previous home so I’ve actually had that experience. I have lived with the same clothes for those couple of weeks. Obviously, washing machines are everywhere we’re going, so that’s been ease and I haven’t missed anything or wished I had packed something. It’s doable. It really is.

[00:06:49] I know there’s a lot of people who love their clothes and love to have access to all their clothes all the time, so that might not be ease for you. But for me, it really is. It’s a simple way to not have a lot of choices when I’m getting dressed, when I look at what I have to put on and then just, you know. Sometimes, like today, probably I’ll take a sweater with me. It’s a little bit cooler, which has been nice because it’s been super hot here.

[00:07:19] So yeah, those are the two questions. The most asked questions are, “Am I retiring?” no. And, “How are you living without your closet?” I mean, it might be a little bit different. I did pack two dresses. I do like my dresses. It might be a little bit different once I start doing some in-person classes and such because I do like to maybe be a little bit dressier for those. And then maybe it’s an excuse to go buy clothes. I mean, who knows?

[00:07:47] So far, guys, I know it hasn’t been all that long, but so far we’ve really been enjoying this. This is what’s surprising to me. There hasn’t been a time that I’ve missed our previous home. That’s weird because it has been so hot here other than today. It’s been so hot that I would have loved that pool. But [I’ve] not missed it, not regretted my choice, not wished we were there. It’s shocking to me in that sense.

[00:08:21] I also know it was so time. It was so time for us to do this and I just love how everything just worked out as if by magic. And here we are, on our kind of first official sit as full-time house and pet sitters.

[00:08:36] We have our webpage up now. We have some social media out there. It is www.pawsitivelyawesomehousesitter.com, and I believe that’s the same name on all the social media outlets. We’ll put a link maybe if we can to the webpage, and then you can find the social media links. We’re just doing fun little posts here or there with the animals that we’re with.

[00:08:59] One of the kitties here—this family has a baby. They left the seat that the… I don’t know what they’re called, but you’d set the baby in, strap the baby in while you’re maybe doing dishes or whatever, whatever those seats are called. But they left this seat because one of the kitties loves to sleep in it. Oh my gosh, it’s so cute. It’s so cute.

[00:09:22] Anyway, those are the questions. If you guys have more questions you would like me to reply to, you can just post them below or above. Or if you’re listening to this on the podcast, you can email them to me at info@glenycehughes.com. I’m happy to share whatever it is that you might be wondering about with all of these changes for Hubby and I.

[00:09:45] Have a great week, sweet friends, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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A Magical Awareness

Jul 9, 2023 | Radio Show

A Magical Awareness

What is your awareness telling you?

Have you ever had a magical awareness that created so much relief in your world? In this episode, I share this one moment where I had the magical awareness that completely changed everything for me, especially at a time when there’s so much change going on and we just had to make sense of it all. Sounds relatable? Listen in to know more!

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[00:00:00] Have you ever had a magical awareness that created so much relief in your world? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:16] If you’re watching this by video, you’ll see something really cool behind me. You might not know what that is, but that’s actually a swimming pool. You might not know what that big thing around it is, but that is a granary. We use them in Canada, probably the US, probably many places actually.

[00:00:36] This whole Airbnb that we’re staying at has just created the most unique setup. This one has a pool in it. The one over there has a hot tub in it. The one here, you actually walk through to get to this beautiful, magical place. It’s so cool. If you want, head over to YouTube to watch all of the different pieces in this. It’s just an amazing Airbnb. Now, let’s talk about an awareness that I had.

[00:01:06] It was actually in my very last swim in our beautiful swimming pool before we handed the keys over to the new owners. I have really been sometimes struggling with the changes. I knew it was time to go. I knew being at our beautiful home… I knew we were done there. I knew it was time to go on and live our magical dream of traveling the world, house and pet sitting.

[00:01:37] And yet, there are times when this really weird sad–but I’m not even sure that’s the correct word–energy would come up, and I would just break into tears. I was unconsolable – and I don’t mean like that I needed anybody to console me, but I couldn’t even console me. It was just this really weird, weird energy.

[00:02:01] I would say that this had went on for probably the last six weeks. Not constantly, thank goodness. There were certainly times where I was sad because of the change and choosing something different, and times where I felt terrified because of the change and choosing something different and all the things. There were so many pieces to it, but there was that weird energy.

[00:02:26] And so I was laying in the pool my very last day there. We handed the keys over at noon. It was 10:30 in the morning and I was floating. It was the most beautiful, clearest, hot day, and it was incredible. That energy was coming up again – that bizarre sadness.

[00:02:49] I was like, “What is this?” which is a really great question. I’d asked it actually many times. It wasn’t the first time I’d asked the question, but I was really curious. What is this?

[00:03:02] What I knew was if I left that place, if I left our beautiful previous home we could call it, and that energy, it didn’t actually match what was true for me. What was true for me was I was excited to go forward. I was excited to come to new, unusual Airbnbs and house and pet sitting. I’m so excited for that. But then this weird energy, it doesn’t match that.

[00:03:29] I’m laying in the pool and I was just so, so curious. What is this?

I realized… finally, I had the awareness that changed everything for me. Somewhere along the way, I had this very interesting point of view that that home, that pool, that space was as good as it gets.

[00:03:54] I know, right?! I, of all people, know that it can get better and better and better if we’re willing to ask, right? Like the question: How does it get any better than this? But I hadn’t acknowledged to myself that that’s where I was operating from. “This is it. This is as good as it gets.” What?! That match that energy. That’s where the, again, I’m using the word “sadness” but it didn’t quite match it. It was like everything was gonna be downhill from that.

[00:04:27] It’s so funny to think about now, but that was the energy. I cannot tell you the relief it gave me, the space it gave me. This is a tip, guys. When you have an awareness that you have that release and you have that relief and you have that space, you’re acknowledging what is.

[00:04:49] It wasn’t that I’m acknowledging that this is as good as it gets – no. I’m acknowledging that that’s the lie I was operating from. No wonder I would have this bizarre, sadness and all the crazy. Of course, because it wasn’t true. It was like my awareness was trying to get my attention. Yeah. It truly changed everything for me.

[00:05:14] For me, when we have things like this going on where maybe it makes sense, we could say that of course, it makes sense that I was feeling sad about leaving that beautiful home and doing something different, even though I’m really excited about it. We can justify that sad energy.

[00:05:33] It’s also why, to me, it’s important that we pay attention to the actual, in a sense, the energy behind the energy because what I would have maybe called “sadness,” it was so much more than that. There was such a funky, heavy energy on it.

[00:05:47] I remember talking to some of my friends. It was like, I don’t get it. It doesn’t match what I’m feeling. And yet, it’s still there and it would come up often really where I wouldn’t even think it would like in the most unexpected places and times, and then I would just cry.

[00:06:10] We could really buy into, “This is the way it is. This is how I’m feeling. This makes sense.” But we wanna pay attention to the energy behind the energy so that when it does have that wonk, even though it might make sense, we can “logicize” it.

[00:06:27] Check in with the energy behind the energy because that’s giving you more information. In my case, it was just a lie. I had somehow picked up or bought or created this lie that that place is as good as it gets. My goodness. My goodness! I still cannot tell you the relief in my world.

[00:06:45] The coolest thing, the absolute coolest thing, is I have not shed a tear since that moment. Now, it’s not wrong to cry when you’re changing. It’s never wrong to cry, of course. I don’t mean that. It’s really that. I actually am in alignment energetically with what is true for us.

[00:07:04] When I left there at noon, well, it was 10:00 to noon. I didn’t wanna get caught there in my swimsuit. When I left there, it was pure gratitude. Pure, pure gratitude. Not a weird teary, cry-ey, upset – none of that. I was just really freaking grateful for that place and really tapped into what that beautiful home was asking for, which is some kids to play.

[00:07:37] It’s funny because the previous acreage we had before that one, that was also the energy that I got from that acreage. It really was ready to have kids again. There’s a different energy that kids bring than Hubby and I do. Of course we have his his grandkids and his great grandchild that would come and play and stuff, but the houses, both of these acreages, were looking for full-time kids.

[00:07:58] And so I was able to leave so excited and so grateful for them and also for us and what we can go choose now. What is possible for us now without having a home and all of the things?

[00:08:13] Especially without having a home without a kitty in it. This has been, I would say, one of the most difficult times for Hubby and I in the sense that we’ve never not had a kitty or multiple kitties in the house. To not have one since September, that’s many, many months. I’m [still] very grateful. In a few days, we’re actually gonna head to Calgary for a month and hang out with two sweet little kitties.

[00:08:40] This is the other granary where you basically park over there and you walk through. There’s a beautiful water fountain, and then you walk into this beautiful space with just so much yumminess.

[00:08:54] With all of that, what I encourage you to look at in your life is where are the funky energies, the heavy energies, the icky energies, the weird energies? Even if they make sense, just check in. What’s the energy behind that energy?

[00:09:08] And then the question is, “What is this?” Get curious because here’s the thing: We’re not crazy. We’re not wrong. We’re not bad. We’re not ridiculous. We’re not stupid. All those things that usually we go to, the judgment that we usually do of ourselves, we’re not those things. That I know for sure.

[00:09:30] Even when I first started having that kind of sad, weird, funky energy come up, I remember saying to my friend, “I feel crazy.” I feel crazy because I’m so excited, and yet here I am, packing up a box and ,whew, the water works and the weirdness and all of that.

[00:09:47] But we’re not crazy. What we are, though, is we are aware. That’s where we wanna start, looking at and questioning, “Okay, what is this? What is this?” Not from judgment or harshness or anything, but just through “What is this?” so that we can actually acknowledge ourselves. Again, when we acknowledge what is for us, the relief, the space, the possibilities… I cannot even tell you, my sweet friends. I cannot even tell you the magic in that.

[00:10:18] This is the third granary. This is the one that has the hot tub in it. Oh my goodness. We actually haven’t used it that much because it’s been really hot here. However, in the winter, I can only imagine how incredible that is.

[00:10:31] Remember, you’re not crazy, you’re not evil, you’re not wrong, you’re not bad. You are aware. Start asking, “What is this?” Get curious. Once you acknowledge whatever it is you’re aware of, that relief, that’s where the magic is.

[00:10:45] Thank you so much for watching and listening. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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One Way I Create Magic

Jul 2, 2023 | Radio Show

One Way I Create Magic

A weird yet magical tool, indeed!

With all the AWEsomeness happening in Hubby and I’s lives recently, I am excited to share the thing I have been doing that has contributed to us creating not only the magic of the past few weeks, but years and years of it. If you’ve been waiting for something to occur or turn out, tune in to this week’s episode and use these tools for yourself!

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[00:00:00] There’s this weird thing that I do that actually creates magic in my life. Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:15] Yeah, that is our sweet house behind me for just a few more hours. Yeah, this is the last evening. Tomorrow at noon, we hand the keys over. We say goodbye to her and that sweet swimming pool. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. And yes, there’s been lots of tears, and there’s also a lot of excitement. I was just sitting out on the deck really looking at all the magic that was created with this whole process.

[00:00:48] I initially got the energy of selling back in May of 2022, and we took a little bit of action. We had a couple of real estate agents come out. We chose one. I emailed her, and she replied, and I could not email her back. That was June of 2022. Yeah. Weird, except it totally wasn’t. It totally wasn’t.

[00:01:21] I was aware of what was coming. If we would’ve sold last summer, it actually would’ve meant we would’ve bought another house. We would’ve sold this house and bought something else because we still had our sweet kitty Totty.

[00:01:35] That’s pretty much, I think, what we’ve had our houses for is our sweet kitties, and of course, we enjoy them too. But with her being sick in September and us having to say goodbye to her, it opened it up so that we could actually choose what we had been talking about choosing for so long and sell everything and start traveling the world full time.

[00:02:02] When I look at all the different pieces – I mean, that was just one little piece, but there’s so many pieces up until this moment. When I look at that, I would say that one thing that I do and have done for years and years is I acknowledge that everything has an energy of its own.

[00:02:20] That sweet house back there has an energy, a consciousness of its own. Even the very first time that we came and looked at it, I energetically asked it, “Hey, would you like us to live in you?” And I got a yes.

[00:02:35] We at the time had another acreage to sell. So, I asked if this acreage could contribute to the sale of that acreage so we could come move in here, along with asking the other acreage who no longer desired us to live there to contribute to this working out.

[00:02:54] I treat everything as though it’s its own energy because in my world, it is. One of the things that I’m constantly doing with all the things is asking it to override my insanity.

[00:03:11] So, this house. “Hey house, can you override my insanity?” meaning if I was standing in the way of something, there was going to be a way that it could override me. It could look at what it really desired and override that insanity of mine.

[00:03:31] I’m constantly doing that with everything: with my sweet body, with my business, with money flows, everything. I just give it permission. “Hey, just go ahead and override my insanity here,” which then allows it to create so much more magic than I never even knew was possible.

[00:03:52] I could probably write a book on this whole sale of this house and how all the pieces truly as if by magic, and I know it’s from allowing things to override, to do what they would like to do instead of me being what I joke as the “Bossy Bosserson.”

[00:04:12] I actually can say, “Hey house…” I knew it was asking to be sold, so “Hey house, take over. Show me who you would like to list it.” It showed up as a random Facebook message from Corey, that turned out to be a realtor, about something I’d posted in a group months before. I mean, so much magic.

[00:04:36] And so it knows. It knows what it would like. It knows who it would like. It knows who it would like to come and live here.

[00:04:45] Sorry, guys. I’m outside, so that means I’m dealing with mosquitoes and bugs. But I had to have this beautiful home in the show, in the video. If you’re listening to this, you might wanna hop over to YouTube. It’s in various places on Facebook also, just to see this and really receive the contribution that this home has been to us.

[00:05:09] As we allow things to override our insanity… Before I finish that sentence, let’s go back for a moment because you might not be there. You might not be ready to do that and that’s actually okay. You do not have to be. You do not have to do this.

[00:05:27] I was playing with energy for a few years, actually probably many years, before I was willing to do this because what it actually takes is the willingness to be out of control.

[00:05:42] I know, right? It’s a big one, and I’m willing. I don’t mean I always choose it, believe me, I do not always choose it, but I’m way more willing than I’ve ever been before to really just be like, “All right, show me. Universe, show me.”

[00:05:58] I’m also willing to follow that energy. If something, when I’m going a certain way, starts not flowing and not feeling yummy and expansive, then all right, time to make another choice. Time to make another choice and follow that.

[00:06:16] I often refer to it as like a dance where we’re dancing with the energy, with the possibilities, with all of the energies that are contributing to us, including beautiful homes or now that we’re gonna be off house sitting and pet sitting around the world, those places.

[00:06:34] I’m constantly saying, “Hey guys,” meaning all the animals that would like to play with us, “Show me, pull me, bring me to you,” because I don’t have to figure it out. I don’t have to figure out exactly where we are, where we wanna go, and what sits match that. None of that. We get to just flow.

[00:06:55] Even probably six months ago, our idea was that we would actually be out right away. We would head out probably down to the US right away, and that’s not actually occurring. We’re actually gonna be in Saskatchewan and Alberta for July and August. That’s super cool, not really what we’d plan. And then on September, we’re off down into the US and such for different sits. I’ve got a class in Chicago and such.

[00:07:26] All these different magical things [occur] when we start to let go, when we start to basically receive from everything around us without being the Bossy Bosserson.

[00:07:37] I know that’s a big thing for many of you. I know this because it used to be for me. I also know from classes and sessions that this is something that we often hang on so tight. We decide that the only way to have something occur or turn out is to push and to force and to make it happen. What if it isn’t?

[00:08:00] What if it isn’t? What if everything has your back? What if everything is contributing to you and would love to contribute to you creating and living your most magical life? What if? Would you be willing to receive from it all? To be willing to know that you have all these fans, all these trees that are around me, this beautiful house, this grass, and all the bugs, even though I’m kind of swishing them away?

[00:08:34] We could see them as our fans. They’re all rooting for us. They’re all contributing and doing everything. Here’s the thing: they’re doing everything we’re willing to receive from them that they can do. Did I say that? Oh my gosh. Yeah. It’s true.

[00:08:55] If you’re only willing to receive a little, little, little bit, then that’s what they will gift you. I’m not sure that’s actually true. They’re (everything) gonna gift you a bazillion percent, and you will receive from it what you will receive from it. How much more could you receive? How much more could you just let go of control?

[00:09:14] If you normally drive to work one way, could you try another way? Or at least not go into autopilot as to, okay, off to work and we go this way and this is the way it’s always done. Maybe just like, “Hey body, which way would you like to drive? Hey car, which way would you like to drive today?”

[00:09:32] Start having a little bit of fun. Start lightening up with some of this stuff to really get a sense of what it is like to co-create your magical life and living with everything – with the universe, with everything you’re asking for.

[00:09:50] I have a quote that I’ve said for years. We’ve got it out in different social media.

What you are dreaming of is asking for you, too.

It’s not just you dreaming this dream. Let’s say you would like to, I don’t know, have a big house with a swimming pool. Often, it feels so separate because you think it’s just you. You think you’re on your own. You think it’s like, “I’ve gotta do all these things to make that occur.”

[00:10:20] But if you’re dreaming of a big, beautiful home with a swimming pool, it’s dreaming of you too, which means you can gift and receive with it, right? Such a totally different space than pushing and forcing and making it happen, and then judging yourself when it doesn’t happen.

[00:10:42] Let’s stop that insanity, guys. Let’s allow everything around us, if you’re willing, to override your insanity, to start choosing what it’s asking for.

[00:10:58] Notice that I put specifically “what it’s asking for” because honestly, I would have to say, especially in these past few weeks, if I was doing this house sale from my insanity, I’m not sure it would’ve occurred because there were times where I was pretty sure I didn’t want it to occur. I do, and there’s still a lot of stuff.

[00:11:18] This is truly a dream I didn’t know that I had come true. I say that because I never considered, as much as I love swimming pools, as much as I love water, I never considered ever that I could own a beautiful home with a swimming pool ever for so many things. I had so many interesting points of views about them. When we actualized this, it was truly a dream I didn’t know come true – I didn’t know that I had come true.

[00:11:53] How many dreams do you have that you don’t even know are possible that you could allow to come true by receiving from everything, by acknowledging that they’re dreaming of you too? That it’s just a matter of letting go of control, getting out of the crazy, out of this idea of “it has to look this way” or “it needs to be like this,” or “I can’t because,” or all that insanity and just get the energy?

[00:12:24] What is it you’d like? I know a lot of times when we talk about what is it you’d like, most people don’t have words for it. People say, “I don’t know.” Stop it. Get the energy of what you would like. What’s the energy of what you’d like, the next five years to be like?

[00:12:41] Yeah, play with that. That’s the energy you’re looking. That’s the energy that once you get more familiar with it, you can start following and then you can allow the universe to continuously surprise and delight you with all that you’re asking for and beyond as if by magic. Yeah.

[00:13:02] I have a previously recorded program called “Morning and Evening Magic Routine.” Different things to do in the morning, different things to do in the evening to really be the magic of you. We’ve got it on sale in the shop, so you’ll find the link above or below.

[00:13:22] I’m just looking at that beautiful house knowing that we’re gonna end here. I’m gonna head to an Airbnb for the night. I’m gonna come back in the morning for a few hours and head out onto an adventure beyond what I could ever imagine.

[00:13:42] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting with you again next week.

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Are You Paying to Store This Stuff Too?

Jun 25, 2023 | Radio Show

Are You Paying to Store This Stuff Too?

Is now the time to “declutter” your life?

As we’re packing our things in preparation for our travels, a question has been constantly popping up the whole time: “Would I want to pay to store this?” I wondered… what if we apply that not just on the physical stuff, but in all the things that generate our life and living? Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about this tool because this might just be the thing you need in your life right now and more!

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[00:00:00] Are you paying to store this stuff, too? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:13] As many of you know, we are selling everything—almost—and heading off to house and pet sit around the world. We are so excited…. and also terrified…. and also excited… and all the things.

[00:00:29] There’s been a question that I’ve been asking myself as I go through things that actually really inspired something totally different. The question I’ve been asking — because what we’re doing is anything we would like to keep, we’re storing. As I go through things, I’m asking myself: Would I want to pay to store this?

Because literally, that’s what we would be doing. If I wanted to, say, keep this coffee cup, then if I do, then I just ask myself, “Am I willing to pay to store it?” It’s an easy question. Not always an easy awareness of whether I am or not, but really doing a good job of really paring down a lot of stuff.

[00:01:19] The awareness that I had with this was that’s a question we could actually be asking about the past – with events, with situations, with upsets, with friends or family or work situations, all that stuff.

[00:01:39] Let’s say you had a fight with a friend a couple months ago. Are you willing to pay to store that? Meaning you are going to pay in some way, either you’re going to pay with stress or upset or drama-trauma in your life or whatever. You’re gonna pay somehow, so are you willing to pay to store it? Uh… no.

[00:02:08] I’m gonna say that’s the easy part. The hard part might be, okay, what’s required? It might mean that you go, “Actually, this friendship is really important to me, so I’m going to apologize to them.” It could be that.

I mean, it could be a million things, but if we start looking at the things that we’re storing—I don’t mean just physical things, although those are probably good to look at, too.

[00:02:32] I can say this from my high horse cause I’ve been doing this now for what feels like months. I’m not sure I’ve actually been doing it that long. But I did do a good clean-out a few months ago in preparation for listing the acreage and such.

[00:02:48] And so, you know, physical stuff. Even if you’re not paying for a storage container like we are, you are also paying to store it. Again, I don’t mean everything, you should have nothing. That’s not what I mean at all. It’s really looking at if you don’t like that thing

[00:03:08] There’s been a lot of things that I’ve come across that I think, “What the heck? Why do I even still have this?” I’ve been paying to store it just by having it, just by hanging onto it with whatever I’ve attached to it.

[00:03:23] A lot of the stuff that I’ve really had to get present with myself about is stuff that has been given to me from other people. Yeah. There’s the value in it for me.

[00:03:37] You know, my husband gave this to me, and even he said a couple things with some of the things that I’m getting rid of like, “Wow, you’re getting rid of that gift I gave you?” Yes!

Finally, I actually had to say to him like, “You’ve gotta stop that. One, we’ve been together 30 years. You’ve given me a lot of gifts.” I’ve got a lot of amazing stuff like this necklace. It’s something that I would not, actually. I’m happy to pay to store it. It’s gonna travel with me, but I would if it wasn’t going to. I would be happy to pay to store it because I love it.

[00:04:14] But there’s been other things that just are different. They’re just different. A lot of ornaments and different things like that, and I’m keeping a lot, too. There are a lot of things. It’s just been this dance of really getting present with myself.

[00:04:31] The other question with those sorts of things – kind of a little bit off of what I was talking about. But if you are ever in that struggle, if somebody has been maybe gifting you something and you are wondering if you would like to keep it is I actually looked at if this person didn’t buy this for me, would I keep it?

Yeah. A lot of the stuff was a “no.” It doesn’t mean I have to just give it away or throw it away or sell it. I could also look at other possibilities with that.

[00:05:02] Some of them, I did actually go back to the person who purchased it for me. I just asked them, “Hey, I love this so much. I don’t wanna store it. Would you like to have it? Would you like to keep it? Would you like to display it? ” or whatever it was.

[00:05:18] A lot of the people said ‘yes.’ They were happy to have it back. They purchased it for me as a gift and they enjoyed it, and they liked it, so yes. Some people said, “Oh, no. Absolutely not. Just get rid of it.” [It’s] the vulnerability with that, the willingness to tell people, “Hey, I’m not keeping this.”

[00:05:40] Of course in those situations, we do have to look at whatever their response is their response. If you actually know that they would be very upset, you probably don’t need to tell them. You probably don’t need to ask if they would like it back. If they would take that as really unkind or mean of you, then don’t do it.

But otherwise, for the most part, look in your own life. If you’ve given some people gifts, if they asked you if you wanted to keep them if they were no longer gonna have a house or something, how would you be with that?

[00:06:13] I was actually surprised at the response. I didn’t do it with a hundred different people or anything, just a few different people that I just knew. I knew they would be okay with me asking, and I knew I would be okay with their response. I don’t need people to keep the stuff they gave me either.

[00:06:28] Kind of going back to what I was talking about before, uh, really looking at the emotional stuff that you’re hanging onto, are you willing to pay to store that?

Our bodies will… I shouldn’t say our bodies. I know for me, my body will hold on to stress, and so if I’M willing to let that stuff go in whatever way.

Sometimes, it’s really looking at the situation and getting present with it and being honest with myself about maybe what actually went on, not the story that I’ve told myself.

[00:07:03] Even the other day, we had applied for a house sit. The way that the house sitting works is you actually apply. People put their listing on the site and then people apply. We’ll put the link to the site above or below if you wanna check it out.

[00:07:17] And so when we apply, usually there’s a conversation, and then usually there’s a Zoom chat just to get to know each other a little bit on Zoom, and then they make their choice.

Every once in a while, this is actually the only second time this has ever occurred, the person—and they did actually ask a question, so there was a very short conversation.

They just asked one question, and then we just got an email saying, “You’ve been declined. I started doing the ‘taking it personal’ thing, and I was like, “This is ridiculous.”

[00:07:55] We didn’t get chose doesn’t mean anything except we didn’t get chose. I’ll be honest, I really, really wanted that sit, mostly because it had a beautiful swimming pool, of course, and all the things. And it wasn’t personal.

[00:08:13] It was interesting because a couple days before, I’d been listening to a podcast and the person was talking about in their business, they’d started receiving some hate and such.

What the person said was, “I have the emotional intelligence not to take it personal.” I remember I was driving and I looked over, like, I stared at my radio like, What? Emotional intelligence? I’d never considered that before.

[00:08:38] When I was taking it personal, I’m like, “Is this where I’d like to be? Is this my level of emotional intelligence?” I was like, no.

[00:08:46] And it’s not personal. I could have held onto that. I could have stored that. I could have paid to store that sort of stress in my body, and in my being, and in my living, and everything instead of going, “Wow, okay. They didn’t choose us. I wonder what else is out there that is gonna be even yummier.”

[00:09:05] I wonder. I wonder what what else is possible that I’ve never even considered, which is one of my favorite questions to ask because it goes beyond what I’ve actually considered. Imagine that. What else is possible that I’ve never even considered?

And then, I started putting my creative energy into creating that rather than this space of, “What did we do wrong? I shouldn’t have said this, and I should like…” oh my gosh. That’s a very, very expensive way to store things.

[00:09:39] Anyway, I just wanted to share this because I think it’s just really cool to consider that we’re paying to store everything. Everything that isn’t yummy and expansive and contributing to us in a way that really generates our life and our living, we’re paying to store that, whether it’s physical stuff or mental or emotional stuff.

And I wonder… I just wonder what it would be like to stop. I wonder what it would be like to cancel those storage fees and do whatever.

[00:10:17] Again, I’m not saying we can just go, “Oh, okay. We had a fight. It’s over. I’m fine.” I don’t mean we’d be a doormat. I don’t mean we just take it. I just wonder if there’s ways that we can let go of things and we can shift things.

It might be, again, like I said earlier, it might be about apologizing. It might be some action on our part. There’s lots of different things with it.

[00:10:39] I just wonder… I just truly, truly wonder if we allowed that to shift if we were emotionally intelligent. I say that with a smile because I don’t even honestly know really what that means, but there was an energy to it when he said it that really made me look at the amount of times where I hadn’t been willing to look at, say, taking it personal as being a choice. That’s really what that invited me to.

[00:11:09] I can choose to be the person who takes it personal and pays to store all that insanity, or I could be the person who chooses to recognize that there’s always something better. Even when it doesn’t turn out the way we would like it to, there’s always something better.

[00:11:28] So, have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.