Is it Actually Choice that Creates?

Oct 8, 2023 | Radio Show

Is it Actually Choice that Creates?

There’s more to choice and choosing than that.

Is choice really the be-all and end-all… or is there something more that you should be considering? This week, we will discuss another one of the things that I’ve been diving deeper into recently: choice. Is it really enough to create and actualize anything we desire? Tune in to this episode if this is something you’d also like to be looking more into.

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[00:00:00] So, is it really choice? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:13] We are currently in Minneapolis, Minnesota. It’s beautiful here, guys. By beautiful, I mean, like, beautiful, but also hot. It’s October 1st today and it’s going to be 31 degrees Celsius. I have no idea what that is in Fahrenheit but let me tell you, it’s hot and it’s muggy. Humidity. Holy!

[00:00:32] Anyway, we are spending a week and a bit with a cute little kitty named Robot. She may make herself known as she passes by. She’s very loud. She is what we might call a “senior kitty,” and her meowing is very similar to a kitty that we had years and years ago as he got older. So, you may hear her.

[00:00:55] All right. Is choice the thing? Is it really what is stopping you from having and being and doing and creating everything you desire? Yes and no.

[00:01:08] Last week’s radio show, I talked about what I know for sure for myself in terms of just a different way of seeing things now, being aware of things now. This is another one of those topics.

[00:01:21] I’ve talked a lot about choice over the years, and I want to talk about it in a much different way because there’s a term — and I actually talked about it on a radio show a number of, probably, months ago now, I don’t recall — oversimplification. This is something that I would say that I’ve done with the content that I’ve put out there, especially around choice.

[00:01:48] It’s very easy for me to say as a white woman that I have the choice to live as we do, that I can choose this lifestyle. We’re basically traveling around. Right now, the US. It will be the world in time to come. Right now, it’s through the US, and pet and house sitting. That’s a relatively easy choice for me.

[00:02:15] But when we talk about choice – and choice being the thing that once we choose it, we’ll create it or we’ll have it or we’ll be it, that’s very oversimplified because there’s a lot of people who don’t actually have the same choices that I do. When I talk about it as, “It’s just a choice,” that is very unkind and cruel and mean if we’re looking at it from a broader view.

[00:02:43] Now, I say that, and I also want to say no one is a victim. I’m not saying that “I have choice because I’m a white woman and if you’re not a white woman, you don’t.” That’s not what I’m saying, okay? Please know this.

[00:02:54] I really just want to give a deeper energetic connection to this because I know from the clients I work with, from my own experience, from different things that I’ve seen around the world, when we see something as, “It’s just a choice, and I don’t have it so I didn’t choose it so I’m wrong,” please stop doing that to yourself. There’s so many other factors.

[00:03:20] Now, a great question – a question that I love to ask myself is “What could I choose to actualize this, manifest this, have this, be this, or do this?” Absolutely, I love that question because it can give you more awareness.

[00:03:34] But to generally say that every person on the planet could choose what I’m choosing, or what you’re choosing, or what we see, say, social media influencers are choosing, that’s not enough information. What that does is creates this separation. It creates this, “I’m choosing it and it’s not showing up so I must be wrong.”

[00:03:58] If we truly desire… well, I truly desire. Let me rephrase that. I truly desire to live on a planet where nobody plays with wrongness. Nobody distracts themselves with wrongness. Everyone is valued for who they are and what they bring to the table. Those differences are celebrated. Nobody is wrong and nobody is wrong in what they’re choosing or what they’re experiencing.

[00:04:36] That’s really what I desire to create more on the planet. When I say, “Oh, it’s just a choice,” that actually doesn’t create what I say I would like to see on the planet.

[00:04:48] What you might want to look at, if this resonates with you at all, and chances are if you’re still here, there’s something for you, is that start looking at that for yourself, and not having this general idea that it’s just choice that’s missing because there’s a lot of things.

[00:05:05] There’s so many factors. There’s a lot of horrificness going on the planet. To say to those people that it’s just a choice, no, absolutely not. What if we start taking some depth to that?

[00:05:21] And how can you apply this? This is where you look at every time you say to yourself, “Oh well, that was just a choice. Why am I not choosing it? How come I chose wrong?,” stop. Stop that. You could ask, “Okay, what’s really going on? What’s really going on here?”

[00:05:40] Using some of the things that we hear about on the planet, there are men and women in similar roles and women are getting paid less. To say to yourself, “Oh well, I’m just not choosing to be paid more,” that’s not fair. That’s not true.

[00:05:57] It’s hard to put to words but you get the idea of that. It’s like looking, “What is really going on here? Wow, okay. There’s sexism here. Okay, so what’s required to change that?” We take it deeper.

[00:06:10] Again, we’re not going into victim. We’re not saying, “Well, I’m a woman and that’s just the way it is,” or all the ways that men are… [sexist]? I don’t know how to say that. All the ways that men are treated poorly because they’re men, or women because they’re women, or races because of the race they are, or all the things.

[00:06:31] Let’s go deeper than that. Let’s look at it. Let’s acknowledge what is, and then let’s get into question. “What is it going to take to change that?”

[00:06:39] Let’s say that was you. Let’s say you’re in a position and you’re getting paid less than somebody else doing similar. You’re aware that it is sexism in this case. So, what’s required?

[00:06:51] That might be multiple things. It might be talking to a lawyer. It might be talking to HR in the company. It might be a bazillion things. That’s where we want to look at that. Those are still choices.

[00:07:03] When I said earlier it’s yes and no – choice? Yes and no. Those are still choices. We can say absolutely, choice. And we don’t want to do the generalization of choice because that’s where it gets so unkind to ourselves, even when we say stuff like, “Why am I not choosing it? What’s wrong with me that I’m not choosing it?”

[00:07:26] I also have this other awareness. Again, this is for me. This is my awareness. You do with it what you would like.

[00:07:35] The universe, which includes me, always has my back. If I’m asking for something and I am making the choices towards it and it’s not showing up, I know there’s something else there. I maybe don’t know what it is, but I know.

[00:07:54] I’ll give you an example. This is such a silly example compared to what I’m talking about.

[00:07:59] We were on our way to Minneapolis from my family, my parents’ home in Turtleford, Saskatchewan, and we had big plans. Really big plans.

[00:08:12] Our car actually needed a part. As we were driving, I got an engine light. Well, this car is fairly new. It’s a year old, never had a problem. The three Audis before that, I have never had a light come on. There’s never been anything other than the regular services that they go to, but other [than that], nothing.

[00:08:33] We ended up in Regina, Saskatchewan for two nights. We were gonna spend ten minutes. We ended up there two nights waiting for this part.

[00:08:44] I know that I could look at that and I could say, “What did I choose?” and “What’s wrong with me?” and kind of go down the rabbit hole of, “Is this a sign?” I did do that a little bit, I’ll be honest. I was like, “What’s happening?” because there’d been multiple other delays, so this was just really interesting.

[00:09:01] Anyway, yeah. I know that the universe always has my back. For whatever we were required to be in Regina for or not on the road when we would have been on the road – whatever it was, I know that.

[00:09:15] I don’t need to go down that rabbit hole of “What did I choose wrong? What’s my points of views?” I don’t have to do any of that. I can just be present in the moment of, “This is what is.”

[00:09:27] We looked at other options. We looked at what else we could choose. We looked at renting a car one way and getting here, and then Hubby waiting in Regina. We looked at flights. We looked at all the things and none of them were it.

[00:09:45] What was it was just to stay in Regina, Saskatchewan for two nights while the car got fixed and, if you saw my Facebook post, eat sourdough doughnuts. If you haven’t done that, do that. Thank me later. I just want to give you an example of that.

[00:10:02] If we go, again, beyond the choosing of it, if you know you are choosing towards it and you’re taking the action and you’re acknowledging what is, we’re not using the generalization of it’s just a choice and you’re wrong if you don’t have it, then also look at if it’s still not showing up. Okay. So, is this a gift? Is it actually a gift to not show up? I know we don’t often like to think about it like that and sometimes, I wonder.

[00:10:28] Now, I also say that, but I don’t want to go into the place of “bypassing.” This is a term that’s kind of hot right now – “spiritual bypassing” where we just go, “Oh well. You know what? This is better. There’s something good in this.” I was still frustrated. Believe me, I’m still frustrated. I still voiced it. I still allowed myself to experience it where, you know, days later, it’s a lot easier for me to talk to.

[00:10:54] There’s actually people in Regina that I would have reached out to just to hang out with but honestly, I just wasn’t in that space. I allowed myself to be in that space, but also knowing that the universe has my back. There’s this dance, and this whole other piece to me of looking at choice – a much deeper version.

[00:11:18] When you’re tempted to go into the wrongness of you, of choices, not choosing, or all the things of, “It’s just a choice,” take it deeper. Be kind to yourself. Look at it through the space of “What if there’s more? If we didn’t oversimplify choice, what if there’s more?”

[00:11:44] That might be more choices. Like I say with that, you know, using the example of sexism, let’s be honest with what is. Okay, this is what’s going on. All right, so then we go in what are those choices then if that’s what’s going on rather than going into, “I’m wrong, I’m bad [that] I’m not choosing it.”

[00:12:01] As I said on last week’s show, this is kind of a series without being a series of all the things that I’m looking at differently, all the things that I know to be true for me. If that invites you to something greater, if that invites you to look at what’s true for you more, I’m so grateful.

[00:12:21] Sessions are still on sale, sweet friends. Link is above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you. Have a great rest of your week. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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What is Actually True for You?

Oct 1, 2023 | Radio Show

What is Actually True for You?

Do you know?

Something I have been looking at for the past year is what’s actually true for me. How do I know if it’s actually true for me? If you’re currently in the same place as I am, tune in to this episode as we embark on this journey of finding our truths, shifting things, and figuring out what truly works for us.

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[00:00:00] What is actually true for you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:12] First off, if you’re watching the video, I am somewhere called the “Crooked Bush” in Saskatchewan. Maybe half an hour or so from North Battleford. It’s super cool. If you’re not watching the video, you may want to go find the video on YouTube or various places on Facebook and Instagram and all the things. We’ll put more video of other places around, like other trees, ’cause it’s hard to get it all in the video. It’s just so cool.

[00:00:42] So, that’s first. Second, Hubby and I are finally on our way to the USA! Oh my goodness, it has been a September. Let me tell ya, it has been a September.

[00:00:54] First off, I did a radio show a couple weeks ago about a loved one in the hospital. That was my dad, and he is doing so much better. He has been diagnosed with Parkinson’s, which is something we suspected for a while now.

[00:01:08] His stay in the hospital got him to a neurologist, which we were waiting for, and the medication is working like magic. Oh my goodness. So, so, so grateful. He’s doing better. He’s at home now. I spent a couple weeks with him in Saskatoon at the hospital.

[00:01:26] And then, Rodney and I spent — Hubby and I spent, I think, the last week or so at their house in Turtleford, Saskatchewan. Now, we are on our way. Oh my goodness. We’re so excited. First off, Minneapolis, where we’ve got a 10-day kitty sit. Yep, there we go. I can hardly wait.

[00:01:46] Anyway, what is actually true for you?

This is something, and as many of you know, many of you listen to, I’ve got so much support and kindness for my choice to no longer be a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I cannot put words to the gratitude that I have for each and every one of you reaching out and… thank you. Just thank you.

[00:02:10] What I have been looking at this past year is what is actually true for me. What is actually true for me? Of all the things that I’ve been saying for years and years and years — and even before studying with Access. I’ve studied lots of different modalities. I’ve taken lots of different classes. It’s really time for me to look at what is actually true for me.

[00:02:32] One of the big ones that I would say — and I don’t have all the words for it guys, so please know that I’m still finding my way through this. One of the big ones that I really had to look at is your point of view creates your reality.

[00:02:50] Now, I’m not saying it’s not true for me. I’m just really curious about it because there’s been a lot of times where I had a certain point of view, and it didn’t turn out that way. It made me really look at and get curious with, is it that? Is that what creates our reality? Hmm. Or… Is it more of an energetic?

[00:03:17] Is there a difference between a point of view and an energetic?

To me, there actually is. Because I could have the point of view that money is easy, but energetically, I could also have what I’ve termed the “familiar energy” that money is a struggle.

[00:03:38] For me, and I keep saying for me ’cause I really want you to look at this for yourself. I’m not saying you should believe everything I say. You’ve really got to look at what you know to be true.

[00:03:49] This is a process, guys. In this specific arena in terms of no longer choosing to be a CF, it’s been a year of really looking at things. But even before that, I was always looking at things. I was always curious. Some of those things, I just didn’t look at that close, and this is one of them.

[00:04:08] So, your point of view creates your reality, and I would go more so. Your energy creates your reality. That’s what’s true for me. That’s what’s true for me. Gonna say it again.

[00:04:21] For some people, those might be the same thing — point of view and energy might be the same thing. For me, they’re drastically different. My energy, always. Yes, absolutely. I know what I’m creating with my energy. I know it. I know if I’m in that space of “everything’s horrible and awful, and this is the worst thing.” I know that I’m going to have way more of those experiences. I know I’m creating more of that.

[00:04:48] It isn’t to me that I have to spend a lot of time clearing. This has been a big change over the last year for me in that I had to really get honest with that clearing with me, putting my energy into looking at the point of view, clearing the point of view, finding another point of view to clear the point of view, which was I was often in that state of clearing.

[00:05:14] There’s nothing wrong with clearing. It’s just that often, it’s a distraction in my experience. For me. So I started looking at that as if I didn’t put the energy into clearing and I put it into choosing a different energy, I could change things like that. You can’t hear me snap my fingers, but like that.

[00:05:37] It’s like, boom. As soon as I recognized I was in that space, and recognized that that wasn’t the space I’d like to be in, change it. Now, I’ve got the speed of space. Now, things are changing. I’m able to shift things.

[00:05:53] Again, especially the September, for the most part, in the hospital in Saskatoon, really recognizing when I was going down into all the things you can imagine, all the things, because for a while there, it was… yeah, it was.

[00:06:11] Looking at that, being aware of that, not overriding it, I think nowadays a lot of times people call it “bypassing” it, not pretending it wasn’t there, but also recognizing that my energy is going to create more of that.

[00:06:25] Now, could my energy create more illness for my dad? No, that’s not what I mean at all, but my energy could certainly create my experience with that. It could create more drama trauma with that.

[00:06:39] Even in last week’s radio show when I talked about why I chose not to renew as a CF, it really is that. It’s really the energy of it. Yes, I’m say-it-like-it-is, be honest about it, but not go into the drama-trauma, the upset, the intrigue, the all of that because I’m going to create more of that in my life and I’m so not interested in that anymore. I’m so not interested.

[00:07:05] What’s beyond this distraction of clearing? Oh my gosh, let me tell you. For me, it’s freaking magical. I could probably do 16 radio shows on the magic that we created this past month with all the things that showed up. Oh my gosh, just amazing. Anyway, it’s amazing. Let me tell you, it’s amazing.

[00:07:28] Again, talking about it from what’s true for me, I was actually going to do this as kind of “What’s New” new type of series or “Where am I at Now” type of series, but it probably isn’t the best SEO for a radio show.

[00:07:45] So I will be talking each week though about the things that I’m looking at differently, about the way that I’m being differently, about the way that I’ve maybe taken some things that I’ve learned in the past or talked about in the past or thought were true in the past that I’ve really dissected for me. That’s what this is all about and this was probably one of the biggest ones.

[00:08:06] If you’ve been around for a while, you know one of my biggest tools that I talk about more than any other tool from Access Consciousness is the “interesting point of view” tool. And so, I really had to look at that because then I’m like, if I’m not completely on board with “your point of view creates your reality,” how then, for me, does “interesting point of view, I have that point of view” work so well?

[00:08:31] When I looked at that, it was like, it is an energetic change. When I’m repeating that over and over, I’m energetically shifting it. It could be probably any sort of shift of that energy, whatever you want to use.

[00:08:50] That’s the other thing that I want to talk about is any of the tools that you use that work for you — and I don’t mean Access Consciousness tools, I mean tools in general. Any of the tools that you use from any modality, from your own creation, from however, it doesn’t matter, please keep using them if they work for you. When they change, when they stop working, when there’s something else, then choose beyond that, of course.

[00:09:15] But really recognize that it isn’t about separating. It isn’t about eliminating. It’s really about being honest with ourselves. What’s working, what isn’t working, what’s actually true for us.

[00:09:30] And how do you know what’s true for you? For me — I’m going to go back, and this is probably something you’ll hear me talk a lot about, but it’s an energy. When I talk about something, there’s an energy when it’s true for me. I’m going to talk about it as that lightness, of that expansiveness – no different when I talk about the heaviness or if I go down the drama-trauma and the upset and the intrigue, that’s always heavier for me. That’s just the way it is.

[00:10:04] You may not read energy the same as I do. You’ve got to look, also, if this is something you’re interested in, which I assume if you’re still here, it’s something you’re interested in. You’ve got to look at how do you know what’s true for you?

[00:10:19] Maybe you look at something that you do know right now that is 100% true for you. How do you know it’s true? What is that for you? Is it an energy? Is it a knowing? Is it a flicker? Is it a bright sun in in the — well, there’s always bright, well, not necessarily always bright suns, but you know what I mean.

[00:10:36] What is it for you so that you can start really getting clear on all the things you’d like to get clear on in terms of what’s true for you?

[00:10:45] Probably every one of us has studied multiple, multiple modalities that all say some similarities and then some are drastically different. How do we know what’s true for us? You’ve got to look at what that is for you, and start off by just talking out loud to yourself and say something ridiculous that you know isn’t true.

[00:11:09] Get a sense of what that is in your body, in your energy field, in your knower – however you know. Get that. Get that, build that muscle so that when you are talking either in your head to yourself, you’re talking to other people, you’re taking a new class, whatever it is, that’s where then you can start getting really clear when something isn’t true for you.

[00:11:32] I keep saying for me or for you because this is the other thing. All of these modalities, all of this information that’s out there, is from one person in particular. Not just one person, but like one person brought it, and then everybody took it and ran with it, and added their own spin on it. You may have your own spin. There might be something that’s more true for you but has some truth in other areas.

[00:11:59] It’s just a really different way to look at things, and to me, it’s quite a fun way. Right? Because we don’t have to limit it. We don’t have to say, “Okay, this is the way it is,” and it might change for me. I might totally shift that down the road. That’s cool, too.

[00:12:14] I actually have no problem anymore going, “Wow, I said that for years? Hmm. Doesn’t feel true to me now” or “Was it ever true?” It doesn’t matter. We get to change our mind.

[00:12:26] What’s so interesting is, I think it was only two weeks ago, I did a radio show or it was on a radio show. It was a weekly video. Every Sunday you’re on my email list, you get an email from me with a whole bunch of little bits and pieces. One is this weekly video.

[00:12:40] In there, I was talking about how two people that I’ve been following, not Access Consciousness related, two other people, totally different. Both of them had made really big changes in their business lately. One was against Facebook ads for years and is now starting with Facebook ads. One was against social media for years and is now back to social media.

[00:13:01] I was just talking about like, “Whoa, I’m not sure I could do that,” and yet I am doing that. It’s just so funny to me. That’s totally what I’m doing. I’m talking about things that I could say the past 11 years while being a CF with Access Consciousness, but I could go beyond that. The past 20+ years that I’ve been studying modalities that I’m looking at it all. I’m really looking at it all.

[00:13:27] In the coming weeks in these shows, you will hear more from me about what is true for me which is totally different, possibly, than what I’ve been saying, and I look forward to it. I’m excited to share this part of the journey and all our little stops along the way. We’ve got so many cool places that we’ve got planned to stop at.

[00:13:49] So, session sales are still on. You can check out the link above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you. Have a great week sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Why I am No Longer a CF with Access Consciousness®

Sep 24, 2023 | Radio Show

Why I am No Longer a CF with Access Consciousness®

It’s the end of an era…

Being a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness® has been a huge part of my life, and I will always be grateful for all that it’s gifted me. Now, it’s time to say goodbye. But the awesomeness doesn’t end there! Join me in this week’s episode if you’re curious to know more why I made my choice and what’s next as Hubby and I pursue new adventures together.

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[00:00:00] Why I am no longer a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness®? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:13] Now, if you’re watching the video, you will see a giant turtle behind me. If you’re listening, it’s actually a cement turtle. My hometown is actually Turtleford, Saskatchewan, Canada. I am in my hometown right now, and that is Ernie the turtle. He is… something that they chose years and years ago. I was in — I believe I was in high school when they chose.

[00:00:37] There’s a very busy highway out in front of me if you can hear all that noise. In fact, there’s a building over here. I might do a little… show you it in a moment here. That is where I worked one summer. Yes, I worked at this busy tourist attraction.

[00:00:56] In fact, I’ll tell you what I did for that summer when I worked here. I would actually — now this is really dating myself, but I would bring my parents huge camcorder because back then you could actually, I think still, but if you watch through the eyepiece, you could play the video back. I would actually bring videos – movies on video and watch them through that little screen because there was nothing to do. I think I had maybe two people stopped that summer. I’m probably exaggerating, but really, not a lot of people have questions about Ernie the turtle.

[00:01:29] Anyway, I know you’re waiting. You’re waiting for the story. You’re waiting for the good drama-trauma of why I am no longer a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness®.

[00:01:43] There’s lots of energies, I’m going to say, behind my choice. For many of you, you’re probably already aware of one of them, and it’s the one that really opened it up for me to really start looking at what was true for me, what really worked for me.

[00:02:00] A year ago — this is September 2023 — was when I took my last facilitator course, and I did not know at the time it would be my last one. Gary Douglas chose something towards one of the facilitators or previous facilitators in that class that really, really opened my eyes to what actually works for me.

[00:02:25] I’m so grateful because I really got to look at that for myself. I really got to see, “Does that actually work for me?” I’m actually not going to go into it. I’m not going to give you the drama-trauma behind it. I’m sure you probably all know about it anyway. If you don’t know, then you probably don’t need to know.

[00:02:43] If you’re questioning it, if you’re wondering, “What the heck?”, you could go search Lauren Marie. She’s got a whole bunch of information about what occurred. She’s done a whole podcast and all sorts of things about it. That’s all I’m gonna say about it.

[00:02:57] So, that was number one that really got me to look at it and really looking at what actually works for me in creating with, in a sense, creating with a company.

[00:03:08] The last 11 years, I’ve been a Certified Facilitator with Access Consciousness® which means I’m part of that company. In order to be proud to be part of a company, what does that look like for me? Again, it doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong. It doesn’t mean I’m going to go into judgment, but I really had to get clear of what actually works for me.

[00:03:30] In my journey with that, I came across an Instagram page called… I think it’s “Why Don’t You Say Something.” We’ll put links to these in the show notes, too. That… has blown my mind.

[00:03:44] This isn’t just about Access Consciousness®. This is about the coaching industry as a whole and all the shit that has went on, all the shit I have chose to be part of, all the shit that I’ve chose. Like, all of it. It has so opened my eyes to so many things. I am so incredibly grateful. Truly, so grateful. There’s so much in there.

[00:04:06] And then, and I spoke about this on a show recently, I came across a podcast called, I believe, “Love and Light Confessionals” or “Confessions of Love and Light” or something like that. Again, it’ll be in the show notes.

[00:04:19] There’s one in particular — I love all of her podcasts, but one in particular called something like “The Fall of the Coaching Industry.” Guys, if you have not seen or listened to that, I highly recommend it if you’re ready to have your eyes open. If you’re not, don’t do it. You can just hit ‘stop’ now and go do something else.

[00:04:39] There’s so much noise here. I hope it’s not picking up as much as I hear it.

[00:04:45] Really looking at that for myself, what am I proud to be a part of? What can I stand behind 110%? What am I not excusing? What am I not making reasons and justifications for? That really opened me up to going, “Okay, you know what? I’m not this. Not this anymore for me.”

[00:05:05] I, again, am not making any of it wrong. I will continue to use the tools to the degree that I use the tools. There’s a lot of people that I do sessions with that like the tools. I will use those in those. Is there more coming? Absolutely! There’s more awesomeness coming. I’m not quite ready to do the big reveal yet, but it is coming.

[00:05:27] This whole year has been about opening my eyes, getting honest with me about what actually works for me. What am I proud to be a part of? What would I like my name associated with?

[00:05:41] Again, I’m not saying that because Access Consciousness® is horrible or wrong or anything like that. It’s just when I look at that, it’s not that for me anymore. It was for 11 years. If you’re still part of it and you love it, please love it, . Please enjoy it. Please celebrate it. This is in no way making anybody think they need to go against Access. That’s not this.

[00:06:02] There’s been a lot of that where it’s so wrong, wrong, wrong, or so right, right, right. What if it’s just a choice? Like everything else on the planet, what if it is just a choice? Each one of us can make that choice.

[00:06:15] You can look at maybe there’s parts and pieces that work for you. Maybe there’s none of it that works for you. Maybe there’s some of it that works for you. Maybe all of it works for you. None of that is right or wrong. It’s just knowing… what I often say is once your eyes are wide open, you can’t change that. Once you’ve seen what you’ve seen, you can’t change that.

[00:06:39] I’m grateful for that. I’m so grateful for that. I’m so grateful I was part of that class last September. The interesting [thing] is I wasn’t supposed to be in the sense of it wasn’t my year. It’s just that I was pretty sure come February that we wouldn’t get to Australia so I chose that one instead. Interesting, hey? Interesting.

[00:07:02] I always say I know I have my own back. I know the universe, which includes me, has my own back, so none of that was a coincidence. None of that was, “That’s just the way it occurred.” It’s like, no, I had to be part of something to see something, to start questioning everything about it and go, “Wow, this just doesn’t actually work for me anymore, so what would I like? What does light me up?”

[00:07:28] As many of you know, probably all of you know, we have sold everything. We are attempting to travel the world house and pet sitting. We haven’t gotten very far. If you listen to last week’s show, I had a family member get sick, and so I spent almost a couple weeks in Saskatoon, 12 hours a day at the hospital, and then now I’m here with them and we’ll head out shortly.

[00:07:51] In the meantime, Hubby broke his glasses, so now we have to wait until he gets his new glasses before we can hit the road. One day, we’re gonna get where we’d like to go, but not quite yet. Again, I’m so grateful for all of it. All of it has allowed me to have so much space and so much time with the things I love, the people I love, and hanging out with Ernie the turtle.

[00:08:14] Tonight, I’m actually going to go out to the field with one of my sisters. Her family is a huge farming family in this area. Of course, it’s combining time. It’s harvest time, which means meals are in the field, which I grew up with. My dad was a farmer, so I grew up in the fall taking meals out to the field. I don’t think I appreciated it at the time, but I sure appreciate it now.

[00:08:37] So I get to do that, and there’s just so much to be grateful for and so much that I can look at. Even the past 11 years, I’m not walking away mad, or upset, or hurt, or anything. I’m grateful for that time. I’m grateful for what the tools have gifted me in that sense. I’m also grateful for the awareness of starting to really educate myself with the tools.

[00:08:59] So many of them, as Gary has said very publicly, are not actually his creation. They are things he picked up along the way from other places, other modalities, other pieces. That’s really cool too, because then there’s so many more that’s available to me now that I’m not a CF.

[00:09:17] That doesn’t change, again, personal sessions. I will continue to use the tools if the person prefers. Also, there are some things that I can do as not a CF with the tools that I may or may not choose. Who knows? Right now, I’m just enjoying my fall time here in Turtleford, Saskatchewan, Canada and looking forward to getting on the road and getting out into all these beautiful fun pet sits.

[00:09:45] We will not be getting to Eastern US as planned, Northeastern US as planned. I do need to be in Chicago for a Mastermind that I’m a part of for the kind of the middle-ish of October. We’ll probably just head kind straight to Chicago, and then from Chicago, hoping to head to Nashville and down to Atlanta and then into the US for a couple months before we come back this way for Christmas and January and such.

[00:10:11] There we go. There’s the inside scoop, guys. I’m sorry that it’s not a lot more dramatic or a lot more of an intrigue or any of that. It’s just me looking at what works for me and getting really clear on where I would like, what I would like to be part of, where I would like my name to be associated with, and what that looks like.

[00:10:35] Soon, I will do the big reveal of what’s coming next. I just want to update you. Once I sent out the email, I got so many people, so much support. Really, thank you guys for your support.

[00:10:46] So many people are saying, “Hey, you know what? I took your classes because of you,” and I get that. I get that. I’ve never thought, “Oh my gosh, if I’m not a CF with Access Consciousness®, I’m nothing.” I never ever thought that. I know it’s me, and I know that what I bring to the table is such a huge gift and I’m so grateful to know that.

[00:11:06] So, I wonder… I wonder what magic is possible now, my sweet friends. I look forward to co-creating so much more beyond… beyond what I’ve never imagined possible.

[00:11:20] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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What Matters Most?

Sep 17, 2023 | Radio Show

What Matters Most?

Have you ever considered what matters the most?

Hubby and I’s travel and sitting adventures were suddenly put into a halt following an emergency at home, which inspired me to ask this question: “What really matters the most?” Tune in to this episode and let’s take a moment to look at what truly matters in ways that contribute to you and all that’s around you.

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[00:00:00] Have you ever considered what actually matters the most? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:13] I am actually in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. This is the beautiful river. You can see some of the fall colors showing up behind me. I could not get the beauty that’s over there on the camera, so I will maybe try to get some video to add in here. It’s just gorgeous, even though it’s like early September. We are getting the fall colors already.

[00:00:39] I was not supposed to be in Canada right now, and it’s kind of the inspiration for this show — what actually matters the most?

[00:00:53] Someone that I care about deeply got sick and actually is in Saskatoon here in the hospital at time of recording. Hopefully, that will have changed by the time you listen. All the plans that Hubby and I had made, suddenly, none of it mattered. All that mattered was I got here to be with the person that I care about.

[00:01:16] We were actually doing a sit in Sylvan Lake. It was our final sit in Canada, then we were heading down to the U. S. We were supposed to be in Lindstrom, Minnesota this weekend and heading towards Massachusetts, Florida, and all the places. When my loved one got sick, I just really started looking at, “What actually matters the most?”

[00:01:42] What actually matters the most is, one, that I’m not out of the country when they are in the hospital in the state they were, you know? We weren’t quite sure what was going on, what was happening. There were lots of tests being run. So, I really looked at, “What matters the most?”

[00:01:56] Well, I knew to finish the sit we were at. Of course, I could have told the people we were sitting for that I had to go and they could have arranged something — of course. I knew that didn’t have to happen, but I did need to finish it and then get here to Saskatoon which is exactly what we did. So grateful that we did.

[00:02:17] Everything, everyday is getting better and better. My loved one is getting healthier and stronger every day so it’s amazing, and I’m so grateful I’m here. I’m so grateful that I’m willing to look at, truly for me, what matters the most.

[00:02:33] This is the thing — and if you’ve been around here for a while, you’ve heard me talk about different things like this, but it wasn’t from what do they need. What does my loved one need? It’s weird, right? It’s actually what do I need? What do I need?

[00:02:48] It’s a difference between, in a sense, choosing for me and choosing for someone else. All the times that I’ve chose for someone else, it was really from this energy of superior bitch like, “They need me and I must do this for them.” Superior bitch and martyr and just all the ick.

[00:03:10] But when I looked at what do I need, yeah… suddenly, it was so easy to choose for me — to choose to know that in fact, what was interesting is the Lindstrom, Minnesota sit, they actually canceled for us. They were heading to Florida, and Florida had some hurricanes so they actually canceled which was great.

[00:03:31] And then the other sit that we knew about doesn’t start for a little while but I had just let her know I’m not sure until I know. That may not be for a day, a week, who knows? She did cancel us and then has space to book somebody else in, which also was working for me because I also didn’t want that energy of I need to be there for her pets. I needed her to take action for her and I needed to know that I could be here for as long as I’m going to be here.

[00:04:07] I mean truly, it’s beautiful here. Most of it I have been spending in the hospital during visiting hours. For today, I just knew I needed to come here. It’s such a beautiful warm fall. I mean, it’s supposed to be fall, but I think the temperatures are very similar to our summer temperatures. Just this beauty, truly, this beauty… yeah, it’s so healing. It’s so… yeah.

[00:04:33] Now, it’s not to say that you don’t consider other people when you’re looking at what you would like. That’s not what I’m saying at all, but it is something that you want to ensure that you’re looking at what works for you. You’re really honest with you about that. There may be times where you still choose for someone else, or you choose what they would like, but at least — I often refer to it as at least, let yourself have a say.

[00:05:02] If I knew that I really wanted to get going and I really wanted to go to the US, then that’s a different energy. I can look at that. I can look at what’s required for that, for my loved one in the hospital and have conversations with that. In this case, for me, it just really works for me to be here. It really works for us to have the space.

[00:05:21] Hubby got to go on a solo sit by himself — I guess that kind of makes sense — near Prince Albert on a farm. There’s a donkey, there were chickens, there was sheep, and two outdoor cats. He had a very relaxing sit and he will actually join me here in Saskatoon tomorrow.

[00:05:43] [I’m] just so grateful how well we’re taken care of in the sense of that sit opened up and he got some time and now, we get to hang out together starting tomorrow. And then, we will just choose every day based on what’s going on here and all of that.

[00:06:02] It really is this space of, “What would you like?” Again, I say that but it’s not ONLY what would you like. It’s like what is going to create greater and what matters the most to you?

[00:06:19] It’s so funny because we — I say “we” because I’ve done this a million times — make all these other things so significant. How much money we’re making or how much money we’re not making, that upset with a friend, or the cranky boss. We make all these other things so significant but really, what truly matters the most is probably the people that you care about.

[00:06:46] I hope that you are on that list. When we talk about someone that you care about, I hope that you’re part of that. One of my good friends who knows what’s going on, she just keeps saying to me, “Make sure you take care of you, too. It’s great for you to be there.” I was feeling much better once I got here. She said, “That’s great, but make sure you take care of you, too.”

[00:07:08] Looking at that for yourself, all the people that we care about on the planet, make sure you’re one of them for you. Make sure you’ve got your own back. Make sure you’re willing to invite you to the table to look at all of the choices, all of the possibilities, and all of the things that you would like to be choosing or not like to be choosing, and what it would actually take to change that.

[00:07:32] If there are places and spaces that you know that you’re not actually choosing for you or choosing the way you would like to, what would it take to make those changes? Again, it might not be right away. It might not be something that you can do differently right away. It might be looking at how to arrange it. There might be someone else that you need to bring in, assistance that you could ask for, or different social programs. Who knows? There’s so many other things, but you got to let you know first.

[00:08:02] I’ve actually been talking about that. I mean, I’ve been talking about it a lot for years, but I did a radio show, I think very recently around being honest with yourself. Just make sure that you’re honest with you.

[00:08:12] If if you’re doing something that you don’t wish to be doing, then okay, cool. Be honest with you about that. Let you know. Otherwise, we create this sort of resentment and this sort of upset and separation and usually, we are getting upset about things that aren’t actually upsettable. Yes, I’m making up words. We make these other things really significant when they’re actually not. There’s something else underneath it.

[00:08:39] If you can be honest with you about what’s going on, about what you would like to be different, how much more magic could you actually create with that honesty with you?

[00:08:50] Again, we’re not talking about being honest with the people around you right now. Let’s start with you, because that’s the number one, and then the other stuff, you can figure out.

[00:09:00] To me, it’s so much more ease. Even in this situation right now, I’ve had some conversations with the other people who care in terms of “What do we need to have set up?” in terms of maybe a little bit of a break for me at certain times and how does that look for them too, and bringing it all together rather than going, “No, I’ll do it all,” and then being mad or being upset or being hurt because nobody’s offering or all of that insanity.

[00:09:29] Honesty with us allows us to ask for what we would like, allows us to have the clarity, and then really start choosing in that sense.

[00:09:39] There we go. Maybe we’ll make it to the US here shortly, and maybe not. This isn’t so bad. This is beautiful. One of the things that we were going out to Massachusetts for was the beautiful fall colors. Kind of got some here. Not “kind of,” there’s a lot. You just can’t see it very well on the camera, but you can a little bit behind me there. You know what? If nothing else, I got some beautiful fall colors. Of course, there’s always next fall.

[00:10:06] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Have You Lost Your Magic?

Sep 10, 2023 | Radio Show

Have You Lost Your Magic?

Are you losing your magic, or is it something else?

Have you felt like you’ve lost your magic? This is a question I have been getting a lot from my clients recently. Is this true for you, too? If so, tune in on this week’s episode as we address what might be actually going on when you feel like you’re losing your spark, and of course, a sprinkle of these *magical* tools I’ll be sharing might just do the trick!

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[00:00:00] Do you feel like you’ve lost your magic? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:12] Do you know I’ve had a radio show for 10 years and one month? I forgot to celebrate on my 10th year anniversary which was in July of 2023. So, how cool is that? You can actually access every one of them on my webpage. If you just go to www.glenycehughes.com and then, I think it says “Radio Show” or “Podcast” on the top, you can access every show. Oh my goodness.

[00:00:41] Anyway, have you felt like you’ve lost your magic? I’ve heard this from so many clients recently and really wanted to talk about what that actually might be.

[00:00:51] First, what you wanna do is acknowledge that you can’t lose something that you are or something that you be, and you BE magic. You are magic, so you can’t lose it. First off, know that.

[00:01:04] The other thing, if you can hear it in the background, is there’s some sweet puppies walking around. You might hear them and they might get up and get excited and you might really hear them. We will see.

[00:01:15] Anyway, first off, you cannot lose your magic. It’s impossible. What can be occurring, and I would say in probably 90% of the cases with the clients who came in as that’s something to shift, is that they actually had expectations of what things should look like and because they didn’t turn out the way they expected them to, they felt like they lost their magic.

[00:01:45] One thing I know for sure — and this is something you gotta check with you if you know it for sure or not, or if it’s even true for you ’cause it may not be. But one thing that I know for sure for me is the universe always has my back. I know there’s a million times — probably a billion times — that I would’ve fought that statement, and I do really truly know that to be true. The universe always has my back.

[00:02:11] When things aren’t turning out the way that I would like them to, it’s not that I’ve lost my magic. It’s that I’ve decided, I’ve judged, I’ve concluded that one way is the only way. The universe is going, “Hmm, well… let me show you another way, my friend.” I’m not sure that the universe talks like that, but I like to think it does.

[00:02:39] If you look at that, if you look at the areas or area — whatever you’ve got. If you’re watching this on video, I keep shifting because the chairs here are really high. If you’re a short girl, you’re gonna know what I’m talking about when I say I’ve actually got a stool to put my feet on because otherwise my feet just hang. It’s annoying. Anyway, I keep shifting to get them better suited on the stool.

[00:03:06] Anyway, what you wanna look at with that is… is there possibly another way in terms of what you’ve decided? Let’s say your money isn’t going the way you would like it to. Is it possible that you’ve decided it should be a certain way when really, it’s something different?

[00:03:32] A lot of times people will say [they] lose a job, and they decide they’re not magical because they lost that job. And yet… what if the universe totally has their back and is inviting them to something greater?

[00:03:48] This is something I’ve been saying now for months and months, probably actually since the beginning of this year, when I had a friend going through something which felt like the end of the world to her. I just kept saying, “Yes, totally feel it now and let’s talk about it in six months.”

[00:04:06] I don’t mean I wasn’t willing to talk with her about it in the meantime, but let’s not judge it as the worst thing on the planet yet. Let’s give it some time. And, yeah… the universe totally had her back. Let me tell you, [it’s] just amazing [in] amazing ways.

[00:04:23] I don’t mean every time, and I don’t mean if you’re going through shit, you should… what’s it called? Bypass it, I think they call it that when you go, “Oh no, it’ll be better. It’ll be fine.” That’s not what I’m talking about at all.

[00:04:35] But also, if you’re in that judgment of “I’m not magical, I’ve lost my magic” or maybe you’re in the extreme of “I’ve never been magical,” it is possible that you’re looking through the lens of “This is the only way, this is the one way, this is it.” The universe is over here going, “But, uhm… let me show ‘ya. Let me show you some magic.”

[00:05:00] What I suggest that you look at is those areas or areas I said earlier where you’re not feeling magical or like you’ve lost your magic. What is actually going on?

[00:05:14] Let’s say you’ve lost your job. That’s what’s going on. Be with that. Have all the things, have the emotions, the upset, the anger, the whatever it might be. Maybe it’s a bazillion different things. Have that, be that. Allow that. Please allow that. And then, “All right… universe, show me. Universe, show me.” Yeah. And then start looking at what action is required?

[00:05:43] Let’s say you would like a job similar to what you had. Of course, you go looking at those places where they would have those, along with “Universe, show me. Universe, show me,” ’cause it might come from a different direction. It might come from a different place than you never imagine.

[00:05:58] You might get the idea to go for coffee at an unusual coffee shop for you. Maybe you usually do Starbucks, and, I don’t know, you go to Tim Horton’s or something if you’re in Canada. Although I think I saw one in Ireland, too. I do think that they’re in different places.

[00:06:11] Anyway, what you wanna look at with that is following the energy ALSO while taking the what I’m gonna call the “logical action” – the things you know to do.

[00:06:23] Step one, feel the feelings. Be present with what is. Of course, don’t bypass. Don’t pretend. Don’t go into what we might call the “positive thinking,” like, “This is for the best,” ’cause that’s not kind to you. Be with what is.

[00:06:39] And then next, what action is required? Start looking at the logical action all the while [going], “Universe, show me. Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with the magic showing up today?” Allow yourself to receive from the universe. Include the universe.

[00:07:00] If you’re not new here, you’ve heard me say this a million times. If you’re new here, I just wanna explain how I see the universe.

[00:07:09] The universe is definitely this beautiful home, nature, all the people on the planet including me, all the people NOT on the planet, all the energies, all the angels, all of the energies beyond the planet. It’s everything. The universe is everything. And so when we’re inviting the universe and receiving from it, it’s including us and everything.

[00:07:38] Imagine having that as your resource. Ooh, I like it. Yes. The universe as your resource. I have a program – we’ll put a link to it. It’s called “Allowing the Universe to Be Your Sugar Daddy.” It’s from a few years ago. It was such a fun program to put together. We’ll put a link above or below if you wanna go grab that.

[00:08:02] It’s so fun. It’s just one of those things that I just love because that’s what it can be, but not from the place of, “I’m just gonna sit back and wait for the universe to be my sugar daddy.” It includes you. It includes you.

[00:08:18] First, feel it, be it, receive it, whatever feels like you’re not being magical. It’s okay to be there. It’s okay to be in that. It’s okay to have all the feelings and all the whatever might be with that. Just be there. Then, logical action. What’s required? If we’re talking about losing a job, where can you start applying now?

[00:08:42] The other thing, too, is it might be — let’s say you lost your job and it’s between putting food on the table or not. Maybe you don’t just apply for the jobs that sound really fun to you. Maybe you apply for anything to get that done.

[00:08:57] This is a totally different energy that you wanna be aware of because we wanna make sure that like the universe, we have our own back. We don’t say, “That job… that’s below me. I’m not doing that,” if you can’t eat next week, if you can’t pay your rent next week.

[00:09:14] There’s times that you might have to do like, I don’t know, not be a little bitch. You actually go, “No matter what, I am making sure that there’s food on our table next week so I’m gonna go apply for that job that I know I would get,” all the while applying for the other ones you’d really love also.

[00:09:33] It’s also not about being in the fantasy of, “I’m just gonna ask for it and it’s gonna show up.” No. If you won’t have money to eat next week, then you go do whatever the heck it takes to get that done while taking other action – applying for the fun jobs. Maybe the jobs that you’re not even totally qualified for, apply for them too. If they light you up. If it feels yummy, apply for them.

[00:09:58] And then number three, all the while including the universe, asking, “Hey universe, how many ways could you surprise and delight me?” I know I’ve covered these again, but I’m covering them again so that you can start getting that whole idea that “you’re not magical” is really a lie.

[00:10:18] Sorry, [I’m] just saying it like it is, my sweet friends. I’m just saying it like it is. It is a lie. It’s just what have you defined as magical in that situation, and is it time to really change that? Is it time to maybe get more present with what is?

[00:10:34] You’ve probably got so many examples – I know I do of my own life where it’s like, “It has to be this way.” I remember a time really wanting this job. It was actually gonna be in Saskatoon. It was on a psych ward in a prison. My background is psychiatric nursing. I really, really wanted the job and I didn’t get it.

[00:10:57] Now… we could say I wasn’t magical except when I didn’t get it, what it did was inspired me.

[00:11:05] I’d already started this business – this is back in 2002. Actually, I think I started my business 2002. This was probably 2003 because I’d been running my business for about six or seven months and it just wasn’t going the way that I would’ve loved it to go. I’d had a small business loan, and I was coming to the end of that money. I was like, “Oh my gosh,” and so applied for this job and I didn’t get it.

[00:11:31] I would’ve told you I wasn’t magical. Really, what it was was that not getting it inspired me to actually get my butt going in the business and really make the business the success that it is. Had I got that job, I would’ve never done that.

[00:11:49] We all have stories like that. If we stop judging it as not magical, then what is it actually? What could we actually acknowledge at those times?

[00:12:02] And then, start taking those steps ’cause I don’t mean you just sit back and wait. Believe me, I am not saying that. But you do wanna recognize that it’s not that you’re not magical. If you are like me, you know the universe has your back – universe includes you, so there’s something else. Start taking the action. Start taking the logical action, and start including everything to contribute to you acknowledging, receiving being the magic that you truly BE.

[00:12:32] Have a great week, sweet friends, Sessions are still on sale. Link is above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you.

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What Being Honest with You Actually Gifts You

Sep 3, 2023 | Radio Show

What Being Honest with You Actually Gifts You

What would it be like if you’re more honest with you?

To celebrate my birthday, I did the craziest things with my craziest friends… and it was the FUNNEST birthday I’ve ever had so far! It was all possible because I was willing to be honest with myself about what I truly desire for my birthday. Imagine what more we could actualize if we start getting honest in every area of our lives!!!

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[00:00:00] What can honesty with you gift you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:13] We are at a sit in Sylvan Lake, Alberta, so still not very far. Next week we’ll be heading to the US, but right now we’re still fairly local. There are two big, beautiful full-size poodles that we are here with. You may see them – one is laying behind me right now, one is outside. Hopefully, they will show their beautiful selves to you guys if you’re watching the video. If you’re listening to the audio, you’ll probably hear their footsteps.

[00:00:42] Alright, so what can being honest with you gift you?

My experience? Everything. Like, everything.

[00:00:54] Last week was my birthday — yes. I celebrated in a way that I’m not sure I’ve ever celebrated before. A week or two beforehand, I looked at what did I really want to — what was the energies that I really wanted to experience on my birthday?

Laughter and fun were — those were the energies. Those were the two of the energies that I just really wanted to experience. And so what I looked at is what would that take?

[00:01:25] Oh, you might see Sage in the background there. He just went and laid down.

[00:01:31] What does that look like? I looked at what would be fun, and I actually searched. There’s a local Facebook group in Edmonton that I searched. There’s, I don’t know, 20,000 people in there and there are just random questions. I just searched “birthday” just to see ’cause I know I had seen other people ask over the years what were suggestions for birthdays.

[00:01:53] So I searched it, and there were lots of the things that I’d already thought of that weren’t just quite it. And then, the one that I’d never even heard of, it was — I don’t remember the exact thing, but they called it something like “Goodwill shopping.” I thought, “What the heck is Goodwill shopping for your birthday?”

[00:02:11] I Googled it, and the way that this article — I only read one article about it. The way they described it was you were going to go to dinner — maybe [with] three couple friends, let’s say — and you and your partner would go to Goodwill and dress each other. And then, all three couples would show up having their partner dress them from Goodwill. Of course, they’re just really funny outfits.

[00:02:35] I thought that’s super fun, but I changed it up. What I did was I looked at getting five friends so there’d be six of us in total. What we did was — I didn’t tell them this. Honestly, I would say the funnest part for me was not telling them what we were doing.

[00:02:53] Part one of the birthday was us all meeting at Value Village in Edmonton, which nobody knew until an hour before. We all met there. I partnered everybody up and then we dressed each other.

[00:03:08] It was so fun! They don’t have a change room so we actually had to hold blankets in the corner. It was so much fun. Plus, the things that the other person got the person to wear was, I mean, I will never forget this birthday for as long as I lived because it was so funny. It was so good. So, that was part one.

[00:03:31] Part two is we went somewhere called “Sid’s Selfie World,” which is a really cool business on Whyte Avenue in Edmonton. They basically set it up so that you have different places to take photos like selfies, obviously.

[00:03:46] In our bizarre outfits, we went and took all these photos which was so fun. One of them was so cool because of the way the bed was angled. When you look at the picture, it looks like I was actually energetically pushing my friend O’tion away and it’s just so cool.

[00:04:05] From there we went to a restaurant called “BrewandBloom.” I had actually been there before and they did know we were going there. Everybody did know we were going there.

[00:04:17] What I told them at this location was they couldn’t actually tell anybody why we were dressed the way we were. We had to act as though this is just what we would wear on a random Wednesday.

[00:04:29] It was so funny to watch other people because even when we walked in, the person that was going to seat us was like, “Oh,” and you could see she wanted to join in like it was funny because of how we were dressed but because we weren’t laughing, she had to try to backtrack. Oh, it was so good. It was so good on so many levels.

[00:04:51] Why am I sharing that story with you in regards to this topic? Because what I had to look at was so many things.

What were the energies that I desired?

And then, what was going to actualize those energies?

What were the possibilities? That’s how I came up with the three stages to my birthday.

Then, I actually had to look at and be honest with me about who would actually show up, who would actually partake, who would actually have the silly, fun with me that I was looking for.

[00:05:24] I don’t say that as though it’s a judgment. If you’re a good friend of mine and you didn’t get invited, that’s not it at all. It was just looking at the energy like, who would match that energy?

[00:05:36] Honestly, that’s a really big thing for a lot of people. So many pieces would be so traumatizing for some people, right? I don’t know, maybe undressing in the back of a Value Village with a sheet held up? That could be one. Wearing the most bizarre outfits? I knew that I had to ask people who were willing to go there.

[00:06:03] I did, and they showed up. Even though I know now that some of them maybe had a struggle or two throughout it, they never let on and they just allowed the silliness, allowed the play, had the fun, and it was such a magical day.

[00:06:21] There would’ve been a time not that long ago that I wouldn’t have looked at any of those factors. I wouldn’t have looked at what energies I desired. I wouldn’t have looked at what would it take to create it and who would actually contribute to that.

[00:06:35] I would’ve looked at probably more so what would everyone else like to do and who should I invite. Who’s right to invite as though there’s some sort of right or wrong in terms of who you invite to your birthday. Yeah, I know. You get the idea, right? It’s such a different way.

[00:07:00] This is such a, I’m gonna say, silly example but it’s not because for me, my birthday is a big event. I love celebrating my birthday. I love celebrating. I love laughing, I love having fun, all of those things. But I’ve never — even for my 50th which was last year, although I had a good birthday, it was fun — I didn’t look at all the pieces.

[00:07:22] I just looked at probably the other pieces. What would everybody else like to do? I had a pool party when I had the pool. It was good, but it wasn’t THIS. When I looked at it, truly, what did I desire? How did I want to spend the day? What was it gonna take to actualize that? What did I need to put in place?

[00:07:44] Even for myself, even on my best, happiest, most joyful day, if I was just going to sit in a pool — not just sit in a pool, you guys know I love pools — but it’s not that fun laughter, unless maybe I had a comedian come something like that. There’s a time and a place, really. There’s a time and a place.

[00:08:04] For me, this birthday was about the laughter and the joy and looking at all of those pieces and being honest with me about that. It’s huge ’cause if I’m willing to be honest with me about that sort of stuff — honestly, I’m willing to be honest with me about so many things. I would love to say everything, and I’m probably not there yet even though this has been years and years of this, of really getting honest with me.

[00:08:32] I would say I just did such a good job of not being honest with me. There was always this energy of what do they need? What do they want? What would make them happy? I can pick that easier than I can with what I desire. It’s getting better., [I’m] just not there yet. Not there a hundred percent.

[00:08:51] It’s not wrong to be aware of other people and what they would like. It’s just as I say, invite yourself to the party. Make sure you’re part of that. Are you looking at it?

[00:09:02] If Hubby and I are going out to dinner, then I’m not gonna just pick where I wanna go if it’s some place he hates, but at least I invite myself to the party. Where would I like to go and where would he like to go? Out of the places, is there one that both of us would like to go?

[00:09:19] Again, kind of a basic example, but you can start applying this in every area of your life. Really start looking at what are the energies, no matter what. Is it work? Is it career? Is it, business? Is it money? Is it body? Is it relationships? What are the energies you would like, and what is it actually going to take?

[00:09:42] That takes some logic. My logic was, “I’m gonna search this Facebook group to figure out what are all my possibilities.” It doesn’t mean that I went on there with the logic of, “Okay, what are most people doing?” No, the logic was, “I would like some ideas ’cause I thought of lots, but none of them were a ‘yes’ so, okay, cool. I’d like some ideas.” Logic was, “Where could I find those?”

[00:10:09] This Facebook group was one place and it gifted them to me. And then I got to really look at, “Of these, what’s going to really contribute?” I just knew as soon as I read that Goodwill one, it was just like, I could just imagine the crazy outfits people would come up with.

[00:10:26] Honestly, my friends — shoutout to Maureen, Brenda, O’tion, V, and Lisa — who really, truly showed up and found those outfits. The most obscure, the most bizarre. It’s so awesome. We’ll actually put some video or pictures or something in this video so you guys can see some of these. It’s beyond words.

[00:10:52] Really, [it’s] so ease to look at and apply to every area of your life. What’s the energies? What’s it gonna take? And then, what’s gonna contribute? In my case — birthday party — who’s gonna contribute?

[00:11:06] Even reaching out to Sid’s Selfie World ’cause they’re normally not open on a Wednesday. I just reached out and I said, “Hey, could I rent it for an hour?” [I’m] kind of thinking it’s gonna be a premium price because they’re not open on Wednesday so they’ve gotta come in or hire a staff specifically for one hour.

[00:11:24] But I was willing to ask, and they were so kind. They just said, “Since it’s your birthday, we’re gonna give it to you at regular rate.” What?! Truly, how does it get any better than that?

[00:11:36] Anyway, I just wanted to share what being honest with you could really look like and how it can assist you in actualizing everything you desire. Like, everything.

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[00:11:58] Have a fabulous week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.