Do You Actually Have a Receiving Problem?

Aug 27, 2023 | Radio Show

Do You Actually Have a Receiving Problem?

There’s maybe more to it, sweet friend.

“Follow these easy steps and get amazing results!” What a concept, right? Unfortunately, it isn’t always so simple.If you think you’ve done everything without seeing any progress or success, listen in as we discuss all about that in this week’s episode. Keep this in mind, sweet friends: there is no single way to create magic!

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[00:00:00] What if you aren’t the problem in not receiving what you ask for? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I’m so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] And yes, there’s a little puppy here. I’m actually not pet sitting. I’m at my sister’s house and yeah, this is Floyd and he wanted to be part of the video, if you’re watching on video. If you’re not, then he’s just a sweet little puppy. He’s just so cute.

[00:00:30] All right. I have been listening to a podcast called “Love and Light Confessionals.” I highly recommend it for everyone, actually. I just highly recommend it. It really opens your eyes to some of the stuff that’s going on in what we might call the “coaching industry,” the “woo industry,” whatever you want to call it, and has been going on for a long time, of course.

[00:00:58] She actually used a term that I’d never heard before in this context, and it got me really looking at all the spaces and places where what I’ve shared has done that, or it’s just everywhere. It’s about “simplification.” Actually, “oversimplification.”

[00:01:24] When I talk about — maybe this is the reason you’re not getting what you ask for is looking at it from the place of… you’ve probably heard or seen or watch videos or whatever when they say, “Just ask these four questions and everything you want will show up in your life.” That’s pretty general, but you get the idea right?

[00:01:45] I know I’ve said it myself. I totally have, and it’s said everywhere in all the places. What if it’s not, like, what if that is so oversimplified that it’s actually the problem? The oversimplification is the problem.

[00:02:03] One of the things that I’ve actually been talking to and really incorporating in the videos and classes and everything is yes, ask for what you would like, absolutely, and then there is action.

[00:02:17] The oversimplification is when we say, “Just do these four things,” “Ask these four questions and it’ll show up as if by magic.” No. That is oversimplification, [whereas when] we say, “Ask these questions” or “Ask the questions that light you up,” and then also “What action is required?.”

[00:02:38] I would say, and I’ll use myself as an example, that’s probably where I, especially years ago — and I know I’ve talked about this somewhat recently — I really didn’t want to have to take any action. I really just wanted it to be where I sit on the chair and ask the four questions, and things are delivered like Amazon. It just doesn’t work that way.

[00:03:04] That oversimplification, what people do is they hear the “ask the four questions and it’ll show up,” and [when] it doesn’t happen, that person goes into so much wrongness of themselves. “What am I doing wrong that I’m not getting what I ask for? I asked those four questions! That person asked those four questions, they got everything they asked for!”

[00:03:28] The other thing that we wanna recognize is that if that’s what they said, “I asked four questions and things were delivered like Amazon,” there’s probably some information missing in there. It’s also could be just a blatant lie.

[00:03:45] It’s really recognizing what is actually, again, true for you. I believe it was even last week or the week before that I talked about this ’cause it’s all been unraveling in my world in terms of all of the stuff that we’re consuming – all the content, all the information we’re consuming, and now I have a word for it – “oversimplification.”

[00:04:10] We go to that class, we buy that product, we take that course, we do that thing, and it’s not all the pieces. Sometimes, it is. Absolutely.

[00:04:20] One of the things that I would say I pride myself in with all of the stuff that I’ve created over the years, for the most part, I do what I can to make it simple. I make it into steps. I have handouts and PDFs and workbooks and guides and all sorts of things to really assist. I don’t say that to be like, “I haven’t done this.” I totally know that I have.

[00:04:42] [It’s] really recognizing that there might be more. You might wanna take that program, but with what I call “your eyes wide open.” If that person’s saying, “You only need to do this. This is all I did, and Amazon delivered it,” cool. Maybe you need to add some things, or maybe there’s some more questions for the person. Maybe if you go in with your eyes wide open, you’d start to recognize that “I could ask them if I have problems with this, how do they deal with that?” or “What does this look like?”

[00:05:15] Recognize that each one of us is so different, and our gifts and capacities and all of that is different. For some people, maybe they did have that – they asked the four questions and it was delivered like Amazon. Cool. Maybe for us, there’s something different.

[00:05:35] One of the things that the gal and I — I do not remember her name, I just know the podcast. Again, Love and Light Confessionals – highly recommend it.

[00:05:43] One of the things she talks about that I’ve actually never really considered is how a lot of the people, say, in the coaching industry, in the woo industry, that are the bigger names, a lot of them got in super early. A lot of people have tried to emulate what they did to create what they’ve created, and it’s possible that a lot of it was actually timing.

[00:06:11] It’s something to think about, something to be present with and aware with, especially if you’re one of those people who haven’t recognized. I mean, for myself, I recognized it a few years ago, but I didn’t have a word for it. But as you’re listening, if you go, “Wow, that makes so much sense,” look at where else maybe things have been oversimplified.

[00:06:34] I don’t mean people are doing it on purpose. I don’t mean people are trying to scam you. Of course there’s that, too. Yes, absolutely. There are people that do things on purpose and there are people that try to scam you, of course. But I’m not saying that’s always what’s going on. We just wanna recognize for ourselves, “Is this oversimplified? Are there other things?”

[00:06:52] People will say, “Take my class on how to create reels and your business will triple.” Well, really, if you actually look at that, there’s a lot of people that have tons of followers with, say, on reels with Instagram or Facebook or wherever, but there isn’t money made in those. The biggest money made on those sorts of things, of course, is partnerships where you’re talking about… maybe Nike gives you a partnership and they pay you to create a reel. Those sorts of things.

[00:07:23] Now, I’m not saying that people don’t have coaching businesses as a success because of what they do on reels or it’s an invite, but it’s not it. And yet, the oversimplification IS. “This person has viral reels every second day and their business is in the millions, so the answer is reels.” No.

[00:07:48] I hated hearing it, but I’m gonna say it. There is no one answer. There is no one answer. There is no one question. There is no one anything. There’s no guarantee in anything we do. It’s no different than if you go to school to become, I don’t know, an accountant. You’re not guaranteed that you will have a steady job and have steady income for until you retire.

[00:08:17] Same with our businesses. There is no one thing you can do to guarantee you will have what you would like. There’s action — again, I’m gonna use that word. There’s action, there’s asking, there’s steps to take, there’s things to choose. There’s also the willingness to be honest with yourself.

[00:08:41] I’ve talked about this a lot over, I would say, probably the past six months to a year ’cause business has changed. The way that business is has changed. There’ll be a lot of people that tell you it hasn’t, and maybe there is [that] hasn’t — I will not speak for them — and it has.

[00:08:59] People are buying differently now compared to a year ago, a couple years ago, more years ago where for a lot of time that was like self-empowerment and healing and all of that coaching, all of that was very sought after. It’s different now. I don’t mean it’s not sought after, it’s just different now.

[00:09:20] If you aren’t willing to be honest with yourself with that, then you’re not making the changes probably in the business that are required. That’s where we can really get into problems because we ignore it.

[00:09:35] We probably oversimplify in that, too, as I’m talking about this. Oversimplify -“Oh, it was just a slow month.” “Oh, it was just that, it was just this.” Actually, be honest with you. Look at the numbers each month. If you’re in business, look at your numbers each month, and are they going the direction you would like them? If not, there might be some questions to ask and action to take. There might be some things to choose different.

[00:10:02] I know for myself, for a little while, I was really in the, “But this always works! I’ll just do this! This always works! This always works!,” until I was like, “Okay, you know what? This isn’t the same.” Not good or bad, or right or wrong. It’s just different.

[00:10:17] What’s so cool is that once I was willing to be honest with myself about that, and then also be honest with myself about what I really enjoyed, I could look at things really differently.

[00:10:32] As many of you know, I started a Shopify shop in January of 2023. It’s just freaking amazing. And then, looking at adding some new things this fall.

[00:10:44] Part of that is my own interest in terms of what would I like to be spending my time playing with. I know I require a lot of creativity. I love that. I love one-to-one sessions. I’m looking at what else as we travel around.

[00:11:01] We’re gonna be in Oxford, Massachusetts in late September. That’s the first place we know for sure. Then we’ll be in Chicago. I’m taking part in a Mastermind there, and I’ll probably put something on. I know some of you have reached out – thank you. I will let you know as soon as I have details. From there, we plan to go to Nashville, and then Atlanta, and then be in Florida for November and most of December.

[00:11:25] That’s a lot of travel. There’s a lot of, you know, on the road sort of stuff. How can what I love to do fit with that? I can put classes on, and who knows? Maybe I will in every one of those areas. Who knows? But I’m also looking at what else?

[00:11:39] I really wanted to invite you to one of two things:

[00:11:43] One, listen to the Love and Light Confessionals if you’re a podcast user. I just [love] Love and Light Confessionals. Great, great podcast. All of them that I’ve listened to so far.

[00:11:55] But also, really look at where you might be oversimplifying what’s actually required, or where it’s maybe been oversimplified and you’ve took it as, “I must just be wrong ’cause it doesn’t work for me. So, I must just be wrong.”

[00:12:08] You’re not wrong, okay? There just might be some misinformation. There might be some missing information. There might be just something else and it might just not be your way.

[00:12:19] That’s the other thing that we can get so caught up in. Again, using reels as an example, this person has success with reels and so I have to do that. But if you hate video, [it’s] not gonna work so well, my sweet friends.

[00:12:31] There’s my thoughts for the week. Have a great week, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Do You Actually Know?

Aug 20, 2023 | Radio Show

Do You Actually Know?

What’s actually true for you?

With the amount of information we consume everyday and how heavily it influences our life and living, stop for a moment and think – how much of it is still true for you? Or… are you just believing things to be true because everybody else does? Answer these questions with me as I share more magical tips and tricks in this week’s episode.

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[00:00:00] Do you actually know what is true for you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] We are not pet sitting right now. No. I am at my friend Maurine’s, and yes, that sign behind me if you’re watching this on video does say, “Go out and fuck shit up.” I might’ve gifted that to her. I love it so much. Hubby is volunteering at the Edmonton Folk Festival on Main Stage as he has for decades. So, a little bit different this week.

[00:00:40] Do you actually know what is true for you?

[00:00:44] I received an email some time — maybe a month, maybe six weeks ago — that really got me looking at something. The email was from somebody on my email list.

[00:00:55] She was so kind just to send an email saying, “Hey, I’m actually gonna unsubscribe, nothing personal. But I have consumed so much content over the years that I actually don’t even know what is mine anymore. I don’t know what my voice is. I don’t know what is true for me.”

[00:01:12] It really got me looking at that for myself like, do I know? Somebody could say something and I would have almost an automatic response to what they say based on all of the information that I’ve consumed over the years. Is it actually true for me? If I didn’t have that other information that I had consumed, what would my response be?

[00:01:42] Yeah, right? I mean, it’s such a different energy. It’s such a different idea of really getting present.

[00:01:52] One of my hot topics that I talk about a lot [is] really being aware of you, of us, of ourselves, especially now. I’m gonna say “especially now” because I’m in that age group that, you know, I remember a time where we didn’t have constant information, like, before social media. Thankfully honestly, for me growing up, there wasn’t social media. I still got information, of course, and all of that, but it’s different. Now, there’s so much. There’s so much information.

[00:02:28] I don’t know about you. I can’t speak for you. I’ll just speak for myself. A lot of times if I see something — for example, on TikTok. There’s a lot of videos that come up in my feed about castor oil. I went and bought castor oil because all those videos had really great things to say about castor oil.

[00:02:48] Now, it actually does seem to work. My body does seem to enjoy it. It does seem to be doing what all the things are being said it would do. And… what makes me think that they know? There’s just this idea that if somebody is talking about it, then it’s actually true and it’s true for them. Is it true for you?

[00:03:12] And then those of us who are, say, in the self-empowerment field that do other studies such as, of course, Access Consciousness® or Human Design, Theta Healing, Reiki. I mean, there’s so many. I could just list them on and on and on. We’ve got the information from those. Is it actually true for us?

Are you willing to be honest with you when it isn’t? Right? It’s a different idea.

[00:03:44] When this gal wrote that, I was just like, wow. Wow. How cool. If you’re listening, you’ll know who you are. Thank you again for your email to really inspire me to look at that for myself and to not just automatically go into, “This is true and this is what I believe” or if whoever says it and I’m following them, if they say it, then it has to be true. What if it isn’t?

I know that logically we could say, “Oh, no. We filter it through our awareness or we check in” or all of those things. I wonder… do you? Do you, really?

[00:04:25] I know for myself, I’ve really started paying attention to what I do, how I do respond to clients in classes and sessions, friends, and interactions — however it is — to start really getting a sense of what is actually true for me. What if it doesn’t have to be an “always and forever” or a hundred percent?

[00:04:50] If you are following, gosh, I can’t remember her name, but there’s a lady on TikTok that there’s a lot of videos. People have just kind of taken from her classes and stuff about different healing things, specifically castor oil, the ones that I’ve watched. I believe her first name is Barbara.

[00:05:06] You could actually watch those and have some of them be true for you and some of them not. Right? You don’t have to take it as all or nothing, or “this is just the way it is,” or they said it so it must be true, or they said it so it’s what’s true for me.

[00:05:28] Now, how would you know what is true for you?

For me, and this is what I teach to a lot of people, is just to start recognizing how does it feel in your body. Our body is this big sensory organ that will let us know.

[00:05:43] If something’s true for us, often there is an expansiveness to it, a lightness to it. It depends on what your strength is and awareness. If you perceive energy, it’s going to be more of feeling a lightness. If you know energy, if you’re a “know-it-all” as we would say, then it’s going to be more of a knowing.

[00:06:11] If it isn’t true for you, there’s a heaviness or a denseness. You would just, again, perceiving it would be a dense or heavy. And if you’re a knower, you would just know.

[00:06:23] For me, a lot of times, it’s when I’m either thinking about it or talking about it that I can really get a sense of it. It might be that you need to start kind of paying attention when you’re talking or even just thinking about something. Where is your energy with that?

[00:06:42] It might even sound like a lot of work, but it actually isn’t because you’re saying or thinking those things anyway. It’s more just about starting to pay attention to what is going on with your body as you’re doing that.

[00:06:56] Sometimes, our body can really gift us. I’ve had times where I start talking and then I forget what I’m saying. Sometimes, that’s just part of life. Sometimes, it is a way of my body saying, “No. Stop. This isn’t contributing.” Sometimes, I could have a coughing fit — stuff like that where you could start and just go, “Oh, wow, okay. What is this? What’s going on?”

[00:07:23] Check in with your body so that you can really start getting a sense of what is actually true for you. What if it’s okay if it’s totally different from all the people you follow, or all the modalities you’ve studied, or all the different things, the education you’ve received. What if it’s okay if it is different?

[00:07:46] Probably gonna be the biggest part for all of us is to be okay if it’s different than what the people around you have said. Isn’t that where our gifts are? Right? Because we don’t want to all have the same information about something and all believe it to be true, and that’s just the way it is. You know?

[00:08:11] How many years ago was it [when] the earth was flat? Really, nothing new would ever be found, nothing new would ever be created if we all just went, “Oh, okay. Yes. The earth is flat and that’s just the way it is.” La di da. Right? It takes us being courageous and knowing what’s true for us and voicing that, even if it’s just to us.

[00:08:34] I don’t mean you’ve gotta go out into the world and start putting on social media things, different awarenesses you have, or different information. You can if you would like, of course, but it’s not about that.

[00:08:44] It’s actually about it for you so that when you are in situations where you have something said to you or information given to you, however it is, and it isn’t true for you, you actually know and trust that it isn’t true for you.

[00:09:05] If you haven’t watched “The Vow” on, I believe it’s on Prime, that is an eye-opener of a show. I would say it’s easy to watch that and say, “Oh, those people, they are just gullible.” They’re this, they’re that. I would suggest watching it through different filters rather than that. Really look at how easily we will allow people to give us information and we take it as true and real, and we make it true and real and we really solidify it.

[00:09:46] “The Vow” is one, and then also the podcast “A Little Bit Culty.” I just love that title. Two of the people that run that podcast are actually, they star — not star, that’s not the correct term. “The Vow” is based on the cult that they were a part of. On “A Little Bit Culty,” they do talk different shows about “The Vow” itself, but also they interview other people, too.

[00:10:15] The one I just listened to, which was so good, it was a very recent one — it would’ve been end of July or August of 2023 — around human trafficking. It was really eye-opening to me personally because it’s not an information that I have much about – I’m grateful for [it] and all about educating myself. This woman was human trafficked and how easy it was for the guys to do that to her. I’ll let you listen to the show to get it.

[00:10:45] But it kind of goes back to that idea that we just go, “Oh, no. Logically, we would never do that and we’d never let that happen.” But this really is about educating ourselves and trusting ourselves— at least it has been for me — to really start paying attention to what is actually true for me. Even if I never, ever talk about it publicly, it’s okay just for me to know it’s not true or it is true, or whatever that is.

[00:11:13] I invite you to start looking at that for yourself in terms of what is actually true for you and how is your body when you talk about things or think about things or hear things.

[00:11:25] It doesn’t even have to be just about you being the one delivering it. It could be that you’re watching the reel or you’re watching a class or something, you know? Start paying attention to where is your body with that and what is that for you.

[00:11:39] Have a great week, sweet friends. I’ve still got sessions on deep, deep discounts. I would love to play with you. You can check out the link above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I will get it for you. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Are You Giving YOU Up for Them?

Aug 13, 2023 | Radio Show

Are You Giving YOU Up for Them?

Are you giving up parts of yourself for others?

Do you mold your personality depending on the people you’re with? You might be giving YOU up, sweet friend. If this “toxic trait” resonates with you, tune in to this episode as we discuss what really goes on when you give you or parts of you up in relationships, and some magical tools to assist you in finally choosing what truly works for you.

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[00:00:00] Have you ever given up you or parts of you to be in a relationship? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:16] We are at a new sit. Still in Calgary, Alberta, but a new sit. We’ve got two brand new kitties. Oh my gosh, they are so sweet. You will probably not see them on video. They’re not those sorts of kitties. They like to relax a lot. Yeah. Unlike the other ones where we were just at. I think they both made it in the video at certain times.

[00:00:38] All right, let’s talk about giving up you in relationship. Now, I have done this so much. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. With Hubby and even before Hubby. Hubby and I have been together 30 years, so I don’t have a lot of romantic relationships really to speak of or even that I remember much of.

But in any relationship we can be giving ourselves up. [It] could be a friendship. It could be a work relationship. It could be boss-employer. There’s all sorts of ways that we give ourselves up.

[00:01:10] This was actually inspired by a question that my friend Juliet, a famous author in New Zealand, had asked on one of my radio shows. She just said [about] being concerned about giving her creativeness up to be in a relationship.

[00:01:27] What we wanna look at with that is that the fact that you’re watching this or listening to this. If you’re listening via podcast and you’re considering this, you’re wondering about this, you’re in the question of this, to me, you’re already [a] million miles ahead of probably where you’ve been in the past.

[00:01:48] Again, if I look at my own life, if I look at people that I dated prior to Hubby, and there were a couple, I did. I gave myself up entirely. Now, even if I go beyond that and I go to friendship, I did that. I did that all the time.

[00:02:05] There was always this energy of, “I’ll be whatever they need me to be so they like me,” which sounds really pathetic but that’s really where I operated from for a lot of time and I’m grateful that I’ve changed that in a lot of ways. Is it perfect now? No. Are there still times that I’m aware of doing it? Yes.

[00:02:24] The cool thing with awareness is once I have the awareness, I can actually change it. But thinking back to all those years ago, I couldn’t change it because I didn’t even know what I was doing. I just thought that it was the right thing to do. I thought that’s how you were a friend. You just gave up all of you for whatever they needed. Some people like those sorts of friends, but most of us – not so fun to be around.

[00:02:51] The first thing with that is you wanna look at that for yourself. Do you have a habit of doing it? One of my sisters uses the phrase “toxic traits.” Is it one of your toxic traits? If it is, just acknowledge it. Be like, “You know what? I do that.”

Or maybe it’s just in certain situations. Maybe it’s just certain people. Maybe it’s not everybody. Maybe it’s just, you know, if it’s a male person — a male person, hmm? — a male that you wanna be in relationship with or a female that you wanna be in relationship with or a type of personality or something. You just wanna start being aware of it because, again, once you’re aware of it, you can start to change it and you can get curious about that.

[00:03:35] If it’s always in, let’s say, romantic relationships for you — let’s say you don’t do it in friendships, it’s just romantic relationships, then okay, great. Start paying attention to that. Start paying attention.

If you’re dating, maybe you’re doing the — trying to think of a Tinder, I was gonna say Twitter — Tinder or something like that, then start being really aggressively present when you’re on those apps, you’re out on a date, or you’re talking with somebody.

[00:04:00] Be so aggressively present that you recognize when you’re starting to go into that place of giving you up. It’s not about going to the opposite side of, “No, it’s gotta be my way. They don’t value me if it’s not my way.” It’s not that either.

[00:04:16] This is one thing I’ve seen with myself over the years. Once I started to become aware that that’s what I did and it wasn’t actually kind to me or even the other person is then it was like the other way. It was like, “I don’t wanna be their friend because we had to go to the movie they liked and it’s all about them.” No. What if you just include you?

[00:04:39] Let’s say you’re going on a date with somebody and they’re saying, “I’d really like to try this new restaurant that’s out. Would you like to go there?” Maybe it’s not your preference of food. You could look at that and say, “Hey, you know what? I don’t actually prefer that food. Could we go here, or is there somewhere else that we both would enjoy?” Rather than be like, “No, I don’t like that place and I’m not going there.”

It’s just a different way of being a person with somebody. How about that? [It’s] so that you can really start to voice what actually works for you, what actually you would like, and allow that to be part of the conversation.

[00:05:20] Again, like I said, there’s gonna be some people who really appreciate and really wanna be your friend when you give you up for them. Yeah. That may start weeding some relationships out.

I don’t mean we’re gonna do exclusion and say, “I never wanna be with them or anything,” but you might start, in a sense, losing friends or not having as many connections from certain people. What if you see that more as like an invitation or a celebration? If they just want you to be what they need you to be, do you really wanna be there?

[00:06:01] I’m thinking specifically about one gal. We were in psychiatric nursing together in, I believe it was Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. We were doing a little stint there in our training. She had a young son — that sounds so funny now. But I would often babysit so she could go out all night and party.

I would babysit for her, you know? I just think of that now and it’s like, “Really? What?” I mean, I do enjoy kids, but probably when I was — I would’ve been 18, 19 at the time. Hmm. Interesting.

[00:06:39] I think of that and it actually was okay when that friendship ended because it wasn’t actually a friendship. Now, you couldn’t have convinced me that of the time. At the time, “She was a very good friend,” I would’ve said, but not the type of friend. When I get clear on what I would like, who I would like in my life, and the energies I would like in my life in living, I probably don’t wanna hang out with her a lot.

We haven’t talked. I don’t actually even remember her first name. It’s been so long. So, that.

[00:07:12] We wanna recognize that by being us, by choosing and voicing what works for us and being willing to bring us to the table in certain conversations and situations, then there’s going to be people who aren’t interested and that’s okay.

[00:07:29] There’s lots of quotes out there about being, you know, having quality over quantity in every sense of the way. What if that includes friends? What if that includes relationships? And then really look at it.

[00:07:43] Again, if this is one of your toxic traits — it’s such a funny, funny phrase. If this is something you choose, then you might wanna look at what is that’s going on that you would give up you for somebody else?

What was going on in my world that I would spend all night with a child instead of going and partying with friends? Yeah. It was really this desperation for her to like me.

[00:08:08] The thing that I do remember in that relationship was that I really had her on a pedestal. She was older than me probably by 5 or 10 years. I don’t remember exactly. She just had a lot of her, from my judgment, a lot of her shit together, a lot of her life figured out, very confident – a lot of things that at that age, for me, I didn’t feel and I didn’t have. And so I really looked up to her and had her on that pedestal.

[00:08:44] When I look back across my life, that’s been one of the biggest things. The moment I put somebody on a pedestal, that’s when I will often give me up, which I would say is probably quite common for most people. If that happens to be something for you, it’s something for us to look at when we do that. When we put somebody on a pedestal, what are we actually doing?

[00:09:08] The other thing with that that you want to be aware of, and I only became aware of this probably in the past five or six years, is that anytime we put somebody on a pedestal, in order to empower ourselves, we have to knock them off.

Right? I know. We then have to find a way to make them wrong. We then have to find a way to fight with them maybe, to walk away in a huff, or there’s gotta be some sort of drama-trauma where we kick them off.

[00:09:43] And so, really pay attention when you put people on pedestals if that’s a thing for you, because you’re gonna create way more drama-trauma in your life than you actually require.

[00:09:56] Let’s go back to that situation for me. If I didn’t put her on a pedestal, I could still be inspired by her. That’s a different energy. But putting on her pedestal made her greater than me, bigger than me, everything more than me, which meant I gave myself up for her, to be like her, to hang out with her, for her to like me ’cause of all the stuff I’d attached to that rather than looking at her as the inspiration [and] going, “Wow, I’d love to be that confident. Wow, I’d love to have that part of my life figured out” or whatever it was and utilize that as an inspiration because then I could still be me, right?

[00:10:32] She’s still on the same level with me. I could still be me to be with her. I could still be me to be inspired by her. Even if she didn’t like me, I could still be inspired by her. But when I put her on a pedestal, all of that went away, except that she was everything and I was nothing.

[00:10:48] This was me doing that, okay? I’m not saying she walked around saying, “You should put me on a pedestal.” It was nothing like that. She certainly loved that I did. It certainly worked in her favor that I did that. So, recognizing that we don’t put people on pedestals.

[00:11:06] There was a quote I heard probably, I don’t know, 20 years ago, and it’s just always stuck with me in terms of how we compare our insides with somebody else’s outsides.

I could look at her life as an outsider and say, “Oh, she’s got it figured out. She’s so confident, she’s so this, she’s so that.” But inside, there was a probably hugely different story going on inside. She probably didn’t ever feel confident. She probably felt like her life was a mess. She probably, you know, all those things. But I’m looking from only one angle.

[00:11:41] If you are giving yourself up, there’s chances are you’ve put them on a pedestal and you wanna look at that. Maybe that’s a thing you do, and that’s something you want to, again, become so aggressively present.

[00:11:52] If you meet a new friend, if you start dating, where are you putting them? Are you making them everyone at the table? Or do you have a seat at the table? In what way does that [or] which of those works actually for you? A couple, you know, just some ideas with that.

[00:12:15] Also, recognize that there’s this whole idea of creationship, meaning can you and that other person, doesn’t matter what sort of a relationship it is, can you and them create more together or apart?

This is an ongoing question. This isn’t something that you decide on day one and it’s always and forever like that. It’s just something to be aware of. It doesn’t mean if you recognize one day that you create more apart than you do together that you need to leave them or end the relationship.

[00:12:52] It’s just something to be aware of because there’s such a place of possibility with that so that you can recognize that it’s not about pedestals. It’s not about everybody having a 50/50 part at the table. It’s really about how much more can you create if you’re together or if you’re not together.

Neither of those are right or wrong. This is, I would say, where a lot of people run into problems is because they’ve decided one is better. Creating more together is better than creating more apart. Is it? No, it’s just two different ways. It’s just a different way of looking at relationship.

[00:13:41] In this reality, a lot of times relationship is about how many years you’re together, and that the longer you’re together, the better. We celebrate how many years people are together, but you don’t often hear about a celebration of a divorce. Why the heck not? Why shouldn’t we have parties to celebrate when people choose that they’re better apart than they are together? It’s just a different way of being with it.

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What if You Effing Can?

Aug 6, 2023 | Radio Show

What if You Effing Can?

If you can dream it, you can do it.

“I can’t.” “It’s not possible.” “It won’t happen.” These words might have held you back from choosing or creating things you love at some point. Join me in this week’s episode as I share more magical tips and tricks to get out of that mindset of “I can’t” and into more possibilities!

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[00:00:00] What if you fucking can? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:12] We are still in Calgary. We’re at our sit that actually ends tomorrow. We have two sweet kitties here, and we go tomorrow to a new place with two more sweet kitties.

I guess she wanted to show you how sweet she is. She loves to climb [on] furniture and me and anything. She’s 8, but you’d think she was 2. If you’re watching this by video, you obviously can see this. But if you’re listening, the kitty just climbed up the chair.

[00:00:39] So, what if you fucking can?

This is something that I will often say to myself when I’m in that space of, “I can’t. It won’t happen. It’s too hard. I don’t know how,” all of that icky self-talk that doesn’t actually create anything — when I remember. It may not be right away, but I will eventually get to that point that I go, “What if I fucking can?” It changes the energy.

[00:01:10] It doesn’t mean, like, let’s say you wanted to run a marathon, and you’ve never even ran a kilometer or a mile. You maybe don’t do it in the next moment, but it opens up that door. It opens it up to the possibilities when you get out of the “I can’t” or “It won’t happen” or “It’s too hard” or all of that stuff [and] into “What if I fucking can?”

Maybe you don’t swear like I do so “What if I can?” You could use that instead. It just opens it up. And suddenly, what will start to occur is you’ll start to become aware of the things that will contribute to you creating or actualizing whatever it is.

[00:01:51] If it’s the marathon, maybe you come across a running group in your area or a trainer that does one-to-one training for marathons or stuff like that. It’ll just start to occur because you are energetically going in that direction.

[00:02:06] Think about that for a moment because what I want you to realize is when you’re going in the other direction of “I can’t,” “It’ll never happen,” “I could never run a marathon,” “I have too much extra weight,” [and] all this stuff, guess what you’ll become more aware of? All the reasons you can’t, all the ways it won’t happen, all the stories of people who tried and died… I mean, that might be a bit dramatic, but you know what I mean? So be really aware of that.

[00:02:35] Wherever your energy is, you’re gonna create more of that, meaning if you’re in the “I can’t,” you’re gonna create more of the proof that you can’t. If you’re in the “What if I fucking can?”, you are gonna create way more of that energy and then also, the ways to get you there.

[00:02:54] I would say for myself, in all the years that I’ve been playing with all the tools — right from, I would say, when I took my very first Reiki class in March of 2002. Oh my gosh, 21 years ago. I started reading all sorts of books about energy and creation and manifestation and actualization – all of that.

[00:03:13] When I read them, I would’ve told you what they were saying to me is sit on the couch, think all the good thoughts, and everything will show up at your door. Okay. I’m, again, being dramatic, but you get that idea. I really didn’t know about the actual piece of action or, probably better, I didn’t wanna know.

[00:03:35] So then I would do all the, I’m gonna call them the “easy things” to create or actualize what I desired, but they wouldn’t show up. And then I would go into the wrongness of me and “I must be doing something wrong” and just all the insanity of it, rather than just going, alright, “What if I fucking can?”

[00:03:55] The next question can be “What action’s required here?”

Sometimes the action required is a nap, is going out with friends… it isn’t necessarily the logical action. In terms of, say, the marathon, it isn’t necessarily the action of going out and training right away every day, all day. There could be multiple. Well, there will be multiple things, of course. We’re recognizing that we always can and that there’s going to be action involved with that.

[00:04:34] Here’s the piece that I think is really important for you to be aware of, and I look at this in myself. It’s “If I’m not willing to take the action, what is that?” It’s not about judging yourself about that. It’s about getting curious, like truly, what is that if you’re not willing to take the action?

[00:04:54] Again, let’s use the marathon as an example. Just so you know, I’m not interested in running a marathon. It’s an easy example to use here. If we use that example, you wanna run a marathon but you’re not training, you’re not talking to trainers or educating yourself about how you would train or any of that stuff, then what is that?

[00:05:22] Just to get curious, not about judging you, but curious because is there actually something,? Is it a belief that you need to change? Is it a limiting point of view? Is it that you don’t really wanna run the marathon?

Is it that you’ve got this, I often use the word “fantasy” where we’ve got this fantasy of this thing? I often talk about it in terms of, like for myself with coffee shops. I’ll go past a coffee shop and I’m like it’d be so cool to work there. I’d love to spend hours working in a fun, cute, little coffee shop. But then I go to do that and the noise bothers me, and I don’t like wearing headphones.

[00:06:03] So, it’s a fantasy! It’s whatever I’ve built it up in my head about doing this, you know, working in a coffee shop that isn’t actually true for me. Would I like to just sit and people watch? Absolutely. I’m happy to do that there. But to go work there? No. Do client sessions there? How do you do that?!

[00:06:20] Anyway, you wanna look at that. The thing you’re asking for, is that a fantasy? Is that something that you’ve decided would mean something about you? You’d be so good, you’d be so great, you’d be amazing, you’d be the one, whatever it is… yeah. Stop it if that isn’t.

I don’t mean if you’re not taking action, you need to throw out those asks. But you do wanna get curious because if it is just a fantasy and you’ve added a bunch of story, throw it out. Of course.

[00:06:50] Now, if it is just some limiting beliefs or some points of views or whatever that are holding you back, cool. That gives you a lot of space to play.

[00:06:59] One of my favorite tools, and I have shared this for years and years with that, right at the top of a piece of paper — now, I’m a pen and paper gal. Although in the last couple years, I’ve got more into, I can’t remember the name of them, but you can like erase off of the page. It’s like a pen and paper, but it’s not paper. You’re not throwing it out. You’re just erasing it at the end. It’s great. It’s like a notebook.

[00:07:22] Anyway, you’d write at the top:

“I can’t run a marathon because…”

Then you wanna write at least 10 becauses, probably more. Write down all the becauses.

I can’t because I have too much extra weight.

I can’t because I’m too old.

I can’t because I hate running. ‘

I can’t because… whatever it might be. All those things.

And then once you’ve got them, you wanna go through and clear those points of view. For some people, they like to take a list like that and rip it up as a kind of a symbol to acknowledge they’ve let go of them.

If you use tools from Access Consciousness®, the Interesting Point of View tool where you would read it:

“I can’t run a marathon because I’m too old. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view. Interesting point of view, I have this point of view…” over and over until there’s no more point of view. Whatever way you like to get rid of those things, use that on all of those.

And then, put that list aside for a couple days. Then go back. Any of them that you don’t laugh at, you want to clear again. The ones that you do laugh at, you can scratch off. Maybe you’ve come up with some new ones and add those, of course, and then just keep doing that until there’s none left on there.

[00:08:36] And then, this is kind of an additional step that has really helped my clients over the years, [in] a new piece of paper:

“I can run a marathon because… “and then write down whatever comes up.

[00:08:52] You gotta get there. At least in my experience – I guess if you wanna try it, see if you can get there first. That’s great. But if you can’t, do the “I can’ts “first, clear those and then get into the “I cans”. We’re not clearing those. We’re just gonna start acknowledging, “Hey, I can because I do love to run, because, I do know how to train, because…” whatever it is. I mean, whatever yours might be, start getting excited with that.

[00:09:14] Again, going back to what action’s required. What action is required?

Probably not a lot of you are looking to run a marathon, so let’s use this in something that probably a lot of people are dealing with right now. You’d like more money, so let’s use you’d like an additional $5,000 a month. Let’s just use that. You can change that number [with] whatever you’d like.

[00:09:38] Same idea: ” I can’t create or actualize-” whatever the wording you prefer “-an additional $5,000 a month because it’s too hard, nobody’s spending money, nobody wants what I’ve got.” I mean, all the things. Whatever comes up, at least 10 of them. Go through and clear them whatever way you like to clear them.

[00:09:58] “I can create an additional $5,000 a month because I’m brilliant, because I always have my own back, because…” whatever it is, and get into that energy.

Okay… yes the fuck I can create an additional $5,000 a month. Yes, I can! Now, be open to the possibilities starting showing up. Be open to the ideas, the invites, all of that.

[00:10:29] I wanna say with that, it doesn’t mean… let’s say you go through that. After this, you go through and you do that whole exercise. You do it every couple days, and let’s say a week.

In a week, you are writing out your “I can” list, okay? And then, you get a phone call and somebody saying, “Hey, do you wanna come be on this marketing team for this blah, blah, blah?”

[00:10:50] Don’t assume. Don’t do the A + B = C. “I just cleared all my ‘I can’ts’ and now I’ve got ‘I cans’ and somebody invited me. This must be the answer.” Do not do that. Please do not do that because that’s not a question, that’s still the conclusion of, “Here’s the answer.”

[00:11:07] There is no answer. There’s possibilities, there’s choices, there’s action. So, question it. Be in question like, “Hey, what would it be like if I said yes to this? What would my life be like in 10 years, 20 years, 50 years if I said yes to this?” Start training yourself to become aware of, I kind of call them like the “pulls from the universe.” The universe will be pulling you in the way you’re asking to be pulled.

[00:11:36] Let’s go back to the first part of my conversation here, right? If you’re in the “I can’t and it won’t happen and I can’t” and all that, the universe will pull you that way, okay? The universe has no judgment. It’s not judging what you’re choosing, it’s just going along with you. If you’re in the “I cans,” the universe will pull you that way. So start paying attention to those pulls and being in question about it and following it.

[00:11:59] But even if you — let’s say somebody does invite you and it does feel like, “Yes, absolutely,” and then you start taking a few actions and it doesn’t feel so fun anymore, follow that. When we talk about following the energy, it’s never about following it with the first energy that showed up. It’s about continuously following the energy as if by magic.

[00:12:21] I would love to invite you guys to come and play. My Private Sessions are still on sale depending on when you’re watching this, so the link will be above or below. I would love to be working one-on-one with you, my sweet friends.

[00:12:33] Have a fabulous rest of your week and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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A Tool When You Are Judgy McJudgerson

Jul 30, 2023 | Radio Show

A Tool When You Are Judgy McJudgerson

What can you do when you’re being a Judgy McJudgerson?

It can be difficult not to make judgments when faced with certain experiences or things we wouldn’t typically consider “normal” for us. But in turn, it can make us judge ourselves harder when we fall into the same situations or choose the same things we’ve previously judged. How do we change that? Tune in to this episode as I share the tool to assist you when you’re being a Judgy McJudgerson.

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[00:00:00] When you are being Judgy McJudgerson, what the heck do you do? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:14] Yeah. What do you do when you are Judgy McJudgerson?

For probably most of us — probably all of us here, that is the worst thing. What often occurs is we might judge someone else. We might judge an experience, a situation, whatever it is, and then we are way harder on ourselves because of the judgment we just did. What we wanna look at is how can we change that. How can we change the judgment in the first place?

[00:00:45] The first thing you wanna recognize is that… that’s going to occur. That judgment is going to show up. Now, will there be a day that you don’t judge? I mean, I wonder. Wouldn’t that be cool?

But also, it isn’t really about never judging again. I know a lot of times when I’m doing classes and sessions, I’ll say to people, “If you could get anything out of this, what would it be?”

A lot of people will say, “I never wanna judge again.”

And I say, “Let’s change that.” Let’s change that to more of an ask around really being aware when you’re doing it and changing it the moment you become aware of it. Yeah.

[00:01:27] If you’re watching this on video, my camera might start to shake a little bit. We’ve got a little kitty here. Yes, we are house sitting in Calgary still, and she just seems to like, as many cats seem to like, rubbing up against the tripod.

[00:01:41] But anyway, back to what we were talking about. We wanna look more at the ask to be way more aware when we are judging and whether it’s ourselves, someone else, something else, it doesn’t matter. And then in that moment that we become aware of it, let’s change it.

[00:01:59] Yes, this is what they do and yes, it’s okay.

[00:02:04] With that, we’re getting out of this, I’m almost gonna say, fantasy that we never judge again. Because a lot of times — I mean there’s so, so much to it.

[00:02:18] First off, I’m gonna say for probably most of us, it’s what we were taught. It was how we were taught to distinguish right and wrong. Now, I don’t mean that we were taught correctly. I don’t mean that that’s the way it should be. It’s just that’s pretty much what we were done.

This is how you do it: you judge to distinguish what is right and wrong for you based on what you’ve been told and all the pieces. So, that judgment is quite quick to come up.

[00:02:49] It’s not wrong, but we wanna recognize we have other ways that we can actually be. We could recognize that something that somebody is choosing doesn’t have to be wrong for them. Right?

That’s often where judgment comes in: we look at it [and think] we would never do it, we would never choose it. So then, it’s the judgment that they shouldn’t or they’re wrong, rather than recognizing — and this is the tool that I wanna share — [that] if you are in that space, just acknowledge for you.

[00:03:22] You don’t have to say it out loud as, “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.” Not from sarcasm, not from judgment, not from anything except just acknowledgement to you. “Wow… I wouldn’t choose that.”

[00:03:36] You know, now that we’re living in the city, it’s a lot louder in my world. For the most part, when we lived at our house with the big pool and all of that, I didn’t actually leave a lot. I really stayed at home most of the time. I had everything I needed there.

Here, we’re pretty much going out every day, and that’s something we’ve chose to do. Something we’ve really looked at how we would like to be living. One of those ways is to have a different experience. Try the things that maybe we would’ve tried.

[00:04:15] One of the things I would tell myself before when we lived on the acreage was I’d see maybe a farmer’s market. I’d see on Facebook [that] somebody had a farmer’s market locally, and I’d be like, “Oh man, if I live closer to town, I’d go,” which was actually just a really big lie because I wouldn’t. I had a little routine, and until we changed everything, I didn’t actually recognize how much of a routine I had, like, woah. How much of a routine I had!

Now, I’ve really chose to not have a routine. I’ve really chose to change things up. One of those changes is to go out every day. Do something different every day. It’s been different things, like the Calgary Stampede.

[00:05:01] If you know Hubby or I at all, that’s not where you’d find us, except that’s what we chose. I actually was surprised he joined me. I actually thought I would go alone or check in with some friends that live locally. Although, a lot of Calgarians don’t go to the Calgary Stampede, which is funny. But of course, it’s not for everybody.

I’m grateful that we went. I had fun. I went and watched… there was Powwow Championships, different types of dances, and it was amazing. And then there was a dog show – oh my gosh, that was so cool.

We, of course, had to try some fair food or Stampede food. I bought a corn dog – it was called a Big Pickle Corn Dog or something. Anyway, it went to the garbage. I had two bites and it was like, “This is gross.” But anyway, there were lots of different things.

[00:05:54] So, we were out every day trying something new. I’m with people every day and there is a lot of judgment out there. There is a lot of judgment of choices that people would be choosing that I just wouldn’t choose. What can assist me in that moment is that if I can just acknowledge what is – “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.”

[00:06:18] Some of the things that I saw going on at the Stampede – “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that.” It doesn’t make me right in not choosing it. It doesn’t make me wrong and it doesn’t make them wrong or right either. It’s just an acknowledgement of what is. When we can acknowledge what is, that changes everything because acknowledging what is, there’s such a relief to it.

[00:06:43] A few weeks ago, I talked about how I had a lot of weird energy around leaving the acreage that we just sold. Some of it, of course, was all the things. But some of it was so weird and until I was able to acknowledge what it was, I didn’t have that relief. As soon as I acknowledged, it was like, oh my gosh… there’s the space.

[00:07:07] That’s what I’m looking for, especially when I’m out, say, at Calgary Stampede with thousands of people. I’m looking for that space. I’m interested in that space. I’d like to be that space and contribute to more of that space, but I can’t if I’m caught in the, “They shouldn’t do that. They’re wrong ’cause they’re doing that,” whatever it might be.

[00:07:25] I can’t even actually think of an example now. At the Stampede, I’m sure there were many of them. But there was just this space of recognizing that we don’t have to be the Judgy Judgerson that we’re so used to.

[00:07:40] I mean, go on any social media for a few minutes and recognize or start to look at the judgment from people, whether it’s in their posts and they’re saying how something is wrong or something is right, and then the people who are defending against or for it and all of that insanity rather than just like, “Wow… That’s not for me” or “I wouldn’t choose that,” however you wanna. Just acknowledge what is true. That will change everything for you.

[00:08:10] I feel like I’ve been saying that a lot over these past few weeks in sessions and videos and such because until you really get the power of that, it can seem like it’s just words. It’s just a weird way to deal with things.

[00:08:29] Even if you have somebody in your life that’s just driving you nuts right now, if you were to get really present with that and acknowledge what is – acknowledge that they’re driving you nuts – and I would even bring it down into what’s exactly going on. You know? ’cause that’s a pretty general statement. “They are driving me nuts.” What is really going on?

“Well, when they don’t text back, that drives me nuts or something.” You wanna get right down to the nitty gritty of it and acknowledge what is, and that can give you more information.

[00:09:01] That can give you more information in terms of like, let’s say it’s a client that you’re working with. They don’t get back to you when they need to. They don’t get you the information that you need to do your job, those sorts of things.

You can get clear like, “Wow… That’s really what’s bothering me. When they don’t get me the information I need Monday morning, then I can’t do my job until Tuesday morning when they get it to me. Okay, so what do I need to do here? Wow… I need to be clearer with them that…” whatever it is. Maybe that you get it Monday morning, or if there’s an additional charge every day that it’s late or something like that. It just gives you so much more information.

[00:09:40] But what happens is we get caught up in that Judgy Judgerson. We get caught up in how wrong they are and how bad they are, and then usually we tell all the people around us that will listen, which is only creating more of that drama-trauma, and then we’ve lumped it all together.

We’ve made it all one big story rather than, “Wow… it just really bothers me when I don’t get the stuff on Monday morning, that I’ve slotted their time on Mondays – that’s what works for me in my schedule.” Now, we’ve got clarity. Now, you can actually take some steps to change it.

[00:10:12] Maybe they will say to you, “Mondays don’t work for me.”

“Okay, cool. Then when would, and can you work it out?” If [they] can’t, that’s great information too. Be like, “Okay, cool. Thank you so much. We’ll let your contract go and you can go to somebody else.”

[00:10:30] I say all of this, guys, and it’s kind of funny as I’m saying this because Ericka, who does all of the work with all of the videos after I record them, I really do know that getting these recorded earlier in the week probably, she’s never said anything, but [it] probably makes her life easier and doesn’t leave her to the last minute to getting them done by the time she’s done work on Friday. It is in my world, certainly, to get them done sooner rather than later.

[00:10:59] Sometimes, they actually don’t get done until Wednesday or Thursday. I would say never Friday, but there could have been times. But I know there’s a lot of work that goes into these videos once they’re recorded.

[00:11:13] I’m talking about this, but also kind of laughing at myself going, man… I don’t have them to her Monday morning. I will say that. Maybe sometimes, maybe more so if I do a batch of recordings at once, but I tend to do them each week. I just find the energy in my world, the stuff that’s going on in my world is a little bit more ease to talk about. Anyway, I went off a little bit.

[00:11:38] So, recognize with that — when you are becoming Judgy Judgerson — that one, that’s okay. Don’t judge you for becoming Judgy Judgerson because now you’re just gonna dig a bigger hole.

You do wanna look at, “Okay, how can I change this?” and the tool that I have just found to be the quickest, the easiest in that moment is I just wouldn’t choose that. “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that,” and then carry on. I don’t mean [to] piece it apart, like, “Wow, I wouldn’t choose that because of this or this…” No. Just acknowledge what is and then carry on with your life.

[00:12:12] And recognize that we all have this infinite creative energy. Infinite creative energy. We can be putting that creative energy into judge, judgment, Judgy Judgerson, or into creating what we would like.

[00:12:30] Another way that you could shift it is looking at, “Okay, wow… I wouldn’t choose that.” If you find you still are going down the rabbit hole, what you could then look at is, “Okay, what would I like to create right now? What would I like to create?”

[00:12:48] [It] changes everything because chances are you wouldn’t like to create more judgment. You wouldn’t like to create more of that harsh energy, that unkindness, all of that. You’d probably like to create more space, more ease, more joy, more money, more magic, all the things, right? Once you recognize that you have a choice in that creation, then what’s actually possible?

[00:13:12] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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When the Price Increases

Jul 23, 2023 | Radio Show

When the Price Increases

Inflation driving you crazy? There are tools for that!

How do you deal with the rising prices of goods and services? It’s a question a lot of us are probably asking right now. Tune in to this episode as we talk about what you can do when everything is going up money-wise, as well as some magical tools to help you out.

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[00:00:00] What to do when the price increases? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you. Yeah.

[00:00:14] So, everything is increasing in price. Well, maybe not everything, but most things. Most of our day-to-day living expenses have increased in price. What the heck can we do?

[00:00:27] One thing you wanna really look at is where you’re judging that. We wanna be aware of it, yes. But the judgment of it is what’s going to kill your creative abilities, your creative capacities, to out-create the price increase.

[00:00:46] I don’t mean that you have to keep buying what you’re buying if it doesn’t work for you anymore. This is not what I’m saying. I’m not saying you have to keep buying everything. Maybe there’s some things that you don’t need to buy anymore.

Maybe there’s some things that… maybe you’ve always bought Heinz Ketchup, and maybe there’s a no name brand that you would like as much and the price is different. I use Heinz Ketchup. I don’t actually know. I use it as an example. I don’t actually know if there’s been a price increase, but I’m pretty sure because it seems like everything, there’s a price increase.

[00:01:19] And yes, we have cats here, so you might be hearing some. She would like outside, but I need to go with her. She will be patient, I’m sure, as cats are.

[00:01:32] Anyway, when we look at that, we look at it from when there are things that you would like to purchase that the price has increased, stop the judgment. Just acknowledge what is. We don’t wanna pretend. “Oh no, that it hasn’t went up at all. No, it’s the same!” No. It’s went up.

Is it still gonna contribute to you purchasing it? If so, okay. Now what? What’s required? What is actually required to have the money to purchase the thing or things or whatever it might be?

[00:02:05] For a lot of people, I know right now, it’s truly just groceries. That’s the only thing that they’re really putting their money into because everything else – housing and utilities and all of that – has went up so much. They don’t have a lot of extra, and that’s fine too, because probably groceries are the most important thing aside from those other things.

It’s looking at that and not from the place of you’re wrong or bad because you don’t have the money for the other things you used to purchase or maybe not the necessities. Again, it’s acknowledging what is but never seeing yourself as a victim to it.

[00:02:43] It’s really recognizing that you are the source of everything in your life and your living. That’s the way I see it. You don’t have to see it that way, but I see it as I am the source of my life and my living and I don’t shut off my awareness to this reality. I don’t pretend [that] I’m the source so I’m going to fly a private jet anywhere I want in the world, anytime I want, and I’ll just put it on a credit card – no. That’s not part of being the creator of your life and your living. It’s acknowledging what is.

[00:03:14] Let’s say you bring in $1000 a month and your expenses have went up. Maybe now it’s costing you $1,500 to live a month. Okay. Then actually, what’s required? An additional $500. What’s it gonna take to actualize that? Can you get a part-time job? Can you get a side hustle? What is actually required?

[00:03:38] What happens is that so many people have that occur and then they go into how wrong they are or bad they are, or how wrong it is or bad it is – the whole situation. All of that judgment just kills all of the possibilities. It really is about looking at it all as what would you like to create, what would you like it to be like, and what is required to actualize that.

[00:04:07] Now, not from fantasy. We could all say, “What would you like it to be like?” “Well, I’d like it to be like I have a million dollars deposited in my bank account every day for the rest of my life. That’s what I’d like it to be like,” but we don’t. We don’t live in that. We ask for that – absolutely. We get the energy of that. We utilize that to create and co-create with us – absolutely.

[00:04:30] But we don’t live from the fantasy of that’s what we would like and that’s what we’re asking for, so that’s what’s gonna show up, so I’m gonna keep overspending on my credit card. No, we look at what is actually gonna create what we’re asking for. If that means that some of the things that we used to buy, we don’t buy for a while, cool.

[00:04:52] Right now, I’ve never been so grateful to have chose what we’re choosing because our expenses are, you can imagine, probably a quarter, actually, I think a third or a quarter of what they used to be when we had a house and we had all the other things. There’s a drastic difference for us with that.

I didn’t choose it for that. I’m so fricking grateful for that space right now to be able to look at, okay, so what then? So what then? What would I like to create? What is fun for me?

[00:05:26] My Shopify store has been so much fun for me. You’ll notice that most of my stuff I’ve actually decreased the price of. My one-to-one sessions, previous programs, all of that, because I recognize that a lot of people are not able to pay what they could before.

[00:05:48] My target really is to have people be able to change their lives with what I’m offering: with the sessions, with products, with programs, whatever it is. That’s my target. I look at that. I look at what’s going on in the world and I don’t pretend, and I don’t live in fantasy, although probably at times, I do. But I really look at that and I go, “You know what? This is what actually works right now.”

Will it change? Probably! Who knows and what direction? I know for sure change is always the thing. Change is always the thing. We always are changing no matter what.

[00:06:29] When prices change, basically you’ve got a couple, well, you’ve got a bazillion choices. But you can go into the judgment of it, you can go into the wrongness of it, or you can be honest with what is. What is for you, where you’re at, what’s required, and what do you love? What is lighting you up in ways that are contributing?

[00:06:53] If you’re having to use a credit card or lines of credit or something like that To purchase those things… believe me, I have lived there. I have done that a lot in my lifetime where I use the credit cards and then regretted it after. So, really look at those things. If you are requiring to use a credit card to pay for those things that are nurturing and light you up, is there another way?

[00:07:23] I would say there is always another way. There’s always another way. I don’t mean that you say, “I would like to buy this new car, and Glenyce says there’s always another way so I’m gonna go steal it.” That’s not what I’m talking about. It’s just being creative and being open to it and being willing to receive from everything for the ways that it could show up. For the ways that it could show up, how many ways.

[00:07:52] This is a question I love to ask every day depending – the end of the question is always different, but you know? “Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with ______ showing up today…,” of course my favorite, “as if by magic?”

[00:08:07] I ask the universe and I see the universe as me, as the earth, as all the beings on it and in it and around it, and all of the things and everything. The universe, to me, is everything including me. I’m not talking to a big energy outside of me that’s greater than me. I’m including me.

[00:08:29] So universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with this car showing up as if by magic? That might be a car loan. That might be, somebody giving you a car that’s maybe not the car you would like, but it’s a car. There’s so many different ways if we can get out of the, “I don’t have the money, but I need to have this thing so I have to use my card or whatever.”

[00:08:56] Now, if you don’t mind using your credit card, if that works for you, please don’t think that I’m telling you [that] you shouldn’t. I just know from my own experience. The years that I dug myself into credit card debt and all of the past expenditures and all of that before changing it back in May of 2014, I know the hell that was. And I know the magic it is when I’m not doing that.

[00:09:24] For me, it just really works for me not to have the extra stress because that’s how I carry it. It’s [the] stress of credit card debt, line of credits, past expenditures, all of those things. That is a huge stressor for me. If that isn’t for you, that’s totally fine, but I am speaking to the people that it is for so that you can really look at how many other ways.

[00:09:48] As the prices of things go up, how many other ways can you receive what you would like? How many other ways can you acknowledge what is, so there’s a level of honesty with yourself of what you actually require?

[00:10:05] Can you get out of that… it’s like that fear of missing out, you know? I used to really operate from that probably at times. Still do. If I don’t go to that class, if I don’t do that thing, if I don’t buy that stuff, then again, I’m too different from other people.

[00:10:24] That fear of missing out is such an abuse to ourselves because there’s no awareness in that. If we’re purchasing something, we’re joining something, or we’re doing something based on not feeling left out or not being afraid that we’ll miss something, that’s not an honoring of us.

[00:10:46] And then usually what happens is once we do the thing, buy the thing, have the thing, then we’re really disappointed because it didn’t give us what we thought it was going to, what we told ourself it was going to, which is such a huge gift in the sense of we can then start to acknowledge like, “Wow, okay. When I did that thing, afterwards I felt icky. Damn, I knew. I knew I was doing it to fit in.” The next time that energy comes up to choose something to fit in, you’ll be so much more aware of it. It’ll give you so much more information.

[00:11:19] It’s also not about judging you when you have that space of, “Oh my gosh, I bought the thing to fit in and now…” no. It’s like, “Okay, cool. You know what? I got more awareness. I have more awareness now.” that’s really what it’s all for. It’s never that what you choose is right or wrong.

[00:11:36] If you have credit card debt or past expenditures or line of credits or any of that, those are not wrong. If you’re like me and that’s a huge stressor for you, then what’s required to actually eliminate those? There’s so many ways and things in that. But again, ask, “Universe, how many ways can you surprise and delight me with me paying this off as if by magic” or whatever the wording might be for what you’re asking.

[00:12:05] Recognize that sometimes it’s not what you think. Sometimes it’s not where you wake up in the morning and all this money’s in your bank account. Hmm… what would it take? I mean, let’s be willing to receive that. But a lot of times it is, maybe, in the form of a debt… is it consolidation? I think when you put all your debt together and then you have one payment and you pay it off. Maybe it’s that, maybe it’s something else. Who knows?

[00:12:29] But we recognize that what is right now is that the prices of things are going up. We could say, “That’s an interesting point of view,” except it’s also what is. We know this. I was gonna say maybe it’s just North America, but no. It’s around the world.

[00:12:47] Everything is going up money-wise, and the prices are going up. How can you be with that? How can you receive from that? How can you actually really get present with what is and then utilize it to your advantage? How do you do that? I wonder. Just ask. How can I utilize all of these price increases to my advantage?

[00:13:16] The universe will show you. The universe responds to every question you ask, my sweet friends. Every question you ask. It’s just that usually the questions we’re asking are not. questions that we would like to be answered like, why is everything so expensive? Why can’t I pay my bills? Why is money so hard? Those are not questions you want the universe answering, my sweet friends. Start asking questions you would like the universe answering for you.

[00:13:42] Again, my sessions have decreased in price. If you would like to check them out, you’ll find the link above or below. Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.