One Way I Create Magic

Jul 2, 2023 | Radio Show

One Way I Create Magic

A weird yet magical tool, indeed!

With all the AWEsomeness happening in Hubby and I’s lives recently, I am excited to share the thing I have been doing that has contributed to us creating not only the magic of the past few weeks, but years and years of it. If you’ve been waiting for something to occur or turn out, tune in to this week’s episode and use these tools for yourself!

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[00:00:00] There’s this weird thing that I do that actually creates magic in my life. Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:15] Yeah, that is our sweet house behind me for just a few more hours. Yeah, this is the last evening. Tomorrow at noon, we hand the keys over. We say goodbye to her and that sweet swimming pool. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. And yes, there’s been lots of tears, and there’s also a lot of excitement. I was just sitting out on the deck really looking at all the magic that was created with this whole process.

[00:00:48] I initially got the energy of selling back in May of 2022, and we took a little bit of action. We had a couple of real estate agents come out. We chose one. I emailed her, and she replied, and I could not email her back. That was June of 2022. Yeah. Weird, except it totally wasn’t. It totally wasn’t.

[00:01:21] I was aware of what was coming. If we would’ve sold last summer, it actually would’ve meant we would’ve bought another house. We would’ve sold this house and bought something else because we still had our sweet kitty Totty.

[00:01:35] That’s pretty much, I think, what we’ve had our houses for is our sweet kitties, and of course, we enjoy them too. But with her being sick in September and us having to say goodbye to her, it opened it up so that we could actually choose what we had been talking about choosing for so long and sell everything and start traveling the world full time.

[00:02:02] When I look at all the different pieces – I mean, that was just one little piece, but there’s so many pieces up until this moment. When I look at that, I would say that one thing that I do and have done for years and years is I acknowledge that everything has an energy of its own.

[00:02:20] That sweet house back there has an energy, a consciousness of its own. Even the very first time that we came and looked at it, I energetically asked it, “Hey, would you like us to live in you?” And I got a yes.

[00:02:35] We at the time had another acreage to sell. So, I asked if this acreage could contribute to the sale of that acreage so we could come move in here, along with asking the other acreage who no longer desired us to live there to contribute to this working out.

[00:02:54] I treat everything as though it’s its own energy because in my world, it is. One of the things that I’m constantly doing with all the things is asking it to override my insanity.

[00:03:11] So, this house. “Hey house, can you override my insanity?” meaning if I was standing in the way of something, there was going to be a way that it could override me. It could look at what it really desired and override that insanity of mine.

[00:03:31] I’m constantly doing that with everything: with my sweet body, with my business, with money flows, everything. I just give it permission. “Hey, just go ahead and override my insanity here,” which then allows it to create so much more magic than I never even knew was possible.

[00:03:52] I could probably write a book on this whole sale of this house and how all the pieces truly as if by magic, and I know it’s from allowing things to override, to do what they would like to do instead of me being what I joke as the “Bossy Bosserson.”

[00:04:12] I actually can say, “Hey house…” I knew it was asking to be sold, so “Hey house, take over. Show me who you would like to list it.” It showed up as a random Facebook message from Corey, that turned out to be a realtor, about something I’d posted in a group months before. I mean, so much magic.

[00:04:36] And so it knows. It knows what it would like. It knows who it would like. It knows who it would like to come and live here.

[00:04:45] Sorry, guys. I’m outside, so that means I’m dealing with mosquitoes and bugs. But I had to have this beautiful home in the show, in the video. If you’re listening to this, you might wanna hop over to YouTube. It’s in various places on Facebook also, just to see this and really receive the contribution that this home has been to us.

[00:05:09] As we allow things to override our insanity… Before I finish that sentence, let’s go back for a moment because you might not be there. You might not be ready to do that and that’s actually okay. You do not have to be. You do not have to do this.

[00:05:27] I was playing with energy for a few years, actually probably many years, before I was willing to do this because what it actually takes is the willingness to be out of control.

[00:05:42] I know, right? It’s a big one, and I’m willing. I don’t mean I always choose it, believe me, I do not always choose it, but I’m way more willing than I’ve ever been before to really just be like, “All right, show me. Universe, show me.”

[00:05:58] I’m also willing to follow that energy. If something, when I’m going a certain way, starts not flowing and not feeling yummy and expansive, then all right, time to make another choice. Time to make another choice and follow that.

[00:06:16] I often refer to it as like a dance where we’re dancing with the energy, with the possibilities, with all of the energies that are contributing to us, including beautiful homes or now that we’re gonna be off house sitting and pet sitting around the world, those places.

[00:06:34] I’m constantly saying, “Hey guys,” meaning all the animals that would like to play with us, “Show me, pull me, bring me to you,” because I don’t have to figure it out. I don’t have to figure out exactly where we are, where we wanna go, and what sits match that. None of that. We get to just flow.

[00:06:55] Even probably six months ago, our idea was that we would actually be out right away. We would head out probably down to the US right away, and that’s not actually occurring. We’re actually gonna be in Saskatchewan and Alberta for July and August. That’s super cool, not really what we’d plan. And then on September, we’re off down into the US and such for different sits. I’ve got a class in Chicago and such.

[00:07:26] All these different magical things [occur] when we start to let go, when we start to basically receive from everything around us without being the Bossy Bosserson.

[00:07:37] I know that’s a big thing for many of you. I know this because it used to be for me. I also know from classes and sessions that this is something that we often hang on so tight. We decide that the only way to have something occur or turn out is to push and to force and to make it happen. What if it isn’t?

[00:08:00] What if it isn’t? What if everything has your back? What if everything is contributing to you and would love to contribute to you creating and living your most magical life? What if? Would you be willing to receive from it all? To be willing to know that you have all these fans, all these trees that are around me, this beautiful house, this grass, and all the bugs, even though I’m kind of swishing them away?

[00:08:34] We could see them as our fans. They’re all rooting for us. They’re all contributing and doing everything. Here’s the thing: they’re doing everything we’re willing to receive from them that they can do. Did I say that? Oh my gosh. Yeah. It’s true.

[00:08:55] If you’re only willing to receive a little, little, little bit, then that’s what they will gift you. I’m not sure that’s actually true. They’re (everything) gonna gift you a bazillion percent, and you will receive from it what you will receive from it. How much more could you receive? How much more could you just let go of control?

[00:09:14] If you normally drive to work one way, could you try another way? Or at least not go into autopilot as to, okay, off to work and we go this way and this is the way it’s always done. Maybe just like, “Hey body, which way would you like to drive? Hey car, which way would you like to drive today?”

[00:09:32] Start having a little bit of fun. Start lightening up with some of this stuff to really get a sense of what it is like to co-create your magical life and living with everything – with the universe, with everything you’re asking for.

[00:09:50] I have a quote that I’ve said for years. We’ve got it out in different social media.

What you are dreaming of is asking for you, too.

It’s not just you dreaming this dream. Let’s say you would like to, I don’t know, have a big house with a swimming pool. Often, it feels so separate because you think it’s just you. You think you’re on your own. You think it’s like, “I’ve gotta do all these things to make that occur.”

[00:10:20] But if you’re dreaming of a big, beautiful home with a swimming pool, it’s dreaming of you too, which means you can gift and receive with it, right? Such a totally different space than pushing and forcing and making it happen, and then judging yourself when it doesn’t happen.

[00:10:42] Let’s stop that insanity, guys. Let’s allow everything around us, if you’re willing, to override your insanity, to start choosing what it’s asking for.

[00:10:58] Notice that I put specifically “what it’s asking for” because honestly, I would have to say, especially in these past few weeks, if I was doing this house sale from my insanity, I’m not sure it would’ve occurred because there were times where I was pretty sure I didn’t want it to occur. I do, and there’s still a lot of stuff.

[00:11:18] This is truly a dream I didn’t know that I had come true. I say that because I never considered, as much as I love swimming pools, as much as I love water, I never considered ever that I could own a beautiful home with a swimming pool ever for so many things. I had so many interesting points of views about them. When we actualized this, it was truly a dream I didn’t know come true – I didn’t know that I had come true.

[00:11:53] How many dreams do you have that you don’t even know are possible that you could allow to come true by receiving from everything, by acknowledging that they’re dreaming of you too? That it’s just a matter of letting go of control, getting out of the crazy, out of this idea of “it has to look this way” or “it needs to be like this,” or “I can’t because,” or all that insanity and just get the energy?

[00:12:24] What is it you’d like? I know a lot of times when we talk about what is it you’d like, most people don’t have words for it. People say, “I don’t know.” Stop it. Get the energy of what you would like. What’s the energy of what you’d like, the next five years to be like?

[00:12:41] Yeah, play with that. That’s the energy you’re looking. That’s the energy that once you get more familiar with it, you can start following and then you can allow the universe to continuously surprise and delight you with all that you’re asking for and beyond as if by magic. Yeah.

[00:13:02] I have a previously recorded program called “Morning and Evening Magic Routine.” Different things to do in the morning, different things to do in the evening to really be the magic of you. We’ve got it on sale in the shop, so you’ll find the link above or below.

[00:13:22] I’m just looking at that beautiful house knowing that we’re gonna end here. I’m gonna head to an Airbnb for the night. I’m gonna come back in the morning for a few hours and head out onto an adventure beyond what I could ever imagine.

[00:13:42] Have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting with you again next week.

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Are You Paying to Store This Stuff Too?

Jun 25, 2023 | Radio Show

Are You Paying to Store This Stuff Too?

Is now the time to “declutter” your life?

As we’re packing our things in preparation for our travels, a question has been constantly popping up the whole time: “Would I want to pay to store this?” I wondered… what if we apply that not just on the physical stuff, but in all the things that generate our life and living? Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about this tool because this might just be the thing you need in your life right now and more!

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[00:00:00] Are you paying to store this stuff, too? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:13] As many of you know, we are selling everything—almost—and heading off to house and pet sit around the world. We are so excited…. and also terrified…. and also excited… and all the things.

[00:00:29] There’s been a question that I’ve been asking myself as I go through things that actually really inspired something totally different. The question I’ve been asking — because what we’re doing is anything we would like to keep, we’re storing. As I go through things, I’m asking myself: Would I want to pay to store this?

Because literally, that’s what we would be doing. If I wanted to, say, keep this coffee cup, then if I do, then I just ask myself, “Am I willing to pay to store it?” It’s an easy question. Not always an easy awareness of whether I am or not, but really doing a good job of really paring down a lot of stuff.

[00:01:19] The awareness that I had with this was that’s a question we could actually be asking about the past – with events, with situations, with upsets, with friends or family or work situations, all that stuff.

[00:01:39] Let’s say you had a fight with a friend a couple months ago. Are you willing to pay to store that? Meaning you are going to pay in some way, either you’re going to pay with stress or upset or drama-trauma in your life or whatever. You’re gonna pay somehow, so are you willing to pay to store it? Uh… no.

[00:02:08] I’m gonna say that’s the easy part. The hard part might be, okay, what’s required? It might mean that you go, “Actually, this friendship is really important to me, so I’m going to apologize to them.” It could be that.

I mean, it could be a million things, but if we start looking at the things that we’re storing—I don’t mean just physical things, although those are probably good to look at, too.

[00:02:32] I can say this from my high horse cause I’ve been doing this now for what feels like months. I’m not sure I’ve actually been doing it that long. But I did do a good clean-out a few months ago in preparation for listing the acreage and such.

[00:02:48] And so, you know, physical stuff. Even if you’re not paying for a storage container like we are, you are also paying to store it. Again, I don’t mean everything, you should have nothing. That’s not what I mean at all. It’s really looking at if you don’t like that thing

[00:03:08] There’s been a lot of things that I’ve come across that I think, “What the heck? Why do I even still have this?” I’ve been paying to store it just by having it, just by hanging onto it with whatever I’ve attached to it.

[00:03:23] A lot of the stuff that I’ve really had to get present with myself about is stuff that has been given to me from other people. Yeah. There’s the value in it for me.

[00:03:37] You know, my husband gave this to me, and even he said a couple things with some of the things that I’m getting rid of like, “Wow, you’re getting rid of that gift I gave you?” Yes!

Finally, I actually had to say to him like, “You’ve gotta stop that. One, we’ve been together 30 years. You’ve given me a lot of gifts.” I’ve got a lot of amazing stuff like this necklace. It’s something that I would not, actually. I’m happy to pay to store it. It’s gonna travel with me, but I would if it wasn’t going to. I would be happy to pay to store it because I love it.

[00:04:14] But there’s been other things that just are different. They’re just different. A lot of ornaments and different things like that, and I’m keeping a lot, too. There are a lot of things. It’s just been this dance of really getting present with myself.

[00:04:31] The other question with those sorts of things – kind of a little bit off of what I was talking about. But if you are ever in that struggle, if somebody has been maybe gifting you something and you are wondering if you would like to keep it is I actually looked at if this person didn’t buy this for me, would I keep it?

Yeah. A lot of the stuff was a “no.” It doesn’t mean I have to just give it away or throw it away or sell it. I could also look at other possibilities with that.

[00:05:02] Some of them, I did actually go back to the person who purchased it for me. I just asked them, “Hey, I love this so much. I don’t wanna store it. Would you like to have it? Would you like to keep it? Would you like to display it? ” or whatever it was.

[00:05:18] A lot of the people said ‘yes.’ They were happy to have it back. They purchased it for me as a gift and they enjoyed it, and they liked it, so yes. Some people said, “Oh, no. Absolutely not. Just get rid of it.” [It’s] the vulnerability with that, the willingness to tell people, “Hey, I’m not keeping this.”

[00:05:40] Of course in those situations, we do have to look at whatever their response is their response. If you actually know that they would be very upset, you probably don’t need to tell them. You probably don’t need to ask if they would like it back. If they would take that as really unkind or mean of you, then don’t do it.

But otherwise, for the most part, look in your own life. If you’ve given some people gifts, if they asked you if you wanted to keep them if they were no longer gonna have a house or something, how would you be with that?

[00:06:13] I was actually surprised at the response. I didn’t do it with a hundred different people or anything, just a few different people that I just knew. I knew they would be okay with me asking, and I knew I would be okay with their response. I don’t need people to keep the stuff they gave me either.

[00:06:28] Kind of going back to what I was talking about before, uh, really looking at the emotional stuff that you’re hanging onto, are you willing to pay to store that?

Our bodies will… I shouldn’t say our bodies. I know for me, my body will hold on to stress, and so if I’M willing to let that stuff go in whatever way.

Sometimes, it’s really looking at the situation and getting present with it and being honest with myself about maybe what actually went on, not the story that I’ve told myself.

[00:07:03] Even the other day, we had applied for a house sit. The way that the house sitting works is you actually apply. People put their listing on the site and then people apply. We’ll put the link to the site above or below if you wanna check it out.

[00:07:17] And so when we apply, usually there’s a conversation, and then usually there’s a Zoom chat just to get to know each other a little bit on Zoom, and then they make their choice.

Every once in a while, this is actually the only second time this has ever occurred, the person—and they did actually ask a question, so there was a very short conversation.

They just asked one question, and then we just got an email saying, “You’ve been declined. I started doing the ‘taking it personal’ thing, and I was like, “This is ridiculous.”

[00:07:55] We didn’t get chose doesn’t mean anything except we didn’t get chose. I’ll be honest, I really, really wanted that sit, mostly because it had a beautiful swimming pool, of course, and all the things. And it wasn’t personal.

[00:08:13] It was interesting because a couple days before, I’d been listening to a podcast and the person was talking about in their business, they’d started receiving some hate and such.

What the person said was, “I have the emotional intelligence not to take it personal.” I remember I was driving and I looked over, like, I stared at my radio like, What? Emotional intelligence? I’d never considered that before.

[00:08:38] When I was taking it personal, I’m like, “Is this where I’d like to be? Is this my level of emotional intelligence?” I was like, no.

[00:08:46] And it’s not personal. I could have held onto that. I could have stored that. I could have paid to store that sort of stress in my body, and in my being, and in my living, and everything instead of going, “Wow, okay. They didn’t choose us. I wonder what else is out there that is gonna be even yummier.”

[00:09:05] I wonder. I wonder what what else is possible that I’ve never even considered, which is one of my favorite questions to ask because it goes beyond what I’ve actually considered. Imagine that. What else is possible that I’ve never even considered?

And then, I started putting my creative energy into creating that rather than this space of, “What did we do wrong? I shouldn’t have said this, and I should like…” oh my gosh. That’s a very, very expensive way to store things.

[00:09:39] Anyway, I just wanted to share this because I think it’s just really cool to consider that we’re paying to store everything. Everything that isn’t yummy and expansive and contributing to us in a way that really generates our life and our living, we’re paying to store that, whether it’s physical stuff or mental or emotional stuff.

And I wonder… I just wonder what it would be like to stop. I wonder what it would be like to cancel those storage fees and do whatever.

[00:10:17] Again, I’m not saying we can just go, “Oh, okay. We had a fight. It’s over. I’m fine.” I don’t mean we’d be a doormat. I don’t mean we just take it. I just wonder if there’s ways that we can let go of things and we can shift things.

It might be, again, like I said earlier, it might be about apologizing. It might be some action on our part. There’s lots of different things with it.

[00:10:39] I just wonder… I just truly, truly wonder if we allowed that to shift if we were emotionally intelligent. I say that with a smile because I don’t even honestly know really what that means, but there was an energy to it when he said it that really made me look at the amount of times where I hadn’t been willing to look at, say, taking it personal as being a choice. That’s really what that invited me to.

[00:11:09] I can choose to be the person who takes it personal and pays to store all that insanity, or I could be the person who chooses to recognize that there’s always something better. Even when it doesn’t turn out the way we would like it to, there’s always something better.

[00:11:28] So, have a great week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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How My House Sold Itself

Jun 18, 2023 | Radio Show

How My House Sold Itself

What if you just let the magic happen?

You read that right! Of course, we still had to do the usual stuff – get a real estate agent, clean the house, organize our things, etc., but I also did something that I would not have normally chosen to do before. Curious to find out? Listen to this week’s episode to know more!

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[00:00:00] How my house sold itself. Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful.

[00:00:12] Yeah, my house sold itself. I mean, there was lots of things that we had to do like hire a real estate agent and all the things – clean it, get rid of a bunch of stuff, all the things. What I actually had to do for it to sell is something I’d probably never really been willing to choose before.

[00:00:38] In case you’re new here, the reason that I’m doing this out here — and I look quite dark cuz I’m sitting in a little bit of shade and sun — it’s because that swimming pool, pretty soon, like, in a couple weeks, I won’t be able to do this video here. I know.

[00:00:54] June 28th is when the new owners take over. Hubby and I are officially on our way to wherever the hell we would like to go to snuggle animals. Yes, we are going to be house sitting around the world full-time. Oh my goodness. It’s still so unreal to me.

[00:01:16] For any of you that have been waiting for attending a Pool Party Bars and Foundation, June 21st for Bars, 22nd, 23rd, 24th, and half of 25th—they’re now three and a half days—Foundation in this pool. Okay. The classes aren’t in this pool, but in here. Come here. Be quick though, because this is it. This is our final Pool Party Bars and Foundation. Oh my goodness. How’s it get any better than this?

[00:01:49] The way that my house sold itself is that I actually had to stay out of it. What I mean by that is energetically, I had to stay out of it.

When we sold our previous acreage, which was about six years ago, I was very much energetically involved. I was very much pushing and pulling and forcing and energetically doing all these things and all the things, which was cool.

[00:02:23] This was so clear to me, so clear to me that I actually energetically had to stay out of it. I even created myself an energetic exercise to sell the house. I listened to it once. I was not even able to listen to it. What I know is because it needed to be out of it.

[00:02:46] Why would I have to be out of it? I’m not really sure. I’m gonna put some words to it. I cannot say this for sure-for sure. I would guess that because I love this place so much that when I got the text from the realtor that all the conditions were removed, I literally cried… and cried… and cried.

[00:03:11] Now, I’m happy. I truly am. I’m so excited to move on and to do other things and all of it, and I have loved this home and this pool more than words can actually say. I have loved so much about it. Of course the pool is the big thing, but for six months a year, probably honestly five months a year, the pool is closed, and I still love this home. I love the space of it. I love so many things.

[00:03:38] My guess is that energetically, if I was in the sale of it, if I was attempting to do any of the other things that I had done before, I could possibly have put more of a stop energy on it than a go energy, so to speak. Even when I wanted to, even when I really wanted to control and jump in and do all the [things], I couldn’t. There was no energy to do it. It was like a hard no.

[00:04:10] It’s so cool (1) that I was able to, and (2) that I’ve really changed how much I control. I still have a ways to go, I’m gonna be honest here. I’ve changed a lot of the control in my world and the need to be in it, the need to have it, and there’s certain areas.

[00:04:33] Again, I’m not saying that I’m out of control 100% of the time ’cause I am not. In this experience, I was. I had to be. I would’ve loved to or tried to—well, no. I would’ve attempted to be way more in control, way more controlling of it except it wouldn’t let me.

[00:04:55] One of the things that I do, and I suggest this for any of you that this reads for, is to recognize that all the things around us have a consciousness of their own. Even the chair I’m sitting in my swimming pool, my home, they’ll have an energy of their own.

[00:05:10] It’s like when you have a baby. That baby, yes, it’s with you. It may be if you were the female and it grew inside of you and came out of you, but it’s still not you. It’s own energy. It is it’s own being, and so is everything around us.

[00:05:26] Years ago, what I started doing is I started giving permission to everything around me to override my insanity. Meaning if I’m gonna be crazy about something and it would like something different than my insanity, to override it.

[00:05:44] I would say that this house took that literally, which I’m so grateful for ’cause it did. I could not energetically do anything. Physically, I could, of course. I cleaned out stuff, organized stuff, and got ready for viewings and such. And there were times where I really felt like I should check in with the realtor [or] I should do this. It was just like, no. There’s no energy on it.

[00:06:08] And I just realized I had to actually be out of it. “Out of it” meaning out of the energy of it. In that sense, I was never out of it because we’re oneness. We can’t be out of it. But energetically, I was out of it while still being very present with it.

[00:06:29] It’s a whole new muscle, and I wonder how many times has something attempted to get me out of it where I still bulldozed. That’s okay, but I will now be so much more aware of that. I will really recognize that I’ve given all the things around me permission to override my insanity so they can do more without me being energetically involved in lots of ways when I have a point of view about it.

[00:07:00] I should say that if I can be totally in allowance of whatever and all of that, then of course my energy in it in that sense is going to be a huge contribution. But if my energy is going to stick it or stop it, that to me is when it becomes a problem. That’s where I have invited it, such as my house, to say, “You know what? I’m gonna push you aside and I’m gonna take the wheel,” so to speak.

[00:07:28] Of course, I said, “Hey, you need to find who you would like to own,” because again, with things, we often think we own them. Even babies, sometimes the kids, spouses, all of that. We often think we own them. We do not. With a house, we even use that word like “the house that I own” or even “my house.” That can be a bit of a limitation because it’s not that. It’s THE house.

[00:07:55] The house owns me. I’ve been the one who’s been paying for it. Hubby’s been doing all the upkeep and all that sort of stuff. And so, it actually owns us, which is really, for me, quite a freeing energy. When we recognize what is, which is we do not own it [and] owns us.

[00:08:13] When I said to the house, “Hey, you go find who you would like to own,” I gave it the choice rather than pushing and forcing and all the other stuff that I might have done. I’m not sure that I would have, possibly, of course. Or the other way – in this case, stopped the sale. Stopped it from being an invitation [by] just energetically being so, so, so, so in love with it. That sounds really dramatic, but [I’m] just really so grateful for it.

[00:08:44] If we weren’t going off to travel the world to fulfill this lifelong dream of ours, I’m not sure that we would actually sell for any other reason. That also was a part of it. It’s not that I don’t wanna live here anymore. It’s not that I don’t like it anymore. It’s not that it doesn’t suit us anymore. It’s none of those things. It’s just that we’ve got another plan.

[00:09:12] We’ve traveled the world a lot prior to Covid. I mean, we traveled all the time. [It’s] just the extra stress I guess of having a home. At that time, of course, we had our kitties. Making arrangements for them and all the things were a lot. That’s when it really started to be like, man, imagine if we didn’t have to go home. Imagine if we could just keep going to the next place, and to the next place, and to the next place. That really, for me is just such a huge invitation.

[00:09:48] What we’ve chose – Hubby and I have chose is that we’ll give it a shot for a year. If for some reason it’s not what we would like or it’s not fun for us, then in a year we will look at it and make another choice. Now, I don’t mean we have to stick out a year, we just know that there’s probably gonna be some times where we miss a home or we’re having a tough time at a house sit and we don’t love it. We don’t wanna make any harsh decisions. We want to be present with it all, and just the idea of giving ourselves the space for a year just to see. Just to see. Who knows? I wonder.

[00:10:27] It’s just a different space to be in. Allowing everything around you to override your insanity, that’s where you’re co-creating. You are allowing the things that have no points of views, that have more awareness in those areas because they don’t have points of views, to really contribute. You’re allowing yourself to really be the gifting and receiving. Last week, my radio show was all about following the energy. And so, it’s about that. It’s really allowing these things to guide us, to show us.

[00:11:02] In fact, when I first knew that we were going to be listing our home — it was last October, November-ish of 2022. I knew we would list our home in the winter — sorry, in the spring for a pool. What I did was I posted in a local group, and I posted for two reasons.

[00:11:25] One, I wanted to see if there was anybody who reached out. At the time, I thought reached out privately, not just somebody saying, “Oh my gosh, that’s the type of house we’re looking for. Tell me more!” Maybe doing the deal that way. That was some of the energy behind the post.

[00:11:43] I was also looking actually for some recommendations. We needed a couple things done, so that was the actual post. The same time I made that post, I posted beautiful summer photos of the house on my personal page. My personal page is public so I thought if anybody’s sees my post and gets curious and they went to my personal page, they might go, “Look at all these pictures!” This is what I was doing at the time.

[00:12:07] I posted. I got a lot of responses in terms of the answers to my questions. However, nobody reached out about the house itself, so I just left it. It felt a little weird to me because I really energetically got that that was going to occur. However, it didn’t.

[00:12:23] Until March of this year. My friend Chris Hassall, who is a realtor too far away from here that could sell my home, otherwise I would’ve had him do it in a heartbeat. Him and I were chatting one day about realtors and houses and all the things. That next morning, I woke up to a Facebook message from somebody who had seen that post from months earlier who was a realtor.

[00:12:51] It was like, hmm, this feels yummy. This feels expensive. [I] chatted with him and he was just such a magical fit. I have just been so incredibly grateful for the magic he is with selling houses and all the things.

[00:13:10] Even in that, I did my part because if I wouldn’t have made that post, he could not have found us any other way unless I, of course, made another post or whatever. But just following the energy – following the energy and allowing the magic. In my case, especially in this situation, energetically staying out of it. Huge, huge gift. Huge gift, and so grateful that I could actually do it. I wonder how many other places I could actually choose to be way less out of control.

[00:13:45] So, join us for Bars and Foundation. I would love, love, love to have you. Have a wonderful week, sweet friends. I look forward to chatting again next week.

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How to Follow the Energy

Jun 11, 2023 | Radio Show

How to Follow the Energy

Do you know how to follow the energy?

If you’ve heard about the concept of “following the energy” and are still wondering how to go about it, this episode is for you! This week, we will discuss what it truly means to follow the energy, as well as some tips and tricks to help you with your awareness of these energies. Imagine all the magic you can create once you start following it!

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[00:00:00] Do you know how to follow the energy? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for you.

[00:00:12] If you are watching this video — I know many of you listen to the podcast, but if you’re watching this video, I am in a beautiful space called Studio Bloom in Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. You need to check it out. We’ll put the link to the webpage above or below. This is amazing.

[00:00:30] I got to facilitate a class yesterday all about Shifting Your Money Mindset here with a bunch of in-person peeps and online peeps, and then today is Access Bars. How does it get any better? I love it so much here. It’s amazing.

[00:00:47] Do you know how to follow the energy? You might have heard this concept before about follow the energy and your light. Follow the lightness and your life will be lighter. Follow the heaviness and your life will be heavier. So, follow the energy. I just wanted to talk about what that means if you’re not sure, and maybe some other tips and tools and ways that you could have more ease with it, especially if it’s something that you feel like it’s difficult for you to do.

[00:01:18] Following the energy often means something feels either really yummy, expansive, light, like a “yes,” or heavy, contractive, icky, like a “no.” Following the energy is where we follow the energy — we follow that lightness and that’s a ” yes,” and we choose that, or we follow or recognize the heaviness and we make a different choice towards the lightness. Ultimately, it is like that—at least for me—where when I follow the lightness, my life gets way lighter. When I follow the heaviness, you can imagine what occurs, of course.

[00:02:01] It’s an awareness of energy. It’s a recognition that we are energetic beings and energy is our first language, no matter what language you speak or languages you speak. Energy is our first language, which means if we are talking about something or thinking about something, we are receiving an energetic download of that. That might sound like big, scary words, but we’re just energetically perceiving the energy.

[00:02:33] If I’m talking about coming here to facilitate a Bars class, for me in this case, when I was talking about it and thinking about it beforehand, there was a yummy, a lightness, an expansive, a “yes” energy with it, meaning [by] following that energy, guess what? We get to choose to have a Bars class here.

[00:02:55] Of course, I could have chosen not to. At this point, this many years of following the energy, I really like to choose towards the lightness. Do I do it a hundred percent of the time? Nope. Nope, not yet. I wonder what that would be like, but not yet. But very much more often than ever before.

[00:03:17] If you start paying attention, what this takes—which a lot of people don’t like—is actually a level of presence. In fact, we’re gonna call it “aggressive presence.” I know for some people that’s a really intense term, like, why would you put aggressive and presence in the same sentence? But that’s what we’re looking for. We’re looking to be the aggressive presence that we truly be.

[00:03:44] When we are aggressively present, we’re aware of the energy. We’re aware of the energy as a [inhales] or a [exhale] or somewhere in between. I don’t mean that’s always extremely yes or extremely no, sometimes it’s in between. But we start to become aware of that.

[00:04:01] What occurred with these classes a few weeks ago, maybe a month ago, is that one of the gals had a session with me. I got to meet her, we got to have a great session, and it was amazing. We got off the Zoom, and I couldn’t stop thinking about coming here to facilitate some classes.

[00:04:24] Now, I don’t tend to—I do sometimes, but I don’t tend to invite people to host me. I tend to more allow them to reach out. It’s just a different energy. And yet, the energy when I was not in anything else after the session with Angelle — it’s her name, her magical name. When I was in after the session, every time I had some space, it was very loud, very light, very expansive to come to this beautiful space and facilitate some classes.

[00:05:03] So then I did reach out. I followed that energy. It wasn’t so much that I was sitting around going, “Do I? What do I do? What’s a…” it wasn’t that. It was just that once I hung up off Zoom with her, I just knew. And then I got to go, okay, asking about her hosting me? Oh, that felt like a “yes.” Okay. And then what? I didn’t even really know what. I knew when, that’s what I knew, but I didn’t know what, so then I reached out because I followed the energy.

[00:05:35] If I’d have followed the energy and it was light and expansive, and I reached out and she said “no,” that doesn’t mean I didn’t follow the energy. I see this is where a lot of people in sessions and classes where people really go into the wrongness.

[00:05:51] It was super light to reach out to this person and invite them out on a date, and they said “no.” Yeah, it was super light. You followed the energy. It’s just that we often have this conclusion at the end where, “Okay, if it’s light and I reach out, they will say yes.” That’s not it. It’s just light to choose that one step, we’ll call it. That’s it. That’s all we know.

[00:06:18] Let’s say with Angelle. Let’s say she would’ve said, “Uh, no.” Then I could have said, “Do you know anybody interested in the area? Do you know anybody who might be?” Maybe the lightness wasn’t because she would say “yes.” The lightness was to get me to connect with her, to her to connect me to somebody else that I couldn’t have otherwise connected with.

[00:06:43] I’m just showing you what it could be, okay? We don’t wanna sit around and figure it out and think about it. What we wanna recognize is our only job is to ask questions and follow the energy, follow the lightness, and that’s what will create more. It isn’t to go to conclusion. It isn’t to judge if it’s right or wrong. It isn’t any of that insanity. It’s just to ask questions, follow the lightness, and know that you’re never wrong. You’re never wrong.

[00:07:14] It can show up so differently, so we have to let go of those conclusions. We have to let go of what is supposed to happen or the right thing to happen because following the energy, guys, can look sometimes very weird. It can be very weird and not make any sense. You may not know for days or weeks or months or years later as to what that created. It really is this level of aggressive presence, asking the questions, and following the energy.

[00:07:47] I’m actually gonna say something else with regards to that. It isn’t even always about asking questions verbally.

[00:07:57] Let’s say you’re looking for a restaurant. Actually, we did this in Nova Scotia. We went to a restaurant, and then we left that restaurant. It was like by walking in, that’s when we got the information. This was not the place, so we walked back out.

[00:08:21] And guys, it is our final Pool Party Bars and Foundation. Oh my goodness. Yes. June 28th is when we leave our beautiful home – when we say goodbye, when we hand it over to the new owners, and we head out on our amazing journey. I’m so excited.

[00:08:42] And so, Bars is June 21st, Foundation is 22nd, 23rd, 24th, and half of 25th. Foundation is now a three and a half day. Please check it out. Come and play. I would love to see you there.

[00:08:57] Sometimes, it can look as though you are just going about your day. Maybe not being as present or as aggressively present, but you can get the energy. You are maybe not asking the question about the thing, but all of a sudden it’s like, “Oh wow, there’s that.” Or you could be thinking about going to an event, or going to phone somebody later, or stuff like that, and you’re perceiving the energy.

[00:09:27] Asking questions can certainly be a part of it, and sometimes it may not be. Sometimes it might be about the energy just showing you. You can be really magical with this stuff. You can actually ask, “Hey body, can you show me really clearly here?” You’re inviting your body to show you really clearly.

[00:09:49] Our bodies, if you think of it this way — for me, I know that my body—this beautiful thing—is not me. I am an infinite being that is enjoying this body in this lifetime. When this body goes away, I don’t go away. When I look at and utilize my body with following awareness, I recognize that everything that I’m choosing actually relates to my body.

[00:10:24] If I’m looking at where to go and eat, or what event to go to, or whether to go outside for a walk or go take a nap, everything is with my body. So asking your body to be louder, to be clear, is a huge contribution because then you can actually start receiving even more. It’ll start getting even clearer for you.

[00:10:53] I know if you’re just starting out with following the energy and the lightness and the heaviness or the knowing, it can sometimes show up as more than a lightness and a heaviness. It can feel really clunky. It can feel really hard. It doesn’t have to be, though. It doesn’t have to be. It’s just a muscle you’re building.

[00:11:14] And so as you’re following the energy, as you’re following the lightness, invite your body to be louder, to be clearer so that you just know. You just know it’s a “yes” or a “no.” You just become so clear in that.

[00:11:30] But again, I’m gonna say it again, you’re not concluding that a clear “yes “means that something’s gonna work out the way you think it should, or a clear “no” means it’s not gonna work out. It’s just in that moment, that’s where it’s at.

[00:11:47] I also have this really different knowing for myself. This may or may not be true for you, but I know for myself, I know that the universe always has my back.

[00:12:04] I wanna explain the universe for a moment. The universe is not some big energy outside of me and I am nothing, and I am waiting for the universe to take care of me. That’s not it. The universe, to me, is me, my sweet body, and everything within on and outside of planet Earth, so that means everything. Yes. When I say the universe has my back, that includes me and that includes everything contributing.

[00:12:34] When I am going into places and I walk into a place, and you know, again, this restaurant that we walked into, and I got a heavy, it just felt really heavy to me to be there, it’s like, “Okay, cool. Thank you. Thank you, universe. Thank you, body. Thank you, me. Let’s go.”

[00:12:55] And then of course, we have to be willing to receive all the things. The upset from maybe the wait staff that were coming to assist us, or maybe they had already delivered our water. They hadn’t, but maybe they had, and so we gotta feel bad or whatever. But following the lightness will create more lightness. It just changes it when we get out of the rightness and the wrongness into the lightness and the expansiveness. That’s a totally different space to be.

[00:13:30] Now, I wanna change some wording here because this might be a little bit confusing for you. I’ve kind of spoken about it, but I want to speak a little bit clearer about it.

[00:13:38] Lightness is a perception. We perceive lightness, we perceive heaviness. Now, that may not be your strongest receiving of energy. You may be more what we call a knower, or maybe a know-it-all. Maybe that’s just me. When I talk about light and heavy, you might more connect with knowing and you just know.

[00:14:08] Somebody might say, Oh, that new restaurant that open up?” and you just know right away, “Nope, not for me,” or, “Yes, let’s go.” It’s not so much a feeling or a perceiving, it’s a knowing.

[00:14:21] Please know when I talk about light and heavy, it could also be knowingness. If light and heavy doesn’t make sense, turn it to the knowingness so that you can start really acknowledging what is true for you and how you read your awareness.

[00:14:34] Each one of us is so different in how we read our awareness. In fact, how I read my awareness—I’ll speak about me. How I read my awareness changes. Sometimes it’s knowing, sometimes it’s perceiving. Absolutely. Sometimes I get random information.

[00:14:54] For example, when I was facilitating a class in Nova Scotia recently, after the class ended, one of the participants asked—and if you’re watching, thank you for this. She asked what we were doing after class. I said we only had one day extra in Nova Scotia but what we were gonna go do is go to the Bay of Fundy at this specific… burntcoat Head Park? Something like that. The tides are… it is just phenomenal. We got to walk on the ocean floor. It’s amazing. Amazing. I highly recommend.

[00:15:30] I told her that and she said, “By the way, when you’re in that area, don’t eat at this well known place for tourists. Make sure you go to the noodle guy.” It was such a random piece of information then that I just went, “Oh, okay. Thank you,” without anything. But I recognized in that moment there was an energy there. There was something there, so I stopped and I was like, the noodle guy… the noodle guy. I made a note of it and I said to her, “Thank you.”

[00:16:02] Rodney, Hubby, as I often refer to him, one of his favorite meals is noodles. This was interesting. When we were out in that area, I put the noodle guy in my phone and sure enough, there it was.

[00:16:15] Guys, if you ever get to Nova Scotia, it’s in Port Williams, the noodle guy. Highly recommend. Honestly, we would probably fly out there just to go to the noodle guy again. It was so good.

[00:16:31] So, I can receive information that way, too. Start paying more attention. Start being more present. If you would like to start following the energy or following your knowing, however you wanna word it, how much more magic can you be? How much more magic can you create? How much more can you be aware of the universe having your back, gifting you the information in all the way it’s gifting so that you can actually be the magic that you truly be?

[00:17:01] Thank you so much for watching. Thank you so much for listening. I’m so grateful for you all. Have a great week, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Tools to Stop Gaslighting YOU

Jun 4, 2023 | Radio Show

Tools to Stop Gaslighting YOU

Are you gaslighting yourself?

Ever find yourself thinking that you are somehow responsible for how people act or choose with regards to you, or spinning in how wrong/bad you are? Stop it, sweet friend! In this episode, let’s discuss all about gaslighting and the phenomenal tools from Access Consciousness® to change it, as well as utilizing these tools in a way that you aren’t using them against you.

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[00:00:00] Are you gaslighting you? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful.

[00:00:11] We are currently in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia, Canada. It’s so beautiful here, guys. I am sitting on our little deck. I really wanted to do this on the ocean, but the lighting is… it just doesn’t work, so here we are.

[00:00:25] Anyway, gaslighting. This is something that we’ve been talking about in this Foundation so much that I wanted to do a radio show about it. Because what we often do is once we have tools to assist us to change things, to get out of judgment, whatever it might be, what I have seen myself do and many, many, many people do over the years is [we] actually use those tools against us, [to] actually gaslight us.

[00:00:57] We’ll say stuff like, “Well, I know I’m the creator of my life and my living, so when that person hit me, what did I do to create it? Why did I create that?” Stop it. That is a form of gaslighting. That’s invalidating you as a being.

[00:01:16] Now, [the] big picture: yes, absolutely. I do know for me, you’ve gotta know for you, but I do know for me that we are the creators of our life and our living. But to look at something like that where somebody hit you, abused you, was mean to you, or any of that, we don’t wanna look at it through the lens of “what did I do to make that happen?” Please don’t do that. Please look at, “So that was shit. What’s required?” It’s pretty simple.

[00:01:49] And again, big picture: yes. I’m not saying you’re a victim to them hitting you ever, ever, ever, but when we gaslight ourself as a way to be more aware, to be more conscious, to be more spiritual, or whatever it might be, that is so unkind. That is so unkind to us.

[00:02:08] It really is looking at when you are talking to yourself basically. What’s going on? What are you saying? What is the conversation? Are you looking at how wrong you are? If so, that’s a form of gaslighting.

[00:02:23] Also, we don’t wanna look for how right we are because that’s also other energies, and it really is never about being right or wrong. It’s really about being aware and being present and never, ever being a doormat.

[00:02:41] It’s this idea that we are responsible for how people act around us or what they choose with regards to us. And so because of that, we’re often looking for what we did wrong, what we did bad to create that in their world.

[00:02:59] That can start from, of course, childhood trauma and we can carry that on. And then once we add some consciousness, some of these magical tools to it, we really, really abuse ourselves with it rather than acknowledging what is. That’s always the first step: you acknowledge what is.

[00:03:16] If somebody chose unkindness towards you, acknowledge what is for you. I don’t mean you need to go talk to them about it. Maybe, but that’s not what I mean when I say acknowledgement. It’s acknowledge like, “Wow, they really chose to be unkind.”

[00:03:33] Acknowledge it for you because that’s usually the first step we don’t take. We go straight to, “What did I do? What did I do to create that? What did I do to make that my problem, to make that about me, to make that personal?”

[00:03:45] So, first step: you want to acknowledge what they chose, and then whatever action’s required. In some cases it actually is to have a conversation with them. [For] some people, that’s not gonna be the case. We really have to be aware at these times.

[00:04:04] I don’t mean conversation like, “You were unkind to me and you shouldn’t do that and you’re wrong!” That’s not the conversation. Sometimes with some people, again, if they’re open to it, if that’s where the space is, it could be like, “Hey, when you said that, what did you mean by it?” You could get curious with it.

[00:04:22] That’s been my experience. The more that we actually go in from a curiosity with that conversation rather than, “You did wrong,” there can be way more space to actually converse about it.

[00:04:36] I had that recently with a friend. They said something, and I questioned them in the moment. There was a group of people around so it didn’t go very well. And so I waited until later when the group of people were gone and I questioned them again about it, but really from curiosity, really from spaciousness, not from defense, judgment, or upset, but curious like, “What did you mean when you said that?”

[00:05:07] Even the second time didn’t go so well. But the third time, and actually it was them that brought it up on the third time, there was more space to have a conversation. There was more space to converse about it.

[00:05:21] Instead of looking at what I did wrong in that situation for them to make this comment, I really just went straight to, “Actually, that doesn’t work for me.” That comment does not work for me, and what’s required? It took three different conversations about it, and that’s okay.

[00:05:43] I could’ve bulldozed in. I could’ve, like, right at the first time I said something and it didn’t go well, I could’ve just kept bulldozing and pushing and forcing. I just was really aware that wasn’t gonna change anything. And in that energy, I was probably going to match it. I was going to be defensive and “you are wrong” and all of that. I just know that that doesn’t create what I would like.

[00:06:06] Rather than looking at how wrong they were or looking at how wrong I was, I just knew we were going to have a conversation about it. It might have taken 30 times, it doesn’t matter, we were going to.

[00:06:19] This person’s also receptive to that conversation. Like I said earlier, sometimes that’s not the case. Sometimes it will be a situation where you won’t actually be able to take it any further for whatever reason.

[00:06:33] But then just acknowledge it for you. “Wow, they chose to be…” whatever. They chose to be unkind. They chose to be a jackass. They chose to be mean. A lot of us won’t even go there because then we feel like we’re judging that person. No, we’re not, if we acknowledge what is in the moment.

[00:06:48] Here’s where it goes to judgment. “They’re always a jackass. They’re always mean.” Now, that is judgment because nobody’s ever “always something.” But if we call it like it is in the moment, acknowledge it for ourselves, that is the freedom, my sweet friends. That is more freedom than you could ever imagine if you’ve never chose it.

[00:07:08] I know this because I didn’t choose it for so many years. I spun in things. I dissected things. I tried to figure out how I created it – what I was doing bad or wrong to make them choose those things. It’s like, stop it. That is so unkind to us. That is gaslighting.

[00:07:30] How to change that gaslighting?

One: start acknowledging what is going on for you. You don’t need to post on social media about it. Just acknowledge it for you. That’s step one. Get out of the idea that it’s your fault, or you created it, or try to figure out — I call it “mentally masturbate” — why you created it, why it happened, all of that. Stop it. Acknowledge what is.

[00:07:55] And then if you struggle with that, if you’re like, “Oh, but I can’t say they were a jackass because they were doing the best they could,” stop that, too. You are, once again, gaslighting you.

[00:08:07] People choose what they choose because they choose it. That’s it, nothing else. I know we love to give reason and justification. I know we love to say, “No, they chose it because they had a tough childhood” and “This happened” and “They’re tired.”

[00:08:21] Oh my gosh. I used to use that one with Hubby all the time. I’d be like, “Oh he’s like this because he’s tired.” No. He’s choosing what he’s choosing because he’s choosing it, and I don’t have to be a doormat to it. I don’t have to judge it either. I don’t have to gaslight me about it. I can acknowledge what is, and then I can take whatever action in that moment is gonna create more.

[00:08:41] I’m gonna say it’s “simple.” I’m not sure that’s the best word because “simple” doesn’t know, yes. But if we choose it, if we just go to the acknowledgement of it and we choose to stop mentally masturbating about it, and we choose to take whatever action is going to create greater, in some cases it might be just that you leave the room. That might be the only action you can take. Cool. Go do that. Go do something fun.

[00:09:09] And then if you go into that place of, “What did I do to create this? What’s wrong with me?” and all of that, just stop. If you’re visual, imagine a stop sign in your head every time you start going there.

[00:09:23] A great question you can ask in that moment is: “Truth, am I distracting myself with this?” You will be. That mental masturbation, guys? That’s distraction.

[00:09:36] As soon as you ask that and you get a “yes,” then you just ask, “What can I add to my life today to change this right away?” [It’s] so that you get out of that because if you have too much time, if you are in any way, shape, or form bored, you will create drama-trauma. This is what we do. We are insane, so we wanna be adding to our life constantly.

[00:10:00] I don’t mean adding more work, or adding more stress, or adding more things to do. But adding – that might be taking up a dance class, that might be having a nap, that might be adding a new business or a new revenue stream or something. There’s lots of different things, but we wanna be in question. What could I be adding to my life today to change this?

[00:10:21] You could finish that question with anything. What could I add to my life today? You could finish there. One of the gals in the class, her name is Kim, she’s the host here in Nova Scotia. She words it, “Who or what could I add to my life today?” I love that because, yeah, how many more “playmates,” as I call them, could we be adding that might be fun?

[00:10:45] With that, depending on when you’re watching this, my sweet friends, we have the final Pool Party at our acreage. Yes, we have accepted an offer and we’ll have to be out of there June 28th. Oh my goodness. So, final Pool Party at our acreage.

[00:11:07] Bars is June 21st and then the 22nd, 23rd, 24th, and half of the 25th — Foundation is now three and a half days — is Foundation. Come and play, guys, and bring your swimsuit because I am gonna be living up that pool every moment I can until we move. So, come and play.

[00:11:26] Just a little recap with all of this. When you catch yourself gaslighting you, when you catch yourself trying to figure out what you did wrong to create somebody choosing something unkind or mean or upsetting or whatever it is, and you go down that rabbit hole, stop. See a stop sign if you’re visual. Whatever you need to do, stop.

[00:11:46] Acknowledge what they chose. Know that it is not judgment. Unless you’re saying “they are always mean to me,” that’s judgment. “They chose to be mean in that moment” is an acknowledgement. Just acknowledge it for you, okay? They chose to be mean.

[00:12:00] Every one of us have chose to be mean at some point or another. How do I know? You’ve been mean to you. Maybe you’ve never been mean to anybody else, but I can guarantee you’ve been mean to you.

[00:12:11] Acknowledge what is – they chose to be mean. Okay. What’s required? Again, sometimes it’s gonna be a conversation. Sometimes there’s nothing that you can say. You just know that that’s not a doorway that’s opened, so to speak. So, what’s required? What do you require for you?

[00:12:28] Maybe you leave the room, depending on the situation, whatever’s going on. But we really wanna look at that unkindness to us that we do when stuff goes on.

[00:12:43] If you’ve been around for a while, you’ve heard me talk for bazillion radio shows about how we’re not a victim. I am not saying we are a victim. I’m not saying that we aren’t the creators of our life because I know that we are. It’s when we use that against us to gaslight us.

[00:13:03] When we put all of our creative energy into trying to figure out what we did wrong or how bad we were or why we created that thing from that other person, no. Stop. Acknowledge what is, and then what’s required? Keep it simple, my sweet friends. Keep it simple.

[00:13:21] All right. Have a great week, and I look forward to chatting again next week.

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Can You Have TOO Many Choices?

May 28, 2023 | Radio Show

Can You Have TOO Many Choices?

Just keep choosing!

It can be pretty overwhelming when you’re presented with lots of choices to the point that it can stop you from actually choosing something. Let’s talk about that in this week’s episode as I share more of the magical tools from Access Consciousness® to help you with that!

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[00:00:00] Can you have too many choices? Welcome to Tools to Create a Better Life with myself, Glenyce Hughes. Thank you so much for being here. I am so incredibly grateful for each and every one of you.

[00:00:14] This show is inspired on something that is going on in Hubby and I’s life at the moment, which is, as many of you know, we’ve put our beautiful acreage up for sale so that we can actually travel the world without a home to have to come back to, or to be taken care of from a distance, or to be arranging people to stay. It’s very exciting, guys. It’s very exciting, and we have some offers.

[00:00:44] What we’ve been looking at is “What do we do, what do we choose when we leave?” We’ve been talking about this forever, and now that it’s right here, one of the offers would like this beautiful place on June 28. If we choose that offer, oh my goodness, that means in just over a month, where do we go? What do we do?

We’ve been looking at, and our bigger choice around it is to do house sitting and such so of course, that, but also, what else? What else?

[00:01:29] In fact, I was talking to a very good friend of mine, Chris Hassall. He sells real estate in Lloydminster, Alberta/Saskatchewan. If you’re looking for a realtor in that area, reach out to him. I’ve even had him on the show. He sold our other acreage, our first acreage, and he would sell this one too if he could. He’s just not in the area.

[00:01:48] I was talking to him the other day and he said something interesting to me, and I know it to be true for me for sure. It’s that money is a factor when you sell homes, of course, but in his many, many years of experience, it’s actually more the motivation. What he means by that is “where are we going to?”

[00:02:15] When we had our first acreage for sale before we found this place — and we were getting multiple offers over a span of time on that other acreage. When we hadn’t found this place, I was not happy with those offers. I thought it was worth more, I thought they were being disrespectful. I had all these really interesting points of views.

But guess what changed when we found this place? Everything. All of a sudden I was like, “I don’t care what it takes. I want this home. Sell that one. Just do it. I don’t care.” It changes everything – the motivation or the inspiration to go and have another possibility.

[00:03:03] When I was talking to Chris the other day, what he suggested to me is, “You need to figure out what you would do on June 28 when you move out of here to get that inspiration, to get that excitement.”

I was like, wow. I’d never considered that. I mean, I knew we were gonna apply for house sits and stuff, but I’m not sure that that’s the first thing. Hubby and I have been talking about it at length in terms of we can truly do anything, we can go anywhere… where do we want to go?

Suddenly, that’s where this “Can you have too many choices?” Like, is that a thing?

[00:03:49] Of course, it’s not a thing. There are some parameters for us. Hubby volunteers at the Edmonton Folk Festival and has for almost as many years as I’ve known him. I think he’s on, I don’t know, 28th year or something. We know we wanna be back in Edmonton the second weekend in August. We were looking at maybe six weeks of where we’d like to be and go do something totally different.

[00:04:15] And so, kind of looking at it like that. There’s one factor. We know that that’s something. Hubby said he doesn’t have to, but I said, “It’s something you love to do so let’s put that as part of our plan.” That’s one plan.

[00:04:31] The other thing is we started looking at we could go on this huge driving trip. But then if we do that, do we really want to get somewhere and have to pretty much turn back and come all the way back? Hmm… maybe not, so maybe it’s something else.

[00:04:46] We’ve just been looking at all of the possibilities and recognizing that sometimes that too many choices can really stop you from actually choosing. It can really put you in that place of, “Oh no, I don’t know what to do, so I won’t do anything.” Obviously , we would have to do something if we accept this offer. We would have to do something come June 28. We would still be choosing.

[00:05:16] But I would really like to be choosing from the place of infinite possibilities and infinite choice, which is our natural state. It’s just often when we’re given more than three choices, we blank out. Energetically, we skip out. We’re done, because we’re usually given the “either/or.” You can either stay in Canada or you can go to the US. You can either go to Australia or you can go to Europe.

I wonder, I truly wonder, what it might be to always know that we have that infinite choice.

[00:05:56] Even looking right now in terms of what would we like to go do, what’s the inspiration, what’s gonna be so exciting and really inspire us to sell this beautiful place that I love so much, and what is that, knowing that it could be anything. Truly, there’s so many places.

[00:06:16] There was a friend of mine, a school friend, that had reached out last year when she saw us doing some house sitting and such. She lives in Barbados.

She had invited us at the time to come and house sit for them last December. However, I had Christmas with my family booked and I wasn’t willing to give that up. Not even for Barbados. I know! It’s crazy.

[00:06:37] And so I said no, but she’s like, “In the summer, we’re gone also, so if you’re interested…” That’s one of the possibilities that I mentioned to Hubby. Well, Barbados… That feels super fun. That feels like a really fun place to be. She’d also, of course, sent me some photos that were like, oh my gosh. Oh my gosh.

[00:06:58] There’s one of a bazillion possibilities. There’s so many if I don’t get locked up in how there’s too many, or that too many choices is somehow wrong, or even more so that I have to get the choice right.

I would say that’s one thing that comes up in my world a lot, and probably for many of us, is this almost subconscious or behind the scenes energy of “I need to get this right, I need to make the right choice.” Really, it’s such a lie because you can’t make a right choice and you can’t make a wrong choice. You just make choices and then you get to receive more information.

[00:07:45] We may make the choice to go to Barbados and find out that Barbados in July isn’t so fun for us. We could have that awareness, but guess what? Then we’ll never go to Barbados in July again. It wouldn’t be a wrong choice. It would just be a choice that gave us lots of information.

We may go to Barbados and never leave and be like, “No, we wanna live here forever!” Who knows? We’ve never been to Barbados. I have no clue what it would be like to be there.

[00:08:13] There’s so many different ways. If we feel like we have too many choices, if we feel like there’s too much to choose from, get out of the right and wrong of it first, like that there is a right thing and a wrong thing.

I know so many situations feels like there is right or wrong with it, like, there is the right choice with this and there is a wrong choice with it. But honestly, it isn’t.

[00:08:39] Look at all of the things you’ve chose over the years. The things that you thought were the right choices, look at those first. Some of them probably turned out to what you might have judged as wrong. Interesting, hey? Mm-hmm.

[00:08:57] What if there truly isn’t right or wrong? What if you get to receive the awareness, truly receive it, meaning you don’t judge it? You don’t go, “Oh, I made the wrong choice.” You don’t go into the doubting of it. You just recognize, “Okay, I’m choosing this and whatever it might be.”

[00:09:19] Let’s say we choose Barbados. Okay, we’re choosing Barbados. Cool. Here’s the other thing. With any choice you make, you can choose again. You can choose again.

You could even choose as you’re standing at the gate to get on the airplane to choose again. You could say, “Actually, I’ve changed my mind,” and not get on the plane. You could actually land in Barbados and change your mind and get on another airplane. There’s so many choices.

[00:09:50] We also have this idea often that when we make a choice, it’s for always and forever. What if it’s not? What if you make the choice until you make another choice?

[00:10:01] As we talk about in Access Consciousness®: Choice is good for 10 seconds, and then you get to choose again. Ultimately, it’s good for 0.02 seconds. The moment it takes you to make a choice, you could make another choice. There is no “this is always in forever,” even the things that you feel like are always in forever.

[00:10:20] Years ago, I went to school to become a psychiatric nurse. I did work in that field for a number of years, and then I stopped. Then I started this business 20 some years ago. I made a choice.

Now, that felt like a forever choice. I went to college for it, it took a couple years of my life to study for it, I got a student loan and it took me years to pay that off, so that seems like an always and forever choice.

And yet, especially nowadays, but also all the time, they’re good for 10 seconds. They’re good for a second.

[00:11:02] Speaking of Access Consciousness®, guys. I have the final Pool Party Bars & Foundation here at this acreage. Yep. June 21 is Bars, and then 22, 23, 24, 25 is Foundation. Come and play. I would love to have you here. I would love to share this beautiful space one last time with these classes.

This has been just a yearly treat for me to be able to share them and to share this space and these magical tools. So, I would love to have you come and play. There’ll be a link above or below. If you don’t see a link, reach out and I’ll get you one.

[00:11:42] When you are feeling like you have way too many choices, you’re overwhelmed with all the choice available, first take out where you could get it right or you could get it wrong. Just take that right out of the equation.

[00:11:55] And then, start looking at what feels fun. What are the possibilities that would really “wow” me? What are the ones that I would be so inspired to choose towards? Start writing those down or thinking about them, however you process information the best so you can start really looking at what that is.

And then I always like to mix the “woo” with the logic. Then look at what’s required.

[00:12:22] I started looking at flights to Barbados. I had never even looked at flights to Barbados before. It was like, what does it take? Where do we fly from? Could that be part of the plan? Could we fly from, I don’t know, Winnipeg and maybe we take a week to drive to Winnipeg, stopping at different places?

[00:12:40] There’s just so many possibilities, you guys. I wasn’t this excited when I first really looked at it. This whole process to me is really.. [it’s] such a gift when we can get out of the right, or wrong or stop looking at choices as though there’s a right or wrong, and then looking at, “What would be the funnest? What would light us up? What’s the inspiration? Where’s that energy? What’s that?”

And then the logic of, “What’s required to choose that? What are the actions required? Is that feasible right now?”

[00:13:13] Let’s say we were gonna sell our cars. We’re not, but let’s say we were going to. It wouldn’t really be feasible to consider driving from here to Winnipeg to fly to Barbados. Not impossible, because we could rent a car of course, but not as feasible.

[00:13:31] That’s what I mean. You wanna start looking at things, get that excitement, what matches that energy, what’s the action steps, and then start choosing… and choosing and choosing and choosing and recognize that every choice you make is going to give you so much awareness.

[00:13:48] Receive the awareness. This is where people stop the receiving. They go into, “That was a wrong choice. I’m bad. I shouldn’t have done that. That shouldn’t have happened…” blah, blah, blah. All you’re doing with that is stopping the receiving.

[00:14:00] Have a great week, sweet friends, and I look forward to chatting again next week.